Does anyone else struggle to feel sexy?

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  • rsdgirl
    rsdgirl Posts: 241 Member
    never have felt "sexy". im just "one of the guys" in most cases and i dont mind it :) sounds weird but i feel sexiest when im being competitive
  • minadeathclutch
    minadeathclutch Posts: 375 Member
    me too! lol
    I'm too manly/metal etc to ever feel sexy or lady like. I listen to metal, lift weights, and walk around with pitbulls and rottweilers.... I feel like a man 24/7.. I have no women friends really, maybe one. lol but I'm always with guys.. it sucks, I want to feel lady like sometime, but my life just doesnt allow it haha
    Sexy....what's that?... Not sure I've ever felt that way!


    ditto!
  • minadeathclutch
    minadeathclutch Posts: 375 Member
    never have felt "sexy". im just "one of the guys" in most cases and i dont mind it :) sounds weird but i feel sexiest when im being competitive

    HAHA HOLY **** I JUST SAID THE SAME ****!
  • krisvtx8777
    krisvtx8777 Posts: 163
    Never used to be an issue.. I was big and i didn't care.. If people didn't like me for who I was or for my size never bothered me..

    And now I'm always wondering what I can do to make myself look/feel better but I'm dreading its never going to be enough..

    Does anyone else feel like this? Or do you accept who you are/what you look like and just work towards a healthier body?



    This is me-in a nutshell. Every so often I see a glimpse of something I like-but its immediately followed by a "but I hate this more" and "I've worked so hard and I still don't see what I want to see"
  • twanthe1
    twanthe1 Posts: 407
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  • fabulousby45
    fabulousby45 Posts: 65
    YES!! Every damn day, but fake it till you make it, is what my mama always told me!!
  • amandavictoria80
    amandavictoria80 Posts: 734 Member
    I go through the same thing constantly. I am a huge product junkie because of it. To a bad extent. Make up, skin care, etc. I don't know, I guess I;m always trying to find the secret or something that will fix my hang ups..

    And sometimes even still, I struggle to feel sexy. Sometimes the right TV Show will do that for me. :)
  • mcva929
    mcva929 Posts: 73 Member
    Not really. If i dont then i go get my hair cut or new clothes, go to the sex shop. Easy fix IMO! =)

    I really wish they had a "like" button for comments! I would have liked this a million times over ^^
  • zetsubou
    zetsubou Posts: 48 Member
    I never had a problem with it, but recently struggling a lot with myself both physically and mentally.
    It's probably because I think about people and generally the meaning of life more often than other people. Plus I can't help it, but be cheerful all the time next to others, when usually I'm feeling pretty bad.
  • AMummysLife
    AMummysLife Posts: 264 Member
    I recommend anyone who wants to feel accepted and sexy in their body join a burlesque class.

    Or a belly dancing one!
  • galegetsthin
    galegetsthin Posts: 1,340 Member
    I feel pretty some days, but, never sexy. I struggle constantly with it. I don't feel right in my skin. I hate to see pictures of myself. My boyfriend thinks I am, and tells me so. I don't feel it though. I look in the mirror and cry. When I am in the shower, I cant look at myself.
  • lbetancourt
    lbetancourt Posts: 522 Member
    and, this why I am in therapy...
  • TeamEdwardJenn
    TeamEdwardJenn Posts: 400 Member
    I struggle with it all the time . I mean i know my husband loves me but Eww i must look like a scraey thing at times ...I dont feel good enough around preety people i feel like a failure
  • NeedANewFocus
    NeedANewFocus Posts: 898 Member
    and, this why I am in therapy...

    ^ me too. have been for years. I accept who I am but hate it at the same time. I feel sad when women talk about what they wish they're men looked like or talk about what they find sexy sometimes b/c it makes me feel as if I'll never reach a point in a relationship with someone where she truly wants me and doesnt wish i looked like someone else.

    Sad sad....
  • mznisaelaine
    mznisaelaine Posts: 2,262 Member
    Well I struggle to feel attractive but I'm not trying to be so sexy I guess... Sexy to me is one of those tricky terms. Basically I'm still trying to feel "pretty" first before I move on to trying to feel sexy.
  • amandavictoria80
    amandavictoria80 Posts: 734 Member
    I struggle with it everyday! I've lost 30lbs but it doesn't change the fact my body is gross. I have a ton of extra skin and a torn muscle on my stomach. No matter what I do, only surgery will fix this. And it sucks that I will have to pay nearly $10,000 to find that happiness. :(
    Maybe when I have this done I will have days where I can honestly say I feel sexy. And beautiful. Cause I don't feel beautiful either. It's a tough way to live everyday.
  • JanineHarrison
    JanineHarrison Posts: 164 Member
    Sometimes the stars align just right and you can't touch me I'm so sexy. Other times I'm insecure and judge myself based on what I think I should look like.
  • Jennicia
    Jennicia Posts: 409 Member
    YES!! Cuz I absolutely HATE my stomach and I associate a flat stomach with sexiness.....:ohwell:
  • 81Katz
    81Katz Posts: 7,074 Member
    It changes from day to day. Sometimes I feel a million miles away from sexy, other days I wake up and feel really good about myself. It just depends on my mood, which in my opinion being sexy is definitely a state of mind. Even though my body has definitely changed for the better thus far, I am still self conscience about certain parts of it sometimes.

    Sometimes I have an over inflated sense of ego about myself, I look at myself with that damn, you look good voice in my head. But other days I can look at myself when I am at my lowest mentally/emotionally and it's more like damn, you look like a big giant loser!

    As always, we are our own worst enemies ...
  • yessiseguy
    yessiseguy Posts: 116
    you always want more :) you feel great and receive tons of compliments and that high is what motivates (at least me) to continue to want to look pretty or sexy.
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    I don't even try right now. I was self conscious beyond belief even when I was skinny. All my imperfections were all I could think about. I wouldn't even consider dating right now, hot men could throw themselves at my feet, and I'd run away. Although I admit I'd run away with a slightly less bruised ego!
  • jadedone
    jadedone Posts: 2,446 Member
    I think all women need to take a belly dancing class.
    a. The most popular belly dancers do not have 6 packs
    b. you'll learn some fun new moves
    c. everyone will be looking forward to seeing these new moves ;)
    d. its a good workout too, you'll feel much sexier as you learn some new hip moves (watch out Shakira!)
  • khedl85
    khedl85 Posts: 196 Member
    I feel this way whenever I'm about to be intimate with my fiancé. The extra weight I've got really carries a burden in the back of my mind.


    Totally feel that way too.
  • Matt_Wild
    Matt_Wild Posts: 2,673 Member
    Absolutely. I've got a partner that rarely says anything about me. In the gym and in the street I get stopped and chat about muscle, but it means nothing when the person you love rarely comments on you without being prompted. Makes me feel unattractive and ugly.
  • jadedone
    jadedone Posts: 2,446 Member
    I recommend anyone who wants to feel accepted and sexy in their body join a burlesque class.

    Or a belly dancing one!

    We were totally on the same page!
  • Matt_Wild
    Matt_Wild Posts: 2,673 Member
    I recommend anyone who wants to feel accepted and sexy in their body join a burlesque class.

    Or a belly dancing one!

    We were totally on the same page!

    I'd feel a complete idiot doing that, being a bloke LOL :laugh:
  • thor1god1of1awesome
    thor1god1of1awesome Posts: 481 Member
    hell no why dont you know Thor is the god of sexy!
  • Wilmingtonbelle
    Wilmingtonbelle Posts: 255 Member
    My Partner is going through this at the moment & although you might not want "guy input" here it comes. I Love her, do I wish she was healthier, YES, do I still wish to touch & make love to her OH BOY YES. I luv making out, touching & well you get the idea, I have a pretty high sex drive & she used to match if not exceed this. But a number of things have contributed to her lack of drive BUT it is the extra pounds that really concern her.

    MY POINT - ladies your man loves you(unless he is a user, negative pig/you'll know the difference) & he STILL fancies you, yes a little bit because he is wired to get erect at a tree falling down BUT SERIOUSLY, he took care of himself before & during(when you're at work/asleep/cooking, etc) So if that is what he wanted he would leave you alone.

    BUT HE WANTS YOU :)

    Russ

    You rock! And she's a lucky lady :wink: Thanks for posting!

    Sláinte
  • teagin2002
    teagin2002 Posts: 1,900 Member
    I recommend anyone who wants to feel accepted and sexy in their body join a burlesque class.

    Or a belly dancing one!

    We were totally on the same page!
    I'd feel a complete idiot doing that, being a bloke LOL :laugh:
    I used to teach belly dance at the college when I first moved to the US. There was always at least one guy in each class. Matt you would be welcome to attend any of those classes and would probably have a blast too :flowerforyou:
  • loopybec2002
    loopybec2002 Posts: 313 Member
    I am 26 and single& do not feel at all sexy i look in the mirror& do not see anything attractive looking back. If approached in bars i just dont know what to do
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