i'l eat what i want and NOT FEEL GUILTY

ludogx87
ludogx87 Posts: 286 Member
edited November 9 in Health and Weight Loss
realllly grinds my gears when other people who are not on a diet look shocked and exclaim "but your on a diet you cant eat that"

eh... yes i can. you can watch me if you want.

people need to understand and grasp that a "diet" is not restrictive. i do not eat lettuce constantly.

i will still go out for dinner and get dessert if i want, i will still go on nights out and do shots of tequilla through my eye if i want.
there is nothing stopping me.

i take into account what i want to eat, i write it down and log it. i might have a dominos pizza tonight but tomorrow i will have chicken breast and veg and make up the calories n work ma butt off in the gym.

so yes. i am on a diet. yes i am going to still eat mcdonalds. and chocolate and ice cream. and i will enjoy it. i refuse to give up the things i like.

and the best part....I WILL STILL LOSE WEIGHT.

rant over. :)
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  • stuey39
    stuey39 Posts: 159
    I hear you! My mother(dragon)-in-law is like it with me and really does my head in! I find these people are always quick nag but never support, I had a huge rant at her last week and know she won't speak to me - RESULT!!!!! :)

    Sorry forgot to add I love the attitude, stick with it
  • ludogx87
    ludogx87 Posts: 286 Member
    she won't speak to me - RESULT!!!!! :)

    hahaha my dad is the same. drives me up the wall and causes full scale riots in the house. it honestly makes me more determined to eat what i want :)
  • stuey39
    stuey39 Posts: 159
    the most annoying bit though is my bro-in-law had to lose 140lb for an operation and within 8months put it all back on but apparently it is his 'condition' that makes him so big-yeah whatever!!!

    I just ignore the whole side of my wife's family now and she cool with it as she not stuck in any fall out from all the rows
  • lollye51
    lollye51 Posts: 46 Member
    What about when friends/relatives are eating cakes/sweets etc and say "sorry you can't have this, being on a DIET" and then smugly snaffle what they are eating!.
  • snookumss
    snookumss Posts: 1,451 Member
    People try to tell me stuff like Oh, you can't have ranch! Thats too much fat! At least make it a vinagrette! Or, thats soo much meat! You'll never lose weight that way!

    GET OFF MY CASE. I've lost 30lbs so far and lift more than you. Zip it!
  • delsey2007
    delsey2007 Posts: 68 Member
    I think this is where I constantly give up. I always try to keep myself from eating all my favorite things because I'm trying to lose weight. Then I freak out and go nuts and eat tons of it completely ruining all my progress so far. I need to find a balance.
  • ludogx87
    ludogx87 Posts: 286 Member
    I think this is where I constantly give up. I always try to keep myself from eating all my favorite things because I'm trying to lose weight. Then I freak out and go nuts and eat tons of it completely ruining all my progress so far. I need to find a balance.

    i used to be the same and i would "give up" chinese food, then in about 4 weeks time i would be cravign it so bad i would order one of everything off of the menu. lol
    now i just get what i want. log it. and then make up for it.
    dont give up anything if you enjoy it, theres no point.
    What about when friends/relatives are eating cakes/sweets etc and say "sorry you can't have this, being on a DIET" and then smugly snaffle what they are eating!.
    this is even more annoying lol xxxx
  • SlimmingJules
    SlimmingJules Posts: 6 Member
    I think this is where I constantly give up. I always try to keep myself from eating all my favorite things because I'm trying to lose weight. Then I freak out and go nuts and eat tons of it completely ruining all my progress so far. I need to find a balance.

    I could have written this myself lol!!!

    I'm one of those all or nothing type of people! I too need to find that balance :-)
  • stuey39
    stuey39 Posts: 159
    what these donuts don't seem to realise is that as friends as loved ones they should be supporting us, not alienating(?) us>
    but what about those 'mockers' who clain that that burger or whatever is soooo bad for us then go drink so much they forget their own name and fall over etc?
  • dciantar
    dciantar Posts: 14
    Everything in moderation!
  • stuey39
    stuey39 Posts: 159
    absolutely agree, but does that the include the dislike of my mother-in-law
  • ImaLadyBiker
    ImaLadyBiker Posts: 28
    My favorite (snotty) response is, "If you're writing a book, leave my chapter out of it." Honestly, that is a boundaries issue. I get to pay attention to me, others get to pay attention to themselves.
  • kendrafallon
    kendrafallon Posts: 1,030 Member
    realllly grinds my gears when other people who are not on a diet look shocked and exclaim "but your on a diet you cant eat that"

    eh... yes i can. you can watch me if you want.

    people need to understand and grasp that a "diet" is not restrictive. i do not eat lettuce constantly.

    i will still go out for dinner and get dessert if i want, i will still go on nights out and do shots of tequilla through my eye if i want.
    there is nothing stopping me.

    i take into account what i want to eat, i write it down and log it. i might have a dominos pizza tonight but tomorrow i will have chicken breast and veg and make up the calories n work ma butt off in the gym.

    so yes. i am on a diet. yes i am going to still eat mcdonalds. and chocolate and ice cream. and i will enjoy it. i refuse to give up the things i like.

    and the best part....I WILL STILL LOSE WEIGHT.

    rant over. :)

    :heart: this!! And it's all true! It makes me want to scream when the ladies I work with or my friends are doing some mad diet and they're miserable!

    I :heart: food, I LOVE eating and I refuse to give up any specific types of food. I am however, learning to eat in moderation and not pig-out. I'm better at it some days than others, and same with logging it all. But overall the weight is going down and that as far as I'm concerned, is all the verification I need that what I'm doing, is working for me! :bigsmile:
  • ludogx87
    ludogx87 Posts: 286 Member
    but what about those 'mockers' who clain that that burger or whatever is soooo bad for us then go drink so much they forget their own name and fall over etc?

    ahhh guilty of this as well hahahahaha
    i can do everythin in moderation except, tequilla! oohhh tequillaaaa... it makes me happy.... (well untill the next day when i wake up)
  • bignuce
    bignuce Posts: 52 Member
    You are absolutely right. If you know you are going to have a big eating day take your but to the gym and work like a bull so you can eat like a horse
  • dciantar
    dciantar Posts: 14
    absolutely agree, but does that the include the dislike of my mother-in-law

    Haha il leave that one upto you
  • mckenzieuk
    mckenzieuk Posts: 16
    What your doing though wont be healthy. 1200calories of fruit and veg or 1200calories on mcdonalds. Decide what's best yourself. If your on a diet you obviously want your body in good shape.
  • TahliS
    TahliS Posts: 52
    Everything said in here I agree with. I was sorting out what kind of things I was making for someones baby shower several days ago.. and then someone goes oh you can cook all this stuff but dont touch.. youre on diet! I swear ill almost lost it. I will eat a cupcake if I want it. Yes, I will then get on my bike and burn it back off but thats not the point. And besides, this is not a damned diet. It is a lifestyle change and choice. Diets end at a certain time.. this wont.
  • dciantar
    dciantar Posts: 14
    I'm sure she is not eating bad foods all day every day. It's just a matter of not depriving yourself from the foods you love. Eating all heathly all day every day causes you to crash and burn. And then it's all over.
  • ludogx87
    ludogx87 Posts: 286 Member
    What your doing though wont be healthy. 1200calories of fruit and veg or 1200calories on mcdonalds. Decide what's best yourself. If your on a diet you obviously want your body in good shape.

    i dont do it every day or every week for that matter, but i dont see the point in limiting myself to "healthy" foods.

    i see these things as treats, and special occasions, whereas previously i would eat them 4-5 times a week.

    if i want a wee cake. i will have one. if i dont eat the things i like and enjoy - whats the point??
  • sel254
    sel254 Posts: 273 Member
    I'm so with you on this one! Just this Friday, I knew we were having a Chinese at my Aunt's house so I had salad and fruit all day and went really hard for it in the gym and managed to still have 1200 calories at the end of the day to have a little of what I liked in the evening. After the Chinese, I still had 400 calories and 8g fat left and fancied a slice of the victoria sponge that was out, so I entered it first and it fell within my allowances so I had it to the chagrin of my nan who sat there cooing "no love, don't do it, you've done so well so far". This coming from a woman who weighs 3 times what I weigh! My mum could see I was getting worked up so quickly changed the subject. I really don't see the point in giving up everything I love as I'll just crave it till I get down to my desired weight and then pig out and put all the weight back on! Why is it so difficult to explain to these people? It's not blooming rocket science!!! :(
  • sams247
    sams247 Posts: 58 Member
    Seems like a healthy balanced mind if you ask me, a lot of us have a long, long journey and a lot of weight to lsoe, so going on the deprivation route can only fail, practically all my previous weight losses have been because I cut out all the food I enjoy. Then I lost weight. Then I ate it all again. Back came the weight. People are constantly telling us this is not a temporary thing, this is a life change, so I am changing what I eat by moderating portions and how many times I eat it, rather than make it non existant. And I am bringing in things like fruit.

    I have the opposite problem at home though - my partner is a feeder - and loves nothing better than to buy me chocolate, bake me cakes etc etc, so I have to battle that as well as my own craving!
  • monkeymouse74
    monkeymouse74 Posts: 288
    I agree, this is a lifestyle change, and naughty food will play a role. I try to eat as healthy as possable 90% of the time, but I dont deny myself the food I like once in a while, I just make sure they fall within my calorie limit. And If I'm out and go over my limit, I make up for it in the gym the next day (and obviously dont eat back the exercise calories that day). But I also have a free day every Saturday when I can eat all I want, but I have my weigh in day the next day (it keeps me from going to wild). If I deny myself the "naughty foods" once in a while, I end up binging on them at some point in time and I lose the will to continue. I don't want to lose the weight and then be too scared to eat those foods, I'm learning how to have them in moderation and counter the exrta calories when I need to. :happy:
  • Hanni
    Hanni Posts: 158 Member
    What your doing though wont be healthy. 1200calories of fruit and veg or 1200calories on mcdonalds. Decide what's best yourself. If your on a diet you obviously want your body in good shape.

    i dont do it every day or every week for that matter, but i dont see the point in limiting myself to "healthy" foods.

    i see these things as treats, and special occasions, whereas previously i would eat them 4-5 times a week.

    if i want a wee cake. i will have one. if i dont eat the things i like and enjoy - whats the point??

    totally agree with you ludogx87. You have to have a balance. personally if I cut out all the "bad" food I like to eat completely, then I just set myself up to fail because I will just crave it even more if I know I am never allowed to eat that EVER again...

    If I allow myself some food that I like one day, then I just make sure I either burn the calories beforehand on that day in order to have enough spare to eat that food, or I just exercise more the day after to even it out.

    I used to get a take-away almost every day as both of us work long hours and when we got in at night we just wanted food quickly. I allowed myself a tiny portion of chips recently (first one in 6 weeks of low carb). I enjoyed it and then exercised extra hard the next day and I am still losing weight continuously every week. I try to eat as healthy as possible but if I fancy something "naughty" every now and then, then I won't beat myself up over it. I think every now and then is ok, every single day is not... :smile:
  • dad106
    dad106 Posts: 4,868 Member
    What your doing though wont be healthy. 1200calories of fruit and veg or 1200calories on mcdonalds. Decide what's best yourself. If your on a diet you obviously want your body in good shape.

    There are other ways to get your body in good shape besides diet... Hello exercise anyone? Plus who really eats 1200 calories of McDonald's or 1200 calories of fruit and veg? No one.. Hence the moderation aspect!

    As long as it balances it out in the end, you're going to be ok.

    Hell yesterday I ate a chocolate chip-oreo-brownie bar with my lunch... did I feel guilty? Nope.. but did I go to the gym and exercise that night? Yup!
  • DevanEve
    DevanEve Posts: 130
    There are other ways to get your body in good shape besides diet... Hello exercise anyone? Plus who really eats 1200 calories of McDonald's or 1200 calories of fruit and veg? No one.. Hence the moderation aspect!

    As long as it balances it out in the end, you're going to be ok.

    Hell yesterday I ate a chocolate chip-oreo-brownie bar with my lunch... did I feel guilty? Nope.. but did I go to the gym and exercise that night? Yup!

    Completely agree with this! ^ I can't cut out bad foods from my life completely... I won't have any joy in it. I don't eat bad food all the time. I do enjoy a good thing every now and then. For example, I ate one chocolate chip cookie the other day with lunch. It was one and not 200 cookies... although I could probably do that over the course of a couple of days if I tried. >.> I won't but just a thought.
  • tbskipp
    tbskipp Posts: 180 Member
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    ahhh guilty of this as well hahahahaha
    i can do everythin in moderation except, tequilla! oohhh tequillaaaa... it makes me happy.... (well untill the next day when i wake up)
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    LOL! Not sure of your location, but in the US there is a country song called 'Tequilla makes her clothes fall off". LOVE IT!
    I agree with pretty much all you guys have said here.
  • tbskipp
    tbskipp Posts: 180 Member
    Darn it! Why didn't my quote work? LOL!
  • tsornoza
    tsornoza Posts: 68 Member
    i feel the same. just moderation is key at times.
  • Hermia76
    Hermia76 Posts: 34
    Well said OP. I always think the all or nothing attitude is a recipe for disaster. Cutting out (or drastically reducing) food groups is another bugbear of mine. Carbs are there for a reason! (ok not all are equal, but still).

    It's fine to cut some foods out if you're going to do that FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE! If not, it won't work to sustain your weightloss.

    Each one of us knows what we can and can't keep up longterm.

    That said, I do believe in making a real effort to cut down on certain things which are clearly not good for you. Alcohol being one of them.

    Sounds like you are doing well. Well done.
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