So why are you fat??

Thats easy, all I ever did was eat and never get off the couch lol

Poor food choices (both in types and quantities), sedentary lifestyle, and an apathy for how I looked. Started off as a kid, and just kept right on going through into adulthood. I'm sure I could make excuses if I wanted to. But in the end, it's all on me.

Until now. :-)

Oh, so many reasons. Most of my family is overweight. My mother was insanely obsessed with food and weight loss. So much so that the fridge was literally off limits. She'd hide food from me, but eat a candy bar in front of me. As I got older and had more control over what I could eat, I'd start to binge because I was never sure what or when my mother would let me eat again.

Then, when I was about 13, I started caddying at a golf course. There were 7 girls and 275 boys. We had a communal bathroom where all the girls would have to go at once so someone could hold the door shut. But guys would try to catch us dressing, they'd make lurid and suggestive remarks all the time, and even the golfers -- grown men -- would sexually harass us. It got to the point where I didn't want to be looked at like that, so I started to gain weight as a way of disappearing to men.

My mom forced me on a diet my senior year of high school so I'd start college "thin." I put on the typical college 15, met my ex husband, and kind of let myself go. I was truly fat by the time we got married, and our marriage turned out to be rather unhappy. He neglected me. Never spent time with me. Turned into this completely different person. It felt like being roommates. So the emotional eating started. Then I got a divorce and found a loving, supportive boyfriend. I actually lost some weight then.

But then, I went to see a psychiatrist for depression, and she put me on Abilify, and I gained 80 lbs. It's taken me a year to get rid of that 80 lbs. I'm now back where I started post-divorce. Every now and then, I still get hit on (go figure), and I'm horribly uncomfortable with it. But I need to get over that. My health is more important, so I'm here now. :ohwell:

Oh, yeah, and there was the apathy, laziness, and bad food choices too -- like most everyone else.

wow this topic really made me think about all the reasons i use food as a crutch.

mom died from colon cancer when i was nine and my weight was fine then although i am bigger physically than most girls, 5'8". sz 10 shoe, 8" wrist
dad remarried a total effin ***** less than a yr later, on my parents anniversary no less
effin ***** was fat and told me that i better watch what i was eating cuz i was getting fat as she continued to bring in crap to the house and never bought any fruits or veggies seriously i dont remember eating one piece of fruit when i was little. veggies either, the only thing we ate were potatoes usually scalloped with cheese
my mothers sister that i spent summers with after mom died also died from breast cancer when i was a sophomore in hs
then when i was 19 the step mother got throat cancer so i had to watch my dad deal with losing another wife
then after she died my dad told me he had inoperable lung cancer so i quit school in texas and went back to phx to take care of him as there was no hospice, no family, my brother moved back in with us after that so i could stay with my dad to help with the bills
i used food to cope all the time and got to an all time high of size 20 at age 21
dad died then and still used food for comfort
finally got with the program after i had my first child and didnt want my kids to have to go thru what i did because of health issues in my parents and family that may have been preventable
still working on finding the balance of how to not use food to cope with emotional eating
and here i am with all of you wonderful people who support me and tell me how great i am every damn day!

I have no excuse. I chose to eat too much food and a lot of unhealthy food. I just stopped caring.

My life struggles or anyone else is not the reason I became this way...it's all on me.

Well my story is a long one but I will try to keep it as short as I can. About 12 years ago when I was a Deputy Sheriff a drunk driver plowed into my patrol car when I was running code to a call at around 1 in the morning. I spent 3 months in intensive care and a year learning how to walk again. I was on massive amounts of pain killers, not to mention the Jack Daniel's that helped me get through all the pain (I will also have to say if it wasn't for my beautiful wife I am not sure I would have made it through at all.) So I sat on my *kitten* and played video games for about 8 years.

After about 9 years of not doing any real exercise because it always hurt to move and three kids later, I packed on about 90lbs. A year and a half ago my brother in law got me to join a gym with him and i got really strong, I mean really really strong but I never lost any weight. Back in September a good friend introduced me to this site and I actually started loosing weight even through the holidays. I started at 283lbs. I am now 268lbs. I am working my way down to 210lbs i figure it will take me another 6 to 8 months.

I am still in pain all the time but I manage it differently now (no pills and only a lil JD here and there). I am loosing weight taking the extra pressure off of my frame and it seems to help a lot. I know I did not put the weight on over night so expecting it to come off over night is not realistic, although it would be nice if it would.

Married 31 yrs....while I slept next to him over the years, the *fat cells* from HIS body infiltrated MINE....

[I'm still not sure this isn't *partially* true....]


Gluttony. Plain and simple.
At maintenance now, but a demon I will always battle.

I love food.

Drugs or better yet quiting drugs.When you go from eating once every three days to eating everyday and throw a pregnancy in the mix next thing you know you are 100 pound heavier

Change of lifestyle. Before I got married I was going out with my gf's a few nights a week and dancing my *kitten* off. I also had a job that kept me on my feet and moving. Then after I got married, I moved, got a different job where i sat on my *kitten* all day, and never went out dancing. I still ate the same way, but never worked out. Here's the kicker..... I had a free gym right downt the sidewalk from my house (lived on base). So combine no dancing, with a sit on my *kitten* job with laziness and here I am today, about to once again (holidays were extremely hard for me for personal reasons) get back on the wagon and get back on track to losing the weight I gained. Oh, and the hubby and his liking for fast food doesn't help either, lol.