Cheating Question for guys ! HELP

If you were searching through his phone, there obviously wasn't much trust there to begin with. You should probably sever.

She already said she picked up the phone thinking hers had gone off. I don't think this is a trust issue, I think this is a P*&#y and C*@K issue

Ah, my mistake. I must have missed that.

But obviously if she thinks he's cheating (he probably is) then it IS an issue of trust. How is she to trust him since this is happening? Hm?

i have always believed that trust and privacy is important in an relacionship. tonight..one second i was having a laughter attack ...the room was dark..he was falling asleep..i reach out to where the phone were and once i got to the den i threw it on the couch and noticed it was his not mine. grabbed it looked at the time ..and noticed a name that made gave me that --mmmmm..... moment.

the phone was locked and i couldn´t seem to unlock it ..and was ready to give up...also didnt want him to see that i was messing with his phone...but something pushed me to try and try.
and there were those two text .

locking his phone is also a bad sign and so is the fact he is pretending nothing happened. My ex did that too and made me try and think I was crazy for even suggesting he was cheating. You are not crazy, he is just a good liar

What ever happened to forgiveness? Give him a chance to end anything that might be going on and you can have a fresh start. I mean if you were gonna marry him you must love him and walking away won't be easy. The vows you were gonna take say for better or for worse, if you make that commitment then you have to be willing to work through anything.

What ever happened to him being faithful? He is the one that broke this relationship, so don;t make her feel guilty for being strong and walking away.

If he's a cheater now, he'll be a cheater later

I stand firm on the question "What happened to forgiveness" people in relationships make mistakes. How strong could the relationship be if that's all it takes to end it?

All the more reason to end it now before any vows are exchanged.

If you were searching through his phone, there obviously wasn't much trust there to begin with. You should probably sever.

She already said she picked up the phone thinking hers had gone off. I don't think this is a trust issue, I think this is a P*&#y and C*@K issue

Ah, my mistake. I must have missed that.

But obviously if she thinks he's cheating (he probably is) then it IS an issue of trust. How is she to trust him since this is happening? Hm?

You are right...because of this there will never be trust again. I know this from experience, and it was never pretty. SuperMoniMonk...I know it hurts now, but it is worth it for your own mental well being to walk away.

girls or guys !
I just read this text on my fiance´s cell

´. You must be tired babe ..from working all day..but next time I see you I will give you a nice massage..-;

I say no more wedding .

he says he has nothing with her ..and she is the one wanting to hook up with him.
I´m sitting here typing but truly I´m very dissapointed.

This needs to stop. No confronting no one, no blaming others, no forgiving, no thinking it just her trying to be a home wrecker, and no making excuses. They only person you should be angry with is him and him alone unless he is a bad boy and you knew that and still dated him. She is not the problem, its her. He gave her number out to her, he texts her, and he didnt stop her from texting him. In my opinion, he has already cheated based on that alone. If he hadnt then it would eventually would. Im sorry to all who disagrees but I dont care.

If anyone who is married, in a relationship, or engage has no business texting other single people who is trying to hook up with them. Flirting leads to cheating, its never harmless. Cheating hurts everyone that loves the one who was cheated on. You have you proof and so you have to make a discision. First of all, cheaters or intent of cheating rarely admits it so you have to just believe and have faith. If you forgive him and marry him then you just gave the crying kid a candy bar and rewarded him for his bad behavior.

I know its hard and you love him so you probably will forgive him and marry him anyway. I would suggest make it uncomfortable for him, tell his parents about it, make him see a counselor, and make him truely win your trust, not just listen to words. Words are words, make him work his *kitten* off. Actions speak louder than words. He had no business even talking to her and if he did cheat already, i beleive cheaters will always cheat. Ive never cheated but have been cheated on by alot of women so this is why i wrote this, cause i know how it is and am sorry that you are going through it. I wish you well and good luck.

girls or guys !
I just read this text on my fiance´s cell

´. You must be tired babe ..from working all day..but next time I see you I will give you a nice massage..-;

I say no more wedding .

he says he has nothing with her ..and she is the one wanting to hook up with him.
I´m sitting here typing but truly I´m very dissapointed.

Sounds like a problem.
If a guy text'd my wife that, I'd put him in ER and make her explain.

Even if it's innocent, people will remember and think twice before going after what's mine.
I don't cheat, and I expect the same from my SO.

End of story.

Telling you this from experience...follow your gut and not your heart. Your heart will tell you lies, but your gut knows the truth. After my experiences, my first instinct is no-way will I be with him. Talk to the HO-me wrecker, but follow what your gut tells you...it won't lie like your heart will. Good luck sweetie!

What she said ~ hugs to you & let us know how everything turns out. Someone also posted that you should confront her face to face with your guy to read their body language ~ that would be my next step. They wouldn't be able to hide behind a text & you could see their reactions to what was being said. Good luck! :flowerforyou:

Leave now.

be strong!
I hate that "well that was it if you don't trust me then that's up to you" crap.

*Go to a mates for the evening and tell him you need to think about what's been said.
*Tell him you till give him an answer to your decision in 48 hours (or longer if you need)
*Then pack a bag and leave. What he does in that next 72 hours can tell a lot and also you are giving yourself a deadline to make a decision.
*You're being the mature one.
*He's gonna get rather worried because you are being so calm about it. You're telling him a decision will be made and when, leaving him no doubt who's in control now!

Go girl!
:flowerforyou:

LEAVE HIM and DON'T LET HIM smooth talk his way back in. I've seen it done before and you will regret it if you take him back.

I'm just going to jump in and say that the name "Babe" implies nothing, I call people Babe all the time. HOWEVER I would be more concerned about the "next time I see you" implying that she had seen him recently.

I say get out now.

Oh yay, there's another one!

I think it's pretty obvious that you don't trust him, and it should be obvious to him that he can't trust you, either, since you went through his text messages. I never buy that "I picked up his/her phone by mistake" excuse. If you have the exact same phone as someone else, I can see how you might grab his, thinking it's yours, but I do not see how it's possible to get as far as opening someone else's text messages by mistake.

I am sorry to say this but it is just as much his fault. If he was really serious he would have taken care of this woman by now. Part of not cheating on your spouse is not putting yourself in a position for it to happen. He needed to remove the temptation my friend and he has chosen not to. I say the writing is on the wall!!

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amen

Wait! It is possible that not everything is black and white...you know him better than anyone! And trust me, some people are a little psycho......just saying