My man deployed this morning.......

First off, (((hugs))) you can do it. This life takes a certain kind of strong and classy lady. )


The first time my DH was away was for training... we thought for a # of weeks and it ended up being 364 days before we were finally able to move to be with him. But I set myself a goal to keep up with him! So I was doing planks, situps, pushups, and ruck marches with my 1yo in a backpack. LOL I definitely got the "WOW" when he got home. Unfortunately, I lost my motivation after that.... sigh.... -40 winters haven't helped!!

Anyway, all that to say - YES! Deployment is the perfect time to focus on health and fitness - you can eat what you want, exercise when you want, use exercise to burn off the stress and use your "WOW" moment as a goal to keep yourself going when you're feeling down in the dumps. Which is not to say you'll never have a down day... I recall sitting on my bed watching military tribute videos and crying into my ice cream more than once...

I was married to a marine for 8yrs I watched him leave and come back and leave again! I know exactly how you feel girl! Stay out of those cubbards........get yourself someone who is in the same boat and get to doing things together!!! You have made a goal Now accomplish it! We are all here for you.......

God Bless you and HIM.........you will be in my prayers!!!! HUGS girl!!!!

You can do this love!! Kick those cravings in the butt!

I have been there as well. I have been an Army wife for 3 years and was in the army for 8 so I know all about the leaving and being "left". My husband just returned from Iraq in September after being gone for a year. YOU ARE STRONG! I found that him coming home was the best motivation to work out as any I have ever had.

I've been in your shoes before. Saying goodbye to a hero is a really hard thing to do. However, remember how proud and lucky you are to have someone like him in your life. And use this as motivation. He is out there fighting for you to be free, free to either sit on the couch and waste what he's giving you, or free to make a change in yourself, get healthy, and take advantage of life! Don't do your fiance the disservice of wasting what he's working for. Use your freedom to enjoy the beautiful outdoors, stay alive and kicking for as long as possible, and to walk down the aisle and look smokin' in your wedding dress! I promise you'll feel much better about him being gone if you look at it this way.

We are all here to support. And tell him thanks from all of us.

I am so sorry, I can't even imagine what that must be like. My husband flies out of state for work sometimes and I hate it... and that's usually never more than a few DAYS! I think you are a very strong woman, and I know you can do this! You are here, aren't you? You are going to blow him away! Girl, he is going to sprint down that pier to his little FOX of a Fiance! :bigsmile:

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Thanks to you and thanks to your hubby to be. For every military person out there it takes someone here at home to also make sacrifices. You are a hero in your own right too... Keep that in mind and remeber you are worth the work! Keep your chin up!

:happy: You can do this, just focus on the weeding plans, and how happy and surprised he will be when he see you again. I am sure you have a lot of work to do planning this weeding, make that your main focus and you'll be fine.

Best Wishes:bigsmile:

First and foremost: *hugs* to you and your fiance! I can't fully understand what you must be going through, but from all these posts, it seems you have a lot of people that would support you and help you through this rough time! YOU CAN DO IT! Dont go home if you think your going to raid the cupboards, take a walk instead, call a friend, log on to MFP, whatever will keep your mind off over eating! You will look AMAZING in that wedding dress and I believe your finace will think: "DAMN"! Add me if you want. Good luck to you! THANK YOUR FINACE FOR ALL US, HE'S OUR HERO!

I work civil service for the military and see spouses and active duty memebers go through this on a monthly basis. First, thank you SOO much for your service to this country. For allowing your spouse to serve our country through military service and for supporting him and your family while he is away. You are truly the rock and the foundation our military force stands on! Now, allow yourself 24 hrs to grieve his departure. Its natural to be sorrowful and down through this transition period. After 24 hours, start counting down the days until he returns and commit to doing somethign healthy for yourself and him every day until he returns. At the end of his deployment, you'll be healthier and stronger, he'll have a super hot bride to return to and you'll start your marriage off on the highest of highs. 24 hrs, then start moving forward. It will be worth it in the end!! good luck.

You can do this, you have tons of supporters behind you, who are there for you whenever you need them, you may not know a lot of them, but they are there for you!!! You'll be smokin' hot by the time your husband returns home, just stay focused, motivated and push and you'll be there in no time.

My husband left last August, and i've lost 40lbs since he left, it's not easy being away from our loved ones but we're strong Although, my husband isn't deployed, I know what it's like to have them away from you for long periods of time!!! My husband is getting ready to be away from his family for a couple of years, it's DEF a different lifestyle!

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Coming from a military wife, I understand your pain and concerns. I waited 10 months before I could spend time with my active duty husband. We got married in the middle of it without an actual wedding ceremony, honeymoon, etc. We've been together for over a year and a half and only married for 7 months and I'm just now getting to live with him these past 3 months. Be strong, this is a very stressful situation and our diets do suffer for it if we use food as a crutch. I've dropped weight before seeing him, I've gained as well but I think if you want to look good for yourself and your man while he's away you'll revert your energy elsewhere and make it happen. I'm an emotional eater as well and it's tough doing things a certain way for years and still not learning your lesson. Eating doesn't heal the pain, it just makes it go away temporarily.

It's so messed up though because food tastes so good, and people use it world wide for more than just nourishment. Food is a way to connect, it makes us feel good, feel better but its also one of our worst enemies. I'm going through the same issues and my husband is actually here lol. I try and find an outlet through eating healthier and working out but I always seem to all off. You can do this if you really want it and put an effort towards it, I'm learning this everyday. You want to look amazing for yourself and your future hubby, You deserve to look your best on your wedding day. Focus on what you want. Just remember two things: Einstein's definition of insanity (doing the same thing over again and expecting a different result) and looking back at this very moment next year. Will things still be the same? Or will you find yourself still loosing to emotional eating?

You can truly do this. Work on your goals and remember that he will be home to a new you soon. The harder you focus on you goal of looking good for him when he gets back the FASTER he gets back to you. Trust me time will fly. You have all these wonderful people on MFP to help you through

It's hard, I know, but you can do it. I used my husband's first deployment to get in better shape. Just keep thinking about how his eyes are going to light up when he sees you again! Plus, if you're getting married in April (based on your profile), that's only 3 short months away! You can do it!

Hon, just when I think I have it bad, I think of gals like you. My husband goes to another state for four months every year to do Income Taxes. I usually stay at our summer home while he is gone. At least I can Skype mine every day. Some days we Skype 5-6 times. I get to see him once a month when I drive up there to see him.

I decided this year I was really going to focus on weight loss and working out while he was gone. I lost *16* pounds in January! Why don't you friend me so we can be busy together. It really helps me to keep focused and work out every day coming here. When I see my hubby mid February I may have lost 20+ pounds,

You can do it. And thank your dear hubby for his service. xoxoxo ♥