Ex-smokers! I need some advice to help me quit

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  • JennyZD
    JennyZD Posts: 176 Member
    I have never smoked. Sorry but I do not understand why people smoke???? it says right on the carton "may lead to lung cancer" Lung cancer kills more than an other cancer, heart attacks, and car accidents COMBINED every year!!

    Why do people stuff their face knowing obesity cause so many health problems? Why do people drink alcohol when they know it has detrimental effects to your body?
  • tangiesharp
    tangiesharp Posts: 315 Member
    must read (later)
  • Here is from a blog i posted. I have been smoke free for 3 years this March:

    I thought i wold post about how I quit smoking in case anyone is entertaining the idea. I decided to quit in March 2009, before my 50th birthday. I had never been a "heavy smoker", about 1 pack or less a day, and had started smoking when I was 21. I really didn't think it would be that hard for me to quit. That March I tried to quit cold turkey the first time. Man was that ever bad.... I was literally in a lot of pain, and i made sure that everyone around me was too :). So i decided to start again after 2 1/2 days. Everyone, but me, was happy. I then began to read up on it and see why it was so difficult. For starters, nicotine is like a drug, a very powerful drug! I went to whyquit.com and read alot of powerful and frightening stories. I realized that cigarettes were my crutches, my emotional support, my friends, my enemy.. in short they were everything.

    I read that nicotine goes in your brain and takes a hold of you and the withdrawals are along the lines of heroin! I was starting to get mad, i was mad that I had allowed something to take ahold of me and I was determined to get rid of it. I started to tell myself that I was the one in control, and I would not let a drug of any kind be in control.

    Week 1. I wrote down every cigarette, and the time. During the entire week, I would read aobut nicotine religiously, and tell myself that i would win.

    Week 2. Day 1, 2 and 3, I subtracted 1 cigarette each day. I would pull out my list from the prior week, and cross of a time, and during that time i did ALOT of deep breathing. I also used straws. Day 4, 5, 6 I took out another time, so now i was minus 2 cigarettes a day, it was starting to get easier. I really wanted this and i was determined. I started to actually smell things again, and feel MUCH better.



    Week 3, i subtracted another time, this time i picked a cigarette that i felt i would not be able to live without, the one after you eat! and i was able to do it. I was so proud of myself. I was down to 7 cigarettes a day!

    Week 4 I subtracted 2 more times and was down to 5 cigarettes a day. During the other times, i chewed on straws, practiced the breathing,

    Week 5 I subtracted another cigarette, and by day 3 of this week, i realized that i no longer needed the 4 cigarettes at all. I found that cigarettes actually stink, a fact that i did not know before.

    I did not use nicorette or anything, i did it on my own. This March I am 3 years smoke free. I have never felt better in my life. I can definately tell the people that smoke, i was so SHOCKED at how it smells now.

    Yes, yes.... I gained 15 pounds, i am working on that now.... but not smoking has far out"weighed" that.... and I am never looking back. If you want to quit, and you don't succeed don't give up.

    The real way to quit smoking is to figure out what your "triggers" are when you smoke, and how you can avoid those triggers. If you crave a cigarette, wait 15 minutes, at the end of it, your craving should be gone, and you have just started on your way.
  • PlanetVelma
    PlanetVelma Posts: 1,223 Member
    I have never smoked. Sorry but I do not understand why people smoke???? it says right on the carton "may lead to lung cancer" Lung cancer kills more than an other cancer, heart attacks, and car accidents COMBINED every year!!

    Come on now, that's nothing to do with the question.... you said you never smoked, well then you'll never understand how it is to be a smoker and how hard it is to quit! x

    Exactly!

    I hate when people who've never smoked say "I don't understand why you can't just quit". My mom does that...then when I do quit she gets all butt hurt when I'm crabby or don't want to talk. Uh, hello, told you I was quitting. It's gonna take some time for me to return to "normal" whatever that may be....
  • robinpickles
    robinpickles Posts: 78 Member
    I started smoking when I was 10 years old, and became a regular smoker at 18 (1986) ( one pack a day ) until April 27th, 2011. I had tried to quit a few times before, but I did not really want to stop... I was just doing it because of some boyfriend I was with, or someone else.. I really wanted to give it a try this time around..

    So for the first week, I just smoked when I felt I NEEDED a dose of Nicotine and only smoked that cigerette until I felt it "hit" and got relief and then put it out.. The first day I had about 7 or 8, the next day it was 6, next 5-4 and by that friday, I was done. I keep my half pack of Marlboros next to the back door where it always sat.. but now untouched...(and probably stale and gross!)

    I used the E-Cigg has something to carry with me, just in case I got a craving... in which I always say..

    NON SMOKERS DO NOT CRAVE CIGGERETTS!

    I think (and I really think this) that the tobacco companies lie and TELL YOU its hard to quit... and its not.. basically 3 days of withdrawl, and about 10 days to break the "habit" of smoking...

    I dont miss it AT ALL! I can now BREATHE and excercise like I have not in well, not since High School...

    I am so glad to be RID of it, I dont smell bad anymore, I dont have to find excuses to leave the room, I can visit family without hiding it, and I dont care if I have a 8 hour flight.. or there is no smoking section... in fact the smell makes me SICK!

    I just wish that anyone who wants to be through with smoking... is just that.. DONE WITH IT!!!

    YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!!!!!!! GO TEAM GO TEAM GO FIGHT WIN!!!! ( <---- sorry cheerleading flashback!)

    PS. Also Vitamin C Drops help a great deal when you need them, and only 20 calories each =)
  • FlipThis112
    FlipThis112 Posts: 49 Member
    My husband tried everything - someone on MFP recommended Allen Carr Easy Way to Quit Smoking, I ordered the book on Amazon for about $8 - he read it - he stopped smoking on July 4th - and has not smoked since

    ^^^ This book helped me out tremendously!
  • Sandytoes71
    Sandytoes71 Posts: 463 Member
    COLD TURKEY.
  • pittures
    pittures Posts: 44 Member
    I did a laser therapy that uses acupuncture points.
    It's a low level, cold laser that you don't feel and doesn't leave marks.
    It takes away the physical cravings. I don't know how, but it really does.
    My challenge was all in my head and with my habits. No surprise.

    Smoke free 14 months now after about 20 something years of puffing.

    You'll really only do it if you're ready or if something jolts you in to change.

    Whatever route you take just know that it does get easier ... slowly.

    You can do it!
  • You have to be mentally ready, first of all. No wishy-washy about it, or you won't succeed. You have to commit to yourself that you're DONE smoking, period. Until you get to that point, you're SOL with having a chance of success. When you DO get to that point, make a plan.

    I got to that point around my 30th birthday - having smoked for half my life - when I began having random heart palpitations, having to see a cardiologist and wear a holter monitor - I was told I could take a beta blocker regimen or quit smoking. As I take BCP I was also at an increased risk for stroke - and I know two women who were smokers and on the Pill who had serious strokes while in their 30s. So not wanting to leave my child a half-orphan, I made a plan to quit smoking. I knew I would not succeed around the holidays so I planned to quit at the first of January (2011). I also knew I'd want a little something to help me get over the physical withdrawal at first. So I planned to use the patch. I finished up my last pack on January 3rd 2011, wore the patch for two weeks, and have been smoke free since.

    So in summary my advice is:

    Be mentally ready.
    Have a plan.

    Good luck!!
  • grrrlface
    grrrlface Posts: 1,204 Member
    Cold turkey for me. I didn't see the point in hiding away and using replacements, for me it was all or nothing because if I could do it then there was no point in going back!
    You have to want it though, you will go back if it's not what you really want.
  • CharlieBarleyMom
    CharlieBarleyMom Posts: 727 Member
    Chantix. Smoke free 3 years on May 2. I have ABSOLUTELY no desire whatsoever ever.
  • I went to a hypnotherapist!! Cost me 500$$ but was totally worth it. NO CRAVINGS!!! I decided I wanted to quit after 24 years and went on line and found one that had a life time gaurentee. I feel great!!! You should try it!
  • MaximalLife
    MaximalLife Posts: 2,447 Member
    Hey there,
    When I started this journey I told myself I'd lose the first 14lbs and then give up smoking. Well I've now lost 40lbs and I'm still smoking. I just can't seem to kick the habit.

    Any advice on things I can do to make it a little easier?
    Just wean down for 2 weeks, then quit cold turkey.
    Smoking is the single worse thing you can do to ruin your health as you are aware.
    And it'll be the hardest addiction to break, so be ready for some painful days and nights.
    I am not trying to create drama, but use vacation time of you have it, stay home and address this like one would any addiction.
    Detox yourself that first week of "cold turkey" at home and punch through the pain.
    And here's the miserable part.
    Your hunger will BURN for a month after that first week. Just BURN!

    Good luck to you, and I wish I had some little thing to say that would be the key to making this easy.
    There is NOTHING.
    Gird yourself for a tough fight, and no matter what, stay motivated and just KEEP PUNCHING!
  • salzej01
    salzej01 Posts: 125 Member
    I used the Commit Lozenges. My sister and boyfriend did also. They don't taste the best, but if you really want to quit they work. My boyfriend and I have been smoke free for 3.5 years and my sister has been for about 6 years.
  • sblair77
    sblair77 Posts: 355 Member
    I went to smoking only when I drank and then cold turkey.

    I just pushed through the cravings and all.

    When I put my mind to it and mean it I make it happen. So maybe try picking up a new stubborn personality :-)

    Good luck!
  • gentsevetzak
    gentsevetzak Posts: 147 Member
    I used something very similar to an e-cig. Worked very well.
  • lucentabella
    lucentabella Posts: 114 Member
    I used Chantix to help me quit. It worked really well for me. You have to take it with a good bit of food (sandwiched in the middle of your meal) or it can make you very nauseous. Whatever you do, you have to be willing to commit to it and want to change.
  • J_Daawwg
    J_Daawwg Posts: 61 Member
    Bump :)
  • I ran. I smoked for just about 10 years. The gum was an instant disaster, the patch worked...until step 1 when i was just smoking with it on. To get rid of that deafening screaming for a smoke in my head, I ran. I didn't go very far at first...I still don't go particularly far, but each time i reached a goal I began to see myself a little more as a runner than a smoker.

    I think if there is any kind of physical activity you can find yourself passionate about, it could work....Running for me was the most challenging, easily accessible, and I really felt the effects of the cigarette the most.
  • mjbrowne
    mjbrowne Posts: 172 Member
    My husband tried everything - someone on MFP recommended Allen Carr Easy Way to Quit Smoking, I ordered the book on Amazon for about $8 - he read it - he stopped smoking on July 4th - and has not smoked since

    ^This book! My last ciggie was 1/6/12 @ 10 pm. First 3 weeks were EASY. Went camping with smokers and drank lots (which I was nervous about)..didn't bother me; I didn't want to smoke! Last week was stressful and I did get a craving. But..looked at my husbands cigar and did NOT want it, even thought i previously thought I did.
    My sister read this book and quit 12/31/11; no problems with her boyfriend smoking AND still hanging out in bars as she previously did (we're in Missouri..where you can still smoke everywhere and many people do). YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!!!!!
  • bella_babe_86
    bella_babe_86 Posts: 503 Member
    I just quit last week. Im using an e-cig that I bought at www.aquavapor.com It really has helped me because the liquid used in them has nicotine in it, at first you can get the strong liquid and work your way down slowly. Its a whole lot easier then quitting cold turkey, but you do still have to have the determination to not pick one up and smoke it. Good luck to you and congrats for making this decision!
  • I quite 11-11-11 while on a vacation from work. I didn't go anywhere on vacation so it was a "staycation" but it meant I wasn't around anyone who smokes. I didn't tell my husband and he didn't notice for 4 days. I did tell my best friend at work who is a smoker and her response challenged me. She said 'I'll believe it when I see it". I was really hurt at first but then it made me mad and more determined than ever to quite. I have an app on my phone called breath freely! LITE and it tracks all my stuff. I am on day 88. I have saved $483.55 and have not smoked 1774 cigs. That helps me right there. Now I have the weight to deal with and instead of thinking about smoking I am thinking about eating. Good luck and I'm here for support anytime. add me if you want to.
  • jenifer7teen
    jenifer7teen Posts: 205 Member
    What saved me was a podcast (free on itunes) by WNYC's Radiolab. It is called "Help!"

    To summarize you make a deal with yourself that if you ever smoke another cigarette you will __________(fill in the blank)_____________. It should be something revolting to you and and immediate, present moment punishment. For me, I vowed to cut down all my flowers, and vegetables that i was growing if i ever took another puff. You have to listen to the podcast to understand the psychology of why this works for some people... But ten years of being a hardcore smoker and trying MANY things ended when i listened to this. Completely smoke free for almost 1 year now.
  • I used Champix to quit 15 months ago. I also found a great quit smoking support site to be accountable to....sort of like here. We encouraged and supported each other along the way.

    www.quitnet.com - great place - saved my life.
  • fitfocusedfamily
    fitfocusedfamily Posts: 117 Member
    First, and most importantly, you have to want it badly enough. It has to be THE most important thing to you, similar to losing weight. Second, there is no shame in using an aid. I used the patch. I smoked only less than a pack a day.
    Third, try to figure out at what times you smoke most often. For me, I always took smoke breaks at work at the same time of day, smoked after every meal, and when I was driving. I also smoked out of boredom (when I quit, I ate out of boredom).
    Fourth, break the habit of smoking at those habitual times. Those will be the times when the urge is the strongest & no single aid will help you through that. It is all mental.
    Last, find someone to support you. Someone you can call when you have a craving you don't feel you can overcome. Someone who will be positive for you. It is best to have someone who has been through the same thing because your subconscious won't be able to tell you that person doesn't understand. One less excuse.

    You seem to have at least the first & last items (the last being members here if no one else). Be strong! You can do it. The first month is the most difficult. When I quit, I had a hard time getting past week 3. Once I did, though, it got easier. One day at a time. It is an addiction. You have to treat it as such.
  • forty3fab
    forty3fab Posts: 148 Member
    I agree with everyone else who mentioned the book "The Easy Way To Stop Smoking" by Allan Carr. It has been 3 years for me and 2 years for my husband. It worked great for us and at least 10 other people we know who we recommended the book to also. We can be anywhere and not be bothered by anyone smoking. We love to party on the weekends and have coffee every day without ever thinking of them. I cannot even believe I used to smoke....gross! Oh, and I used to smoke a pack a day, every day since I was about 17 years old and I quit at age 42. If we can do it, so can you!!

    Read it. Read the entire book. If it works, think of all the things you will benefit from...you will have more time, you will be healthier, have more money, have a whiter smile, not be smelly, yada yada yada, etc. If it doesn't work for you then you are only out the cost of the book, which is about $15.00.

    Just go get it!

    By the way....it really was EASY TO QUIT! No drugs, no cravings, no nothing. Just a breath of fresh air!
  • COLD Turkey! its the only way!
    I hate to say this to you but you have to decide to quit and then quit no excuses
  • hi,
    this may sound a bit daft, but do you really want to quit smoking? I'm 58 now and after smoking for over 40 years, I asked myself 'why am i smoking this cigarette?' I couldn't give myself a satisfactory answer, so I went to see my local smoking cessation counsellor at the doctors surgery. After a breath test, oxygen saturation at 93%, the counsellor offered me some help,because I'm also diabetic, we agreed Nicorette patches could be the solution. 6 weeks on full strength patches and 2 weeks on half strength. i haven't smoked since, That was 5 years ago. Downside was I couldn't do two things at once and a put on quite a bit of weight. But now I'm tackling that. I wish you every success.
  • cabaray
    cabaray Posts: 971 Member
    I quite cold turkey 13 years ago. The felt like crap the first 4-5 days. The habit of having a cigarette took longer. Getting in the car to go somewhere was the hardest for me as I always lit on up before I took off. You have to just really want it and you have to tell yourself your done.
  • delilah47
    delilah47 Posts: 1,658
    Hey, I'm 64 years old and have had lots of practice in this:wink: . The first time I quit smoking I was 30 and stayed quit for only a few months. I have literally... LITERALLY, quit smoking more than 100 times in the past 34 years since then. Sometimes for a few hours and sometimes for a month or so and everywhere in between. I have paid big bucks for acupuncture, hypnosis, fake cigarettes, cut-down filters, patches, pills, and just about any other gimmick that came along. I always had, in the back of my mind, a thought that I would be able to smoke again. This was a subconscious thought that would pop into my head often when I was in the worse part of quitting. I couldn't control having that thought and when it popped into my mind, I would do anything to NOT think about it. Finally, I quit again last October 17th, cold turkey. The first few weeks were hell. I slept, played games on the PC, watched TV... anything to kill time, knowing as time passes, the urge will ebb as well. This time I have not had that "I can smoke again" thought for some reason (weird, huh?). Anyway, I'm almost up to finishing my 4th month and smoking rarely enters my mind.. it does, but the longing last for only a few seconds now. The thing I found most useful is planning ahead of time, and writing it down, what I will do when I REALLY want to smoke. Like, go take a nap or go do a crossword puzzle on the PC, etc. I am retired so I don't have to face the smokers at work or other social situations I was involved in when I was younger. That helps if you can avoid peer pressure situations.

    Whatever happens, never give up. If you fail, give yourself a few days (or weeks, etc.) and try again. And when you are successful... NEVER think you can just have one cigarette, you know, just one when you are out partying. You CANNOT do that! You will end up smoking again... fur sure.

    Okay, now that you've quit: In a week or two you will start feeling amazing. You won't believe how good you feel. You will be motivated to exercise and you will feel even better when you do. Run with it and you will be happy. And, believe it or not a time will come when you think back and you will think: Wow! I am SO glad I quit smoking!
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