Girls in tbe gym: question

maletac
maletac Posts: 767 Member
edited November 12 in Chit-Chat
So maybe I'm weird. I have never tried talking to someone in the gym. maybe its cause it's the last place I think I look decent. Or it's just outa my comfort zone. But I have never tried taking to a female in the gym.

I mean even when we make that weird eye contact a few times I'm like meh. Shrug it off and continue. Guess having more gym friends would be cool buutt I think the gym is pretty much "creep only when your feeling extra douchy" zone.... But maybe I'm wrong

Opinions experiences?
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  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    Personally, I just want to be ogled. That's all. If someone would ogle me while I'm drenched in sweat and working my butt off, my life would be complete.


    Seriously, though, I have no clue. I've never had someone try to pick me up at a gym or elsewhere really, so I don't know if I'd be freaked out by it or not. Probably not, though - I mean, if you're both working hard at the gym, there is at least ONE thing you have in common.

    ETA - If you do, probably wait until AFTER the workout though, like maybe on the way out of the gym.
  • Justjoshin
    Justjoshin Posts: 999 Member
    When I'm at the gym, I seriously expect to be left the F alone.
    Unless it looks like I'm about to kill myself and I don't have a spotter, or you need a quick spot, you probably want to just keep doing your thing and let me do mine.
  • aanderson1126
    aanderson1126 Posts: 7
    I think it's OK to appreciate the way a person looks when at the gym, but probably a bad idea to be the creeper while she's trying to get her sweat on.
  • orangecrayon
    orangecrayon Posts: 293 Member
    When you're at the gym, you almost tend to be at your worst: all sweaty and exhausted. If someone is checking you out and trying to chat you up in that state, it is extremely flattering. My say is, any place any time. Go for it!
  • MissBehaved913
    MissBehaved913 Posts: 1
    I agree with JustJoshin... I wanna get in, do my thing, and get out. I dont mind socializing and being friendly... But being hit on is the last thing I would want when Im in the zone.
  • Bikini27
    Bikini27 Posts: 1,290 Member
    Look, I have seen a number of men with whom I would love to be interrupted by.
    Even just a "Hey, how you doin'" would be ok.
    Seriously, we're there to look and feel better. It's like the bar, without liabations and fried food.


    Unless you go to Planet Fitness.
  • Bikini27
    Bikini27 Posts: 1,290 Member
    Personally, I just want to be ogled. That's all. If someone would ogle me while I'm drenched in sweat and working my butt off, my life would be complete.


    Seriously, though, I have no clue. I've never had someone try to pick me up at a gym or elsewhere really, so I don't know if I'd be freaked out by it or not. Probably not, though - I mean, if you're both working hard at the gym, there is at least ONE thing you have in common.

    ETA - If you do, probably wait until AFTER the workout though, like maybe on the way out of the gym.

    Always ogling, you're awesome. :smile:
  • Sunscreenandsweat
    Sunscreenandsweat Posts: 190 Member
    The gym is when you're at your worst so I wouldn't really mind as long as it's not a constant thing like everyday the same guy over and over when I am trying to workout. I'm not looking for anyone right now but down the road I would totally be fine with someone approaching me because I'll want a boyfriend that would go to the gym with me and be able to keep up with me and they'd probably be less likely to want to grab fast food or something.
  • karinaes
    karinaes Posts: 570 Member
    i've made friends at the gym, guys mostly. :smokin:
  • candice36
    candice36 Posts: 23
    The gym is my second home, so I'm there often. I see a lot of the same people when I go, mainly bc I go around the same time each day. To me, it would be awkward if I had to turn someone down and then see them again and again. Awkward! I'd like to avoid that as much as possible. However, I have made quite a few male acquaintances and when I see them we make small talk, etc.. So no, I don't think the gym is the wisest place to pick up in ladies. If you want to make friends, go for it! I am guilty of checking out some of the guys but it's all in good fun. I never cross the line or get too aggressive about it. I typically have tunnel vision at the gym, so I usually don't even know what I going on around me haha. Hope this helped :)
  • aippolito1
    aippolito1 Posts: 4,894 Member
    I pretty much only talk to women in my gym. There aren't a lot of impressive young guys at my gym, so *shrug* meh.
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
    Most women wear earphones at the gym I go to. It used to be only the hot women wore earphones to the gym 7-10 yrs ago. Now it is almost all women.
  • poedunk65
    poedunk65 Posts: 1,336 Member
    Although I am there to workout and get done, it is nice to say hi with a smile and get a smile back. Being that I am a bigger guy and have been told i have an ominous look when i am serious it catches alot of people off guard.
  • dmouse0225
    dmouse0225 Posts: 104
    The gym is not a place that I want to talk to ANYONE. I almost go out of my way to avoid eye contact with people. It may seem rude, but I don't want to think about anything other than the task at hand.
  • rmsturdy
    rmsturdy Posts: 73
    Here's a happy medium. Do the appreciative, yet not total creeper glance and if she's receptive, say hi. If she gives you the "get the hell out of my way" look, don't even bother. Most days it just depends on our moods :)
  • love4fitnesslove4food_wechange
    love4fitnesslove4food_wechange Posts: 6,897 Member
    I've been hit on at the gym--I don't mind. flattery is always welcome. Douchiness is not. There's a difference. Be subtle, not clingy or weird. If she seems to be into you (making eye contact), reciprocating conversation, then ask if she'd like to grab coffee BEFORE the gym one day--if she shrugs you off or make an excuse not to then leave it alone--avoid future eye contact or you'll look like a creep.
  • JennW130
    JennW130 Posts: 460 Member
    When you're at the gym, you almost tend to be at your worst: all sweaty and exhausted. If someone is checking you out and trying to chat you up in that state, it is extremely flattering. My say is, any place any time. Go for it!
    yeah, you never know when your going to meet that Mr/Ms Right. I just wouldn't be interrupting anyone during a hardcore workout. Wait till they're done
  • blueandigo
    blueandigo Posts: 296
    The gym is not a place that I want to talk to ANYONE. I almost go out of my way to avoid eye contact with people. It may seem rude, but I don't want to think about anything other than the task at hand.
    This but then again I go everyday and I have a lot of friends who work in the gym so I seem like a friendly person lol.

    Most people approach me outside the gym instead of inside.
  • ahealthy4u
    ahealthy4u Posts: 442 Member
    When I'm at the gym, I seriously expect to be left the F alone.
    Unless it looks like I'm about to kill myself and I don't have a spotter, or you need a quick spot, you probably want to just keep doing your thing and let me do mine.

    I agree with the above comment but when I go to the gym or have in the past I feel like everyone is staring at me even though I know they are not. So to be honest I just rather be left a lone unless I ask for help or am in serious trouble. Not saying if I was single and some guy hit on me great
  • maryloo2011
    maryloo2011 Posts: 446
    The gym is my second home, so I'm there often. I see a lot of the same people when I go, mainly bc I go around the same time each day........

    .....However, I have made quite a few male acquaintances and when I see them we make small talk, etc.. So no, I don't think the gym is the wisest place to pick up in ladies. If you want to make friends, go for it!


    I ditto these statements. I would be flattered to be hit on but only if you've at least smiled or made previous friendly contact.

    Overall it's really interesting to read these responses. Because I see the same people at the same time on the same days, I personally think it's weird NOT to at least nod or throw a smile/"hey". I started not wearing my earbuds while lifting and have made a few friends int he weight room and it's been awesome. Three are guys, one girl. One of the guys helps me with form, which I welcome and appreciate.

    But that's just me - I'm friendly by nature :)
  • KareninCanada
    KareninCanada Posts: 962 Member
    I guess you'd want to be careful.... I'm not sure how many women at the gym are like me and leave their wedding rings home because deadlifting with rings on pinches horribly and I don't want to scratch them up completely. So you might not want to jump in too fast asking for coffee dates.

    But as for just casual talking? Sure - I've been there enough times now that I sort of recognize the regulars and we exchange the occasional "hey"... and if I was doing something really really wrong I would hope one of them would speak up.
  • _Bob_
    _Bob_ Posts: 1,487 Member
    I talk to people at the gym all the time. but it's always in a friendly non threatening way, I don't like gym creepers. I guess back in the day I did go on a couple dates with girls I met at the gym. I would make innocent comments or just random compliments that cannot be taken as creepy and then they would come talk to me after whatever workout they were doing. I made a lot of gym friends and some that I starting hanging out after.
  • tmarie2715
    tmarie2715 Posts: 1,111 Member
    So maybe I'm weird. I have never tried talking to someone in the gym. maybe its cause it's the last place I think I look decent. Or it's just outa my comfort zone. But I have never tried taking to a female in the gym.

    I mean even when we make that weird eye contact a few times I'm like meh. Shrug it off and continue. Guess having more gym friends would be cool buutt I think the gym is pretty much "creep only when your feeling extra douchy" zone.... But maybe I'm wrong

    Opinions experiences?

    I would like it if someone cute asked me out from my gym. Starting as friends is a good way to go about it, if you see someone several times that you find intriguing.
  • ShadowSoldier23
    ShadowSoldier23 Posts: 321 Member
    When I'm at the gym, I seriously expect to be left the F alone.
    Unless it looks like I'm about to kill myself and I don't have a spotter, or you need a quick spot, you probably want to just keep doing your thing and let me do mine.

    I'm with this guy. Except for the spotter part...i'm sooo not that advanced. lol. Seriously though I don't want to be noticed, I just want to get my stuff done and go home.

    ETA: I do talk to some of the older (like elderly pretty much) people that need help with their equipment but that's it.
  • HealthyHappy120
    HealthyHappy120 Posts: 262
    I don't think girls are in the mood to be flirty.. we are sweating like pigs and don't feel pretty. But hey it WOULD be a cool place to meet someone. Idk. And if its a bad 'impression' its just gonna be so awkward from then on.. try it when shes leaving and has cooled down
  • tataliciousd89
    tataliciousd89 Posts: 465
    The only people I talk to at the gym are the people I already know.... or random ladies in the locker room who like to make small talk the second the headphones come out of my ears. I walk in with music playing and walk out with it playing, it only goes off long enough to strip down and suit back up. I guess I'm kinda antisocial, but I don't burn as much when I'm without music.
  • wisebadger53
    wisebadger53 Posts: 382 Member
    I take the initiative and introduce myself to other members - male or female - after we have done the obligatory weeks of nodding, waving, hi - how are you? kind of stuff. I often find that the only reason they don't approach me first is because they are too shy to do it. I now have a group of gym friends that help me stay accountable, and we all notice if one of us misses several days in a row because we are all there to support each other. Just like my MFP friends!
  • VLaaber
    VLaaber Posts: 30
    I got to the gym quite often with a gf ans shes the one creeping on guys, generally I have head phones in and I am in the zone. Only time I talk to someone is if I need advice with weight lifting or if I'm doing a group exercise program.
  • Changing__Christina
    Changing__Christina Posts: 245 Member
    I have my fair share of "eye candy" at the gym, but would not hit on anyone. Its a bit creepy!!! I just think most people are uninterested in being bothered. I'm always friendly and social, but I'm like that everywhere I go!
  • dinosnopro
    dinosnopro Posts: 2,177 Member
    just ask her to marry you, worst case.... she says no.
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