worst comment ever made about your weight

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  • carrieo888
    carrieo888 Posts: 233 Member
    When I first started on my weightloss journey, I began by walking the neighborhood. I only had a pair of baggy sweat pants and a mens sweatshirt to "work out" in, but I wasn't self-conscious at first. Then a carful of idiots drove by and moo-ed at me. I flipped them off and yelled, "I can quit being fat, but you'll be ugly forever!" Still, it took me a while to get over that. Buying some cute workout gear helped :-D
  • LondonEliza
    LondonEliza Posts: 456 Member

    I always thought parents had to be mature! :ohwell:

    Nope, you have to have a licence to have a TV but any bad-mouthed, mean-minded, tactless, brainless idiot can make themselves a parent. Ain't life grand?
  • alortega730
    alortega730 Posts: 56 Member
    my mother is very heavy and one day at a baby shower and cousin asked my dad where my mother was and my dad pointed to me and said "look she is right here" and laughed
  • MarilynGrube
    MarilynGrube Posts: 75 Member
    When I was in 7th grade some kid thought it would be really funny to call me Slim Fast...and I wasn't even over weight! But the one thing that has me upset to this day was an incident with my Grandfather. I went home to Puerto Rico last summer, the first time in 11 years and when I saw my Grandpa he was looking at me so strangely. I could feel it coming! I was sitting at the table talking about my plans for the day and how happy and excited I was to be there when he came out and told me "Mari, you're fat!". I sat there feeling like I had been punched in the gut. Trying to keep a smile, but you could read it all over my face that I was holding back my tears. I just stood up and went to my room and cried into my Husbands shoulder. He didn't know what to do. It ruined my trip. To make matters worse I had worked my butt off to lose 25 lbs before that trip. I was devastated.
  • Jenncoc86
    Jenncoc86 Posts: 203 Member
    mines to graphic, but it still hurts no matter who says it or why.
  • jennifermcornett
    jennifermcornett Posts: 159 Member
    I have one that's a comment and one that's just action and maybe not even about weight, but whatever.
    First, one of my students asked me for two weeks straight everyday if I was pregnant (I had lost 51 pounds but then put back on 12 pretty slowly). I refused to answer him, and then one day, as he walked into my classroom, he poked my stomach (literally touched it) and said, "Getting pretty chunky, huh?" I talked to his father, and that kid's a** probably still hurts. He is a 14-year-old, and that age is all about pushing boundaries just to test them.
    **ETA: It was actually really difficult to tell the kid's father what had happened, because it was so embarrassing to say out loud... Also, this happened just a couple of months ago. It was the moment when I realized that the "slowly creeping weight" had crept to a place where it was noticeable. That was probably what devastated me most.

    The other thing just happened this weekend. My boyfriend took me to a casino and spa for the weekend for my birthday. We were at a club inside the casino where all the local 20-somethings go. My boyfriend had gone to get us drinks, so I was standing alone, trying to blend in, and a guy kept looking at me. I tried to just ignore him, but I saw him look at me a few times, turn to his friend and say something, and then the friend looked at me for a second and shook his head at the first guy, like, "Nope, she's gross." Well, I don't know what he was ACTUALLY implying with his head shake, but it made me feel gross and appalling. The facts are that I have gained weight and feel disgusting and have yet to really turn on the weight loss efforts, and I was out celebrating my 29th birthday among 21-year-olds, so I felt old. :(
  • Mama_CAEI
    Mama_CAEI Posts: 235
    The summer before I started high school, my dad suggested that maybe I should lose 10 or 15 pounds. You know, so the boys would think I'm pretty. AS IF a parent puts pressure on a 14 year old girl to please boys?! :explode: Society and the media do it enough!!!! I have 3 daughters and there is no way in hell I'm going to expect them to look a certain way to please boys. :grumble:
  • tdj819
    tdj819 Posts: 41
    Hey you would be great on The Biggest Loser.

    WOW! THAT MUST HAVE BEEN MY SISTER!
  • mfpcopine
    mfpcopine Posts: 3,093 Member
    Many of the comments directed towards women are sexist. They are about men feeling they have the right to put women in their place.

    Yes, men are made fun of too, but not nearly to the same degree, and it's usually not women doing the mocking.


    All women should be feminists, because feminists believe that every woman, every person actually, male or female, has a right to dignity.
  • ashreynolds09
    ashreynolds09 Posts: 257 Member
    Well as a teenager -- I honestly never thought I was HUGE, always had things I wanted to improve on in my body but was a healthy weight. My grandma and grandpa would have us kids come spend the night at their house and they'd sit me down for a serious talk about why I need to start losing my weight now. The way I looked was unhealthy and unacceptable in our society. After years of my grandmother obsessing over my weight (mind you both of them are overweight themselves) I have finally allowed myself to not let their words get to me. I have lost 35 pounds since my weight loss journey began, they haven't said one congrats...instead tell me how it could be more if I would just drop this habit or that....eh whatever.

    The one that REALLY bothered was just said this last Sunday at our family Easter. My brother in law was complaining about how much weight he had gained since moving back home from college -- said he's up to 190 now. I said "Sweet!! you're heavier than me now! That's awesome" He FREAKED out. Said, "Oh my gosh, I'm heavier than YOU at 190?! What the hell? I better stop eating now." Then he looked over at my husband and says, "SERIOUSLY?! She weighs less than me. I Don't believe this at all!" Ugh....men.
  • Shelbert79
    Shelbert79 Posts: 510 Member
    I don't think anyone really understands how things are taken...my dad used to pinch my tummy and say "what's that?":grumble: I was 127lbs at 5'6" until I was in my 20's and I have NEVER felt skinny or even really attractive. Now being 185 and working to get healthy and fit, I'm afraid that I'll never believe in myself and be confident in how I look. But I'm going to keep at it, no giving up and feeling sorry for myself because I KNOW I CAN DO IT! :wink:
  • Tiffaney82690
    Tiffaney82690 Posts: 99
    I've heard the stupid "she'll eat the buffet" and "fat *kitten*" and "lose weight, feel great" was the famous line of my elementary school bully but the ones that hurt the most have been from children sometimes I feel embarrassed that I care but children are the toughest critics they say what they see and what they think my little cousin told me I wasn't allowed on the trampoline because I'd break it and another time he just looked at me and said I hope you know you're huge...
  • lollypop_ginger
    lollypop_ginger Posts: 69 Member
    I have always been over weight and through school I was bullied constantly about it (sometimes even by girls that were bigger than me!) but I think the worst comment ever made about my weight was last year, I was at the beach for the first time with my boyfriend. I thought I looked nice in a summer dress, little shrug and sandals but a guy and his friends walking past us obviously didn't think so. I can't remember what their exact comments were but it involved me being called a beached whale and them saying that putting clothes on animals is animal cruelty- I cried all the way home! :-/
  • hendongirl
    hendongirl Posts: 156 Member
    hmmm.... been picked on and called names all my life... stuff like the Blob, Little Fat Girl, etc etc... you get the picture...
    have also had kids say "I like her (my friend) better because you're so fat."
    I guess things that hurt the most aren't necessarily words... its the times when people look at you and then smirk, or tell their friends to look, and then they all laugh and comment amongst themselves...
  • slyder432
    slyder432 Posts: 475 Member
    bump
  • Nikkei24
    Nikkei24 Posts: 282 Member
    I went to a resturant once with my mom and my sister. My mom placed her order than I put mine in and my sister ordered a salad. The waiter said to her "are you sure that'll be enough?" I was like excuse me! Yes it is more than enough go put the ********* order in *$$***. I was so0o mad. To this day I can believe someone would have so much nerve. Let alone some ugly old guy. My sister didn't say anything but it hurt me deply and it wasn't even me he said it to.
  • ampa916
    ampa916 Posts: 189 Member
    I think the worse thing ever said about my weight was someone in 10th grade asked me if I was pregnant, I almost cried in class. I've had others like my dad saying I could stand to lose a few lbs once when we were all supposed to go to dinner but I had to stay late at work and they just went without me, I was pretty upset and then he laid that one on me.Another one was my husband pointing out a girl at the mall whose belly was showing under her very tight shirt, he said "She must weigh over 200lbs!" He didn't know that I weighed 230lbs =(
  • brandillyn
    brandillyn Posts: 105 Member
    When I was 13 getting on the bus to go to school, I was the last person to get on and the bus driver shut the door before I could step on the bus and told me to get another ride to school because if I got on, the bus would be over the "weight limit", then he chuckled and drove away.

    My mom and my mother-in law a few weeks before I got married. They made me try on my wedding dress because "it's too pretty to go on a fat person." And I had to have an extension put in and my mother just kept telling me that when she got married she didn't have an extension and so I shouldn't get married till I can "actually look pretty".

    But Holes.
  • ldukes52487
    ldukes52487 Posts: 12 Member
    A boy I was seeing for a total of 2 weeks said he wanted to ask me an important question.

    Me: YES?!

    Him: What would it take to get you to lose weight? Because I think you're attractive but I can see how you could be more attractive.

    Me: I can't believe you just asked me that.

    Him: I thought it was the elephant in the room and should be addressed.

    I surprisingly didn't cry and b**ched him out for about 5 minutes. He then proceeded to try to get me to kiss him. Which I didn't.

    This entire interaction happened in a hot tub, while i was in a bathing suit. I couldn't just get up and walk away for fear of falling on my face, since I had no glasses on, and I'm practically blind without them.

    The next day he slipped while getting out of the tub and split his lip open. This exchange is why I will always believe in karma.

    Maybe not the worst thing said to me, but the one that's stayed with me the longest. That day changed me mentally and made me a better person. It's been 4 years since that happened. But I made this decision for me, not for anyone else. And that's why I will keep going.
  • catelabow
    catelabow Posts: 77 Member
    Several years ago, I worked at a non-profit that operated a food pantry a few days a week. One "gentleman" who had come by and was pressuring me to open the pantry for him outside of the operational hours told me, "It doesn't look like _you've_ ever missed a meal."
    I guess he thought that was going to make me change my mind???
  • bella_babe_86
    bella_babe_86 Posts: 503 Member
    Mine arent that bad, but they still got to me. For starters when I was in highschool I was fit and active but still curvy but my mom always hounded me about losing a few extra pounds, she would drag me to the gym everyday even after dance and tennis practice. As I got older I got bigger and bigger though and one night my little sister(who has always been tiny) asked if we watched The Biggest Loser and when I said no she said "why because it makes you jealous that they are losing weight and you aren't?".

    Also a few days after I had my son my mom came to stay with us to help out. One day while changing she walked in on me and said, "Oh my God Ash you're gonna have to do so many crunches to get rid of that belly!" I had JUST given birth and my body was nowhere near back to normal AND I was an emotional wreck! Thanks MOM!!! Just a sidenote, by my 6 week checkup I had lost nearly 40lbs and only gained 10 during my pregnancy..put that in your pipe and smoke it mom!
  • ttaylor68913
    ttaylor68913 Posts: 320 Member
    I have always been big and there have been so many things that people have said or done that has about my weight.
    I NEVER heard the end of it from my stepfather. It was always "You're fat. You're ugly." I was around 9 at the time and it still continues today at 29. But some of the worst things was when he would lock me out of the house and make me run up and down the street in front of our house and around our block over and over again. Sometimes around our house and do countless sit ups and push ups and wrestle with my sisters and "I should win because I am so much bigger than them!" I was so embaressed to be seen and that continues today. I feel like I am never gonna be able to feel better about myself and I know that if he had just went about it differently then maybe I wouldnt look and feel this way now.:cry:


    lord this made me want to punch the D-bag in the neck! :(
  • creech6317
    creech6317 Posts: 869 Member
    I had been working on my weight, working out and watching what I ate. Really trying to get into a "normal" size. (When I was a teen, I was between a size 16/18) My mother saw what I was doing and told me it didn't matter what I tried to do, I would always be fat. Well I'm now in a size 8/10 and not done yet, so Neener-Neener.
  • DalexD
    DalexD Posts: 236 Member
    I was never actually fat in school, I just developed quickly. But everyone called me fat, and since my name's Dale, I was called Dale the Whale for five years. Other things like "who ate all the pies, the burgers and the fries", "oi fatty boom boom, want another cream cake?" I went to school with horrible people...
  • mdsjmom98
    mdsjmom98 Posts: 333 Member
    :sad: I had a kid moment also. My nephew was about 4, and blurts out "Aunt Sheri, why do you wear fat pants?" I was actually at an ok weight, maybe 170? Can't imagine what they'd think of me now.
  • Acliff510
    Acliff510 Posts: 122 Member
    I hope you start feeling better soon, Zara. I know what you mean about not feeling better, though. It's ingrained in our heads now. Fat. Ugly. Not good enough by society's standards. Like just because we have extra weight, we're not worth the same amount of consideration as normal weight people. It's sad.

    I always worry my husband finds me fat. We've been through a lot together, lots of good and bad, and sometimes I just worry he's in it because of the kids. I don't think he adores my body the way I'd like. And he makes comment about overweight women ALL the time without realizing how much it hurts me when I'm right beside him and I'm overweight too. :<

    I relate to this post so much! My husband says he loves me but doesn't show it or act like it. So I feel like I must unattractive through his eyes. & like you, he makes comments about over weight women on television and things like that ...
  • MisterTEZ
    MisterTEZ Posts: 272 Member
    I was talking to my friends daughter (about 100 pounds overweight) in a shopping aisle in the local supermarket when two female stick insects came down the aisle.
    One said to the other loud enough for my friends daughter to hear

    shouldn't allow fat people like her in this store all they do is block the aisle"

    I said "thats rude!" my freinds daughter said don't worry about it I get it all the time. if they only knew what a wonderful person she is.
  • michelle850
    michelle850 Posts: 65 Member
    Years ago I worked at a bank and had put on weight, I had a long time customer say "congratulations!!" when I smiled and asked what for, he looked at my stomach. I tried to laugh it off and say it was just my dress, not an actual baby making me look so fat. He felt awful, and I was sooo embarrassed. I did start excercising after that!
  • tinaisme
    tinaisme Posts: 4 Member
    The worst for me was bout three months ago, I was at work thing for my husband and one of his coworks said " You didn't tell us she was pregnant again!! And so far along." I just wanted to run and hide. instead I said no not pregant just fat. But I have not gone out with him and his friends since
  • sdrichardson713
    sdrichardson713 Posts: 16 Member
    My daughter asked me if I'd always been like "that". I asked what she meant and she started crying. She said her friends at school made a comment about her mommy being fat. That destroyed me. And today I've been told that I shouldn't be allowed to be a nurse because of my weight. Clearly, I'm not healthy, so I have no right trying to tell others how to be healthy.

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