The rudest thing anyone said to you about your weight?
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The rudest comment I ever had about my weight was not at my highest, it was at my lowest adult weight so far. I was "the fat girl" in school... about a size 12 around my Sophmore year and then 16 by graduation and then at a steady 18ish before losing 88 pounds when I was about 24. I have never really dated much and have never really had many guys show any interest... After losing the weight, a "friend" was constantly dropping comments about my weight loss... the one that sticks in my head the most was:
"Could you *imagine* the guys that would have *actually* wanted to date you in high school if you had looked like *this* THEN?!?"0 -
I've had a few people ask me if I'm sick, since i've lost weight. Rude!!
You know I have thought about this and if I don't like the person I may just look at them and say yes and turn around and walk off. Ok, I know I wouldn't really do it but it makes me mad.0 -
When i was younger i had to go to a wedding as a bridesmaid, i was given a fitted purple dress and black fish net tights which had little flowers embroidered into them.
It was a really nice outfit, and i felt alright in it.
But my dad came over to me and said i looked so fat that people would assume i was pregnant and in the fishnets my legs looked like pieces of tightly wrapped like steak or something..
I was only about 8 aswell... Really got to me.
OH MY GOSH! What is with these horrible fathers!?!?! My dad passed when I was 3, but I know he would have never said something like that to me. Just based on what I was told. I could be wrong, but it really makes me think that there is some truth in that expression "Only the good die young." I am so sorry to you and anyone else who's father/mother treated them that way. That is absolutely horrible!!0 -
this Christmas one of my aunts noticed that I lost weight and was complementing me about it. She pointed out to my other aunt who snared and went, "Oh really? how much? 2lbs?". In reality it was closer to 30...
There was the time an overweight friend of mine told I didnt have to worry about creepy guys hitting on me because no guy would ever want to.0 -
I work in a Assisted Living Facility and my residents are brutally honest. As their activities director, I conduct a morning exercise program for them all done sitting in a chair. Last January, I recorded myself doing the exercises so that I could go on vacation and they would not miss their class. I have lost 25 pounds through this year. This year, when I went on vacation, they watched the DVD while I was gone. When I returned, one resident said to me, "You need to redo that DVD. You were FAT! I mean REALLY FAT!" Nice! I have also had the Are you expecting a good surprise comment as well. I also answer, Nope, just fat.0
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this Christmas one of my aunts noticed that I lost weight and was complementing me about it. She pointed out to my other aunt who snared and went, "Oh really? how much? 2lbs?". In reality it was closer to 30...
There was the time an overweight friend of mine told I didnt have to worry about creepy guys hitting on me because no guy would ever want to.
I have to stop reading this thread! It is making me very angry!! :mad:0 -
my grandparents, all through my teenage years: "you are getting fat! you are going to be a fat Maine Girl!"
literally, two days later: "you are too thin! here, have some pie". GRRRR! really? My grandmother about a year ago said "Amy, you are getting more fat! You need to lose weight. Look at me, i didnt do anything and i lost all kinds of weight, now i only weigh 125lbs" As she shook her cane at me. What i wanted to say was "yes gram, you lost weight because you are 85 years old and have NO muscle tone!!" but i said something about still being fairly healthy and that i was focusing on my son...sort of mumbling and walking away.
5 years or so ago, i lost about 35 lbs and was just about to my goal weight. I saw some friends at a bridal shower that i hadnt seen in awhile. One asked how much weight i lost, i said 35lbs. The other said "from where? your boobs?" i was really irritated. My boobs went from a DD to D cup, but my belly was flat(ish) for the first time since like 5th grade.0 -
Cant really consider this rude since it came from my 3 year old daughter...but she liked to climb in our old huge clawfoot bathtub with me and one night as I sat down in the tub with her she looked astonished and said WHERE DID YOUR BELLYBUTTON GO???? HOW DID YOU DO THAT??? That was the moment that I realized WHY some species eat their young!!!! :laugh:0
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This probably isn't the rudest thing ever said to me about my weight, but it was recent and from a very dear uncle.
Christmas Eve, at an aunt's house having dinner after Mass. We have a huge family, so when we do family meals we just put everything in warming trays and go for a buffet-style serving plan.
I was getting myself some roast, mashed potatoes, green beans, and a little bit of gravy. (Last year, I would have piled about triple the amounts onto my plate.) I reached for a slice of bread and bumped into my uncle, who said "hey! everybody get in here before Angela eats everything!" I know he was joking, but it's visible now that I've lost some weight and that comment really, really hurt.0 -
The most awful crap was said in high school
"The only thing Murano's faster than is his *kitten*" (while in PE/Gym class)
"Hey Murano, when you look down, do you see your d***?"
and so on.
When I went to France to visit relatives one of the old ladies said "You've gained weight". This old *kitten* hadn't seen me since I was 5! I was 27 when she said that to me! I took it on the chin and shut up. Later my cousin, Celene, told me that she was furious with the old *kitten* for what she said. I told her that it's just how old people are. They're like kids: they lose their politeness and just say what they think. It's a little endearing sometimes.
My mum is funny like that too. She once told my friend "You fat now!" (she has a thick French accent and doesn't speak English that well). My friend couldn't stop laughing at how balls-out-brave my mum is to say crap like that.
It's weird, though, mum never says stuff like that to me even when I nudge on my heaviest weights. She's adamant that I'm fine the way I am. Rose coloured glasses I guess0 -
When i was younger i had to go to a wedding as a bridesmaid, i was given a fitted purple dress and black fish net tights which had little flowers embroidered into them.
It was a really nice outfit, and i felt alright in it.
But my dad came over to me and said i looked so fat that people would assume i was pregnant and in the fishnets my legs looked like pieces of tightly wrapped like steak or something..
I was only about 8 aswell... Really got to me.
OH MY GOSH! What is with these horrible fathers!?!?! My dad passed when I was 3, but I know he would have never said something like that to me. Just based on what I was told. I could be wrong, but it really makes me think that there is some truth in that expression "Only the good die young." I am so sorry to you and anyone else who's father/mother treated them that way. That is absolutely horrible!!
My mum was always a bit of a one that had a niggle - she actually said something a bit off today when I had my grandaughter over too.
I remember once being a young kid (I was never fat until I was 27) and her dishing up breakfast and saying 'do you want a big spoon or a little spoon?' - I felt the need to think carefully about it and I thought to myself 'if I say a big spoon she'll call me a pig' (note also I am a VERY small eater even today and always have been) so I said 'I'll have a small spoon please' and she said "what is that so you can get more mouthfuls in?' - I could never understand her attitude to me. I think I understand now - it is still confusing tho.0 -
I've gotten the pregnant question a few times. And when I was pregnant with my 3rd in 2 years strangers couldn't believe I was so far from my due date when in reality I hadn't gained a single pound yet; my stomach just wasn't as taut as the first time around.
It's not me, but shortly after my husband and I married I went to a harvest party and saw an elderly lady I hadn't seen in a while. My husband was across the yard, but I pointed him out to her since she'd never met him. The first and only thing that comes out of her mouth is "you feed him well, don't you?" I was speechless. My mom always told us kids if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all. That's good advice.0 -
I was always made fun of off and on until about Jr. High but the most hurtful thing happened about a year ago.
I was maybe 20 pounds heavier than I am now and I showed my stomach to my boyfriend at the time. I had told him how I was self-conscious but he convinced me to show him because he didn't believe me when I told him I had an odd stomach shape (loose skin). He told me later that it was as bad as I thought it was and tried to break up with me. He was heavier than me then too and wasn't the most attractive thing without a shirt on either. Everyone since him has told me that my stomach isn't as big as a deal as I think it is but he made me feel so much worse about it.
Thank goodness my present boyfriend won't care (and he's a stick).0 -
I used to work as a preschool teacher, and one morning one of my little 3 year old students asked me "teacher how'd you get so fat? I just ignored his question and went about serving them breakfast. He just keep on an on saying... "teacher, you are as big as a big huge tree" and of course all of the other children would burst out laughing, because he was so funny. I let it go on a little bit longer, then I went to his side and nelt down beside him an said.. "Matthew you want to know how I got so big? I got so big by eating rude little boy's like you for breakfast!", I then rubbed my tummy and said " I sure am HUNGRY TODAY, so you better be nice or i'll eat you for breakfast!" lol That was the last time he ever said anything about teacher being fat!
:laugh: That is an awesome comeback! I used to sub during college and this one kid (middle school aged) forgot my name so he just yelled out: "Hey fat lady!"
Here's more from throughout the years (that I can remember):
-10 years old: My grandmother counting out my belly fat rolls in front of everyone when I sat down, and loudly announcing to the family that I was "getting fatter by the minute" whenever I ate
-13 years old: Getting called "a fat, chunky, roly poly" in front of my whole science class in seventh grade after I dared to say something the obnoxious popular guy didn't like
-22 years old: Going out on a few "dates" (ok, they were booty calls) with a guy 4 years ago and only hanging out after dark at his house. He later told me that he didn't want to take me out in public and had found a girl he really liked. He then told me that I had a pretty face and would attract more guys if i lost weight. I met my now boyfriend one month later and he happened to think I was hot (and still does). :flowerforyou:0 -
(my uncle, seeing me for the first time, I was two months postpartum)
My gosh girl you're HUGE!!!
Broke my heart, how does one respond to that without crying?0 -
Hmm, there have been lots of comments but I suppose one of the most hurtful was when my grandma said "well, you're not going to get any bigger...at least not bigger in height" and pointedly looked at my waist. Thanks, grandma.
Oh, and there was the guy who said "do you know the ground shakes when you walk?" Assface.0 -
My ex dumped me because I'm fat. You can imagine how it could break one's confidence and self esteem. It was the most painful one for me.
Are you serious?? what an AssH**e!!!
Yup, But it kinda jump started my weightloss journey. I dropped nearly half the amount of weight I want to and I ran into him recently. His reaction?? His jaws hit the floor and he said "You look really pretty". He's been texting and I ignoring..lol.Revenge is the best dish served!
hahah i was actually going to ask you if you have ever ran into him.. ahahaha !! must feel great that now hes trying to get your attention while you just giving him Kiss my A attitude.. 0 -
I used to go to a yoga class all the time, and one morning I went to an earlier class with a different instructor. We had to do stretches with a partner, and while I think it was intended as a compliment, an older lady told me, "Wow! You're pretty flexible... for someone your, ahh, size." Now I laugh about and think, "Damn right I am, lady," but when it happened I went home and cried.
Oh! And when I was recovering from my eating disorder, I went out for lunch with my parents. I ate everything on my plate, and had just finished convincing myself that it was okay, and that I would have a light dinner to make up for it, the waitress came to take my plate, looked me up and down, and said, "Well, someone was hungry." I immediately excused myself and went to the bathroom to throw up. It still makes me angry to think about it.0 -
Oh! And when I was recovering from my eating disorder, I went out for lunch with my parents. I ate everything on my plate, and had just finished convincing myself that it was okay, and that I would have a light dinner to make up for it, the waitress came to take my plate, looked me up and down, and said, "Well, someone was hungry." I immediately excused myself and went to the bathroom to throw up. It still makes me angry to think about it.
Hugs for you!! :flowerforyou:0 -
Getting changed in the changing rooms at a shop with my son:-
Josh 'whys your belly so fat and squidgy?'
Me 'When you were a baby you used to live in there'
quiet pause whilst he thinks this comment through
Josh 'How many babies have you got in there now?'
All I could hear was chuckles from other changing rooms.
I had to laugh but inside I was crying!!
I have to admit that I laughed too ...I'm sorry!0 -
My husband and I were waiting at the airport for a flight (on our way to our wedding in fact) and I was wearing what I thought was a cute, figure flattering, a-line sundress. I tried to order a glass of wine at a bar and the waitress looked at me, glared at my stomach, and then said, "do you really think you should be drinking that?"0
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When I go into special athletic stores and they look at you as if what are you doing in here,,0
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Ahhh, yes the rudeness..... That would be when my ex-husband told me that I looked like a full dressed Harley. (motorcycle with saddlebags) I was 20, 5'5" and maybe 125/130 pounds. Yah, he was a real keeper!0
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I think one of the worst I had was due to it being strangers (these tardy little turds that cruise around in cars being a general menance to society)
I was out riding my bike (so it wasn't like I was laying on the couch!!!) and they came past in a rowdy car speeding etc (just the sort of people I want to see locked up and car crushed) and one of them yelled out of the car window "someone could do with a salad".
Thats like what happened to me recently! Which is sad, because I was running when it happened and I'd already lost 20lbs.
I work downtown Portland and I had just made a delivery to a nearby location from my food cart. I was running down the street and as I approached a crosswalk an SUV drove by with the driver yelling to me saying... I quote (drunkard). "STOP RUNNING FATSO!"... wait a minute. LOL so I am a fatso, running? Isn't that a good thing!?
Another event, a rude homeless guy called me "porky".
A friend of mine (yes, lol a friend sadly) was describing somebody to me. Apparently this woman was very heavy, and he tried explaining how big she was with hand motions then resorted to saying... "She is Bigger than you!". Well, that makes me feel great! This tiny little 5 foot guy... well we're all big to him right?!0 -
I just remembered another one that I actually find quite funny. I tell everyone about it when the subject of weight comes up.
When I lived in south Florida I had a Cuban doctor who was soooooo hot, and young, well my age at the time, maybe a few years older. Anyway, I was always getting flustered around him, so we had been talking about my weight and I had just had a thyroid test done, and he said the results were in the normal range and I said, half kidding, "well can we do it again to make sure", and he said "no, just face it, you're fat". LMAO With the thick Cuban accent coming from this gorgeous doctor, well I couldn't stop laughing, though I was a bit down that I knew I didn't have a shot with him! LOL0 -
I never got comments from strangers when I was heavy, only family members. What stung was seeing a copy of a report in my chart at an Ear, Nose, and Throat doctor that described me as a "40 year old, moderately overweight female." It was true, but seeing it in writing really hit home. No one at that office had ever weighed me, they could just tell by looking at me. Now that I'm at a healthy weight, co-workers tell me I'm too thin, some have asked if I'm sick and some have gently hinted that I have some sort of eating disorder. One lady asked in a concerned tone "Are you eating? You've gotten awfully thin." (and she's thinner than I am!)0
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At my heaviest my wedding and engagement ring wouldn't fit. I went into a jewellers to buy a cheap band to wear as a replacement and the assistant pulled out a huge gold band. Now even when I'm big i have freakishly small fingers (I now wear a size I/J after a 70lbs loss) so was probably after a size M when I was shopping. She said " Oh you have small fingers, I'll just get one thats a NORMAL size"
Cheeky cow!
I have had this happen. I wear a 4.5 - 5 ring and bought a ring (it was a 6) I said I needed to get it resized. So they pull out the little tool to see what size you should be, pulled out the 10, it was too big for my thumb, he said "Im sorry, I just assumed because the rest of you was big that your fingers would be too" I told him that he could keep the ring, I would spend $600 at a jewelry shop that doesn't "assume" and actually LOOKS at my FINGERS before checking sizes.0 -
People are rude when you are overweight and after you lose the weight!! The list is so long where do I start? Family is the worst, I can remember growing up being called:
1. Big Mama
2. Baby Elephant
3. I was even told no one is going to want to take you to the prom!!
4. Fatty
5. You dress nice for your size
6. Although you are big you have a pretty face
7. You are bigger than your mother!!
Now that I've lost the weight, I hear stuff like:
1. Which weight loss surgery did you have?
2. How much more weight are you going to lose? You don;t want to look funny!!
3. Are you sick?
4. You need to stop with the weight loss because you are not going to look right!!
5. My God what size are you now a 8 or 10!! Girl the wind is going to blow you away!!
:laugh: :bigsmile: :flowerforyou:
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Holy crap- I am so sorry to hear these stories- Its heartbreaking to hear the things people have said to you all.
I'm very lucky- bc to my knowledge no one has said anything nasty to me about my weight. Or let me rephrase that- the person who might have thought something but didnt say it- is very lucky- as I would have knocked their lights out. I cant imagine how people can be so cruel.
Ive never had a guy tell me to lose weight- bc the fastest way for me to lose that weight would be to dump his *kitten*.
My friends are all gorgeous in their own way- and we all see each other as beaufitul gorgeous women- and arent affraid to tell each other that.
I'd never beat on someone for their weight- we need to suport each other- especially as women- we shouldnt be on opposite sides of each other. Ever.0 -
At my heaviest my wedding and engagement ring wouldn't fit. I went into a jewellers to buy a cheap band to wear as a replacement and the assistant pulled out a huge gold band. Now even when I'm big i have freakishly small fingers (I now wear a size I/J after a 70lbs loss) so was probably after a size M when I was shopping. She said " Oh you have small fingers, I'll just get one thats a NORMAL size"
Cheeky cow!
I have had this happen. I wear a 4.5 - 5 ring and bought a ring (it was a 6) I said I needed to get it resized. So they pull out the little tool to see what size you should be, pulled out the 10, it was too big for my thumb, he said "Im sorry, I just assumed because the rest of you was big that your fingers would be too" I told him that he could keep the ring, I would spend $600 at a jewelry shop that doesn't "assume" and actually LOOKS at my FINGERS before checking sizes.
I've never had anyone be this blatantly rude, but when I was heavy and would tell people that I wore a size 4 ring, I would either get a look like "Yeah, sure you are honey." or get asked "Are you sure? That's awfully small." lol0
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