To all you haters

I like your style...honest, but not unkind. I hope that someone reading these 11 pages gained something from your wisdom, I know I did, and I never thought the original post was a reflection of a healthy self love or productive in any kind of way.

Why, thank you, ma'am.

I try to be the same way with others that I am with myself. I sugar coated everything to myself for so many years and I just got sick of kidding myself. I appreciate your kind words and the fact that you did not take it as me being unkind. I'm trying to find that happy balance between being direct enough that people know I'm dead serious and so blunt that it comes off *****y. My goal is to become a life coach when I'm done with college in a couple years sooooooooooo... yeah. lol

Love it! I never had a problem getting or keeping a man at my size. (18) I married at that size and I'm beautiful in and out and will be at any size. I do wish to be healthy and I know that if I neglect myself it will only get worse. However, these skinny chicks better watch out because a thinner healthier me is going to knock them out of the water

get it girl!!!

I really wanted to just say this quote earlier but wanted to be able to post the picture. It's supposed to be funny and not really an insult to anyone in particular. =X

I FREAKIN LOVE THIS! lol

lol I was shocked that I hadn't saved it to my computer. I've had a copy of it on my flash drive for yeeeaaars. I love Dr. Phil's attitude for the most part lmao.

Thank you... I saved it and posted it on my fb lol :-)

This is great!

I AM ONLY SPEAKING FOR MYSELF--THIS IS MY OPINION.

I didn't get FAT until about 15 years ago. FAT=overweight, obese and morbidly obese (in my opinion, because I am currently fat and speak only as my see it and feel about it),being fat is really unattractive, unhealthy and a poor example of so many things that are now so important to me as an example and representative of my life--being FAT shows my family, friends and everyone I meet or who sees me that I:

lack of self respect
lack of self control
l am lazy
greedy/gluttonous
and basically selfish, caring more about myself and what I want than anyone or anything else.

Of course, it doesn't seem like I'm FAT because I'm selfish, but if I truly cared about others MORE, if i was truly more concerned with others (my loved ones) more than myself...I wouldn't look like this--period! Being fat and unhealthy is ugly inside and out. If i weren't so selfish, i'd watch my diet/food in-take, i'd do the hard work of exercising daily, making good choices in food and everything in between.

I'd do whatever it takes to humble myself, and eat healthy and CHOOSE to no longer /not live in the denial of saying ugly & unhealthy looks good and looking and doing whatever it takes(LIVING/CHOOSING A NEW LIFESTYLE FOREVER MORE) to be healthy and trim is ugly(i.e.too hard/impossible (blaming everyone and everything under the sun---EXCEPT MYSELF and not in some guilt trip scam but in love of myself and others enough and more than my being out of control or ____ fill in the blank excuse and therefore eating, NOT exercising/moving my body regularly is unhealthy and because I won't (NOT CAN'T but WON"T) it's is cool, because it's not.

OKAY--that said...

Before I was FAT (before I started having children), I was as skinny as a stick. I was stick skinny when stick skinny was NOT COOL and was consider as ugly as fat is considered now. I was skinny, but I was still not healthy--i was naturally skinny and underweight, because I ate much like I did before I made a decision to get a new life style for the rest of my life--eating well, living well, and exercising regularly and saying YES to what will contribute to health and wholeness and NO to the things that aren't. That may well and in fact definitely is different for/to different people, of course--because everyone is different and one size does not and should not fit all.

Stick Skinny (like fat) in my opinion, is also really unattractive and unhealthy just like being fat and shows the same crazy negative traits as fat people--just the opposite side of the same extreme coin.

I NEVER want to be skinny again in my life, I HATED being stick skinny.
I NEVER want to be fat again in my life, I HATE being fat.

I want to be a healthy, normal BMI and body weight. I don't want to worship, admire, nor wink an eye at skinny nor fat--I want to be HEALTHY--period.

Am I a hater? Yep! I hate deception, denial and winking an eye and calling ugly beautiful and beautiful ugly. True beauty is in the eye of the beholder and again, to my eye...both FAT and SKINNY is ugly! They said that true beauty is only skin deep--but UGLY is to the bone. I agree with that.

My idea of the perfect size? Leslie Sansone :flowerforyou: She's slim and healthy looking. No skinny nor buff--that's what i'm aiming for!

When you’re a thicker woman, people like to say "yeah, she's cute in the face", as if being thick is such a disgrace. Honey, I’m cute in the face, and I’m thick in the waist. I look good whether I’m in cotton, leather, or lace. I’m beautiful, vibrant and above all, smart! Yes my clothes maybe a bigger size, that just means you have access to a bigger prize. We all are not self-conscious about our weight, and we never have a problem getting a date. So don’t think your small frame gives you more pull, I’m a hot, sexy, curvy woman with a figure that's full!!
So tired of people judging people for the size they are!! BE REAL PEOPLE!

AMEN!

When you’re a thicker woman, people like to say "yeah, she's cute in the face", as if being thick is such a disgrace. Honey, I’m cute in the face, and I’m thick in the waist. I look good whether I’m in cotton, leather, or lace. I’m beautiful, vibrant and above all, smart! Yes my clothes maybe a bigger size, that just means you have access to a bigger prize. We all are not self-conscious about our weight, and we never have a problem getting a date. So don’t think your small frame gives you more pull, I’m a hot, sexy, curvy woman with a figure that's full!!
So tired of people judging people for the size they are!! BE REAL PEOPLE!

^^^^THIS^^^^^

I AM ONLY SPEAKING FOR MYSELF--THIS IS MY OPINION.

I didn't get FAT until about 15 years ago. FAT=overweight, obese and morbidly obese (in my opinion, because I am currently fat and speak only as my see it and feel about it),being fat is really unattractive, unhealthy and a poor example of so many things that are now so important to me as an example and representative of my life--being FAT shows my family, friends and everyone I meet or who sees me that I:

lack of self respect
lack of self control
l am lazy
greedy/gluttonous
and basically selfish, caring more about myself and what I want than anyone or anything else.

Of course, it doesn't seem like I'm FAT because I'm selfish, but if I truly cared about others MORE, if i was truly more concerned with others (my loved ones) more than myself...I wouldn't look like this--period! Being fat and unhealthy is ugly inside and out. If i weren't so selfish, i'd watch my diet/food in-take, i'd do the hard work of exercising daily, making good choices in food and everything in between.

I'd do whatever it takes to humble myself, and eat healthy and CHOOSE to no longer /not live in the denial of saying ugly & unhealthy looks good and looking and doing whatever it takes(LIVING/CHOOSING A NEW LIFESTYLE FOREVER MORE) to be healthy and trim is ugly(i.e.too hard/impossible (blaming everyone and everything under the sun---EXCEPT MYSELF and not in some guilt trip scam but in love of myself and others enough and more than my being out of control or ____ fill in the blank excuse and therefore eating, NOT exercising/moving my body regularly is unhealthy and because I won't (NOT CAN'T but WON"T) it's is cool, because it's not.

OKAY--that said...

Before I was FAT (before I started having children), I was as skinny as a stick. I was stick skinny when stick skinny was NOT COOL and was consider as ugly as fat is considered now. I was skinny, but I was still not healthy--i was naturally skinny and underweight, because I ate much like I did before I made a decision to get a new life style for the rest of my life--eating well, living well, and exercising regularly and saying YES to what will contribute to health and wholeness and NO to the things that aren't. That may well and in fact definitely is different for/to different people, of course--because everyone is different and one size does not and should not fit all.

Stick Skinny (like fat) in my opinion, is also really unattractive and unhealthy just like being fat and shows the same crazy negative traits as fat people--just the opposite side of the same extreme coin.

I NEVER want to be skinny again in my life, I HATED being stick skinny.
I NEVER want to be fat again in my life, I HATE being fat.

I want to be a healthy, normal BMI and body weight. I don't want to worship, admire, nor wink an eye at skinny nor fat--I want to be HEALTHY--period.

Am I a hater? Yep! I hate deception, denial and winking an eye and calling ugly beautiful and beautiful ugly. True beauty is in the eye of the beholder and again, to my eye...both FAT and SKINNY is ugly! They said that true beauty is only skin deep--but UGLY is to the bone. I agree with that.

My idea of the perfect size? Leslie Sansone :flowerforyou: She's slim and healthy looking. No skinny nor buff--that's what i'm aiming for!

Some people can't help being "stick skinny" and it does not automatically make them "unattractive" or "unhealthy"

I AM ONLY SPEAKING FOR MYSELF--THIS IS MY OPINION.

I didn't get FAT until about 15 years ago. FAT=overweight, obese and morbidly obese (in my opinion, because I am currently fat and speak only as my see it and feel about it),being fat is really unattractive, unhealthy and a poor example of so many things that are now so important to me as an example and representative of my life--being FAT shows my family, friends and everyone I meet or who sees me that I:

lack of self respect
lack of self control
l am lazy
greedy/gluttonous
and basically selfish, caring more about myself and what I want than anyone or anything else.

Of course, it doesn't seem like I'm FAT because I'm selfish, but if I truly cared about others MORE, if i was truly more concerned with others (my loved ones) more than myself...I wouldn't look like this--period! Being fat and unhealthy is ugly inside and out. If i weren't so selfish, i'd watch my diet/food in-take, i'd do the hard work of exercising daily, making good choices in food and everything in between.

I'd do whatever it takes to humble myself, and eat healthy and CHOOSE to no longer /not live in the denial of saying ugly & unhealthy looks good and looking and doing whatever it takes(LIVING/CHOOSING A NEW LIFESTYLE FOREVER MORE) to be healthy and trim is ugly(i.e.too hard/impossible (blaming everyone and everything under the sun---EXCEPT MYSELF and not in some guilt trip scam but in love of myself and others enough and more than my being out of control or ____ fill in the blank excuse and therefore eating, NOT exercising/moving my body regularly is unhealthy and because I won't (NOT CAN'T but WON"T) it's is cool, because it's not.

OKAY--that said...

Before I was FAT (before I started having children), I was as skinny as a stick. I was stick skinny when stick skinny was NOT COOL and was consider as ugly as fat is considered now. I was skinny, but I was still not healthy--i was naturally skinny and underweight, because I ate much like I did before I made a decision to get a new life style for the rest of my life--eating well, living well, and exercising regularly and saying YES to what will contribute to health and wholeness and NO to the things that aren't. That may well and in fact definitely is different for/to different people, of course--because everyone is different and one size does not and should not fit all.

Stick Skinny (like fat) in my opinion, is also really unattractive and unhealthy just like being fat and shows the same crazy negative traits as fat people--just the opposite side of the same extreme coin.

I NEVER want to be skinny again in my life, I HATED being stick skinny.
I NEVER want to be fat again in my life, I HATE being fat.

I want to be a healthy, normal BMI and body weight. I don't want to worship, admire, nor wink an eye at skinny nor fat--I want to be HEALTHY--period.

Am I a hater? Yep! I hate deception, denial and winking an eye and calling ugly beautiful and beautiful ugly. True beauty is in the eye of the beholder and again, to my eye...both FAT and SKINNY is ugly! They said that true beauty is only skin deep--but UGLY is to the bone. I agree with that.

My idea of the perfect size? Leslie Sansone :flowerforyou: She's slim and healthy looking. No skinny nor buff--that's what i'm aiming for!

Some people can't help being "stick skinny" and it does not automatically make them "unattractive" or "unhealthy"

I was one of those people that couldn't help being stick skinny and I was very attractive (in the face ;o), but i was "unhealthy", because I ate what I wanted to--just like how i got fat) and actually tried my darnest to gain weight and just couldn't no matter what I tried, until i started having children and became slothful and lazy and a bunch of other mess). I was unhealthy when i was stick skinny (doctors told me I'd NEVER gain weight, because my metabolism was so high, no matter how much I ate--I'd never gain--they were WRONG as time eventually told), because I NEVER exercised, because I hated exercising then, just like I did before I choose a new way to live and eat and think. Of course it doesn't make stick skinny people unhealthy or unattractive--but to me, I was and when I see a stick skinny person (male or female adult), they/Iook(ed) unattractive and unhealthy To ME personally (myself firstly and included). But obviously I'm in the minority, because most people don't agree with this and see stick skinny people and even fat (overweight, obese, morbidly obese) as attractive...like the OP was talking about. I don't agree--but that's just my opinion and point of "view" literally.

When you’re a thicker woman, people like to say "yeah, she's cute in the face", as if being thick is such a disgrace. Honey, I’m cute in the face, and I’m thick in the waist. I look good whether I’m in cotton, leather, or lace. I’m beautiful, vibrant and above all, smart! Yes my clothes maybe a bigger size, that just means you have access to a bigger prize. We all are not self-conscious about our weight, and we never have a problem getting a date. So don’t think your small frame gives you more pull, I’m a hot, sexy, curvy woman with a figure that's full!!
So tired of people judging people for the size they are!! BE REAL PEOPLE!

I hate haters!!!

Great post, very poetic too! It really has to be about fitness and how you feel, I will never be my "ideal weight" according to most standards, but I am still HOT! Attitude helps too ;-D

But if you "hate haters!!!"--doesn't that make you a...hater, go figure

I'm still a little annoyed that the OP still hasn't acknowledged that she did not write that poem herself, despite all the people telling her she should be a poet.

I'm still a little annoyed that the OP still hasn't acknowledged that she did not write that poem herself, despite all the people telling her she should be a poet.

Don't you be a hater!!

Imma hate on your hating of my hating. :O

/hate

I'm a size zero and I can't get a date to save my life. I envy your confidence, a lot.

^this

Im 5'10, blonde, athletic, workout 6 days a week and have a badass job and the only men that ask me out are 5'6" divorcees with a toupee and a mistress and a gut.

Sounds like you could get a date pretty easily then, you just gotta' stop hatin' on 5'6" divorcees with a toupee, a mistress, and a gut!