Friend snobs

i wouldn't necessarily consider these people snobs. I have only two friends and will probably delete even those. I am on the site to read tips and get support in general. I dont need a "friend" to do that, i just read the forum, check out all the great success stories, track my own food & exercise and I'm good. Then again, I'm also not on facebook. too weird, too much sharing for me. doesn't make me a snob, just makes me different :-)

I never turn down a friend request. I wont say that I keep every friend that sends me a request, but I'll never turn one down.

You never know how it will turn out and why take a chance that the next person sending you a request turns out to be an awesome source of inspiration?! Some really cool idea person that gives you some great recipes and it turns out that you went to the same daycare and your kids played parchessi together? Who knows!?!?

Now, that said, I do not always keep friends. I have deleted some that after friending them I see they post 27 random things on their "news" every half hour so that you cant see ANYTHING anyone else has posted, or just things they talk about are not really something I want to read about. I make the choice to unfriend after I've had the opportunity to see what kind of person they are.

Everyone should have an opportunity to show you what kind of person they are before you make any judgement, at least thats how it is in my book.

Feel free to add me, the more the merrier!

Hi,
Just wondering why some people seem stingy about who their friend are on this app? I guess everybody is different but aren't we all here striving for the same goals? I love friends, the more the better!
It kind of puts me off when I ask to friend somebody (i always include a message!) and they completely blow me off. These same people are in the community forums over and over again so its not like I am asking people who never log in.
So if you feel the same way and we are not friends yet please friend me, i wont let you down...LOL

It takes me a great deal of time and effort to view all of my friends diaries, comment on their exercise, and otherwise actually interact with them. If I have too many friends or ****ty friends who never bother to comment on ANY of their other friends' statuses, I'm better off with a smaller number.

This isn't facebook-- I'm here to give and receive like minded support.

Perhaps I'm a snob - but I have a lot of friends on my list already (I've been on MFP for a year). If I get a friend request from someone with no message, very little info on their profile or someone who appears to have a completely different lifestyle or interests to me then I probably won't add them.
It isn't a reflection on them as a person, it just means that I have a lot of people already on my "friends" list and I find it hard enough to keep up with them as it is without adding more. The people I do add tend to be around my own age or with a similar viewpoint or interested in the same things.

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My friends should feel special. :blushing:

We do. :flowerforyou:

I friend'd a bunch of nasty hoes, and they were all innapropriate on my profile like, "Oooh, your pics r so sexy, we wanna touch your crotchal region..." and my wife was all, "Oh, hell no! Un-friend all those nasty hoes!"

So now I'm picky.

and I've learned a new word: "crotchal."

hehe.

I'll be friends with any girl as long as we have something in common (other than the obvious)...if we're always posting on the same threads or if we're a part of another online community then sure lets be friends. But honestly, I don't want to be friends with any guys. IMO What's the point? I don't want to get creeped on. No offence to all the non creepy guys.

You can ask me to be your friend.

Some people like to support their friends, by keeping in touch and commenting almost daily. This is REALLY hard to do if you have a big friends list.. Hence why some of us try and keep them small. Life just gets too busy sometimes to be on MFP for 5 hours a day keeping up with your friends!

If people include a message with their request, i'll definitely consider accepting, but if there's no message (as requested on my profile) then I will reject. Sorry.

Each to their own though

^^THIS.

I have less than 30 on my list, and I think that is still too large.

If Healthy mind=healthy body. Some of you are really unhealthy. ....just sayin :P

and she wonders why people don't want to be friends...... :ohwell:

I didn't see any snide remarks in this thread. A few joking comments followed by serious answers. Then the OP, after calling people snobs, got defensive and nasty. THEN she again requested more people to friend her.

For some reason, I'm not feeling inclined to do so. I can't figure out why ...

I hear ya

I send requests knowing it's their choice. I don't take it personally AT ALL! Sometimes I forget I sent a request until I see them in my newsfeed.

i only add people i can relate to .. ive lost alot and still alot to go i refuse to add people with 14lbs or less to loose as within weeks they are gone ... i also delete constantly people who havent logged in a month or more i want people in the long haul like i am x

Because not everyone is meant to be friends with everyone else just because they are all on the same site? I mean, you aren't friends with everyone that you happen to be in the same room with at any given time. *shrug* This is my experience, I will use it as I see fit, and I expect others to do so as well.