No, "it" isn't an open invitation for you to ....
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I'm a little surprised that I'm the first person to mention unwanted dieting advice from random strangers... Wait, am I the only one this happens to? I just LOVE everyone telling me what I should do to lose an abundance of weight... Let's see, one side of the fence is Vegan...the other side, Primal. Oh *kitten*... What do I eat now?
And, a serious low point for me was when one of my co-workers stops by and smugly asks "Oh, are you having another baby"... Rat... I looked him dead in the eye and said, "Nope, just fat." Petty revenge but figured he should be as embarassed as I was. He hemmed and hawwed but now he is afraid to look me in the eye. Good... RAT!0 -
My husband is half Mexican, so my daughter (only 1/4 Mexican) has pretty tan skin. I agree, she is fairly dark, darker than my husband, but she tans really easy and spends a lot of time in the sun! However, for complete strangers to ask me when I'm with her "Is she adopted?" or "She has gorgeous skin color, is she yours?", it peeves me off! First of all, YES she is mine. She looks a lot like me except for her dark skin. Second, IF she was adopted, it's not really okay for you to ask about it unsolicited. It seems so rude to me!!0
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My "it" would have to be my art.
1. No, I don't want to draw a picture of your dog.
2. No, I don't want to illustrate your ideas into a comic book, MUCH LESS FOR FREE.
3. No I don't design logos
4. Yes, it bothers me very much if you hang your head of my shoulder while I draw.
AND FOR THE LAST TIME, NO I DON'T DRAW ANIME.
*sheesh*
LOL I am an artist too and I have the same issues-- I do portraits/pet portraits sometimes FOR MONEY but it never ceases to amaze me how many people think you'll just whip something up for them for free. Oh and I don't mind people watching but that's because I was an art teacher for four years and I had to get used to it.0 -
This happens to me on an almost weekly basis. I wear heels, skirts and stockings to work 5 days a week I also have psoriasis on my legs (this is an autoimmune disease-so no cure just trying to contain it) . While standing at the bus stop/ walking to my car/ in the grocery store etc.
1. How can you walk in those heels?
2. I can't walk in heels
3. Don't you know wearing heels is bad for you feet?
4. Aren't you cold?
5. Aren't you hot with stockings on?
6. What are those red spots on your legs?
7. Is it contagious?
You know I am sorry you can't walk in high heels, and no I am not cold/hot and it is non of your business if I have reddness on my legs! grrr0 -
my it... would have to be my hair and (this is a bit weird) eyelashes... YUP... eyelashes... I can't count how many people come up to me and ask if they are real, which is fine... I know they a prety sweet... but several people have tried to "pet" them... like I was some sort of puppy dog... who touches someone's eyelashes...? No touch! :laugh: :glasses:
^^THIS^^ Long, thick, black lashes. People poke me in the eye trying to touch. Why would you DO that?!0 -
My height.
My height is not an invitation to ask me why I don't play for the local basketball franchise. Kids: Do not climb me. This happens now and again. I don't know why.
Go ahead and ask me how "the weather up here" is. Just please. Not the basketball question.
BUT MOSTLY.
Do not look at me, ask HOW TALL ARE YOU? and THEN look SURPRISED at how tall I am. Like you couldn't see I'm a foot taller than you BEFORE you knew the number?? Also, don't tell me that your 6'4 cousin is taller than me and I can't possibly be 6'7.
My car.
Strangers always stop me to tell me when they owned a car "Just like it, but it was an old one, a classic you know, 1967...."
Coworkers always ask me where I "got the money" and how I can "afford the gas."
News flash home boy, it cost less than your honda accord and gets similar gas mileage...
My dogs.
Ask me any question you like, pretty much. Tell me about your dogs, I enjoy hearing about them. Don't question my decision on breed, it's a personal choice. Don't tell me they're too skinny. I don't overfeed my dogs. Dogs should be narrower at the waist. Your basketball shaped dog is unhealthy.0 -
My husband is half Mexican, so my daughter (only 1/4 Mexican) has pretty tan skin. I agree, she is fairly dark, darker than my husband, but she tans really easy and spends a lot of time in the sun! However, for complete strangers to ask me when I'm with her "Is she adopted?" or "She has gorgeous skin color, is she yours?", it peeves me off! First of all, YES she is mine. She looks a lot like me except for her dark skin. Second, IF she was adopted, it's not really okay for you to ask about it unsolicited. It seems so rude to me!!
Plus what if she WAS adopted but didn't know yet? That's an incredibly inconsiderate thing to say in front of a child. I know a guy whose son is dark-skinned and someone asked him once (in front of his son) how much he cost. seriously.0 -
This is hilarous...my "it" may be the same as yours. I don't have a sleeve but as soon as one of my 5 show it's a million and one questions or....what made you do that?... like what makes you wash your *kitten* in the morning??? annoying...0
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I can definitely relate with PP's about kids, boobs, and being a lawyer. :laugh: Also, why do people take one step back from you when they find out you're a lawyer? I don't have the power to sue you with my touch.
My "it" relates to my kids. I have 2 boys, so either get "are you going to try for a girl now?" or "were you disappointed the little one wasn't a girl?". Seriously? He's standing right there. And no, I was actually hoping another boy. And if I have a third, hope that baby's a healthy baby.... and another boy, if I had my pick.
Also, my two boys look very different, so I have actually been asked if they have the same father. :noway: Um, yes, and you are crazy rude.0 -
My "it" would have to be about the "secret" behind my recent weight loss / increase in physical fitness.
Stop asking me for the "secret" behind my "recent" weight loss. As everyone on this site knows, THERE IS NO SECRET!
My polite response is "watching what I eat and exercising a lot." If they press me I tell them my primary focus is athletic training and I work out a LOT. I'm not doing this to be "skinny", I am doing this to be healthy and strong. I didn't take any pills or magic smoothies or use the latest fitness gadget. I workout 5 days a week for an hour or two a day and I bust my *kitten* to be fit. (like 1,000 calories an hour).
It's not fun or easy. I love it, but it's not what I would call "fun". I work really hard and do my best to eat a healthy diet so I get irritated when people assume it's fun or easy.
When they ask me how do I find the time I respond with "I don't watch TV and I when writing my weekly schedule I put my workouts on the calendar first and everything else has to work around it. There is NO other way to do this.
The worst part has to be the dissatisfied look on their face when I tell them to "eat right & workout". REALLY? It's 2012! If there was a "secret weight loss formula" it would have been discovered by now!
Don't believe the infomercials...it's hard work and self-control and that's it.
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My husband is half Mexican, so my daughter (only 1/4 Mexican) has pretty tan skin. I agree, she is fairly dark, darker than my husband, but she tans really easy and spends a lot of time in the sun! However, for complete strangers to ask me when I'm with her "Is she adopted?" or "She has gorgeous skin color, is she yours?", it peeves me off! First of all, YES she is mine. She looks a lot like me except for her dark skin. Second, IF she was adopted, it's not really okay for you to ask about it unsolicited. It seems so rude to me!!
Plus what if she WAS adopted but didn't know yet? That's an incredibly inconsiderate thing to say in front of a child. I know a guy whose son is dark-skinned and someone asked him once (in front of his son) how much he cost. seriously.
I didn't even think about that!! People suck.0 -
I've got the one really hairy Lithuanian guy at our gym that weighs about 280... and, Lord willing, that is the closest I will ever come to finding out.My "it" is kickboxing. People find out I train and prove that there is such a thing as a stupid question....
No, I can't knock out a bear.
well, have you TRIED?0 -
My height.
My height is not an invitation to ask me why I don't play for the local basketball franchise. Kids: Do not climb me. This happens now and again. I don't know why.
Go ahead and ask me how "the weather up here" is. Just please. Not the basketball question.
BUT MOSTLY.
Do not look at me, ask HOW TALL ARE YOU? and THEN look SURPRISED at how tall I am. Like you couldn't see I'm a foot taller than you BEFORE you knew the number?? Also, don't tell me that your 6'4 cousin is taller than me and I can't possibly be 6'7.
hahaha! My husband is 6 foot 9 and we get all of that stuff. And "Do you play basketball/football?" (Yes, he played semi pro football but it's been a while.
We've actually had people say stuff like 'hey, me and my homie have a bet going on about your height! How tall are you!?" and then when he says how tall he is the winner whoops it up and jumps for joy like he won the lottery. :laugh:
My least favorite is all the ladies who want to take a pic with him like he's a tourist attraction. He does security for the concerts at the Los Angeles County fair every year and it never fails-girls hanging all over him and saying "Can we take a picture with you?" Crazies.0 -
I guess I look way too boring to have random people asking me questions or giving me advice. (I live in San Francisco -- I am definitely not the most interesting looking person people here have seen....)
But I suppose my "it" might be having a PhD in linguistics:
- No, you don't have to "watch what [you] say around me." Linguists are interested in the way people actually USE language, not the way someone says you "should" use it!
- No, I'm really not interested in hearing about whatever grammar/misspelling/punctuation thing bugs you. That stuff not only bores the heck of out most linguists, but you also probably don't actually want to hear my thoughts/explanations of peoples "egregious errors."
- No, I don't speak hundreds of languages.
- No, I can't translate for you.
- And no. I don't know what I'm going to do with my degree. :bigsmile:0 -
My "it" is when people find out I work at an amusement park.
It is not super awesome and fun because I get to ride all those rides. I'm working! Not riding rides! I have gone an entire summer without ever riding a single ride. Don't assume that I don't do anything all winter...just because the park is closed does not mean that the business is shut down. No I cannot get you free passes/games/food. If you know me and come to the park don't think I can just come and "hang out" with you...again I'm working. This is my job.
(FYI...I have had some really cool awesome times on the rides...it is a blast to be one of the first people to ride a new ride...way before the public can. But that only happens occasionally.)0 -
I think my 'it' is the same - have two tats on the back and the amount of people that approach you from behind (yeah classic and very good idea to approach someone from behind, who might just turn when grabbed and break your nose).. grab your shirt and have a look. Hell I even had people traching the tat, random strangers.... like... I have a written invitation on my back
Although in good memory I have to admit that this can be quite sexy *chuckle*
Once had a bloke, who I thoughw as really nice looking, who had eyed me half of the eveing, when I then stood with the back to him, he gently traced the tat, as to see if it was real, and when I turned and looked at him, gave me a beaming smile, gently bit my shoulder and walked off into the crowd....
Heck, thinking about it, I have never seen him again and he was like the proper dream come true looking bloke... lol if you ever come across this post, you bum... say hi:bigsmile: :glasses: :flowerforyou:0 -
I tell people my name is Kate. "It" is not okay to call me "Katie." I know you think you're being sweet, but you're really just treating me like a child. I don't go changing your name, don't change mine!0
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wow, to the original poster...
do you think people are creepy if they compliment you on your tattoos?
im generally an outspoken person and enjoy being social.. your post makes me never want to say anything nice to someone again about their awesome artwork.
thanks for that.
I love it when people approach me about my ink. It's an easy conversation starter and I don't mind answering any questions. In fact, I look at it as promoting my friends tattoo business. I have had one person, ever, comment that they don't like ink, I responded, then you shouldn't get one. I got the ink for me and no one else, I could care less what others think.0 -
I've got the one really hairy Lithuanian guy at our gym that weighs about 280... and, Lord willing, that is the closest I will ever come to finding out.My "it" is kickboxing. People find out I train and prove that there is such a thing as a stupid question....
No, I can't knock out a bear.
well, have you TRIED?
:laugh: :laugh: Bwahahahahaha :laugh: :laugh:0 -
Fair enough.Ad OP, c'mon... no one goes full-sleeves unless they enjoy being on display.
If your tattoos weren't intended to differentiate and distinguish you from the herd, they'd be someplace concealable like mine are.
I'll be the first to admit you are totally right. I never said I didn't like attention. I just don't like the stupid attention. tell me you like em - sweet! Chat a bit about who my artist is - awesome! Ask me to explain the deep meaning (because dont' ALL tattoos have meaning) of each and every one of them while in line at starbucks? really?
My experience with this is people are trying to show appreciation without just being the "Durh, pretty colors!" guy. They're just being curious and don't really know how to approach you... and people with lots of ink can be kinda intimidating. They think maybe if they ask a smarter question then you will less likely to become enraged and set their face ablaze.
I used to get "Did that hurt?" all the time regarding my wrist. I thought people were idiots until I realized most of them were actually shopping... if my experience was so negative that I wouldn't do it again, there was no way that they were going to do their own wrist. If I told them it wasn't that bad, then that encouraged them or kept them from ruling it out.0 -
I don't know if this counts, but when people find out I work in a bank they make stupid comments like,
- you must make A LOT of money
- how many times have you been robbed and was it scary? (you try having a gun waved in your face then come back and tell me if you were scared... :noway: )
and the worst one
- when you were robbed, did they make you strip down to your underwear, like they made those people at that one bank do? That was pretty funny when I saw it on the news...
Seriously, people??? :explode:0 -
Hmm... Pretty much everything on this list, minus the sports stuff.
I'm a woman with multiple amputations (just above both knees and just above left elbow) I have a few tattoos (nothing to write home about though) but I am visibly pierced, I have naturally red hair and at one point it was down to my *kitten*. I'm also a single Mama who babywore/breastfed/cloth diapered. Oh, and I'm vegan...
No, I was not in some horrific accident, I was born without my limbs.
No, my mother was not a drug user/abuser.
Yes, my mother is a good person, and I am not her Karmic payback.
I don't know if I was a horrible person in a past life, I'm too busy focusing on making the most of this one!
No, I have never wished for limbs, you can't miss something you've never had.
Yes, I am able to have children, I don't have legs, my vagina and uterus are fully functioning. (Prior to having my daughter)
No, I will not list other piercings that I may or may not have for you.
No, I will not tell you if you are right when you start listing piercings that you think I may or may not have.
No, you may not see other piercings that I may or may not have.
Yes, my hair colour is "real".
No, you may not touch my hair without my permission, by the way, who are you???
No my partner is not a "nice" person for being with me, maybe he just sees how awesome I am?
No, you may not touch my pregnant belly without my permission, by the way, who are you???
Yes, I am fully confident in my ability to care for and raise a child, if I didn't think I could do it, her father and I would not have planned a family.
Yes, I'm raising my daughter on my own.
Yes, she still sees her father... Every Sunday and every other Saturday night.
No, I will not discuss the demise of my relationship with my daughters father with you.
No, breastfeeding is not perverted... What do you think your Jesus ate? They didn't have Similac back then.
Yes, babywearing is perfectly safe, my daughter is fine, see, she's smiling.
No, you may not kiss or otherwise put my baby's hands in or around your mouth, by the way, who are you???
Yes, cloth diapering takes a little bit of work, but I prefer cloth to disposable.
Yes, my daughter is being raised vegan. No, she's not being deprived.
The list of foods we can eat is far longer than the list we choose not to consume.
No, I don't miss *insert animal based food product here* there are so many great plant based alternatives that I prefer.
Ok, I need to stop now...0 -
My it is that I have an accounting degree and *shocking I know* I use my degree and work as an accountant! No I will not help you with your taxes, I never said I was a tax accountant! No I will not give you come work for your little company as your account nor will I do your stuff on the side and lie for you *yes truly have been asked that one* I like the job I have thanks.0
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Fair enough.Ad OP, c'mon... no one goes full-sleeves unless they enjoy being on display.
If your tattoos weren't intended to differentiate and distinguish you from the herd, they'd be someplace concealable like mine are.
I'll be the first to admit you are totally right. I never said I didn't like attention. I just don't like the stupid attention. tell me you like em - sweet! Chat a bit about who my artist is - awesome! Ask me to explain the deep meaning (because dont' ALL tattoos have meaning) of each and every one of them while in line at starbucks? really?
My experience with this is people are trying to show appreciation without just being the "Durh, pretty colors!" guy. They're just being curious and don't really know how to approach you... and people with lots of ink can be kinda intimidating. They think maybe if they ask a smarter question then you will less likely to become enraged and set their face ablaze.
I used to get "Did that hurt?" all the time regarding my wrist. I thought people were idiots until I realized most of them were actually shopping... if my experience was so negative that I wouldn't do it again, there was no way that they were going to do their own wrist. If I told them it wasn't that bad, then that encouraged them or kept them from ruling it out.
yeah of course. I'm not psycho crazy girl. just trying to think of a fun topic to chat about whilst being bored at work. It's not like I'm walking around shaking my fist over the fact people notice i have tattoos. The majority of people who talk to me about my ink are all perfectly cool. They're just not a fun to talk about as the .01% of the people who have irritated me.
heh - "set their face ablaze"0 -
I have a degree in Psychology (and one in Philosophy as well) and it's not funny that EVERYONE immediately asks if I'm analyzing them, or going to analyze them... or HERE, analyze this crazy as f*** family member for me... with a big guffawing laugh immediately after.
Where are the Philosophy jokes anyway??0 -
My "it" is my job. "how can you work with those people?"...I work in a prison. Then, they want to tell me how bad the system is or that the inmates have to many goodies!Go ahead and respond with your version of what "it" is ...
For me - it's my ink. Okay, I've got tattoos. So does a crapload of people. BUT, the fact my arms are visibily covered to my wrists does NOT give you an open invitation to ...
~ show me your ink. We're not all in a club. Having a tattoo isn't special. I don't put on a bra in the morning and then run up to everyone else wearing a bra and tell them HEY! LOOK AT MY BRA! I HAVE ONE TOOOOOO!!!!!
~ ask me any personal question under the damned sun. "Where do you get your work done?" Sure. But "How much did it cost?" and then following that up with "What do you do to have so much money to spend on that?" If/When I give you an answer. "what does it MMMEEEAAAANNNN?" Oh good lord. Shut the hell up. I LIKE it, okay? I'm not an episode of LA Ink where everything has to have a freaking deep meaning to it.
~ tell me the tattoo YOU want to get or your sister wants to get and ask my opinion. I'm just trying to buy a coffee, I don't care. And I'm pretty sure the tweety bird design you want is going to be awesome.
~ tell me why YOU would never get a tattooo. I don't come up to you and tell you why i would NEVER wear the hairstyle you are wearing.
~ explain to me how you don't like tattoos. Hey, I don't like those jeans you're wearing either but you don't see me giving you my reasons why.
~ touch me. Seriously. Stop touching me. I can't tell you how many people have just grabbed my sleeve or back of my shirt to look under my clothes to see what else I've got going on.
Do you have one??
As to tattoo's, I just got into the habit of "Reading" them. No offense, but I look for gang tats all the time!0 -
My height , my build, my piercings, my job.. I live in a small town..0
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Where are the Philosophy jokes anyway??
Question: What do you get when you cross the Godfather with a philosopher?
Answer: An offer you can't understand.0 -
"It"....I am divorced. I have been since late 2010.
It was not ok to immediatly try to set me up with your friend/brother/ex/dude you know at the gym.
It is *not* ok to to ask me (as a total stranger or even a coworker) what happened.
It is no one's business if I am currently dating/the last time I was intimate with someone.
Please do not ask if I hate marriage just because mine failed.
And, as my coworkers are his coworkers, I *really* don't want to know if he is dating/trash talking/etc.0 -
My "It" is my toys... don't touch them. I don't care if you just want to scare your friends or used a frat paddle in collage hazing. This is my work equipment. If you want your own we can talk about having a set made for you, but these are custom made to fit my tiny hands. It cost about $80 to get a new handle put on per piece. Not to mention you just wacked your wife in the kidney. I hope she enjoys pissing blood for the next few days. You clearly don't know what you are doing. If you like I offer classes that start you off with safety props til you learn something. There is big signs everywhere saying don't try this at home, I am a professional and even I am continuing to take classes for your safety. Why do you think you can jump in and do what I do at my level?
My other "it" is my boyfriend at events. Yes he's a big guy, yes he's wearing a medical alert bracelet, no they are not related. No you don't need to know what his medical issues are. I don't care if you have medical training. The staff where ever we are knows in advance. Not to mention if there is an issue I'm right here and I am his handler. He does not leave my side at events and yes that includes going to the bathroom, but none of that is any of your business either.0
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