once a cheater always a cheater - true or false?

I always say there are 2 types of cheaters...

One type cheats like there's no tomorrow. You can say they don't have a conscious. They do it for whatever reason and usually don't think about the consequences. These cheaters I'd say will always be cheaters. It's a condition of the heart. Even if they physically stop cheating, they'll always play around with the idea. They'll enjoy playing with fire w/o the burn.

Then there are the cheaters who make the biggest mistake of their life. They're remorseful, they're disgusted with themselves and will do anything to make it right. These usually will never cheat again because they're terrified at the hurt they caused. Also, these folks will stay away from anything remotely close to cheating because they know how easy the slippery slope is. These are cheaters who once were.. but not always will be.

I agree with this!! Unfortunately I ended up with the first type but he is history now!

ME TOO!!! Thus why I know so much about this lol.

Well I seen stone thrower on here.Get off the diet site since your so perfect. If Jesus can forgive those who did it for money and not for love then he can forgive those who may of done it for attention or lack of self-esteem.
Keep in mind cheating is not only physical but mental too. If your pleasing yourself with thoughts of someone else or something else other than your partner, YOU are cheating.

So for the flirters or lookers who think you are not hurting your partner.... You are wrong and still a cheater. If you are making excuses for your thoughts or things you have done that was not loving your partner... You are a cheater.
Can you get over it ... Yes but only when you are honest about what you are doing and why you are doing it. Then when you figure out you really love your partner then you can be satisfied.

where are all the men posts?

this thread is like 80% women! makes me feel like women are more prone to cheating than men!! (which i already think)

False. People do grow up and do change.

That being said, there are some people out there that will never learn to be good no matter how many times their hands get slapped.

where are all the men posts?

this thread is like 80% women! makes me feel like women are more prone to cheating than men!! (which i already think)

bingo

I wonder how many people are honest about their views on cheating. It's such a frowned upon thing for obvious reasons, that everyone seems to become holier than thou. Well, SOMEONE is cheating. lol

I've read that generally speaking, 30% of people cheat......I think that number is waaaayyyyy higher. Seriously, who's going to admit 'yeah, i'm cheating'.:huh:

where are all the men posts?

this thread is like 80% women! makes me feel like women are more prone to cheating than men!! (which i already think)

Actually, in my experience, I tend to agree - though that may have more to do with the type of woman that I've been attracted to.
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OP- I think it's really cool of you to admit that.

where are all the men posts?

this thread is like 80% women! makes me feel like women are more prone to cheating than men!! (which i already think)

Actually, in my experience, I tend to agree - though that may have more to do with the type of woman that I've been attracted to.
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LOL AGREE

ive been cheated on, its a horrible horrible thing. yeah she looks like a porn star, so what!? LOL now shes marrying a rich man twice her age!

I always say there are 2 types of cheaters...

One type cheats like there's no tomorrow. You can say they don't have a conscious. They do it for whatever reason and usually don't think about the consequences. These cheaters I'd say will always be cheaters. It's a condition of the heart. Even if they physically stop cheating, they'll always play around with the idea. They'll enjoy playing with fire w/o the burn.

Then there are the cheaters who make the biggest mistake of their life. They're remorseful, they're disgusted with themselves and will do anything to make it right. These usually will never cheat again because they're terrified at the hurt they caused. Also, these folks will stay away from anything remotely close to cheating because they know how easy the slippery slope is. These are cheaters who once were.. but not always will be.

i totally agree, it depends on the person. some people feel they are entitled to do whatever they want and have the best of both worlds, other people learn from hurting others and mature....i also think there are a large contingent of people (i've noticed more meant than woman) who don't have the balls to get out of a relationship that is not working for them and cheat vs. getting out clean and honorably and then find the next person......

I always say there are 2 types of cheaters...

One type cheats like there's no tomorrow. You can say they don't have a conscious. They do it for whatever reason and usually don't think about the consequences. These cheaters I'd say will always be cheaters. It's a condition of the heart. Even if they physically stop cheating, they'll always play around with the idea. They'll enjoy playing with fire w/o the burn.

Then there are the cheaters who make the biggest mistake of their life. They're remorseful, they're disgusted with themselves and will do anything to make it right. These usually will never cheat again because they're terrified at the hurt they caused. Also, these folks will stay away from anything remotely close to cheating because they know how easy the slippery slope is. These are cheaters who once were.. but not always will be.

THIS. This this this. The trick is knowing the difference, but I'm a believer that there isn't one type of cheater- thanks for putting that more eloquently than I could!

I always say there are 2 types of cheaters...

One type cheats like there's no tomorrow. You can say they don't have a conscious. They do it for whatever reason and usually don't think about the consequences. These cheaters I'd say will always be cheaters. It's a condition of the heart. Even if they physically stop cheating, they'll always play around with the idea. They'll enjoy playing with fire w/o the burn.

Then there are the cheaters who make the biggest mistake of their life. They're remorseful, they're disgusted with themselves and will do anything to make it right. These usually will never cheat again because they're terrified at the hurt they caused. Also, these folks will stay away from anything remotely close to cheating because they know how easy the slippery slope is. These are cheaters who once were.. but not always will be.

THIS. This this this. The trick is knowing the difference, but I'm a believer that there isn't one type of cheater- thanks for putting that more eloquently than I could!

AMEN! THIS is what I'm talking about too!

Personally I think cheating means the person who cheated was unhappy with something in the relationship (maybe they wanted more attention, more sex, more excitement), and therefore looked for it outside of their spouse. Which in the end, means even if they feel bad about it, are horrified by the pain it caused, might do it again if they become unhappy in the future....

I was married very young, I was just 18, and I cheated on him. It was a bad marriage, and it ended after just over 4 years. And he never knew I cheated until a year after the divorce. The guilt killed me, worst feeling. Every time he would try cuddling with me in bed, my heart would race and sometimes my stomach would get upset to the point of vomiting. Even though he was very abusive, physically and mentally, I still felt I had done worse to him then he had ever done to me.....until I caught him cheating on me anyway. I am a one time cheater, did it once, will never do it again! it is not worth it! Been married again now for 5 yrs and have had no trouble at all staying faithful!

Doing stupid things as a teenager is expected. You were about 16 when this happened? I can see that... who hasn't done stupid things as a teenager??

For me - a married adult - if my husband cheated on me it really wouldn't matter because I wouldn't stay around to find out.
We're adults. It's a choice. Cheating is a disrespecting, dishonorable, selfish, cowardly choice.

If a person is so weak that they're willing to potentially sacrifice their relationship or family for a cheap thrill, they should not be in a committed relationship.

If a person is so miserable in their current relationship they enter into a full fledged affair - they should have left the bad relationship.

My view as a 39 year old woman is: There is no justification for cheating. It means that you are weak of moral character and cowardly. Chances are you'll stay that way too.

I don't believe this is an accurate statement but you certainly have a right to your opinion. In my line of work, I deal with divorces every single day and the most common reason for divorce is loss of affection. Not that it gives us a reason or excuse to cheat but when you lose the feeling of being important to someone and attractive and that their world revolves around you, you seek it out in other ways....some cross the line with a full blown affair, some have emotional flings. Its not a lack or moral character, its being a human and wanting to FEEL something, anything, other than dispair. Some people stay in those relationships for familiar obligations and the HOPE that it will get better and because they truly love their spouse/significant other and don't want to move on without them.....this is just my 2 cents.

That's a loaded questions....in my experience, if soemone cheated once and learned from it, then FALSE/

If someone cheated more then once, then Deifinitley TRUE!!

In most cases I've seen it's very TRUE, because people usually don't confess unless they get caught or think they will get caught.

Cheaters are scum, if you love someone, you wouldn't cheat. And if you don't love someone, then why the hell are you with that person, they deserve to be loved, and not with dirt bag cheaters.