Worst negative comment about your weight?

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  • forgetmenot5683
    forgetmenot5683 Posts: 8 Member
    Ex boyfriends. One refused to tell his parents, his brother, or any of his friends that we were dating, was never seen in public with me, never once complimented me on anything, and the last month of our relationship he didn't speak to me at all.

    The other told me after we started dating that he was a chubby chaser. But constantly bugged me to lose weight and clear up my acne. This is coming from a dude who ate 4 fudge rounds and bags of chips for lunch!

    So I've been left with severe self-esteem issues. My current boyfriend isn't doing much better than the first one I mentioned and I'm trying to think of a way to end it with the least amount of hurt. I know it's not necessarily a healthy goal, but I want to look better so this ^ stops happening.

    Those guys don't deserve you at all. I have self esteem issues too and used to let guys use me often. Now I am trying to stay away from relationships for a while and trying to bring my self esteem up first. I suggest you do the same, the right guy will come along. No one can fully love or appreciate you until you love and appreciate yourself.
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    Ex boyfriends. One refused to tell his parents, his brother, or any of his friends that we were dating, was never seen in public with me, never once complimented me on anything, and the last month of our relationship he didn't speak to me at all.

    The other told me after we started dating that he was a chubby chaser. But constantly bugged me to lose weight and clear up my acne. This is coming from a dude who ate 4 fudge rounds and bags of chips for lunch!

    So I've been left with severe self-esteem issues. My current boyfriend isn't doing much better than the first one I mentioned and I'm trying to think of a way to end it with the least amount of hurt. I know it's not necessarily a healthy goal, but I want to look better so this ^ stops happening.

    Those guys don't deserve you at all. I have self esteem issues too and used to let guys use me often. Now I am trying to stay away from relationships for a while and trying to bring my self esteem up first. I suggest you do the same, the right guy will come along. No one can fully love or appreciate you until you love and appreciate yourself.

    Could not agree with this more.

    Choose better men. I would also suggest taking some time for you to get yourself the way you want and learn to appreciate yourself. You are worth more than this.
  • anabell31
    anabell31 Posts: 268
    I would like to choose better men, and I always think I'm choosing better. But after a while I get so tired of being alone that I'll take anyone who gives me a second glance and try to make it work. But you're right. I think it's time for a break. How can anyone love you if you don't love yourself, right?
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    I would like to choose better men, and I always think I'm choosing better. But after a while I get so tired of being alone that I'll take anyone who gives me a second glance and try to make it work. But you're right. I think it's time for a break. How can anyone love you if you don't love yourself, right?

    Gotta work on enjoying time with just you. Try spending more time with friends or making new buddies to do things with! Don't worry about being with someone if he's not right for you. It's better to be alone than to be with someone who doesn't care about you.
  • Leiki
    Leiki Posts: 526 Member
    "Ms. Kim, are you pregnant???" A student that was dropped from my class at the semester, and haven't seen me in a few months. Great, thanks kid.
  • coke_zer0
    coke_zer0 Posts: 13
    "You're not fat, you're just chubby" - friend after I called myself fat
    "You need to lose about 10lbs" - mom after I worked up all of my courage to come out of the fitting rooms trying on jeans..
    I ended up losing over 40lbs after these two comments I received in the same week.
  • MUByM
    MUByM Posts: 208
    -I had the typical school comments especially because I had a cousin who hand moved to my town and was stick skinny with big green eyes and everyone would say how can she be your cousin you are so fat. In 6th grade a guy who was a "friend" asked me if I had a boyfriend and I said no and he said of course not because you are too fat. Another one was my boy cousin used to call me elephant and then as we got older he got really heavy and now his wife is bigger than me. Another one from school was this girl that lived down the street from me, at school she called me fat as my friends and I were walking in the field and I stopped and turned around and said did you just call me fat? She said yeah. I said ok B**** Ill show you fat and I knocked her down. Last one from school and most traumatizing is a guy that would poke my arm and it would jiggle. He did it every class I had with him. I couldn't handle it anymore so I talked to the counsler and he got suspended. To this day I avoid wearing short sleeves.

    -My husband is the worse one. When we are laying in bed he puts himself all the way on my side and I tell him to move over and he says I'm on my side, it's not my fault you take up more room and don't have space left over. When he gets mad he tells me I'm a fat lazy B****. He says if it wouldn't have been for our son I wouldn't have married you. I respond I didn't force you to marry me, I could have raised him on my own. Go B**** at your mom for making you marry me. Since I've lost weight he calls me "neck" because he says I have a neck now. I don't know how to feel about that.

    I've never gotten the when are you due and my mom has always been supportive. Sister is more supportive ever since she had her kid and gained weight.
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    Some jerk in a pub: "Fat *kitten*!"

    *crunch*

    Me: "Dumb *kitten*."
  • Stacey_c123
    Stacey_c123 Posts: 78 Member
    I hadn't seen my friends brother for a couple of years, and at her birthday party, he completely blanked me.. Then later on he said "oh sorry, I didn't recognise you. You've really put the weight on" I have never been so embarrassed in my life!
  • tnorth82
    tnorth82 Posts: 186
    I always get, it suits you being big,at least you have a pretty face!
    WTF
  • HelloRevvie
    HelloRevvie Posts: 68
    About two weeks ago, my supervisor at worked told me I looked pregnant... :/ But, you know what? I was bloated and Around that time I had started eating healthier and drinking ALOT more water so of COURSE my tummy will be a little bloated at first...I was making major changes to my eating habits.
    Still, it hurt really bad but I turned it around and used it to motivate me even more!
  • Tivo8MyNeighbors
    Tivo8MyNeighbors Posts: 151 Member
    My ex-husband's mother (my MIL at the time) and drove to the city to see a musical together. During intermission, we went to the restroom together, and it was there she informed me I was "a little bit 'hip-py.' " It wasn't a comment on my political leanings.

    Man, I don't miss her :)
  • VonRockette
    VonRockette Posts: 159 Member
    Uggg soooo many growing up. But we shall ignore those :P


    The best one was at a bar when I had just turned legal and was packing on some extra beer lbs. A sloppy, drunk comes up to me and whispers in my ear: "I just want you to know I LOVE fat chicks. You are so hot."

    Gee, thaaaaaaaaaaaanks.
  • CallieM15
    CallieM15 Posts: 910 Member
    Ive gotten asked when Im due multiple times....


    Its such a horrible feeling.
  • Robyn_T
    Robyn_T Posts: 540 Member
    My dad, being ever tactful, told me "it's a good thing you grew a little taller. For a while there, you were starting to look like a barrell" when I was about 10 years old.
  • cryingangel
    cryingangel Posts: 45
    Having coffee at my supposed best friends house one day, talking about our kids. She looked at me without saying anything for a while and I asked her what........... She then said I remember when my belly sat on my legs, I feel so sorry for you.

    I was totally P!$53D!!
  • Sophie983
    Sophie983 Posts: 119 Member
    -My husband is the worse one. When we are laying in bed he puts himself all the way on my side and I tell him to move over and he says I'm on my side, it's not my fault you take up more room and don't have space left over. When he gets mad he tells me I'm a fat lazy B****. He says if it wouldn't have been for our son I wouldn't have married you. I respond I didn't force you to marry me, I could have raised him on my own. Go B**** at your mom for making you marry me. Since I've lost weight he calls me "neck" because he says I have a neck now. I don't know how to feel about that.

    That's freaking horrible!
    That's abuse (in my opinion). Don't let him treat you this way. You deserve so much better.
  • cloud2011
    cloud2011 Posts: 898 Member
    A co-worker of my mother's at her retirement party some years ago: "My you're looking...robust."

    My mother, thinking she's giving a compliment to my sister who lost a few pounds, "Well you've lost that 'puffy' look."

    In the store, with a twentysomething guy working in women's department, holding up a pair of 18 pants (my size): "WHO in the world would wear pants this big!?" (I had just tried them on).

    My boss, upon hearing the news of my cousin's untimely death: "Was SHE overweight?" (I think that's the meanest one...or maybe not...try the next one).

    My cousin in her casket...my Mom later, " You know, even though she had lost some weight, her stomach still looked BIG."
  • cryingangel
    cryingangel Posts: 45
    Ive gotten asked when Im due multiple times....


    Its such a horrible feeling.


    ^ This has happened to me at least 6 times since I gave birth to my last child.
  • amoment
    amoment Posts: 40 Member
    I'm also one who carries all my extra weight in the tummy so I get the "when are you due" or "congratulations" all the time (even get ppl offering me their seat on the bus).

    Which my comeback is always "I'm not pregnant I'm just fat"..always shocks the other into silence....which makes me laugh.
  • Victoriav99
    Victoriav99 Posts: 260 Member
    The worst comment I heard was that my behind was getting too wide and so were my 'thunder thighs". I honestly can't remember who told me that it was definitely not anyone close to me. I know my family and husband would never say anything like that... Anyways That's when I got serious because my figure is something I've always been proud of. Now I'm back on track and hear compliments like I have a cokebottle figure and how tiny my waist is!
  • sugarnspice0613
    sugarnspice0613 Posts: 109 Member
    My ex husband had a friend who actually told me I was so fat I should kill myself. That it's people like me that cause world hunger.
  • vichm
    vichm Posts: 174 Member
    A few weeks after I had my twins I was visitng my grandparents and I was standing in the kitchen when my grandad said 'you still have a bit of a belly dont you' I ignored him thought let it go, but then he came over a put his hands on my tummy and said still got a bit to go. By then I was a little upset and through my pregnancy I was concious about the weight and straight after as anyone knows you have that 'jelly belly' thing going on.

    I had already started healthy eating and was waiting for full recovery from a section so was well aware of the weight thing. I snapped and said I now I still have a belly I dont need others to point out 'oh your still fat thank you very much'! Maybe the wrong reaction but I was offended.

    Gotta love grandparents sometimes not very tactful...
  • OfficerFuzzy
    OfficerFuzzy Posts: 222 Member
    I've never really gotten negative comments about my weight, even when I was little.
    *is lucky*
    But, about two years ago my great uncle said, "you can't be a vegetarian, you're fat."

    I was more insulted that he would call me a liar about something that is so important to me, but the "you're fat" part stung a bit as well.
  • vacherin
    vacherin Posts: 192
    I have a delightful work colleague who says things like, "I saw someone in the street who looked just like you, only thinner." And when a new diet pill was launched in the UK, she was kind enough to look it up online and print off details for me.
  • cloud2011
    cloud2011 Posts: 898 Member
    -My husband is the worse one. When we are laying in bed he puts himself all the way on my side and I tell him to move over and he says I'm on my side, it's not my fault you take up more room and don't have space left over. When he gets mad he tells me I'm a fat lazy B****. He says if it wouldn't have been for our son I wouldn't have married you. I respond I didn't force you to marry me, I could have raised him on my own. Go B**** at your mom for making you marry me. Since I've lost weight he calls me "neck" because he says I have a neck now. I don't know how to feel about that.

    That's freaking horrible!
    That's abuse (in my opinion). Don't let him treat you this way. You deserve so much better.

    Yes, that's verbal abuse. It's not right, and I hope you tell him to stop calling you names. I'm sorry you're being treated this way. {{{hugs}}}}
  • nyd_12
    nyd_12 Posts: 12 Member
    It use to be "Wow Mija when are you going to try to get on a diet?" now that I've dropped the weight it's... "You look anorexic... are you sure you're eating? You look sick all the time." It seems like their never happy.
  • Mom0fTwo
    Mom0fTwo Posts: 326 Member
    I have three sisters that are model thin. Two of them are actually models. One of them is nice and supports my weight loss but the other is cruel. She likes to say things like "you should buy bigger pants cause your such a fat *kitten*" or "look at the elephant (or whale)." She has also told me that I should go walk and continue walking until I get rid of all the blubber under my skin. These are only some of the recent things she has said to me. Just this morning I was talking to my mom about taking a pregnancy test due to the advice of my Planned Parenthood doctor, she said she would kick me again and make sure I couldn't keep the baby if I was pregnant. Turns out I am not, which happened to be ok with me. My mother says things like, you are lovely but you would be even more beautiful if you just lost weight. Or my mother telling me that men will be more attracted to me once I stop eating so much and lose enough weight to have a waist. She also *****es at me that I got large breasts when she did not. Another time, someone I thought was my friend caused my breakup with my boyfriend and then told me that I would never keep a guy because I was just some dumb fat *****.

    just so you know the "mean model thin" one probably hates herself and is taking all he insecurities out on you, and if a man doesn't want you for aaaalllll of you then you shouldn't want him :)
  • CitrusLump
    CitrusLump Posts: 19
    I've had bad relationships with food in the past, what with having strict calorie limits, portion sizes, 'safe foods' that I would eat every day and never branch out from, panicking about restaurants, not wanting to eat in front of people, etc - basically disordered eating but never a full blown ED. Was trying to explain this once to a group of people in my first year of uni, one of whom's response was 'but you can't be scared of eating food, you're not that thin!'. Basically saying I wasn't thin enough for them to believe I counted calories and skipped meals.
    Really hurt.
  • hikapica2
    hikapica2 Posts: 1 Member
    I think what took all the wind out of my sail and absolutely depressed me for weeks, was the fact that my new husband told me on our last day of our honeymoon, that "in his opinion when someone sees a couple walking down the street, they should not be wondering which one was the guy and which one was the woman. A woman should ALWAYS be much smaller than the guy. He just can't handle that I gained such a horrible amount of weight (20 lbs is not THAT horrible) and that he hopes he can work through this"... REALLY dude? On our honeymoon? I cried for days and when we got our pictures back from the honeymoon, I could not stand looking at them cause the only thing they reminded me of was that I just was not quite good enough and that personality and inner beauty do not play into his equation. How shallow :'(
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