cursing + having little kids ==

Women and profanity is neither attractive nor classy. Regardless of your educational background and career, if your vocabulary is not extensive enough to where you must use vulgar language in order to make a point, you will appear as uneducated.

You've clearly never read one of my blog posts...I find that I manage a delightful mix of the coarse and the sublime. Really, I appeal to the masses. :laugh:

eh, not a big deal. they're going to be around it ALL the time when they get older.
My parents cursed all the time too. & i also turned out ok :P

I honestly think its cute/funny to hear a little kid curse, especially when they mispronounce it...OMG adorable xD

Id rather have my little girl curse & listen to rob zombie rather than have her nose in books all day. EW!!

In the state of our country and the unbelievably decreasing interest for science and technology among our youth and my generation, it is abosulely deplorable that any person would want for their child to sit and listen to rob zombie and cuss.
With that being said, I do not cuss. Not in front of my children nor in conversations with family and friends.. i simply don't because its ignorant and I feel i can more productivly get my point across without using such language.
I am proud to say that my 2 yr old is his daycare class' role model for having the best manners.
I want to be clear that I am in no way wanting to hurt or offend anyone here. I just wish that we would want more for our children. Lord knows they it.

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I try not to swear in front of my kids - usually the worst they'll hear from me is "hell" or "damn it". But they've heard alot from their dad and, sadly, at school.

They both learned to give the finger (kindergarten and a Christian preschool!) But they both also know it's really really bad and don't do it unless they're just trying to get my attention. The other day one of them was talking about vagina's and penis' in line at the grocery store. Embarressing. And the other night watching hockey on TV my 6 yr old says "Who the hell are all those people?"

They're gonna learn it sooner or later. I try not to act shocked as I think it brings more attention to it. But I just tell them it's a very bad word that kids should not be using.

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A flow chart?

Can I Swear? ----> Are you in a suitable environment? At home, or at a football match?

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>

Yes > You can swear.
No > You can't swear.

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Is there a handbook and what's suitable? There are many different situations and interpretations of said situation.

And I swear for emphasis. They don't hear it often, but when they do, they know the *kitten* is hitting the fan.

I tell my kids it is ok to swear when it's part of the lyrics of a song.

As I said, at home or at a football match.

To me, it's about context. As I said, I'm not someone who swears in conversation, but if future children want to include that language in their conversation at home I would far rather they did that and understood that those are words it would be rude and disrespectful to use elsewhere.

It's not about these being 'grown up' words. I think that's terrible - the idea that adults are somehow different and can behave differently when it comes to language. It's not about being 'grown up', it's about being polite and considerate. I would rather swearing didn't take place at football matches of course, but it does, and I don't want my child to feel they have to censor themselves when all around them use bad language, nor should they have to go quiet (as you say) for certain lyrics of a song. UNLESS they're in public.

The home will be theirs, and if they want to swear at home that's their choice, just as everyone else in the household will have that choice, but that doesn't mean I won't be telling them the reasons I'm not a fan of swearing.

I have mixed opinion. I don't swear or curse myself. I think it sounds common, rude and thoughtless, BUT that's my personal thought and preference.

My fiancé does swear. Not as much as some, but quite a bit. We're planning to have children in about three or four years, and he decided off his own back a week or two ago that he was going to start trying to swear less in preparation for us having kids.

BUT I don't mind so much if other people swear, as long as they don't do it in front of other people's children. If there ends up being a situation where one of my future kids decides to swear, I'll let them know that I'm not AGAINST any words. They can swear in conversation if that's what they want to do, but they must always think about the environment they're in and never swear in public where others can hear. On the other hand, if my fiancé's taking them to football I won't mind them joining in the chants as it's a part of the environment they'll be in.

I agree. I still drop words in very frustrating situations, but I've definitely cleaned up my language a bit. I went through a bit of a swearing stage a couple of years back (probably less than most people do, but I come from a house without swearing), and my mom use to always say that it made me sound uncivilized. At the time I thought she was just being a bit of a prude, but then I had a couple of customers come into my work that were older people, accompanied by children, and they were swearing like there was no tomorrow. It really did make them look uncivilized, rude and common. I definitely cleaned up my language after that. Will I swear in front of my children? No. Will I freak out when my kids do eventually pick up swear words? No.

In the state of our country and the unbelievably decreasing interest for science and technology among our youth and my generation, it is abosulely deplorable that any person would want for their child to sit and listen to rob zombie and cuss.

Science, technology, Rob Zombie and cursing. These are not mutually exclusive. I have several peer-reviewed research papers under my belt, work as a computer programmer, listen to Rob Zombie sometimes, and use foul language.

And for the record, a girl with a good vocabulary, including those vulgar words, is pretty damn attractive. I know I'm not alone on this one. Right, guys?

I am flattered that I was capable of getting you all riled up. Stay classy, my friends.

you mistake "riled up" for pity.

haha love it!

In the state of our country and the unbelievably decreasing interest for science and technology among our youth and my generation, it is abosulely deplorable that any person would want for their child to sit and listen to rob zombie and cuss.

Science, technology, Rob Zombie and cursing. These are not mutually exclusive. I have several peer-reviewed research papers under my belt, work as a computer programmer, listen to Rob Zombie sometimes, and use foul language.

And for the record, a girl with a good vocabulary, including those vulgar words, is pretty damn attractive. I know I'm not alone on this one. Right, guys?

Probably depends on the guys. Some men love it some men don't :drinker:

Sorry everyone- but I'm astonished by the general consensus that its ok to swear in front of your kids. I'm not saying I've never slipped, because of course I have. BUT I always feel terrible after I do. I believe in setting a good example and letting kids be innocent for a while. I do NOT find it "cute" to hear the F-bomb come out of a tiny mouth. How hard is it to watch your mouth? If you have the willpower to monitor what goes into your mouth (which being on this site says you do) than you can monitor what comes out of it.

And for the record, a girl with a good vocabulary, including those vulgar words, is pretty damn attractive. I know I'm not alone on this one. Right, guys?

/Tosses hair.

DAMN straight.

Swear words are like ghost peppers. Used sparingly, they add just the right flavor to the right conversation. In excess, you'll just want to stick your head under water.

Sorry everyone- but I'm astonished by the general consensus that its ok to swear in front of your kids. I'm not saying I've never slipped, because of course I have. BUT I always feel terrible after I do. I believe in setting a good example and letting kids be innocent for a while. I do NOT find it "cute" to hear the F-bomb come out of a tiny mouth. How hard is it to watch your mouth? If you have the willpower to monitor what goes into your mouth (which being on this site says you do) than you can monitor what comes out of it.

The majority of us who said that we curse in front of our kids explained that our kids don't curse. They may have repeated the word or words at some point, however, they aren't running around throwing out f-bombs in day care.

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Swear words are like ghost peppers. Used sparingly, they add just the right flavor to the right conversation. In excess, you'll just want to stick your head under water.

Exactly. i would rather have my girlfriend whisper in my ear..."Baby I want you to pin me down and *kitten* me right now" over "my dear, would you please suspend my wrists and have some rousing intercourse. Please move the doilies first".

Sorry everyone- but I'm astonished by the general consensus that its ok to swear in front of your kids. I'm not saying I've never slipped, because of course I have. BUT I always feel terrible after I do. I believe in setting a good example and letting kids be innocent for a while. I do NOT find it "cute" to hear the F-bomb come out of a tiny mouth. How hard is it to watch your mouth? If you have the willpower to monitor what goes into your mouth (which being on this site says you do) than you can monitor what comes out of it.

The majority of us who said that we curse in front of our kids explained that our kids don't curse. They may have repeated the word or words at some point, however, they aren't running around throwing out f-bombs in day care.

exactly! i get compliments all the time from strangers/people in public about how polite and respectful my children are... when other kids their age are running around and screaming, mine are sitting and reading or coloring or just talking. they have wonderful manners, and have been saying please and thank you since they could talk.
my daughters kindergarten teacher tells me many times a week what a joy my little girl is, and that its kids like her that make her really enjoy teaching.. shes helpful and smart and always thinking of others.
my swearing in front of them occasionally hasnt hurt them at all.

Working in my line of work it becomes habit to swear like a sailor..so when Im home I don it without even noticing...and since both my kids were able to talk they have always said "hey thats a potty word mom dont say that" and they move on...they have NEVER ONCE repeated it!!! As long as your kids know the difference from right and wrong what does it matter??