Girls. . we need guidance. .

Id like to help you out with an answer but my husband does none of those things. He doesn't even make his own dentist appointments.

My husband doesn't get me flowers (as much as I'd like) or light candles for me...but he's amazing and I tell him often. Maybe you just haven't found the right girl?

I didn't know flowers still existed.

OMG, we are pathetic...

I personally have never been the lovey dovey person. If I care for you, if I let you sleep at my place, if I call you my woman, if I work hard to provide for you, if I take care of YOUR kids and try to become a good male figure in their lives, thats my way of saying I love you.

Also, while we at it, please, do not think I'm afraid of commitment or responsibility. I'm a responsible person and that is exactly why I dont jump into labeling the relationship or having kids. I have to think of the future as a man. How am I going to feed the kids? What kind of a parent would I be? How can I bring this child in this F'd up world? Can I handle the responsibility of having a daughter who might endup having big time daddy issues? Would my son make the same mistakes as I did when I was a kid? These questions drive me crazy and THATS my reason to not want kids.

Edit: yes I know my post didnt made alot of sense. Just try to understand that we are trying our best for the family and sometimes that might keep us from being the romantic person

I actually don't like getting cut flowers. lol. I've told my husband this - so he gets me chocolates or potted flowers instead. We go out to dinner a lot, he takes our son to spend time with so that I can have time to myself. He helps me cook dinner often and always does the dishes afterwards. He works his *kitten* off every day and sometimes even into the night doing what I would consider a very demanding job so that I don't have to. He gives me money every week, just to spend on myself. He tells me I'm beautiful every day, among other wonderful things that I never get tired of hearing. He's more than generous in all aspects of our relationship. He's just all around amazing and everything I could ever want in a partner. :happy: I definitely try my best to show my appreciation for him every day and to give what I get back to him. I'm a very lucky woman.

If your partner can't recognize the things you do for him / her to show your love, there's a problem somewhere! I think it's important those affections and actions go both ways.

Pretty much how mine is and how I feel.:)

You should def try and find someone who appreciates you... And if after 10 years of being with that person, they still give you butterflies, you've got a winner. I say 10 years because that's how long we've been together, hope that one day I can say 20/30/50..... Good luck to you.

We want you . . constantly.. . .but you don't.. (not constantly).. .we try candles (lame) we try dinner (oh. . . he's just hoping to get lucky). . we try flowers (he knows he screwed up). . we try cleaning the house! . . . ok. . .we don't do that very often. . but the point is. . we try! and mostly. it's to make you love us. . not just to make you scr*w us. . . we like you ..and we want you to like us too. . why do you find it so hard to hook us up with some appreciation. ... an acknowledgement and a hug will do. We work hard for you...

I think you should work on cleaning the house more

not all women think you are just trying to sc**w them when you are romantic, maybe you are trying to impress the wrong girls. Most women that I know like their men to try and show some romance in whatever way they want - but it is also wise to listen to the woman to find out the right thing they would like

i just spent $100+ on lingerie and bought chocolates for my bf ^_^ last time i went to his house, i hid cookies for him to find

i also bought a bunch of foods i think he will like and spent the day practicing how to make various meals for him (since I only use a rice cooker to make food with, I have to practice to make sure things come out right ex today i practiced making a tuna melt, egg salad sandwich, bacon/eggs/toast and i have sauerkraut and sausage/thai green curry soup and peanut chicken satay to try out next time).

anyway, we've only been dating around one month so far, but our first date he gave me a box of chocolates, and our last date he gave me a box of chocolates (although i forgot it...) and took me to hot springs and a lot of fun places such as the beach, sushi, petting zoo etc. he texts me really sweet msgs throughout the day, and i try and reciprocate.

my bf is sweet, and i try and be sweet back. i think u just have to find the right person...or maybe practice pleasing a woman more during sex~that way she'll be happy if you want to have sex.

Good luck!

We want you . . constantly.. . .but you don't.. (not constantly).. .we try candles (lame) we try dinner (oh. . . he's just hoping to get lucky). . we try flowers (he knows he screwed up). . we try cleaning the house! . . . ok. . .we don't do that very often. . but the point is. . we try! and mostly. it's to make you love us. . not just to make you scr*w us. . . we like you ..and we want you to like us too. . why do you find it so hard to hook us up with some appreciation. ... an acknowledgement and a hug will do. We work hard for you...

First of all, speaking to women as a collective unit makes me bristle. If your partner is not appreciative of you, that is a relationship problem. Don't blame women for that!

Lots of women like sex.

Well your significant other is lucky, but I agree that all women are not unappreciative, just as all men don't work hard like you do. The most my husband ever does is unload the dishwasher maybe once a month. Trust me, I notice it, and he gets a half dozen thank yous with some kisses. If he -really- tried, that'd be a different story...

ha!

I have a great, wonderful husband. But, there have been times when i didn't show him or tell him I appreciated him enough (and vice versa.) I think that you have to be happy with yourself in order to tell someone else that they make you happy. Some people just aren't very considerate people. Sometimes it takes you asking, "Did you like the flowers/candles/massage?" "Is there something I could do for you to really show you how much I Love/Like/Care about/ Appreciate you?" That statement alone will let her know that you care about her and that you're trying. What also works is telling the other person what you like and opening a dialogue for them to tell you what matters to them in terms of showing you care. Sometimes it's an action (cleaning the house, washing her car, picking up the kids), sometimes it's a material object (flowers, a new kitchen gadget, etc.) But in the end, if nothing you're doing is getting her attention or making her happy, you may not be the issue. Maybe try NOT doing anything for her and then seeing if she notices? I have taken my wonderful husband for granted several times before and when he stops doing nice things for me, I notice and remember to stop being so self-centered and to participate in the relationship.

I didn't know flowers still existed.

lol!