The HOT mommy at the gym debate

They could come in there rocking stilettos if they want too, i'm there for me.

I don't go to the gym anymore, but when I did, I was the type who had sweat stains running down my armpits, chest and back. My hair was haphazardly stuck in a ponytail and was usually sticking out everywhere. I never paid attention to the other women there because I was so focused on my workouts. I do think it's silly to spend money on a gym membership then lift 5lb weights with makeup on and your hurr did. Seems like a waste of money to me.

I personally like to look cute at the gym, that's how I feel comfy. I don't care what other women are wearing. I just wish they would get that giving me dirty looks doesn't burn any calories. Encountered this in both coed and all female gyms.

This is why i invested in workout equipment and moved my operation to home. That way, I can look like a hot stinking (literally) mess and no one cares! Not that they did anyway, but I always worried about being "presentable" when I should have been focusing on my workout.

But another thought.. I keep seeing articles that say people dressed to the nines get better treatment when they work corporate jobs or have to fly on a plane for example.

I dress up sometimes because I want to be treated more like a VIP and it does work in some environments.

I'm young, only 17, but I certainly notice when other women (or even men at times) are coming in trying to look hot and hardly exercise the entire time. They talk amongst themselves, maybe use a little 3 - 5 lb dumbbell, or are walking on 1.0 speed on the treadmill, hardly working out that hard. I suppose any exercise is better than none, but it can get annoying. And by annoying, I mean when I have to wait for these people to shut up and share the strength training machines instead of being on one for 15 - 20 minutes straight.

I will come into the gym with or without makeup, my hair done, etc, but the only reason I'd be wearing makeup or have my hair done is because it's the afternoon / night and I've finished my day at school. I usually come in looking like a scrub in spandex and leaving with rosy cheeks and drenched in sweat.

If I'm at the gym, I'm there for the gym. Not to socialize, not to make friends (though I'm not opposed to making friends, or striking up conversation), but to WORKOUT.

I'm pretty 'hot' after I run the treadmill for 60 minutes.

If they want to get dressed up to go to the gym and pretend to work out I could care less but the thing that bothers me about hot mommies at the gym is the amount of perfume they wear!

I barely have time to put myself together once a day, so if I manage the gym or a run in the morning it's straight out of bed, hair in a ponytail. My motto is that I work out to look hot someday, not in the moment. I don't care much about the women who feel they have to wear makeup or girls who wear too little to the gym in a bid for attention. (If their bodies are truly excellent, all I feel is admiration and envy. I do feel scorn if gals jump the gun and wear too little to the gym when they still have much work to do. Sports bras worn alone are a privilege, not a right.) That said, I do feel sad for the women who try *so* hard to be "hot mommies," like they have something to prove. There are certain gym ones you can tell are trying to keep a wealthy husband with frantic workouts. I have been going to the same gym (wealthy neighborhood) for 10+ years, so I have seen the evolution of a few aging stay-at-home moms, when the surgeries start, and they are getting too old to wear as little as they do to show off that they haven't lost anything physically. They emit a certain desperation that makes me sad. You have kids, you get older, it's life--I admire people who try to be the best they can at any age and stage, but trying to prove that they're not any different because they've had kids is weird. You should be different, in a good way. But maybe that's something that comes with emotional maturity.

What's funny about these "hot mommies" is that, in the gym, the girl with no make up on, messy hair, and sweating buckets is 10,000 times sexier to me than the dolled up, full makeup and hair designer woman that's doing her best to look pretty and not sweat.

I just have one question:

Why does anyone care what anyone else looks like at the gym as long as it's not offensive?

And I mean genuinely offensive not just some other female's version of offensive.

I must be getting old because what someone ELSE is doing just doesn't concern me like it used to in my petty, younger days.

JMO

I'm not a mommy, but I do have something to say re: how I look if I were to go to the gym. I'm more of a workout-at-home kind of person, but if I were to go to the gym I would probably already have makeup on. It's part of my morning routine to put on makeup. For me, it's not about having 'ulterior motives' or trying to get people to look at me at the gym. I have always hated the way I look without makeup, so it makes me feel better about myself when I have makeup on. I sweat like a pig when I work out, but I guess I wear the kind of makeup that doesn't look disgusting when I'm all sweaty.

I don't know. I'm not sure why people judge others so much. I suppose I would laugh if I saw a bunch of women standing around talking and pretending to workout, but what about the women who are there busting their butt with a full face of makeup on? Why are they judged? Maybe they're insecure like me and just want to make themselves feel a little better.

Personally, I don't care what others do as long as they are not disruptive to my own workout.

For me, 30ish (and heading to 40) has been a difficult time. Long gone are the days of youthful beauty. Maybe they dress themselves up because they just need to feel beautiful for themselves (not others) and being there like that is helping them. It's hard to know why people do the things they do, but maybe they have a reason other than showing off.

^^^This.

I don't know why women get so hung up on how other women look at the gym.

Agreed, if you really didn't care, you really wouldn't notice them