worst comment ever made about your weight

I always thought parents had to be mature! :ohwell:

Nope, you have to have a licence to have a TV but any bad-mouthed, mean-minded, tactless, brainless idiot can make themselves a parent. Ain't life grand?

When I was in 7th grade some kid thought it would be really funny to call me Slim Fast...and I wasn't even over weight! But the one thing that has me upset to this day was an incident with my Grandfather. I went home to Puerto Rico last summer, the first time in 11 years and when I saw my Grandpa he was looking at me so strangely. I could feel it coming! I was sitting at the table talking about my plans for the day and how happy and excited I was to be there when he came out and told me "Mari, you're fat!". I sat there feeling like I had been punched in the gut. Trying to keep a smile, but you could read it all over my face that I was holding back my tears. I just stood up and went to my room and cried into my Husbands shoulder. He didn't know what to do. It ruined my trip. To make matters worse I had worked my butt off to lose 25 lbs before that trip. I was devastated.

I have one that's a comment and one that's just action and maybe not even about weight, but whatever.
First, one of my students asked me for two weeks straight everyday if I was pregnant (I had lost 51 pounds but then put back on 12 pretty slowly). I refused to answer him, and then one day, as he walked into my classroom, he poked my stomach (literally touched it) and said, "Getting pretty chunky, huh?" I talked to his father, and that kid's a** probably still hurts. He is a 14-year-old, and that age is all about pushing boundaries just to test them.
**ETA: It was actually really difficult to tell the kid's father what had happened, because it was so embarrassing to say out loud... Also, this happened just a couple of months ago. It was the moment when I realized that the "slowly creeping weight" had crept to a place where it was noticeable. That was probably what devastated me most.

The other thing just happened this weekend. My boyfriend took me to a casino and spa for the weekend for my birthday. We were at a club inside the casino where all the local 20-somethings go. My boyfriend had gone to get us drinks, so I was standing alone, trying to blend in, and a guy kept looking at me. I tried to just ignore him, but I saw him look at me a few times, turn to his friend and say something, and then the friend looked at me for a second and shook his head at the first guy, like, "Nope, she's gross." Well, I don't know what he was ACTUALLY implying with his head shake, but it made me feel gross and appalling. The facts are that I have gained weight and feel disgusting and have yet to really turn on the weight loss efforts, and I was out celebrating my 29th birthday among 21-year-olds, so I felt old.

Hey you would be great on The Biggest Loser.

WOW! THAT MUST HAVE BEEN MY SISTER!

Well as a teenager -- I honestly never thought I was HUGE, always had things I wanted to improve on in my body but was a healthy weight. My grandma and grandpa would have us kids come spend the night at their house and they'd sit me down for a serious talk about why I need to start losing my weight now. The way I looked was unhealthy and unacceptable in our society. After years of my grandmother obsessing over my weight (mind you both of them are overweight themselves) I have finally allowed myself to not let their words get to me. I have lost 35 pounds since my weight loss journey began, they haven't said one congrats...instead tell me how it could be more if I would just drop this habit or that....eh whatever.

The one that REALLY bothered was just said this last Sunday at our family Easter. My brother in law was complaining about how much weight he had gained since moving back home from college -- said he's up to 190 now. I said "Sweet!! you're heavier than me now! That's awesome" He FREAKED out. Said, "Oh my gosh, I'm heavier than YOU at 190?! What the hell? I better stop eating now." Then he looked over at my husband and says, "SERIOUSLY?! She weighs less than me. I Don't believe this at all!" Ugh....men.

I've heard the stupid "she'll eat the buffet" and "fat *kitten*" and "lose weight, feel great" was the famous line of my elementary school bully but the ones that hurt the most have been from children sometimes I feel embarrassed that I care but children are the toughest critics they say what they see and what they think my little cousin told me I wasn't allowed on the trampoline because I'd break it and another time he just looked at me and said I hope you know you're huge...

hmmm.... been picked on and called names all my life... stuff like the Blob, Little Fat Girl, etc etc... you get the picture...
have also had kids say "I like her (my friend) better because you're so fat."
I guess things that hurt the most aren't necessarily words... its the times when people look at you and then smirk, or tell their friends to look, and then they all laugh and comment amongst themselves...

I went to a resturant once with my mom and my sister. My mom placed her order than I put mine in and my sister ordered a salad. The waiter said to her "are you sure that'll be enough?" I was like excuse me! Yes it is more than enough go put the ********* order in *$$***. I was so0o mad. To this day I can believe someone would have so much nerve. Let alone some ugly old guy. My sister didn't say anything but it hurt me deply and it wasn't even me he said it to.

When I was 13 getting on the bus to go to school, I was the last person to get on and the bus driver shut the door before I could step on the bus and told me to get another ride to school because if I got on, the bus would be over the "weight limit", then he chuckled and drove away.

My mom and my mother-in law a few weeks before I got married. They made me try on my wedding dress because "it's too pretty to go on a fat person." And I had to have an extension put in and my mother just kept telling me that when she got married she didn't have an extension and so I shouldn't get married till I can "actually look pretty".

But Holes.

Several years ago, I worked at a non-profit that operated a food pantry a few days a week. One "gentleman" who had come by and was pressuring me to open the pantry for him outside of the operational hours told me, "It doesn't look like _you've_ ever missed a meal."
I guess he thought that was going to make me change my mind???

I have always been big and there have been so many things that people have said or done that has about my weight.
I NEVER heard the end of it from my stepfather. It was always "You're fat. You're ugly." I was around 9 at the time and it still continues today at 29. But some of the worst things was when he would lock me out of the house and make me run up and down the street in front of our house and around our block over and over again. Sometimes around our house and do countless sit ups and push ups and wrestle with my sisters and "I should win because I am so much bigger than them!" I was so embaressed to be seen and that continues today. I feel like I am never gonna be able to feel better about myself and I know that if he had just went about it differently then maybe I wouldnt look and feel this way now.

lord this made me want to punch the D-bag in the neck!

I was never actually fat in school, I just developed quickly. But everyone called me fat, and since my name's Dale, I was called Dale the Whale for five years. Other things like "who ate all the pies, the burgers and the fries", "oi fatty boom boom, want another cream cake?" I went to school with horrible people...

I hope you start feeling better soon, Zara. I know what you mean about not feeling better, though. It's ingrained in our heads now. Fat. Ugly. Not good enough by society's standards. Like just because we have extra weight, we're not worth the same amount of consideration as normal weight people. It's sad.

I always worry my husband finds me fat. We've been through a lot together, lots of good and bad, and sometimes I just worry he's in it because of the kids. I don't think he adores my body the way I'd like. And he makes comment about overweight women ALL the time without realizing how much it hurts me when I'm right beside him and I'm overweight too. :<

I relate to this post so much! My husband says he loves me but doesn't show it or act like it. So I feel like I must unattractive through his eyes. & like you, he makes comments about over weight women on television and things like that ...

Years ago I worked at a bank and had put on weight, I had a long time customer say "congratulations!!" when I smiled and asked what for, he looked at my stomach. I tried to laugh it off and say it was just my dress, not an actual baby making me look so fat. He felt awful, and I was sooo embarrassed. I did start excercising after that!

My daughter asked me if I'd always been like "that". I asked what she meant and she started crying. She said her friends at school made a comment about her mommy being fat. That destroyed me. And today I've been told that I shouldn't be allowed to be a nurse because of my weight. Clearly, I'm not healthy, so I have no right trying to tell others how to be healthy.