Why does it seem so many people on this site are so angry an

so instead of us complaining about the complainers, I think we need a solution for all of the hatred spewing from the MFP forums.

I propose to offer the complainers / haters a virtual cookie to stuff their mouth with. I can't think of anything else at the moment, ideas are welcomed.

Just kill them with kindness!!

Is there a dead horse around here that we can beat?

OMG dude the dead horse pics are hilarious!!!!!!

It's a weeding process, initiation to the gang, the new kid "he/she is weird" thought pattern. Only the strong will survive - but what is missed is those who are asking the "stupid, repetitive" question (as many would see them) are the ones who need the most help...

A simple - "this is what has worked for me...." or "I have read on that dieting method and it doesn't seem as healthy as it is pumped up to be, perhaps you should do some more research on it.." would have a better effect on the "newbs" than completely mocking the lack of knowledge they might have on the subject. - just my thought!!!

LIVE WITH THE THREE E'S OF LIFE ...ENERGY, ENTHUSIASM AND EMPATHY! .....AND every morning we should take a walk of gratitude. I call it a "thank you walk" It will create a fertile mind ready for success!!!!

Someone told me about this at the new yr and its really a good way to look at life everyday!

I love this idea, I'm gonna try and remember it!

First, I just ignore most of the negative stuff. I don't even know if my posts have been met with negativity.

I do like your attitude in that you can see it happening and wish it didn't. Me too.

As for hunger being a reason people are grouchy...... If people are that hungry, then something is really wrong. there is nothing wrong with feeling mild hunger for a while each day. But if people are feeling so hungry that the hunger is impacting their lives and making them unhappy and negative and rude or cruel, then they may be headed for disaster in a diet.

I have done diets that left me hungry most of the time, and I believe those diets are one reason I'm so fat now. As soon as I'd hit my goal weight, and sometimes even before, I'd go on "maintenance" and start gaining again. And I'd gain over what I lost.

This time I am more comfortable. I see no reason to be miserable while losing weight. Life is meant to be truly LIVED. Health should make us feel happier, not angry or overly hungry or negative. Health is a GOOD thing. Weight loss is good if done in the pursuit of health.

We are too Blessed to be Stressed.

$.02

Just trying to get my two cents in before this post gets locked too! No time for the whiny forums today- this mama needs a new pair of jeans... #occupyNordstroms

I've been crabby lately, but I think it's because I'm not getting as much booty as I deserve. Just saying :noway:

LOL you and my husband must be friends in real life!! LOL

I only see it in the forums.... stay out of the forums. Its where trolls live.

You don't want the trolls to be homeless do you? They gotta live somewhere!

Seriously, I agree - lighten the fugg up people...

This is a legit question and it's not just to those being rude and crude. I've been on MFP for awhile. Been on the forums a solid 6 months now posting quite a bit. My first post here was the middle of August. Anyways the difference alone from then and is crazy on how much angrier and whiny people in general seem to be on this site. Maybe it's just my personality but it really turns me off to the forums a bit. Which means I'm doing the thing I'm complaining about. I'm getting angry over people being angry. I don't want things to be just cheery but there is just a lot more whining overall going on lately. We are all adults, let's have some fun, lose some weight, and enjoy the ride! These are great times, we are taking control of our bodies. We rule this day, no reason not to feel boss about that!

Here are the reasons I've seen for such things:

1. It's the Internet. As someone else mentioned, the forums are where the trolls live. The sense of anonymity makes people feel bolder, which means the people that are polite in real life feel free to be jerks, and the jerks in real life feel free to be total *kitten*.

2. There are a lot of questions posted on here that have been asked a dozen times before, or, even better, are in the stickies that say READ ME FIRST (I see it at least once a day). By asking the question that has been asked a million times, it says to everyone else that the person didn't bother to read or pay enough attention to at least try to find out for themselves before asking. I think it would help tremendously if MFP implemented a system like what StackOverflow (stackoverflow.com) has - as you post a question, it looks for potential duplicates, to avoid the situations of asking the same question over and over (and duplicates also get shut down pretty quickly, with a reference to the original question).

3. Humor is lost in text, due to the lack of non-verbal communication that goes on when people talk face-to-face. As such, things that are obviously humorous to some aren't to others.

4. Some people are just overly sensitive, and on a site dedicated to weight management, that percentage is higher than most places. Someone then gets their panties in a wad, and it just spirals out of control from there.

Seasonal Affective Disorder.

People need to channel their energy and go work out!

Seasonal Affective Disorder.

People need to channel their energy and go work out!

Personally, I think the season has a lot to do with it. Typically, people gain more weight in the winter, the days are shorter, and some people actually suffer from SAD (I forget what that acronym stands for). Also, some of the people out there have made new year's resolutions to quit smoking, and the absence of the chemicals in the cigarettes are causing some of them to vent anger while they detox. It's quite common.

Mostly, I think people feel safe to vent here where they may not elsewhere. Personally, I take it as a compliment. The fact that they feel comfortable enough to share their TRUE feelings in these forums says a lot. And in the end, might help them to stay focused on why they are here.

Just my thoughts.

This is a legit question and it's not just to those being rude and crude. I've been on MFP for awhile. Been on the forums a solid 6 months now posting quite a bit. My first post here was the middle of August. Anyways the difference alone from then and is crazy on how much angrier and whiny people in general seem to be on this site. Maybe it's just my personality but it really turns me off to the forums a bit. Which means I'm doing the thing I'm complaining about. I'm getting angry over people being angry. I don't want things to be just cheery but there is just a lot more whining overall going on lately. We are all adults, let's have some fun, lose some weight, and enjoy the ride! These are great times, we are taking control of our bodies. We rule this day, no reason not to feel boss about that!

Here are the reasons I've seen for such things:

1. It's the Internet. As someone else mentioned, the forums are where the trolls live. The sense of anonymity makes people feel bolder, which means the people that are polite in real life feel free to be jerks, and the jerks in real life feel free to be total *kitten*.

2. There are a lot of questions posted on here that have been asked a dozen times before, or, even better, are in the stickies that say READ ME FIRST (I see it at least once a day). By asking the question that has been asked a million times, it says to everyone else that the person didn't bother to read or pay enough attention to at least try to find out for themselves before asking. I think it would help tremendously if MFP implemented a system like what StackOverflow (stackoverflow.com) has - as you post a question, it looks for potential duplicates, to avoid the situations of asking the same question over and over (and duplicates also get shut down pretty quickly, with a reference to the original question).

3. Humor is lost in text, due to the lack of non-verbal communication that goes on when people talk face-to-face. As such, things that are obviously humorous to some aren't to others.

4. Some people are just overly sensitive, and on a site dedicated to weight management, that percentage is higher than most places. Someone then gets their panties in a wad, and it just spirals out of control from there.

Very astute answer! I especially agree with the fact that humor often gets lost in text. I always try to assume someone's joking if possible. : )

I'm not angry. Or hungry.

Yeah, the constant spell/grammar check is complete buffoonery. If you feel the need to expose someone at 2pm, on a wednesday, via your computer - you're an assclown. Either that or:
-you view the mistake as a teachable moment, the inner-coach in you can't/won't be stifled - you're a giver
-you belittle others to make yourself feel better - seems weird considering this a support forum
-you know the MFP public is hungry for cliched, hackneyed, over used, unoriginal thoughts and you're happy to serve them up with a side of pompous douche-baggary.