Men...Just Who Exactly Are You Trying To Impress?
So I was wondering...exactly who men are trying to impress? A woman gets a man alone, and he's sweet and listens and is (usually) not an *kitten*. Suddenly his male friends come up and it's a complete turn around. He acts like a jerk, treats a woman like some kind of toy that he's lost interest in, and does things on purpose to piss her off just so his guy friends can have a laugh at it. I see the same in the gym even. I was doing some weight training and a guy was talking to me, being supportive, and another guy passed by, asked him what he was up to, and he says "Just trying to get this woman past being pathetic." Pathetic? :explode: What ever happened to "You're doing great!"?? Now for those men who are not gay (and nothing against gays, just this doesn't apply to them), why is it that you seem to be trying to impress males more than females? To be frank and blunt, if it's us females you want to hook up with and make a good impression, shouldn't you at least wait to be an *kitten* until we're gone? So why do men do this? Who are you trying to impress?
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Me personally? No one but myself and the people I love. I have reached a stage in my life were I honestly don't care what people other than that think of me.
The behaviour you describe however isn't a facet of being a man more than it is a measure of being immature or unsure of yourself. Only under confident people feel the need to put others down in order to make themselves feel or look better.1 -
Me personally? No one but myself and the people I love. I have reached a stage in my life were I honestly don't care what people other than that think of me.
The behaviour you describe however isn't a facet of being a man more than it is a measure of being immature or unsure of yourself. Only under confident people feel the need to put others down in order to make themselves feel or look better.
I will have to agree with this. The guy was a chump and an idiot who couldn't handle a real woman. Just keep doing your work and ignore the boys. The men will make them selves known if they are interested, if not then just keep going and don't let those boys get to you
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I agree 100%. I think if more of us women stood up to the guys who are immature enough to act that way, less would. I mean, what guy would want to be told off in front of his bros? But, most of the girls I know would just keep quiet in that situation, or even laugh along. (Not saying that was the case with you, just in general.) And, so guys know they will get away with their immaturity.
Don't worry, girl! This happens to all of us, unfortunately. Some boys just never grow up... Any man who treats a woman that way doesn't deserve a second look.0 -
I've known a LOT of men in my life. Well, I've met a lot of males, and I have to say the majority of them are this way it seems sadly. It really angers me, because I'm NOT one of those girls who will back off. I will say something. It's not even an age thing, like something just a teenager would do. I've seen middle-aged men do it too. Now I know not all men are like this (else I'm sure the human race would've died off by now), but come on...why so many? What does that really get them? Have we women really built a reputation that says "disrespect me, I'm good with it"?0
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The wolf pack smells fear and kills the weakest member.
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I think what you've met are @ssholes as opposed to men. They sound very immature and the sort of people I'd expect to see in a movie that involves a frat house (whatever one of those is
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Quite a few men are jerks, but the percentage tends to decline as they get older and are less into trying to look cool in front of their mates. I'd also suggest that guys who hang around in gyms with their mates are also maybe not an accurate cross section of the male population.
But as for who I personally am trying to impress, that would be my fiancee and her friends. I have been "told off" for being a bit too sarcastic by my SO in the past and I've reined in what I thought was "humour".0 -
A-holes like that are just trying to protect their virginity.0
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Men try to impress other men consistently. It's the "alpha male" in us. But you don't have to be an *kitten* to do it. For me, I could car less about a car (I drive a mini van), bling, designer suits, name brand clothing etc.So I was wondering...exactly who men are trying to impress? A woman gets a man alone, and he's sweet and listens and is (usually) not an *kitten*. Suddenly his male friends come up and it's a complete turn around. He acts like a jerk, treats a woman like some kind of toy that he's lost interest in, and does things on purpose to piss her off just so his guy friends can have a laugh at it. I see the same in the gym even. I was doing some weight training and a guy was talking to me, being supportive, and another guy passed by, asked him what he was up to, and he says "Just trying to get this woman past being pathetic." Pathetic? :explode: What ever happened to "You're doing great!"?? Now for those men who are not gay (and nothing against gays, just this doesn't apply to them), why is it that you seem to be trying to impress males more than females? To be frank and blunt, if it's us females you want to hook up with and make a good impression, shouldn't you at least wait to be an *kitten* until we're gone? So why do men do this? Who are you trying to impress?
But in reality, the same goes for women too. They are just more stealthy about it.
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I've never had this experience before except maybe in high school.0
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You have discovered the species Doucheus Maximus Simpleton, a common predator in the gym apex. Doucheus Maximus Simpleton often perform mating rituals that include beating their chest, hooting, frost tipping their hair, and winking at themselves in the mirror. To keep a respectable rank amongst the other Doucheus Maximus that may dwell within the gym apex, they will engage in an act scientists have labeled "douchery".
The higher the social rank of Doucheus Maximus, the more acts of douchery they will commit, which seems to attract the female doucheus minoritis species and allow them to perform coitus upon them.0 -
its the cave men mentallity lol0
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I've known a LOT of men in my life. Well, I've met a lot of males, and I have to say the majority of them are this way it seems sadly. It really angers me, because I'm NOT one of those girls who will back off. I will say something. It's not even an age thing, like something just a teenager would do. I've seen middle-aged men do it too. Now I know not all men are like this (else I'm sure the human race would've died off by now), but come on...why so many? What does that really get them? Have we women really built a reputation that says "disrespect me, I'm good with it"?
Yeah, it is SHOCKING to me how many 'grown men' will act this way! Well, how many of these jerk men are in a relationship with a woman? A lot of them... This makes me think that, unfortunately, there are women who are good with it. I have had friend's boyfriends talk down to me like that, and my friend will just stand there and let him make women 'jokes' and so on. She has this 'boys will be boys' kind of mentality, like that is normal and ok. Well, it's not OK. It's ridiculous and her attitude (and societies attitude) sets the scene for more disrespect.
Not all men are like this. We just have to find the good ones to have in our lives. 0 -
I "dated" a couple of guys that sounded like what you are describing in high school (I was 16 and didn't know any better), but I dropped them pretty fast. This is the behavior of a boy (or girl) not a man (or woman). It's too bad you've met so many men like this, though. In college I stayed single (went on dates but I was focused on my studies, having fun with friends, and making future career connections) and when I met my now husband after I graduated, I knew how I deserved to be treated and exactly what I was looking for in a life partner and didn't settle for anything less. I still don't settle for anything less.0
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So I was wondering...exactly who men are trying to impress? A woman gets a man alone, and he's sweet and listens and is (usually) not an *kitten*. Suddenly his male friends come up and it's a complete turn around. He acts like a jerk, treats a woman like some kind of toy that he's lost interest in, and does things on purpose to piss her off just so his guy friends can have a laugh at it. I see the same in the gym even. I was doing some weight training and a guy was talking to me, being supportive, and another guy passed by, asked him what he was up to, and he says "Just trying to get this woman past being pathetic." Pathetic? :explode: What ever happened to "You're doing great!"?? Now for those men who are not gay (and nothing against gays, just this doesn't apply to them), why is it that you seem to be trying to impress males more than females? To be frank and blunt, if it's us females you want to hook up with and make a good impression, shouldn't you at least wait to be an *kitten* until we're gone? So why do men do this? Who are you trying to impress?
why do women try to impress other women more than men?0 -
I've known a LOT of men in my life. Well, I've met a lot of males, and I have to say the majority of them are this way it seems sadly. It really angers me, because I'm NOT one of those girls who will back off. I will say something. It's not even an age thing, like something just a teenager would do. I've seen middle-aged men do it too. Now I know not all men are like this (else I'm sure the human race would've died off by now), but come on...why so many? What does that really get them? Have we women really built a reputation that says "disrespect me, I'm good with it"?
Yeah, it is SHOCKING to me how many 'grown men' will act this way! Well, how many of these jerk men are in a relationship with a woman? A lot of them... This makes me think that, unfortunately, there are women who are good with it. I have had friend's boyfriends talk down to me like that, and my friend will just stand there and let her SO make women 'jokes' and so on. She has this 'boys will be boys' kind of mentality, like that is normal and ok. Well, it's not OK. It's ridiculous and her attitude (and societies attitude) sets the scene for more disrespect.
Not all men are like this. We just have to find the good ones to have in our lives.
Doucheus Maximus is typically always with mate. This should alert everyone that it is an acceptable and often rewarded homo-sapien trait and sub species. When Doucheus Maximus no longer is capable of attracting mates with their douchery, you will see less of them in existence.0 -
You're talking about boys....not men.0
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So I was wondering...exactly who men are trying to impress? A woman gets a man alone, and he's sweet and listens and is (usually) not an *kitten*. Suddenly his male friends come up and it's a complete turn around. He acts like a jerk, treats a woman like some kind of toy that he's lost interest in, and does things on purpose to piss her off just so his guy friends can have a laugh at it.
My response to this behaviour generally goes (in front of his friends) .... "well, you WERE going to get laid tonight. Now you may never. Good job." And I walk away.
What a man is trying to do is get a positive response. That's the purpose of any behaviour. To get the response they want. If you can flip it around, & make him look stupid to his friends for doing/saying stuff like this, then he may stop because it's not getting him where he wants to go. True... you can't fix every guy by doing this once, but you WILL get that instant sense of having gotten one-up on a jerk. Yeah... you may get a reputation as being a tease... or a *****. But do you REALLY care what guys like that think of you? Your real friends know the truth, & who you really are.0 -
I don't know... I wouldn't act that way... if I were in the gym helping and encouraging you I would tell the other guys the same thing... I have no need to put someone down who's putting in the effort trying to better themselves. I think it's great!
Keep doing what you're doing and ignore the *kitten*!0 -
A guy that behaves that way is a piece of *kitten* that doesn`t deserve to have the company of a fine lady.
It is disgraceful and a shame that makes all guys look bad.
Now a question...why do so many woman stay with him or actually gravitate toward that type of behavior,the bad boy thing?0 -
So I was wondering...exactly who men are trying to impress? A woman gets a man alone, and he's sweet and listens and is (usually) not an *kitten*. Suddenly his male friends come up and it's a complete turn around. He acts like a jerk, treats a woman like some kind of toy that he's lost interest in, and does things on purpose to piss her off just so his guy friends can have a laugh at it. I see the same in the gym even. I was doing some weight training and a guy was talking to me, being supportive, and another guy passed by, asked him what he was up to, and he says "Just trying to get this woman past being pathetic." Pathetic? :explode: What ever happened to "You're doing great!"?? Now for those men who are not gay (and nothing against gays, just this doesn't apply to them), why is it that you seem to be trying to impress males more than females? To be frank and blunt, if it's us females you want to hook up with and make a good impression, shouldn't you at least wait to be an *kitten* until we're gone? So why do men do this? Who are you trying to impress?
Real Men don't act like that....but boy's do........0 -
So I was wondering...exactly who men are trying to impress? A woman gets a man alone, and he's sweet and listens and is (usually) not an *kitten*. Suddenly his male friends come up and it's a complete turn around. He acts like a jerk, treats a woman like some kind of toy that he's lost interest in, and does things on purpose to piss her off just so his guy friends can have a laugh at it. I see the same in the gym even. I was doing some weight training and a guy was talking to me, being supportive, and another guy passed by, asked him what he was up to, and he says "Just trying to get this woman past being pathetic." Pathetic? :explode: What ever happened to "You're doing great!"?? Now for those men who are not gay (and nothing against gays, just this doesn't apply to them), why is it that you seem to be trying to impress males more than females? To be frank and blunt, if it's us females you want to hook up with and make a good impression, shouldn't you at least wait to be an *kitten* until we're gone? So why do men do this? Who are you trying to impress?
I see the problem. After reading this twice, and noticing no mention of dinner preparation or shoulder rubs, I ask myself "Why did he allow her out of the kitchen?" Obviously he has a problem with control.0 -
THATS WHY HE IS STILL SINGLE HONEY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HE'S AN *kitten*>0
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When a guy acts like a big d i c k... he compensating for having a small p e n i s.....0
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I've known a LOT of men in my life. Well, I've met a lot of males, and I have to say the majority of them are this way it seems sadly. It really angers me, because I'm NOT one of those girls who will back off. I will say something. It's not even an age thing, like something just a teenager would do. I've seen middle-aged men do it too. Now I know not all men are like this (else I'm sure the human race would've died off by now), but come on...why so many? What does that really get them? Have we women really built a reputation that says "disrespect me, I'm good with it"?
I would say you know boys.
A man would treat you with the same respect around his friends as he would alone.0 -
Exactly!I think what you've met are @ssholes as opposed to men. They sound very immature and the sort of people I'd expect to see in a movie that involves a frat house (whatever one of those is ).
I work in an industry that is 93% male, and most of my friends are guys as a result; I don't see this type of behaviour except in one or two guys who I don't like very much. Reason being that they are @ssholes.0 -
I don't see where it said he was single. A little embellishment perhaps?THATS WHY HE IS STILL SINGLE HONEY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HE'S AN *kitten*>0 -
Same reason male birds have more colorful feathers - to impress the females and fight out other males. Some less evolved human males aren't sure what to do with their testosterone fueled ego so they get confused and impress the guys and fight the women.
Reminds me of an old joke: How are men like parking spaces? All the good ones are taken and the rest are handicapped.
...and yup, you guessed it, I am taken.
Have a great day ladies!0 -
LMAOA-holes like that are just trying to protect their virginity.0 -
I have never had something like this happen, but most men I interact with are friends. But if a guy said what he said about you in front of you..... if that was me in that position he would have had his a** handed to him.... totally go for verbal castration.0
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