Swearing?
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When I was a little middle-class girl in braids and lace, my mama taught me a lot about class. I learned that being 'classy' involves making the people around you feel comfortable and never, ever judging other people or assuming I'm better than them. I choose not to swear in front of children or strangers because I am showing them a courtesy, not because I feel that there's anything wrong the language itself. It's about having good manners and showing respect for other people.
For those that think ladies shouldn't swear at all, my dears, you'd be clutching your pearls if you overheard a conversation between me and my friends. Of course, I would have enough 'class' not to swear in front of you if it made you uncomfortable. I wouldn't even think poorly of you for your discomfort or draw conclusions about your upbringing because of it. After all, classy people do not make assumptions about another person's intelligence or social status based on something as superficial as their choice of dialect or vocabulary. I also don't assume that every person that uses Ebonics is 'from the ghetto'- or that a person with a southern accent must, naturally, be an inbred hillbilly- because stereotyping is a disgusting habit. Since my mama raised me right, I don't roll that way.
Now, if you'll excuse me, this lady shall be off in the kitchen, doing lady-like business like smoking cigars and rewiring the stove.
I'm going to add you, simply based on this post. also, will you marry me? lol0 -
There is a time and a place and normally between friends. It upsets me that the F word is becoming more and more accepted, recently a judge gave a not guilty verdict against a guy abusing a police officer for telling hom to F off, because the officer would not be offended by a word he would have heard so much.
As the F word becomes more accepted so to the barriers against the C word.
On a gender basis I have no distinction against male or female swearing. although a soft female accent saying the F word can be quite sexy!!!!!!0 -
When I was a little middle-class girl in braids and lace, my mama taught me a lot about class. I learned that being 'classy' involves making the people around you feel comfortable and never, ever judging other people or assuming I'm better than them. I choose not to swear in front of children or strangers because I am showing them a courtesy, not because I feel that there's anything wrong the language itself. It's about having good manners and showing respect for other people.
For those that think ladies shouldn't swear at all, my dears, you'd be clutching your pearls if you overheard a conversation between me and my friends. Of course, I would have enough 'class' not to swear in front of you if it made you uncomfortable. I wouldn't even think poorly of you for your discomfort or draw conclusions about your upbringing because of it. After all, classy people do not make assumptions about another person's intelligence or social status based on something as superficial as their choice of dialect or vocabulary. I also don't assume that every person that uses Ebonics is 'from the ghetto'- or that a person with a southern accent must, naturally, be an inbred hillbilly- because stereotyping is a disgusting habit. Since my mama raised me right, I don't roll that way.
Now, if you'll excuse me, this lady shall be off in the kitchen, doing lady-like business like smoking cigars and rewiring the stove.
LOL
You're great.
Or should I say, fan-f*cking-tastic
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...On a gender basis I have no distinction against male or female swearing. although a soft female accent saying the F word can be quite sexy!!!!!!
Yeah, I agree, it's definitely in the tone and how it's said on whether or not it's offensive. Tone, inflection, body language, facial expression, they all can drastically change the meaning behind even some of the most crass of cuss words. lol0 -
My Canadian Husband on the other hand grew up in a different culture with different cultural norms, he swears a lot more in general conversation than anyone I know and has even been asked to moderate his language as there were children present, he uses words that I consider to be socially unacceptable a lot, and although I also use them, I don't think that they are words that should be used in the way he does. We are going to be Grandparents this year and I am going to have to keep on at him to watch his language when the baby is around.
For instance he uses the words bulls*it, crap, *kitten*, fart and b*stard and I grew up in a home that would not have used those words as they were considered swearing or at least unacceptable, BUT I say C**t and he doesn't
I completely understand what you're saying here, as a Canadian. I couldn't tell you whether or not we swear more (in general) than Americans, but we do seem to be more relaxed about it. I have noticed a difference between the sorts of swear words that can be aired on Canadian stations versus American ones. And, for some reason the C-word you mentioned is TOTALLY FORBIDDEN up here. Almost nobody says it. The first time I said it in front of people (my age, who swear CONSTANTLY), they all dropped their utensils and stared at me in horror. This is why I only use that word on SPECIAL occasions, when I want to get the maximum reaction.
i didn't make it clear, we live in England, and so it's even more different than in the US, as words have different meanings this side of the pond, and some words that are swear words here are not so much over in Canada.
One case in point, when Bill had been living with me for about a year, we took my son to his football game, or soccer for Americans lol, and as we stood watching the game Bill just said to the rest of the parents on the touchline, 'Josh was wanking all the way along here in the back of the car'....total silence and wide open jaw dropping horror struck looks from everyone..including me...as to us wanking means masturbating, and to HIM it meant 'complaining.....so it was like him saying my 9 year old son had been jerking off in the back of the car on the way o the game......cultural difference can be a bugger0 -
I am guilty of swearing...all the time. However, I think I got this from not having to worry about my language since we don't have children. We always slip up around our nieces, nephews and friends children.0
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I would rather not. In my opinion it really takes a lot away from a person when they do.
For examples, I think Matthew McConaughey and Jennifer Aniston are extremely attractive people but when I hear either of them use foul language, most especially G.D. in a movie it makes them very unattractive.0 -
I would rather not. In my opinion it really takes a lot away from a person when they do.
For examples, I think Matthew McConaughey and Jennifer Aniston are extremely attractive people but when I hear either of them use foul language, most especially G.D. in a movie it makes them very unattractive.
I am sitting here wondering what GD is? Is it a certification? I can't for the life of me think of a swear word that starts with it...G D?0 -
LMFAO:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:One case in point, when Bill had been living with me for about a year, we took my son to his football game, or soccer for Americans lol, and as we stood watching the game Bill just said to the rest of the parents on the touchline, 'Josh was wanking all the way along here in the back of the car'....total silence and wide open jaw dropping horror struck looks from everyone..including me...as to us wanking means masturbating, and to HIM it meant 'complaining.....so it was like him saying my 9 year old son had been jerking off in the back of the car on the way o the game......cultural difference can be a bugger
Now that's one I didn't know. I have an extensive vocabulary of swear words which covers multiple languages.
When I sneeze I tend to utter the word "Scheiße!" instead of "achoo"... and when I do something stoopid, instead of saying "*kitten*!" I tend to use "cut" (rhymes with koot), which is a Dutch profanity that means the same as the C-word in English but with the shock level of "bugger".
And while I've no beef with swearing, overkill can be very off-putting. I walked out of Glengarry Glen Ross because it was F-this F-that and F-the other and to me it wasn't big nor clever; I don't swear unless there's an effing good reason that requires it!
My dear mother, bless her, used to have the vocabulary of a docker but she was a classy lady and in a way her swearing was more comical than profane. My dad on the other hand hardly ever swears and funnily enough his mum who was a very pious woman who never swore nor uttered any replacement profanities always found mum's colourful vocabulary rather uncouth. My mum was also deaf in one ear and sometimes she'd let slip a well-deserved, yet less than savoury comment that would light up a entire room, restaurant or department store. :laugh:
Oh how I miss that!
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I agree 'swearing' has it's place. I've been known to throw out a few 'F' sharps myself, on rare occasions. It's not part of my everyday repertoir.
To me, it's about respect and courtesy. Some of you don't think it's a big deal .. they are 'just words'...yet, I highly doubt if you would talk the same way infront of young children or elderly folk, or in church .. and I wonder why that is. I'm thinking it's out of respect, and it's not really "no big deal".
People who cuss seem to feel a sense of empowerment by using that type of spoken word. Personally, I think it's a lazy way to express oneself.0 -
I would rather not. In my opinion it really takes a lot away from a person when they do.
For examples, I think Matthew McConaughey and Jennifer Aniston are extremely attractive people but when I hear either of them use foul language, most especially G.D. in a movie it makes them very unattractive.
I am sitting here wondering what GD is? Is it a certification? I can't for the life of me think of a swear word that starts with it...G D?
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sorry i yhink its perfectlly ok to cuss,i do but there are places or people i do not do it around.0
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i used to swear like that .... and every now and then it comes out again when i am upset or hurt myself, etc... i agree it is a big turn off .... very low class and negative energy..... i have gotten to the point where i cannot watch it in movies or with comics, etc... it just turns me off and feels yucky... so i agree.... though she probably would do better if she knew how to do better.... it is interesting these things that hold us back in life and we don't even realize it ..... hopefully the lightbulb will come on and she will see the darkness in her words and lighten up!:).... be well...0
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I'm Scottish, my every other word is f**k, I say c**t at least once a day and I replaced the word stuff for s**t a very long time ago :L
I do tone it down around parents, polite company and kiddies though!0 -
I was raised never to swear so instead of saying the F word I'll say fudge sticks or cheese and dip or shiz nid lol....I make up words on the spot. I probably cursed maybe 3 times last year verbally....now texting is different lol.0
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Words have meaning, even curse words.
I have no trouble with someone using those words when the situation calls for it. Sometimes one just has to say "WHAT THE *@#&!" But if one uses that word in every sentence, what does one say when they are really frustrated and at their wits end? Same goes for !*^% , ><?), and \)(|#$. (I certainly don't want my posting privileges to be suspended for using the words here)
I have less trouble with people swearing than with people rendering otherwise descriptive words meaningless.
Do I swear? Rarely. When I do, it would be in your best interest to run for cover.
LOL when I truly want my curses to have meaning they do! I usualy string together curses in other languages.
Oh and for the record I have a 165 I.Q. andwas reading at a college level in the 4th grade. My vocabulary probably contians words that some people have never even heard of. Words only have the power you give them. :flowerforyou:0 -
When I was a little middle-class girl in braids and lace, my mama taught me a lot about class. I learned that being 'classy' involves making the people around you feel comfortable and never, ever judging other people or assuming I'm better than them. I choose not to swear in front of children or strangers because I am showing them a courtesy, not because I feel that there's anything wrong the language itself. It's about having good manners and showing respect for other people.
For those that think ladies shouldn't swear at all, my dears, you'd be clutching your pearls if you overheard a conversation between me and my friends. Of course, I would have enough 'class' not to swear in front of you if it made you uncomfortable. I wouldn't even think poorly of you for your discomfort or draw conclusions about your upbringing because of it. After all, classy people do not make assumptions about another person's intelligence or social status based on something as superficial as their choice of dialect or vocabulary. I also don't assume that every person that uses Ebonics is 'from the ghetto'- or that a person with a southern accent must, naturally, be an inbred hillbilly- because stereotyping is a disgusting habit. Since my mama raised me right, I don't roll that way.
Now, if you'll excuse me, this lady shall be off in the kitchen, doing lady-like business like smoking cigars and rewiring the stove.
I think you may be my new favorite person.
Seriously your choice to use certain words is up to you. What I cant stand is people telling me what should and should not come out of my mouth. My 2 children kknow the correct words for the "personal areas" and have since they were babies. I cannot say this enough the more emphisis we put on words being bad the more small people want to learn them. No word should have a negative conotation simply because you don't like it0 -
I have a hard time wrapping my head around the reasons why specific words are deemed "bad." For derogatory terms it makes sense because there is a history there and people have been oppressed using that language, and I also don't like it when swear words are directed toward people to put them down. But when it's just in general, and it's a word that's an alternative to poop or a body part, for example, I don't get why some are "bad" and some are okay.
That being said, I do agree that there are situations where it isn't appropriate, (because it makes others uncomfortable, or is not socially acceptable in those situations, etc.). Too much swearing can also get annoying at times.0 -
You did not just throw out the equivalent of an intellectual resume. BWHAHAHAHAHA!Words have meaning, even curse words.
I have no trouble with someone using those words when the situation calls for it. Sometimes one just has to say "WHAT THE *@#&!" But if one uses that word in every sentence, what does one say when they are really frustrated and at their wits end? Same goes for !*^% , ><?), and \)(|#$. (I certainly don't want my posting privileges to be suspended for using the words here)
I have less trouble with people swearing than with people rendering otherwise descriptive words meaningless.
Do I swear? Rarely. When I do, it would be in your best interest to run for cover.
LOL when I truly want my curses to have meaning they do! I usualy string together curses in other languages.
Oh and for the record I have a 165 I.Q. andwas reading at a college level in the 4th grade. My vocabulary probably contians words that some people have never even heard of. Words only have the power you give them. :flowerforyou:0 -
I swear when idiot drivers cut me up, or pedestrians walk into the road without looking0
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You did not just throw out the equivalent of an intellectual resume. BWHAHAHAHAHA!Words have meaning, even curse words.
I have no trouble with someone using those words when the situation calls for it. Sometimes one just has to say "WHAT THE *@#&!" But if one uses that word in every sentence, what does one say when they are really frustrated and at their wits end? Same goes for !*^% , ><?), and \)(|#$. (I certainly don't want my posting privileges to be suspended for using the words here)
I have less trouble with people swearing than with people rendering otherwise descriptive words meaningless.
Do I swear? Rarely. When I do, it would be in your best interest to run for cover.
LOL when I truly want my curses to have meaning they do! I usualy string together curses in other languages.
Oh and for the record I have a 165 I.Q. andwas reading at a college level in the 4th grade. My vocabulary probably contians words that some people have never even heard of. Words only have the power you give them. :flowerforyou:
LOL yes I did because I'm am tired of hearing how swearing means you dont have the intelegence or vocabulary to use a different word.:bigsmile:0 -
ChooseLOL yes I did because I'm am tired of hearing how swearing means you dont have the intelegence or vocabulary to use a different word.:bigsmile:
Scene: Soft music...lights low. Cuddled on the couch with your SO. He/she/it nuzzles up to your ear and whispers
"Right now I want you to throw me on the bed and have relations"
or
"Right now I want you to throw me on the bed and *kitten* me"
I mean, we are using a "more appropriate" euphemism.0 -
Ask either one of my kids what my favorite work is - they will spell it for you F**K. I have never, ever heard either one of them say it. They might with their friends (they are 13 and 16) but never in front of me. They are living proof kids can hear cuss words and not use them. On the flip side I never, not once, heard my own mom cuss and I sure learned how! Good old Catholic school 0
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I don't really mind, unless it feels forced and inappropriate. I don't think it is absolutely necessary or anything of course not, but I don't really react to it either unless it's totally out of place in the conversation.0
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:flowerforyou:imho, swear words are like strong spices. They don't belong everywhere, and some people can't handle them, but in some cases, very useful and perfect for the occasion! Also generally not good for use around children haha
Love this!!! Great post
Sláinte0 -
I find you sound ignorant when you swear. You sound much more intelligent if you come up with another word besides a swear word.0
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One case in point, when Bill had been living with me for about a year, we took my son to his football game, or soccer for Americans lol, and as we stood watching the game Bill just said to the rest of the parents on the touchline, 'Josh was wanking all the way along here in the back of the car'....total silence and wide open jaw dropping horror struck looks from everyone..including me...as to us wanking means masturbating, and to HIM it meant 'complaining.....so it was like him saying my 9 year old son had been jerking off in the back of the car on the way o the game......cultural difference can be a bugger
That was f*cking hilarious!!!0
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