How to not cry when getting your *kitten* chewed??

Bite down on something. It helps with the pain.

Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do

Definitely depends on who it is and how you define "chewed" haha.

drink something. It stops tears.

Oh by the way tears is water weight so go in the bathroom and just lose it. :sad:

imagine them in their birthday suit and just listen as if you are watching a tv show maybe it will seem less like a personal attack. Or imagine what you might want to say back to them in your head and sort of zone out of the actual words, or focus on a pen for example sitting on the desk, is it a quality pen or a cheap one, is it smooth or rippled, does it click or have a cap, how much ink does it have left if you can see it. This might help to put your brain in a more remote spot until you can calmly walk out of the confrontation and go bawl in the bathroom or your car. Just how I deal sometimes. Over time I have learned to control my emotions better, but not during that totm.:flowerforyou:

Try not to get your *kitten* chewed. :flowerforyou:

I used to have a boss that was the biggest b*tch EVER!! She loved making her employees cry and she'd purposely pick on the weaker ones. She once pulled me and another girl into her office and reamed us both out for something stupid, it was the other girl's screw-up, not mine. But, she and I were friends outside of work.

A few minutes into us getting yelled at my friend starts sniffling and crying... it was annoying. There was no way in hell I'd give that tyrant the satisfaction of getting me upset. I just sat there and thought to myself how much I couldn't stand her face and how good it was gonna feel to hand in my notice when I found a less-sucky job. Don't give anyone the satisfaction of making you cry.

Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do

rofl

If I f*cked up, I man up and admit it and move on. If I don't deserve it, I don't tolerate it.

Great responses and i needed this on Friday.

my dad was an *kitten* when i was growing up and i simply stopped taking things personally. Instead, I let my anger seethe (seathe?) up and instead of crying, I have to think about quashing the urge to punch whomever it is in the face. I NEVER EVER give anyone the satisfaction of making me cry - over things like work. If it's real advice/criticism, then I obviously needed it and I'll take it - if they are just being an *kitten*, screw em - they don't get to bother me.

This right here!

We must've had the same dad. LOL I have a pretty thick skin due to how my dad raised me. Plus at work, it's all business - if I'm getting chewed out I must need the criticism. Although I had one supervisor that I had to assert myself, he was completely inappropriate and would chew me out for being on vacation (btw, he approved the time off). Once he realized that he couldn't bully me he left the alone.

making mistakes is part of life and you will do it again. With that the mistake and you getting chewed out is not personal. Don't take it personal. Concentrate on the problem at hand, devoid any emotion and think critically on how to rectify the problem. Fix problem.

Picture them as the pathetic little thing they are.

Don't listen to the tone, but focus on each of the words. Look for the key word that they use to describe why they are chewing you out. Then politely stop them and ask how you can rectify the situation or at least prevent it from happening again (using their key words to describe the event). If you focus your mind on a constructive solution, you're less likely to get pushed by the person's emotions.

GREAT response! I always try to get to the "lesson" and then plan what I'll say to let them know that I got the message and it won't happen again.

If the kicking is because of something you weren't responsible for and there is no need for it, focus on finding another job. Seriously.