Friends Who Actually Comment!

I hope the friends I have on MFP realize I have a full time job, I work out, I'm a mom and a grandma. Sometimes life just gets in the way of making a comment on every status update.

It's nothing personal. We all lead busy lives. I not offended when people don't acknowledge my updates. My hope is they're not offended when I don't comment on ones they post.

This is why I am very selective about who my friends are.

YAY So glad we're friends KB!!! You are an awesome poster!

I don't need to see WTG 85x on each and every one of my statuses, and I don't like leaving these generic comments on peoples statuses. I think as long as people are generally showing you support you should not count them out because they didn't congratulate you for logging in for the 5th day in a row or say something on ALL of your statuses. In one day one person can have about 5 regular updates, generated by the system! If you have 50 freinds, that would mean you would have to say something 250 times!! seems a bit much to me. Just my 2 cents :happy:

I DO however, try to post on all non-system generated updates and milestones. :drinker:

I try my best to reply to everyone but there are days when I just can not find the time. I only comment on diaries that look nutritionally sound, I do not cheer people on just for being under the calorie goal if they are eating too little etc. Feel free to add me and I will do my best to encourage you. BTW I reached my goal in November and I am currently maintaining in case you decide to add me and wonder why I eat so darn much hehe.

I agree - I only comment on diaries where they are eating adequately and not starving themselves. I don't want to judge people but at the same time I can't ethically cheer that on. That being said, if someone is making positive changes like adding more vegetables I'll definitely make a positive comment.

I travel a lot for work, so I there are weeks where I'm not able to log on (except through my blackberry where I don't have access to my news feed)... feel free to add me if that won't be a problem.

I would rather only get a few comments from people who actually read what I may say or actually look at my journal than people who give generic comments..states like wtg irk me bc it shows your masses encouraging..I always comment after really reading bc Im just like that I suppose. Same with the comments on profiles I like to give heart felt once not fake ones..

Same here. I only have a small amount of friends, but I still do not comment on every single status. I make sure I comment once a twice a week on something and if I haven't seen someone online after 3 days I will leave a comment for them asking how they are. But just like you, I don't like the wtg comments if they are on every single status. If someone has an intense workout or has logged in for 100 days then I put a comment. Or if a friend posts a status update not generated by mfp I will comment on it.

I'm actually looking for more friends. I do my best to reply on status' (i'm on here at least 2 or 3 times per day!). I like to help out whenever I can, and the encouragement is great also!

We are all busy and can't comment on everything every day but, I try to comment on a few posts every day. And, I would hope that everyone else does the same.

Support is why we are here & what keeps us all going in life

Anyone please feel free to add me so we can support eachother

I only keep the ones who want people in their lives and who want to be in people's lives. I don't "collect" friends. I only add the people who give a good reason why they want to be friends with me, and who I know want to actually communicate on here. For me, the friends on MFP are a support system. If you don't update, or you don't help anybody else, why am I friends with you? So I clean out my friends list regularly. People I don't recognize, people I haven't heard from, people who I never see on my feed, etc.

I enjoy listen and commenting on my friends. Feel free to add me if you wish.

I don't know about everyone else but I feel like only 10% of the people on my friends list comment on my updates regularly (I only have a couple a day which are all health and fitness related). This is one of the major things that motivates me. I like to know that my accomplishments are being recognized so I thought I would make a thread for everyone who actually comments. I'm not saying you need to post on every status but occasionally just to show your support would be greatly appreciated!

Reply to this thread and we can all add each other and grow a big support system!

Good luck to everyone with achieving your goals

i keep my friends to a mimimum, with those i know who will support me and i support them...i really dont know how its possible that you always comment and support every single one of your friends with 101 friends.....i was going to add you until i saw that, you wouldnt even have the time for me. thats just my opinion.

I have only a few MFP friends who comment on my posts. I was struggling for the past few days because of a plumbing problem that left me with 5 holes in my living room and half the carpet taken out. I posted yesterday that I was beginning to stress eat and thanked my MFP friends for their support. Out of my 28 friends, I only got posts from 3 friends.


As much as time permits, I try to comments on all my friends posts every day. I need some friends who will do the same for me. I've been doing this for a little over 5 months and love MFP!

Lol, I have 45 friends and spend like an hour a day just cheering them all on.

Me too and then once a month I get soft and add more friends and then begin feeling overwhelmed - it's a vicisious but lovely circle. I only ADD Friends if #1 they let me know why they want to be added, #2 they are fitness focused and don't use this board for anything but fitness, #3 they have a profile picture and have completed their profiles (users who have neither of these don't engender my trust or deserve my daily time).

I am totally in this same cycle. My list is always bigger than I think I can handle while keeping things personal and meaningful. Still, I find it hard to refuse a knock on the door from a new person wanting to be friends.

I am starting to wonder about the people who 'friend' me, and never say a blessed thing to me. Why do they bother? I enjoy getting to know people here, beyond looking at their logging entries. If when I look at my friend list, and see faces there that I know nothing about, I feel no guilt in deleting them. I used to, but not anymore. I really want to focus on people who make an effort to talk to me in some form at least once a week. I understand that 'life happens,' but I actively try to make MFP accountability and sociability a part of my life, and expect no less from my friends here.

I'm having the same issue and also looking for support! I'll add you.

I'm new just started and am looking for some support and in return I'll give the same ^^

I intend to keep my friends limited because I know I don't have the time to comment all the time and I would feel bad if I didn't. I joined MFP mstly because of the way you can log all your in and out calorie needs. the community is nice as well and I enjoy posting here and there, but I don't think I'd want more than 20 friends (sounds bad I know).