worst comment ever made about your weight

This wasn't one said to me; it was said to my obese aunt (she needs to lose over 250 pounds to hit her ideal weight). She recently went to church for the first time in years, which I was glad to see happen. Unfortunately, while she was there, one of the regular members said to her "You realize it's a sin to eat so much, don't you?" I doubt she'll be back again anytime soon.

I can't remember the exact age I was, about 9 or 10 I think. An ad came on TV for an ice-cream called "fat frog" and my really skinny brother and sister used to dance around singing it at me. Yes I was a chubby kid but my Mother did nothing to stop them.

I would rain down the end of days on their heads if one of my kids did that to the other now.

I needed a doctor and help working out an healthy eating plan. When I asked for this help, I was told I would not be allowed to diet as I was "only 13". So I implemented my own solution: I starved myself and exercised like mad. One week I remember being really proud of myself because I only had an orange and a slice of dry toast for the week. That is how ill I was.

Anyhow over 2 pregnancies, I gained, gained, gained. Almost with the same obsession I had applied to losing in my teens and twenties.

Now I am 30*mumble*. A fully fledged "growed up" with 85lbs to lose. I have changed my attitude to food (eat healthy, eat enough) and exercise (pain and feeling faint is NOT good) I have forgiven my Mother for letting my siblings be mean to me, I have forgiven my parents for not letting me diet, I have forgiven myself for being such an 'all or nothing' idiot with regard to food and exercise.

So when my 7year old daughter turned around to me a few weeks ago and said "Mummy, you should exercise more" I didn't choke back tears. I didn't turn away from her. None of those "bad" reactions which once would have had happened. I replied "I am exercising more". I tell her about my exercise. She is proud of me for doing it. We are growing up together.

..... and now I have just told a load of people I don't know about it and LAUGHED at the memory of the Fat Frog song. Being sensible about food is changing me. I love it.

Always been a big girl as long as I can remember and have been bullied about it my whole life. Sadly though, the one that stays with me is from when I was 10 years old and I was talking to my grandmother on the phone.

"Grandma, I love you."

"I love you too... but I would love you more if you weren't so fat."

ouch

Wow...that one takes the cake.....

Sometimes (warning, generalization coming) us "elders' engage mouth before brain has fully processed what we are about to say. Result: hurtful comment to someone we love. Many of my older relatives were champions in this arena. Not an excuse for
grandma, just an observation.

My mother in law gave me a christmas present some years ago which was pyjamas - as I opened them in front of my boyfriend/husband-to-be she said "I got you a 14 - 16 because you haven't been a 10 - 12 for some time". I just looked at her with my chin on the floor and wanted to curl up and disappear!!

On another occassion my husband and I went to visit his aunt (my mother-in-law's sister) and she looked at us both as we walked in the door and said "oh my, when did you get so fat?" Again - world, please open up and swallow me whole!

You can definitely tell they are sisters!

Oh, and on a shopping trip with my own mother, I tried some clothes on and came out of the changing rooms and asked my mom what she thought - she replied - "the trousers look nice but I wouldn't buy the top it shows up your fat".....I replied "Thanks mom, this is my top, I've been wearing it all day!"

You can't choose your family!!

Always been a big girl as long as I can remember and have been bullied about it my whole life. Sadly though, the one that stays with me is from when I was 10 years old and I was talking to my grandmother on the phone.

"Grandma, I love you."

"I love you too... but I would love you more if you weren't so fat."

omg!

I don't remember anything ever being said to me, except for my brother who is fat too so i pretty much ignored him. I was just excluded from things. It was easier for people to pretend i didn't exists than to take time to make fun of me. I didn't even get invited to the SR party by my classmates:grumble: :grumble:

I don't have any specific comments, but every time someone mentioned anything that had to do with being big or gross, I was referred to. Like, "You don't want to look gross like nikki do you?"

Hey wait a minute I'm not fat and gross. (my name is Nikki)

But my sister is a bit heavier than me and when i was kid/in middle and highschool I was much thinner than her and they would say you don't want to get fat like So and so do you. Who says that? Putting two people down at once not cool.

Oh so many moments to painfully remind me of my weight... The old "are you pregnant" line, my mother inlaw telling me to stop eating or I'll become a cow (she's not a favourite person in my life-thankfully we moved), endless run ins with people I have not seen in a while and they actually mention the gain. I have now surrounded myself with positive people in my life to help me reach my goal and not offend me. My emotional eating days will slowly disappear one day.

You all rock! Turn your life around for you.

Wife to me: "Could you stand over here?.... the sun is in my eyes."

A man at work said my *kitten* was really large.

So many of these horrible comments come from family - it's no wonder so many of us did not develop healthy relationships with food!!

From the time i was just bigger than a toddler my father used to point out overweight people and tell me that was what i would look like when i grew up. He always harassed me as a teenager saying i needed to lose weight. I was maybe a size 12 at the time. And i should mention that neither of my parents were particularly thin or fit and never taught their children about proper nutrition or fitness.

I recently reminded my father of how fat he used to think i was and how great it would be to be that size now (i'm more than 100 pounds heavier than that now!).

Another really nasty thing that happened to my sister, who is also quite large, was when my brother and his fiancee were planning to get married (before i put on this last 100 pounds), they asked me for my advice because they wanted to ask my sister to be in their wedding but were going to tell her she had to lose weight. I was outraged and told them they could shove their wedding. Either they loved our sister and wanted to include her in their day or they didn't. They never ended up getting married.

And finally, i now live in Singapore and find it is a common Chinese trait to speak very bluntly. I get told all the time how fat i am (thank goodness they told me or i would never have realized!!). But on the positive side of that same trait, all of the workers in my apartment building, the guards and cleaners, etc., are completely invested in my fitness journey and nearly stalk me in the gym to tell me how well i am doing and how great they think it is and how good i look and how they are inspired to start taking better care of themselves as well.

So some people are very mean and ignorant, but there is absolutely and happily a flip side to that coin!!

In high school I would model for some of the local bridal shops to help promote prom and what not. I was a size 3 at the time. I had gained some weight and moved up to a 5-6. The lady told me I was to fat to model. Plus I can kiss my modeling career goodbye because nobody like fat girls. Now I wish I would be a 5-6

Always been a big girl as long as I can remember and have been bullied about it my whole life. Sadly though, the one that stays with me is from when I was 10 years old and I was talking to my grandmother on the phone.

"Grandma, I love you."

"I love you too... but I would love you more if you weren't so fat."

Wow, she must be related to my mother-in-law. She constantly talks about my weight and gives me her old "fat" clothes or other people's "fat" clothes that she's gotten from people she knows. Just last year she swiped some clothes from some guy's ex-wife that had left clothes at his house. She brings them to me and says, "His ex-wife was fat, thought you could use some of her clothes." *Nice* Thanks right? Well I haven't seen her in 5 months and I've lost 37 pounds. Don't care to see her anyway, but hopefully I will be down even more when I do...lol But I'm losing weight for myself and not her, that's just a bonus. I'm sure she'll still have something nasty to say because that's how she is.

I have many but the one that sticks out in my head is when I was at my grandmother's funeral I had lost around 20 pounds up to that day. My uncle walked up to me and said "see I knew there was a pretty girl in there somewhere." The sad thing was he meant it as a compliment...

What amazing timing. I'm surprised you refrained from decking him. (But then, I suspect you're a pretty elegant person.)

Wow! You guys have had sum of the Boldest Rudest ppl alive say the Bluntest Evilest Things
...Ive had sly lil comments from family bc i was always small until I had my second child at like 20 but it was/is things like:

D**n, I thought U was yo sista (who is 400lbs btw)

Wow, u gotten "thick' ova the years..but its water weight most likely so u can lose that fast

Dem babies did a number on U *smile*

U gained alot weight since I last saw U but U got a shape so It dont matta

You young so U can lose it faster

what U weigh now..bout a duece-duece and a half?..( i was 205)

or my sistas joke and say:::

" U got 2 stomachs now..join the club (they both Bigger than me)