cursing + having little kids ==

I curse like a sailor. Both of my children ages 8&5 have heard my friends and I curse numerouis times..... My children will literally look at someone and say those are big people words and only big people can say them. I don't think you have messed your kids up .......Making it a big deal now that would mess them up

There are much, MUCH worse things in this world for children than what other people call "bad" words. Don't let it stress you out. Raise them to be kind, caring individuals and you've done the best job a parent can do.

Your last name is Menendez right?

okay, so anyone who knows me, knows i curse. a lot. all the time. sure, it's not ladylike, but i don't really give a fu@k.

anywho ... i have 3 little ones (3, 6 & 7) and i never did that "oh, i'm not going to curse in front of them" thing. I figured I'm not going to keep them sheltered from something as inane as bad words. Yeah, they all dropped the f bomb before the age of 3, but that was it - they never cursed again. They know they are bad words, they know they can't say them, they are sensitized to that they are not "special" words at all.

am i ahead of the curve or have i ruined my children for life? Only time will tell. (maybe they'll end up rebelling and they'll stick their noses up to punk rock and listen to xtian music and go to church. who knows.)

What do you do about cursing? yay or ney?

I have mixed opinion. I don't swear or curse myself. I think it sounds common, rude and thoughtless, BUT that's my personal thought and preference.

My fiancé does swear. Not as much as some, but quite a bit. We're planning to have children in about three or four years, and he decided off his own back a week or two ago that he was going to start trying to swear less in preparation for us having kids.

BUT I don't mind so much if other people swear, as long as they don't do it in front of other people's children. If there ends up being a situation where one of my future kids decides to swear, I'll let them know that I'm not AGAINST any words. They can swear in conversation if that's what they want to do, but they must always think about the environment they're in and never swear in public where others can hear. On the other hand, if my fiancé's taking them to football I won't mind them joining in the chants as it's a part of the environment they'll be in.

Umm wow...I hope all that comes with a flow chart.

My parents cursed all the time. I came out ok.
I do the same. Kids don't repeat what I say.

But when they do, I think it's hilarious. I should try harder not to laugh...

I remember when I was babysitting my best friend's toddler, and we were in a hurry to get to playgroup. He was getting frustrated getting ready and really ornery and mad. He looked like he was going to cry. I knelt down and gently asked him what was wrong and why he was sad. He looked at me and said, "I'm sad because I can't find my ****ing rain boots!"

I almost choked, trying not to laugh. He just looked so freaking earnest and sad. :P

okay, so anyone who knows me, knows i curse. a lot. all the time. sure, it's not ladylike, but i don't really give a fu@k.

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I swear ALL of the time. I will swear in front of my kids but not in front of their friends. My daughter is 18 now and she doesn't swear in front of me though. In fact, I only started swearing in front of my Mum last year, when I was 37!!!!!!

I try to, and usual do control my language in front of my kids and "polite" company. Usually. They are also desensitized to it. They also dropped f-bombs early and never again. It's funny, we had this conversation at the studio last night. :drinker:

okay, so anyone who knows me, knows i curse. a lot. all the time. sure, it's not ladylike, but i don't really give a fu@k.

anywho ... i have 3 little ones (3, 6 & 7) and i never did that "oh, i'm not going to curse in front of them" thing. I figured I'm not going to keep them sheltered from something as inane as bad words. Yeah, they all dropped the f bomb before the age of 3, but that was it - they never cursed again. They know they are bad words, they know they can't say them, they are sensitized to that they are not "special" words at all.

am i ahead of the curve or have i ruined my children for life? Only time will tell. (maybe they'll end up rebelling and they'll stick their noses up to punk rock and listen to xtian music and go to church. who knows.)

What do you do about cursing? yay or ney?

I have mixed opinion. I don't swear or curse myself. I think it sounds common, rude and thoughtless, BUT that's my personal thought and preference.

My fiancé does swear. Not as much as some, but quite a bit. We're planning to have children in about three or four years, and he decided off his own back a week or two ago that he was going to start trying to swear less in preparation for us having kids.

BUT I don't mind so much if other people swear, as long as they don't do it in front of other people's children. If there ends up being a situation where one of my future kids decides to swear, I'll let them know that I'm not AGAINST any words. They can swear in conversation if that's what they want to do, but they must always think about the environment they're in and never swear in public where others can hear. On the other hand, if my fiancé's taking them to football I won't mind them joining in the chants as it's a part of the environment they'll be in.

Umm wow...I hope all that comes with a flow chart.

A flow chart?

Can I Swear? ----> Are you in a suitable environment? At home, or at a football match?

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>

Yes > You can swear.
No > You can't swear.

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eh, not a big deal. they're going to be around it ALL the time when they get older.
My parents cursed all the time too. & i also turned out ok :P

I honestly think its cute/funny to hear a little kid curse, especially when they mispronounce it...OMG adorable xD

Id rather have my little girl curse & listen to rob zombie rather than have her nose in books all day. EW!!

Me and my husband swear but wouldn't dream of doing it in front of our children. It's frown upon in our house. When children swear, it just sounds like they are being dragged up. It's not cool, it's not hip and it's certainly not clever. My children are 6 and 8 and they hear other children using swear words at school etc, the odd one on the telly... There's no way you can shield a child from hearing such words, it happens, it's out there and for many people, it's vertually their first language! In my personal opinion, i just dont think its right, it sounds common and trashy but.......each to their own

eh, not a big deal. they're going to be around it ALL the time when they get older.
My parents cursed all the time too. & i also turned out ok :P

I honestly think its cute/funny to hear a little kid curse, especially when they mispronounce it...OMG adorable xD

Id rather have my little girl curse & listen to rob zombie rather than have her nose in books all day. EW!!

Ha! whats wrong with books? Do people who curse not read? Did I miss the memo?

My Dad taught me all of the swear words before I started school & told me they were adult words & that I wasn't allowed to use them, so I never did.

i talk like a sailor and have since i was about 8 or 9.. it's a coping mechanism because i feel inadequate because i'm short. at least, i'm sure that's what a shrink would say.

my kids (boys) are 3 and 10. i try to "keep it clean" around them, but they've heard plenty of "dammit" and "****" and the occasional f-bomb. i'm also a substitute teacher working toward an education masters, and not cursing in school is probably the hardest part of the job.

my kids aren't at all ruined for life because of my verbal expression choices. in the words of the late, great george carlin, "there are no bad words...bad thoughts, bad intentions, yes, but not words." i figure if dropping the occasional f-bomb in front of your kids is the worst you do, you're doing better than a helluva lot of parents out there.

hahaha - you have THREE children? I have four adult children- cursing was the LEAST of the problems. Raising children is enough of a challenge and you will face MUCH bigger problems than some naughty language. Obviously it's bothering you so - watch your mouth. Here's MY tip- DO be that mom. DON'T be too permissive- this NEVER works out well. BE a role model, whether you want to be or not, they WILL pattern their behavior after you. Love your children but DO NOT treat them like little adults. They are NOT adults. They DO NOT see things the way you do.
They are absorbing everything you do and say and believe me, it WILL come back to haunt you. Basically, they're like flowers. They need fresh air, sunshine, healthy food, a caring environment and ROOM TO GROW. However, they are flowers with voice recorders and photographic memories.
And I think you're all dead wrong about reading. The best thing I did was encourage a love of reading in my children. People who DO NOT read have NO advantage over people who CAN NOT read. My kids learned to read at a VERY young age (I'm a reader). I turned off our tv for one hour every day & they had to read something - it could be a comic book, but they had to read & tell me what they read.
Also in summertime I didn't let my kids get stupid all summer. They had to read & do a book report. I also quizzed them on spelling. The most tragic waste in all of history is a wasted mind. Our brains are fantastically complicated- challenge them to think & use their brains. Who knows what you'll get? on the other hand, imo there are more than enough mindless bots on the planet now
Good luck