cursing + having little kids ==

Just_Dot · March 2012

Wow. What a sad world you live in.

I teach middle school Language Arts and the majority of my students love to read.

I digress...

Husband, The Boy's dad, and I all curse...a lot. Both kids have dropped f bombs before 3. In fact, Baby Girl told my MIL (who is also her preschool teacher) a few weeks ago that "fvck it" was a bad word and she's not supposed to say it. :laugh:

They know the words are "grown up" words and they can say them when they're older. There's definitely worse things the could do..l

annameier8706 · March 2012

I have 2 military brats (2.5 and 15mo), so they've totally been exposed to bad language. I have never asked any one to moderate their language around them. I think that is unrealistic. My 2.5 year has said shi+ a coue times, but we just don't make a big deal out of it besides telling her theybare bad words and she shouldn't say them. Luckily all our friends kids are military brats too so their parents understand if bad laguage slips out of their little mouths lol:drinker:

Hernandeak11 · March 2012

My parents AND grandmother never censored themselves in front of my sister and I, and we turned out perfectly fine (my sister has her Master's, and I'm booking for one).

Now, having friends from many different backgrounds, the ones who were sheltered as children throw around curse words like it's something special that must be in every sentence..THAT'S annoying.

Boingo1 · March 2012

My boys are 16, 12 and 10. My husband and I have always cursed in front of them. Moreso swearing out of anger than in normal conversasion (though when I'm with my friends the word "f" might happen more). So it's not a constant day to day thing. They hardly swear themselves. Except my 16 yr old , and he does it more because he's influenced by his peers language, not ours. Oh. And music. He listens to hip hop, which is filled with f-bombs and worse. My 12 and 10 yr olds rarely, if ever, have sworn.

The funny thing is, my parents NEVER swore in front of me. "Hell" was considered a swear word. In fact the word "suck" was not allowed in our house either (as in "that sucks").

And I wound up with the mouth I have. Go figure.

annameier8706 · March 2012

I've loved reading since elementary school... I've always read for enjoyment, and still do.

r1ghtpath · March 2012

i don't swear. i'm sure occasionally one will fall off my lips, but it's VERY rare! i wasn't raised in a house where people swore. and since i don't swear, i really don't want my kids doing it.

their dad swears, a lot. they have picked up the words from him. but, i don't think i have ever heard any of them swear after like the age of 3. they wouldn't get "in trouble" so much as i would tell them that it's not a nice word and they shouldn't use it.

the "bad" words in our house are NOT bad words. they are like "dumb," "shut up, " " stupid." stuff like that. i don't want my kids saying those things to each other or to other people. i just think they are mean.

Boingo1 · March 2012

I'm kind of lost as to what loving to read has to do with anything else. But whatever. I love to read and I love Rob Zombie and love the F word.

BeautifulRedButterfly · March 2012

if my child is reading constantly, she'll never have a chance to get out & hang out with friends, because she'd be too obsessed. My friends mom is like that, & i think it's crazy...she has no friends at all

I want my child to have friends. And be smart from reading.

As in not wanting her to read, I mean it as an all day thing. If she wants to read an hour a day, I dont mind. i think that awesome..but all day and not wanting to do anything else? that wouldnt be acceptable to me. She needs communication in her life too. Communication is more important than a book.

MsEmmy · March 2012

' I'd rather her not read'

I've never heard anyone say that before, ever.

People read for fun, they read to expand their little worlds, they read to learn what it's like to be someone else for a while. My metalhead 15 year old son reads as does his 17 yr old brother. How can you expect them to write good lyrics if they are not encouraged to read?! To not encourage a child to read is to deny them a lot of the world. To lead their own lives and make their own choices, they need to know what's out there and how to avoid the mistakes that others have made. You don't have to miss out on other things in order to read......you can do that as well. I read avidly as a young child and still do - didn't stop me dyeing my hair purple or moving to another continent for a while when I was 21. You don't have to be a conservative nerd to read!

p_barron · March 2012

I am doing the same thing right now with my 2 year old. He has dropped every "bad" word a couple times but he has always done it in the ways I use the word and he has basically stopped now. I don't believe there are any "bad" words just words people put bad connotations on

paigemarie93 · March 2012

Reading is sometimes a better influence than friends.

mandycasey · March 2012

Yes i'm guilty of swearing infront of my kids, i never thought i would but it just happens. I don't think its a big deal - some of my friends do but i just make sure I'm careful infront of their kids and my dad and family! xx

paigemarie93 · March 2012

This!
I'm a Rob Zombie fan that loves to read =]

seattlerain · March 2012

I taught my daughter to say "hookers and blow."

She is 2.

jennafluff · March 2012

I was brought up pretty strictly and swearing was NOT part of my life. I'm now married to a man who swears occasionally, generally only in adult company and with a few drinks under the belt. Unfortunatly any time he or his friends swear my Dads words ring in my ears. "Only a weak person curses or blasphemes".

p0stdramatic · March 2012

I am speechless right now. Almost everyone I know reads for fun. Including my kids. My 15 year old usually has a long list of books she asks for for Christmas or her birthday. My son usually breaks us during book fair week at school.

bjshields · March 2012

Is that why we're only seeing your skates, Pippa?:happy:

hongruss · March 2012

WOW I must be old fashioned, I have a four year old daughter & put her to bed early for saying god damn only last week! I don't swear in front of her & if people wish to visit us I encourage them not to swear in front of her. Swearing in public is an erosion of basic common courtesy, where the "self" has become more important than the "community" & people question why the world is going to hell in a handbasket. I am not saying swearing is the worlds or a childs greatest issue but respect for each other has to start somewhere!

Funny I don't allow my daughter to stay up late or watch inappropriate programs on television & as for reading if you don't encourage your children to read & to ENJOY reading you are quite simply wrong! IMO

Russ

kemccarty · March 2012

Trashy.

Whinchat · March 2012

I don't like swearing/cursing but that doesn't mean I don't do it.

Couldn't find something in the supermarket a few months back and announced "This bloody shop is *kitten*!" to which my my nearly 3yo parroted "Yeah! This shop is *kitten*!" much to the horror of a little old lady walking by. Oops :embarassed: :laugh:

PlunderBunneh · March 2012

Me too. I am stunned that anyone would discourage reading. How incredibly sad for them. How incredibly sad for society, that reading is not cherished and encouraged at every age.
I try not to curse around my kids. They are little sponges, and I believe that learning to speak is learning what words mean. F@#k is not a concept they can understand, either literally or as a "bad word." I believe children should be raised in a respectful environment. By its very definition, profanity is a show of disrespect to express intense emotions. Not some harmless fluffy word that you teach children because its just so cute.
Sure, sometimes I slip up, and my 4 year old will mimic me and mutter "What the hell?" We have a talk about grown up words, and we both apologize for using them.

MissO﹠A · March 2012

My husband and I both swear -- a lot. We have a 4 year old.

She has heard it all. She also knows she's not supposed to use those words outside the house and particularly not at school. Despite knowing this, she's only said them once in a blue moon at home -- which obviously elicits a laugh from both the hubs and I. But that's it. It's just not a big deal in our house.

pcronberg · March 2012

Cursing is a part of who I am. It does not make me a "bad" person, stupid, illiterate or anything other negative labels people want to add to it. To the contrary, I currently am in the middle of my Bachelor's degree for Criminal Justice. Yes, reading, writing and learning! I have two children, and lots of friends with kids... Not to mention my 16 nieces and nephews. All of whom have heard me curse. There are a few select occasions I "sensor" myself, including in front of older women (those appearing to be over 70 years of age), and in a job interview. I have and do use just about every word in the book, and do not plan on changing. I don't believe in sheltering my children, they deserve a fair chance at fighting the world when they are old enough to be out on their own. The world is chaotic and dangerous at times, cursing is the least of our worries.

jewelsc1 · March 2012

My parents never cursed around us growing up. I do curse around my kids sometimes, usually if I'm upset about something. My husband does it more frequently than I and my 4 year old has picked up some choice words that she uses at the funniest times. Like when I was searching for the remote and she found it under the covers on the bed and said "Here it is dumbass!" (That was definitely from the hubby talking to his brother) . I tried really hard not to laugh, but there was no holding it in. They are just words, though. I believe that just because you may swear in front of your children that does not make you a bad parent. There are much worse things to worry about then a few bad words.

kemccarty · March 2012

_binary_jester_ · March 2012

I bet you're cursing right now.

jennafluff · March 2012

You are NOT old fashoined. Just a decent, loving parent.
My 6 yo daughter was strutting around in my heels with no skirt on the other day singing "I'm sexy and I know it". Just seemed wrong somehow. I got her to stop:-)

poesch77 · March 2012

I swear bad....my husband not so much. I try not to but sometimes the "f" bomb comes out....and boy, do I feel like a trailer trash mom. My 6 yr old never repeats it so it must not be too bad....I hope.

ThatGirlGlow · March 2012

Everyone is entitled to raise their children the way they see fit. For me; I don't swear infront of my children at all. I hate hearing children swear, it's not cute or funny. It's sad. They have heard curse words from the random people out in public who feel that it's okay to swear infront of other people's children, they have also heard family members swear occasionally, God only knows what they hear at school seeing as a majority of children seemed to be raised with these words being deemed okay in the household. I have had the talk of "bad" words, "Good" words "adult" words with them. they are constantly asking me about what words are good, and which ones are bad. I don't punish them for repeating something that they have heard. I just correct the situation, and keep it moving. I know people who swear infront of/and at their children. I don't want my boys to be raised in a household of "Do as I say, not as I do".

cal1973 · March 2012

:huh:

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