MEN ONLY: Bro code poll

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  • adamsonam
    adamsonam Posts: 127
    First question about him calling...no

    Second question about wife...the issue alone,no...you feeling that you may have been owed a call,yes.

    Sorry,being honest.


    ^^^This
  • bluefox9er
    bluefox9er Posts: 2,917 Member
    Just wondering..do you OWN your HS sweetheart?? Does she have some sort of obligation towards you after all this time???

    Is there some reason your high school buddy should consult you about his relationship issues and choices?

    Initially, I felt sorry for you for even contemplating on putting something as retarded as this into a public forum.

    On second thoughts, it's your WIFE I feel sorry for.
  • Missylydia
    Missylydia Posts: 304 Member
    @Savage
    LOL, I was being silly. I've never been Mildred.

    If I were to boil his pet bunny though, think it would make good soup stock? What would I log it as? Boiled bunny soup? Hmmmmm
  • Fred77
    Fred77 Posts: 132 Member
    @Savage
    LOL, I was being silly. I've never been Mildred.

    If I were to boil his pet bunny though, think it would make good soup stock? What would I log it as? Boiled bunny soup? Hmmmmm

    bunnyboiler surprise. extra calories if you leave the fur and tail on it
  • Missylydia
    Missylydia Posts: 304 Member
    @Savage
    LOL, I was being silly. I've never been Mildred.

    If I were to boil his pet bunny though, think it would make good soup stock? What would I log it as? Boiled bunny soup? Hmmmmm

    bunnyboiler surprise. extra calories if you leave the fur and tail on it

    Extra protein? ~Would need it after the "boxercize"
  • Cateyxx
    Cateyxx Posts: 9
    Hey, you need a girl's opinion. No, he dosen't have to call you, considering it's been how long? And yes, your wife has a right to be pissed.
  • tataliciousd89
    tataliciousd89 Posts: 465
    I'd apply the five year rule (similar to the five second rule for dropped food). One of you was dropped and after five years, you leave it be.

    Your wife is a woman, she owns the hoo hoo, so she gets to be mad when she wants to be mad. Get her some flowers or plan a date night and reinforce that you know who you are married to.
    This guy knows women. Listen to him.
  • foodfight247
    foodfight247 Posts: 767 Member
    What happened 18 years ago is in the past.....What happens in the present will happen.....I can see why you're wife maybe a little upset on the basis that if you're getting a bit flustered over this bro code in relation to an ex, then she may be feeling a little peeved. I know I would.


    Why does a guy have to ask your permission to go out with an ex? Must admit, if he's still a very good friend to you then he should have maybe brought it up in a conversation but I wouldn't expect him to have asked permission to date your ex (from 18 yrs earlier). Moreso since you are settled with your partner.

    Sorry, but that's the way I see it. Also realise things are done slightly different overseas. Anyhow, thats my take.
  • olee67
    olee67 Posts: 208 Member
    so much for only guys...

    Um, I wouldn't care if one of my buddies was dating my semi serious h.s. ex. I mean, it was so long ago, no one is even the same person anymore anyways... I don't think he needed to call you to for permission. Maybe just a heads up, you know, just in case he's bringing a date along to a function so you don't get blind sided.

    Why would your wife be upset because of who your buddy is dating?
  • jcr85
    jcr85 Posts: 229
    Doesn't matter you broke rule number 1... you got married.
  • mommypennylane
    mommypennylane Posts: 67 Member
    I'd apply the five year rule (similar to the five second rule for dropped food). One of you was dropped and after five years, you leave it be.

    Your wife is a woman, she owns the hoo hoo, so she gets to be mad when she wants to be mad. Get her some flowers or plan a date night and reinforce that you know who you are married to.

    I know I'm a chick but I LOVE your response!!!
  • Fat_Bottomed_Girl
    Fat_Bottomed_Girl Posts: 355 Member
    K, so I've been waiting for the "You've been punked" that doesn't seem to be coming...

    When it comes down to it, most guys aren't gonna worry about that stuff years down the road. In all honestly, it probably never occured to him. That's just how guys ARE. GIRLS, however... -Now THAT'S a different STORY!

    As far as your wife being upset? As a part-time woman myself, I'd be more concerned that you are referring to "bro code" to conduct your personal business.
  • Savyna
    Savyna Posts: 789 Member
    It's been 17 years...why do you care?
  • savage22hp
    savage22hp Posts: 278 Member
    @Savage
    LOL, I was being silly. I've never been Mildred.

    If I were to boil his pet bunny though, think it would make good soup stock? What would I log it as? Boiled bunny soup? Hmmmmm

    bunnyboiler surprise. extra calories if you leave the fur and tail on it

    Extra protein? ~Would need it after the "boxercize"


    ...and perhaps have it's liver with some fava beans ...
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    I'm a girl but I'm putting in my two cents.
    It was 15 years ago. You're probably not very close to the guy anymore, or the girl and you have a family of your own. I suspect the reason you're upset is that you are wondering if your friend liked the girl while the two of you were dating. Maybe he did maybe he didn't. You can't worry about it anymore. And yes, I think your wife has the right to be upset that you're upset - you are married to her!
  • LuckyAng
    LuckyAng Posts: 1,173 Member
    I actually hope your friend marries your ex.

    :drinker:

    Oh my gosh, YES! If they get married, I think we should all come to the wedding :wink:
  • Ocarina
    Ocarina Posts: 1,550 Member
    LOL! 18 years ago??? Really?? You should have forgotten the last name by now. Semi-serious?? There are no serious relationships in high school. My sister has been in two of them that lasted over two years, once she is still currently in and she could give a rat's *kitten* who the other guy is dating. She actually laughs about him because he has rebounded like 5 times after she dumped him as she gave him a social standing in school. I have legitimately forgotten names of people I've dated from only 5-6 years ago!

    I think you are beyond unhealthy and I absolutely pity your wife that you are actually claiming ownership on an ex girlfriend like some type of cave man. You are MARRIED! Is your wife just someone you've "settled" for? I'll bet you stalk on your ex's Facebook profile too.

    Gees man, you totally surrender any type of man card with this insecurity.
  • forgtmenot
    forgtmenot Posts: 860 Member
    I have spent nearly 20 minutes reading all the responses to this and it has made my night! Absolutely hilarious! Especially the "game recognize game", 4th grade Valentine, and bunny soup posts. ROFL
  • _Ben
    _Ben Posts: 1,608 Member
    One thing I didnt see you clarify is how close are you with your best friend from high school? In my opinion, no. Extremely long time ago, not a big deal
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
    Relationship ended 17-18 years ago with your friend. Code no longer applies.
  • Matt_Wild
    Matt_Wild Posts: 2,673 Member
    18 years ago? No.

    A few months/year? Yep.
  • Helice
    Helice Posts: 1,075 Member
    First question about him calling...no

    Second question about wife...the issue alone,no...you feeling that you may have been owed a call,yes.

    Sorry,being honest.


    ^^^This

    Completely agree!!
    I mean why do you even think you deserve a call unless you think she is still yours or something..
  • Glovesave3373
    Glovesave3373 Posts: 92 Member
    I think bro code has a statute of limitation.

    Fully agree.... that would be a NO on both accounts.... You are adults now and have moved on with your own lives... You aren't even close.
  • liftingbro
    liftingbro Posts: 2,029 Member
    I was just thinking that if you are old enough that the relationship could be 18 years ago you are probably too old to be worrying about bro code anyway. lol.
  • rwd5046
    rwd5046 Posts: 302
    18 years ago? No.

    A few months/year? Yep.

    Agreed......What's the interest anyway????? Better talk to the wife cause she seems to have an interest since she's the one bringing things to your attention. Just saying.
  • MassiveDelta
    MassiveDelta Posts: 3,271 Member
    Ill state clearly again.
    My apologies... "Permission" was the wrong word to use. A respectful call of notification would have been more appropriate.

    Yes My buddy and I are still close. I have not spoken to or seen the ex in over 10 years (there are no lingering feelings at all)

    The Ex recently added both of us on Facebook and 3 days ago messaged my wife and asked her if, We (my wife and I) were available to get together (with her and my buddy) 2 weekends from now. My wife inquired if the two of them were together. My wife asked me if I was a aware. I was not.

    So why do I care. I care because "My Bro" didn't let me know he was in a relationship with an ex...Not because she was my ex but BECAUSE he is my bro. You are right he doesnt have to check with me...its about mutual respect. MY wife thought I had something for the ex too as I was initially upset and my reaction was visible. That is not the case. Its about respect between 2 guys who have been close friends since the 4th grade. I only applied the Bro code theory in my explanation because it fits. The rule applies on both sides and time limits only apply if the issue is with the Ex.

    If you dont get that and cant comprehend then I'm sorry that you have never had a friendship like that where you could understand. When I say he is my Bro I would consider him my brother.

    For those that think I'm too "Old" for Bro code ...Maybe the bro code is applied for different reasons at a younger age but to me many of those rules are about respect between guys that have a bond of brotherhood. Age doesn't defy that

    Thanks for some of the comments that were legitimate and well thought out. To the others thanks for the foolish answers they were humorous at best.
  • SassyJuliana
    SassyJuliana Posts: 96 Member
    Is this guy for real???
  • cms6300
    cms6300 Posts: 163
    There was a lot of fun had at your expense on this one and i gotta say, I both took part and enjoyed it. Sorry, I'm having a tough time buying your most recent rationalization. You know who this really sucks for - your wife. You owe her big........day at the spa, dinner, multiple toe curlings.
    Good luck
  • Becca_007
    Becca_007 Posts: 596 Member
    Is this guy for real???
    we're not sure yet :tongue: ....since the whole story wasn't told in the OP's first post...the story continues to change it seems:huh:
    There was a lot of fun had at your expense on this one and i gotta say, I both took part and enjoyed it. Sorry, I'm having a tough time buying your most recent rationalization. You know who this really sucks for - your wife. You owe her big........day at the spa, dinner, multiple toe curlings.
    Good luck
    yea me too...I don't buy the most recent story either. Yes, I agree your last line most definitely applies!!

    Seems some come on the boards to tell a story then if the responses don't go their way the story has a way of suddenly taking twists and turns to suit them so they turn out the good guy in the end. Not sure that worked this time though.
  • TourThePast
    TourThePast Posts: 1,753 Member
    Your wife is a woman, she owns the hoo hoo, so she gets to be mad when she wants to be mad.
    So funny! :bigsmile:

    I'm loving this thread, especially the people who are taking it seriously!
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