No, "it" isn't an open invitation for you to ....
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I work as a police officer in Ireland. We are known as An Garda Síochàna, or as "guards" for short. At parties/ weddings/ functions I get introduced as "Sarah the guard"
Sorry but thats not my name. It's just Sarah!!
I tend to lie to strangers about my profession. If I say I work in an office nothing is said. Once they find out my profession people insist on telling me how to do my job and how police officers don't do it right! They ask stupid questions that would irritate anyone.
I don't want to talk about work when I'm not there!!
Also stop making jokes about how you pay MY wages and how I sit on my *kitten* all day drinking coffee!! My wages have been cut by 20% and i pay more tax!!
Next time you pull a body from a river, take a child from an abusive home, get spat in the face by someone with HIV or tell a mother her son is dead... Then you can have an opinion!!0 -
Yes, I'm in a wheelchair. No, I don't know your cousin that lives in Ohio that's in a chair too. I live in Georgia...it's not a freaking cult or something, we don't all know each other.
Omg.. This made me laugh.. Haha. People are so stupid.. I heard someone ask a little person something like this in a grocery store once. He turned to him and said "yea, I know that guy. He told me to tell you to stay home and stop interacting with society.. It's not going well."
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My 'it' is usually my lip piercings... I'm not some sort of piercing freak, I only have three small labret studs in my lip but the amount of crap I hear about them is ridiculous.
Don't ask me if they hurt
Don't ask me how I managed to find a partner with something like that in my face
Don't tell me you don't like them
Don't ask me why I wanted to make myself ugly when I could have been so pretty (heard THAT before, from a complete stranger)
And when your children are inquisitive, definitely don't tell me to explain to them what they are with a disgusted look on your face, because I WILL tell them that they're fantastic for oral sex purposes.0 -
I wear vibram five fingers shoes to run in.
No "it's" not permission to give me every opinion you have of them as far as safety, looks, or function, or why you'd never wear them.
^^^ All the the above. I love my VFFs. I am so weary of the "monkey-feet" comments; I cannot tell you.......and it's always the same people. Move on people, nothing to see here.
Also, who are these people who feel that they have the right to ask you how much everything you own or wear costs (usually just an acquaintance or a family member)? "And how much did that cost you? (with their shocked voices). Response: Why do you ask, are you paying for it? I was always taught to mind my own business and not everyone else's business. Again, always the same people. It's not like a friend who is asking because they want to get the same thing; it's always the people who just want to get into your business. When someone else starts making the money to buy my stuff, then they can have an accounting. Rant over. ;~) Ciao.0 -
Im a florist and no I dont want to do yours your friend or your sisters wedding flowers!!!!!:sad: :flowerforyou:0
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My "IT" is...
I work for at&t and no, I don't know how to fix your phone. I do not know where to go to pay your bill. I pay mine on line and I don't have a "home" phone. I go through the same hassles everyone else goes through when dealing with them. I do not have a special number to call. And no I probably do not know your relative and/or friend that works for at&t on the other side of the country or world. Luckily, my job does not require me to wear an at&t uniform any longer. I used to have to change clothes before I went anywhere after work... Walmart, grocery store, anywhere!!!0 -
I have 5 kids, and often drag others around with me as well. I ALWAYS get
~Are they all yours?
~Do you own a tv?
~Don't you know what causes that?
~ Do you want/will you have more?
~Well, *I* could never have that many kids! (Nobody asked you to.)
~I could *never* stay home with my kids. They drive me crazy. (They'd probably drive me crazy too. Luckily I stay home with mine, not yours.)
^this....I have 6...I always love "Are they all yours" and "God bless you"...my answer to that one is "Yes, HE did!"
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I'm a make up artist and when aquaintences find that out I tend to get the response 'oh I'll have to get you to do my make up at some point' yes I will do your make up IF you pay me,since its my job after all.
Friends also feel they can take advantage, getting ready for nights out I get 'you can do my eye make up for me' 'I'll just get you to do my make up' or 'can you straighten my hair?'. I don't mind helping friends out but I have to get myself ready too so now if I am not asked in advance I won't do it.
When men find out what I do the most common response is 'is there anything you can do for my face hahah' I've heard that so often that now I tell them that I'm not a miracle worker!0 -
My "IT" is that I cloth diaper & ooooh the looks I get.
Disclaimer: I'm not a cloth diapering mom who runs around telling everyone how awful they are for buying disposables. I say to each their own & do what works for your family.
1) Don't tell me I'll get tired of it. It's been five months & it's right for my family so to each their own.
2) Don't tell me it's a stupid choice. Why do you care what my kid poops in anyway?
3) Tell me how inconvenient it is. Again...it's been five months. A trip to Wal-Mart that's fifteen minutes away at midnight to buy more diapers is more inconvenient to me than washing a load of diapers every other day.
4) Don't tell me I'll need disposables on vacation or at church. I don't & I won't.
5) Don't assume cloth diapers are old school with rubber pants & blabber on to me about how awful it was on your grandmother to cloth diapers. It's not the same & they've progressed A LOT since 1920.0 -
Yes, I'm in a wheelchair. No, I don't know your cousin that lives in Ohio that's in a chair too. I live in Georgia...it's not a freaking cult or something, we don't all know each other.
Omg.. This made me laugh.. Haha. People are so stupid.. I heard someone ask a little person something like this in a grocery store once. He turned to him and said "yea, I know that guy. He told me to tell you to stay home and stop interacting with society.. It's not going well."
LOL, I'll have to remember that answer. I had somebody ask the other day if I knew somebody, turns out I actually do...I've known the person for 20 years...but I lied so it wouldn't make the person think we'd had another cult meeting recently. We gotta keep those things secret, or all kinda media try and show up to the bar we're having the meeting in.0 -
My it is my fiancee's and my age difference.
Yes, he is sixteen years older than me.
Yes, my family freaked out a first. They love him now. It's not any of your business.
Love isn't age dependent. I met him when I was in my twenties and I was NEVER weirded out by the fact he owns dice that are as old as I am (I think it's funny).
I agree on the no-kids thing. It's kinda already started for us. People telling us we need to have kids right away since he is so very 'old'. Um, we're not ready for kids, not sure if we ever will be. It's our decision and MY body.0 -
I totally understand how a lot of these things would bother people, the "advice" and the prying etc. but I feel like a lot of the time people are just curious. It doesn't feel like prying to them because they are genuinely interested in your tattoos/hair/lifestyle/whatever it may be. Sure, some people get a little too personal, but if they're just asking a couple questions, humor them. How could you expect them to know that everyone asks you the same questions over and over again?
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My "IT" is that I cloth diaper & ooooh the looks I get.
My partner and I plan to use cloth diapers/nappies when we have a baby, my personal opinion is that it's way better than disposables.0 -
I totally understand how a lot of these things would bother people, the "advice" and the prying etc. but I feel like a lot of the time people are just curious. It doesn't feel like prying to them because they are genuinely interested in your tattoos/hair/lifestyle/whatever it may be. Sure, some people get a little too personal, but if they're just asking a couple questions, humor them. How could you expect them to know that everyone asks you the same questions over and over again?
just my two cents
For me, it's the stupidity and sheer nosiness of a lot of the questions, and horrible judgement statements that come from people's mouths. I wouldn't dream of walking up to a complete stranger to tell them their hairstyle makes them look ugly, yet I've had numerous complete strangers tell me that of my facial piercings.0 -
I totally understand how a lot of these things would bother people, the "advice" and the prying etc. but I feel like a lot of the time people are just curious. It doesn't feel like prying to them because they are genuinely interested in your tattoos/hair/lifestyle/whatever it may be. Sure, some people get a little too personal, but if they're just asking a couple questions, humor them. How could you expect them to know that everyone asks you the same questions over and over again?
just my two cents
For me, it's the stupidity and sheer nosiness of a lot of the questions, and horrible judgement statements that come from people's mouths. I wouldn't dream of walking up to a complete stranger to tell them their hairstyle makes them look ugly, yet I've had numerous complete strangers tell me that of my facial piercings.
Of course, that would bother me too. After reading this post, I'm going to be a lot more thoughtful about my question. I'm not the kind of person to go up and touch someone, but I didn't know the effect questions were having on people. very enlightening 0 -
Not a problem any more, but: My waist-length hair is not an invitation for you to stick your nasty hands in it and play with it! Complete strangers would do this without even saying hi.
^^this^^:noway:
Add for me that people will give their opinion on the pros and cons of me wearing it this long at my AGE. Seriously?0 -
my hair. it's naturally curly, like those corkscrew curls...and everyone wants to touch it.
do. not. touch. my. hair. ever.
i will not even let my husband touch it!
but it's so pretty:sad:0 -
Of course I am not perfect, I have a crack in my *kitten*!!!0
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Comments about my hair, tattoos, and child never bothered me like this one did --- I had someone walk up to me in the store and grab my hip while declaring, "I can feel your bones!!!" C'mon, I don't walk up to people and grab their muffin tops while declaring, "I can feel your fat!!" for all the world to hear. Maybe it was a compliment, but it felt more like judgement. And if she'd grabbed just a little to the left, she'd have found a handful of fat anyway. LOL I like to give people the benefit of the doubt and assume their intentions are good with comments like that but it was quite embarrassing for me.
I guess we should all consider how our comments would feel if they were turned around on us. It's not like people with tattoos walk up to people without them and let them know how "boring" their unadorned skin is, right? "Are you just going to leave it plain like that for the rest of your life?!"
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I am a 47 year old single mom to a lovely 4 year old... It is not okay to ask me at every baby shower I attend or every time you see me holding a friend's baby, "Doesn't it make you want another one?" or "When are you going to have another one?" Uhm, I was lucky/blessed to have this one perfect and healthy child in my 40s, there is not a man in my life at this time, and my hands are quite full taking care of her thank you.
It is also not ok to think I want to hear about all my ex-husband's indiscretions, whether past (while we were married) or current. (Have been twice divorced and encountered this both times.) Obviously I knew enough about his crap behavior to decide I didn't want to put up with it any more, I am not going to remarry him just to divorce him again because you want to tell me even more dirt about him.0 -
My "it" is my neck - I had oral cancer 18 years ago and it involved a radical neck dissection and I have some awful scarring, as well as caved-in... Just when I start feeling a little self-confidence again, someone will out of the blue ask "what happened to you?" I find it terribly rude for a perfect stranger to ask me to talk about something so painful.0
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my hair. it's naturally curly, like those corkscrew curls...and everyone wants to touch it.
do. not. touch. my. hair. ever.
i will not even let my husband touch it!
^^This!^^ Just because my hair is curly does not give anyone the right to pet it. Or to pull out my curls and say, "boing!"0 -
My ethnic sounding last name is not an open invitation for you to publicly ask me "what" I am. If we know each other a little longer, then go ahead, but asking in front of other people, especially a full classroom isn't cool.0
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my hair. it's naturally curly, like those corkscrew curls...and everyone wants to touch it.
do. not. touch. my. hair. ever.
i will not even let my husband touch it!
^^This!^^ Just because my hair is curly does not give anyone the right to pet it. Or to pull out my curls and say, "boing!"
No one I know is dumb enough to touch my hair. They must know I will deck them if they try to "boing" my curls.
Babies do LOVE to stare at it though. lol0 -
Is it awkward to ask to a stranger to hold their baby?? 0
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I've got tattoos. People like to ask about them. Maybe three our four times in the six years I've had this, has someone actually grabbed my arm and said, "HEY LEMME SEE THAT!" for that instance, I'll just gently twist my arm out and tell them I'd be more than happy to show them as long as we look and not touch.
You can't change how curious people will react but you can decide how you will respond to them.
Either you can be a jerk or you can be friendly and open, thus not perpetuating that all people with tattoos are anti-social deviants. Whether you like it or not, being tattooed makes you part of the tattooed community and how you act effects how others view us. I'd rather be nice than be a jerk.
heh. i'm trying to find where i wrote it, but I'm coming up empty. Exactly ~where/when~ did I, or anyone else for that matter, say that we respond in a way to be cast as an "anti-social deviant"? I'd rather be nice than be a jerk too - but that certainly doesn't mean I find some of their prying and over the top rude comments annoying.0 -
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Yes I have boobs and don't live in turtle necks because they make me look fat so....
Yes 'it' is cleavage but no it doesn't give you an excuse to stare, point, touch, or talk to it!
Yup. Quite annoying. If I notice someone in conversation doing it to me, I begin to talk to their chests. I've had reactions from guys shocked that I've noticed. Uhm, yeah.... I can tell you're looking 12 inches below m eyes!0 -
Just because I'm an opera singer it isn't a free invitation for you to:
Sing to me. You have bad technique and I don't want to hear it.
Ask me to sing in random public places. I wouldn't ask you to perform your trade in the middle of a bar after 2 drinks.
Try and find out "who" I know. I don't know anyone that would interest you or could help you. You still have bad technique.0 -
I don't have any Cool tattoos, but I have nice long hair and everyone just comes and grabs it, pulls and tugs, asks me what do i do to it, what kind of shampoo I use, SMELL it.!! really did you just SMELL my hair..? Ya... Love IT0
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