Why are YOU fat?

Took pregnancy as an excuse to eat whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, and however much I wanted. Once I had my son, I was left with an extra 15 kilos. Husband resented that and bullied me because of it. I developed depression and turned to food (didn't realise that was what I was doing though). Husband would say things like "You're fat, lose weight" Tried hard to lose it, but always failed. Husband would say things like "Knew you couldn't do it" and "Why do you want to look so good anyway?" Talk about confusion :explode:

Husband became Ex-Husband :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

sounds like you lost a lot of dead weight with that move right there!

Bad life choices, man. Bad life choices.

I grew up very in a very controlled strict religion, and my parents were very controlling and never let their true feelings show "I'm always happy, we have the perfect marriage" situation), so I felt the only thing I had any say over was food. If I wanted more, and they said no, I'd sneak food to my room to eat while I read later. When I got my license, there wasn't a time I went out that I didn't get some sort of fast food--just because I could. I didn't have to be hungry, but I could make that choice to do it myself.

I let that get the best of me, plus as I got older I developed Grave's disease and had a total thyroidectomy which really made my weight balloon.

Plus I think I'm a little bit scared to go for my goals, afraid to succeed. I know that doesn't really make alot of sense.

And I'm just lazy. Pure and simple. I've had so many chances to make a good choice, but I go the oppisite.

everyone in my family is fat, my mom pampered me when I was little so I was very lazy, mom liked to cook fattening foods, when I moved to Wv pretty much everyone else was fat so I didnt really have to impress anyone. Now that Im 19 and getting ready to move out I realized that enough is enough and I need to get in gear with getting healthy!

1 ) I had two children, and then did two rounds of IVF as an egg donor.

2 ) I love baking.

3) I didn't seem to have an off switch once I started eating.

4 ) My husband is an evening snacker, so I would eat in the evenings even when I wasn't hungry.

5 ) I had no idea that wine contained so many calories.

6 ) I hated exercise (hasn't that changed!)

7 ) I spent most of last year either ill (pneumonia and then pleurisy) or injured (achilles tendon)

8 ) My husband was away with work for a few months an I ate to stave off loneliness

9 ) My favourite treat is going to a cafe and I was making bad food choices when I got there.

10 ) I'm lazy and full of excuses.

I lived in my parent's bakery haha.

(see screen name)

1. My issue with portion control caused the dryer to shrink all of my clothes???
2. ALCOHOL :drinker:
3. Late night Micky D's/ Dennys runs
4. Ben
5. Jerry
6. Laziness
etc.

I'm happy to say I no longer feel fat - but when I was overweight, I THOUGHT the reasons were:

1) genetics

2) self control due to uncontrollable factors such as genetics and lifestyle

3) mental inability to make the choices in a long-term environment to lose weight

But after losing the weight, the reasons I was overweight were REALLY

1) I would give up too easily; lose five pounds and tell myself that was good enough

2) I didn't have a reason that was important enough to me to snap me into a healthy life

3) I'm not sure I was really happy enough, if that makes sense. I didn't have joy on a deep level and I made up for it by treating myself to food.

Not to give anyone credit but myself, but what was going on emotionally for me at the time I started to lose weight was what I really attribute the will-power it took to get the ball rolling. I was just starting to date in a very complicated, dorm-life like way my current boyfriend who I'm very serious about. He never mentioned anything about my weight at any point in time ever, especially since he's not one to talk at 5'10" and a solid 123 pounds. Body image isn't what brought us together. But, meeting and falling in love with him was an emotional experience that I think ultimately made the difference in my weight loss.

I had an inappropriate relationship with my fork.

HAHAHA!!!!

I have several reasons why I think I'm fat.

1) Stress - I am self-employeed which carries more stresses than the average job so I stress eat, mostly sweets
2) Bad knees - I have had 4 knee surgeries so it keeps me from certain high impact exercises. I have to be very careful what I do or I'm out for a week. Love dance and step aerobics but can't do them often because of my knee pain.
3) Sweets - they are truly my down fall. Doughnuts are enemy #1. I can't eat just one as a treat I have to eat the entire box.

My dad was overweight when I was a child but he lost all his weight when I was in my teens and kept it off. My mother was always skinny, so I don't think it's genetics. Truly think it's the stress that keeps my extra pounds on. When I'm at my most stressed I crave sweets like chocolate frosting (Duncan Hines), doughnuts, etc. Can't get enough of them. But with the help of MFP, I check the calories before eating that and it makes me ashamed to eat those items. I used to tell myself, if God didn't want me to eat them, then he wouldn't have created them. I know.....stupid. But that was the excuse I used for years. Now I'm all about firming up what I have. The actual weight that the scale tells me is not as important as not giggling when I walk. Before my knee surgeries I could do anything, run, bike, ski, now I can barely walk. But each day is getting better and better.

Potato chips kept jumping in my cart at the grocery store. It was the weirdest thing.





Now.... I am happy to report it has been over 4 weeks since I have snacked on chips... which is my biggest downfall!!!! I would sit in front of the tv and eat junk food. I have been working hard at breaking that bad habit and hopefully I can soon respond to the " Why are you so damn hot thread!" <<<< my goal

this is ME!!!
i had decades of my mom's issues with food projected onto me, starting at a very young age. i dealt with food in and OK fashion until after i started having kids. it went down hill after i had my third. i wasn't over eating. i was under eating, and ever since stayed the exact same.

no matter how often or hard i worked out, i stayed the same. i had no appetite, would eat once or twice a day. NEVER ate breakfast. i was diagnosed with gall stones. the doc told me it was due to eating under 1000 cal a day. i had made my digestive system so sluggish and ineffective i had developed stones!!!!

i had two more babies and barely gained weight with either of them. wore my regular pants up til the end!

i have had the mentality for SOOOOO many years, that eating food would make me fat! it never dawned on me that NOT eating enough was the reason i could not lose weight. i've been the exact same size for 6 years. for 6 yrs i have not been able to lose weight, no matter HOW MUCH i worked out!!!

i'm in great health though. i have no health issues what so ever. and i'm an extremely active person. i'm finally trying to eat 1200 cal a day. and FINALLY i'm seeing a change. it's slow, but it's there :-)

I am fat because I wasn't eating nearly enough. I was so angry...."I'm so active and really only eat once or twice a day so why am I bordering obesity?" When I was younger I was constantly eat, working out, playing with my babies, dancing around while cleaning. Life was good.... then I went back to school, worked and had no time to worry about things like nutrition or usually stop to eat except at dinner time. Not a healthy habit and as it turns out NOT eating made me fat. My body stored every bit of nutrition I did get like it was the last it would ever see.


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Starbucks Venti Chai Tea Latte, with extra chai.
The way I had it customized, over 60 gm of sugar in each one, and I drank at least one daily.

It's also why I have Type 2 diabetes.

1. My father thought it was funny to drink all of his money and letting my sisters and I go hungry. We were lucky to eat once a day at school. My body lived in starvation mode for years. When I moved out, my body started storing everything I ate as fat.

2. Repeated injuries to my ankles and knees made it so that I had a hard time exercising regularly

3. Genetics

4. self control due to uncontrollable factors such as genetics and lifestyle

5. mental inability to make the choices in a long-term environment to lose weight

6. I would give up too easily; lose five pounds and and give up when I hit a plateau

7. I love to bake

8. My family likes to sabotage my diet because they don't like my dieting. My mother is heavier than me and every time I start to lose close to 20 pounds she would try to start trying to sabotage me. I have two sisters that are model thin. Literally a size 5 and 8. They make fun of me because I am a size 18. My goal is to be a size 12.