For the Parents - Anatomical Terminology
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Seriously, you don't see a difference between butt and penis? You think it would have been ok for him to say "gum on my wee-wee"?
Was the problem really the word he used, or the fact that he was singing about his penis?My 4 year old daughter sees me naked all the time but not her father. It's just natural for her and I but not with them & he is not comfortable with it either.
We use the proper terms in our house. My daughter got in trouble for saying "vagina" at daycare and was sent to a time out. I was furious and spoke to her teacher who then saw my point of view and apologized to my daughter. I don't want her calling it a "peepee" or something stupid like that. Vagina, Penis, etc, are not bad words and I don't want her to grow up thinking they are.
This happened to my little brother too, for saying penis. They were singing some song about having gum stuck to their butt--and they said butt--and other body parts. A penis is a body part so that was part of his song. So ridiculous that he got a time out--the teacher even spoke to my parents about it. Of course my stepmom's reply was 'What else is he supposed to call it?" :laugh:
It was the word. The song went "Gum in my hair, gum on my face, gum on my arm, gum on my leg, gum on my butt etc". He finished with 'gum on my penis.' I don't see why they can say butt and not penis. :huh:
Uh, no. Last time I checked they're both body parts. Penis = wee-wee. How is penis a bad word? 5-year-olds don't know that a penis is used for sex. To them it's just another body part and it's used to pee.0 -
woo-woo and winkers up in the boom boom palace!
however, both kids know the correct term. My whole family uses these terms. EVERYONE.
But I do not call my gyno and say "i need an appt to have my woo-woo examined".0 -
woo-woo and winkers up in the boom boom palace!
however, both kids know the correct term. My whole family uses these terms. EVERYONE.
But I do not call my gyno and say "i need an appt to have my woo-woo examined".
LOL I was just thinking about that. The gyno doesn't say "I'm going to feel your boobies for lumpy bits now." :laugh: Penis and vagina are not 'bad' words.0 -
woo-woo and winkers up in the boom boom palace!
however, both kids know the correct term. My whole family uses these terms. EVERYONE.
But I do not call my gyno and say "i need an appt to have my woo-woo examined".
LOL I was just thinking about that. The gyno doesn't say "I'm going to feel your boobies for lumpy bits now." :laugh: Penis and vagina are not 'bad' words.
or your "chi-chi's".0 -
We have used proper names and slang. I can't keep up with all the slang that kids and young adults use but I feel they need to know the slang terms. Many of the kids friends and acquaintances use slang for whatever reason. I think my kids should understand what is being said.
We have also had to cover cuss words, especially after my daughter called me a son of a biotch.0 -
I have a 2.5 year old. We use proper terms, and I can't think of a good reason why somebody wouldn't. I mean, I'm not about to call her arm a "nubby" or something, right? Vulva, vagina, penis, *kitten*, breasts, areola, nipples - these are what we use, because that is what they're called. No biggie.0
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I confess...I was one of "those" who worried about her kids seeing her naked.
HOWEVER....my son is 16 and my daughter is now 13.... not 2 and 6....nuff said I think.
And yeah, they would still come into my room in the middle of the night to tell me they were sick or needed something....and I wouldn't want to be found naked.
No, we do not use goofy terminology for our parts and pieces. They are what they are. We used to use alternative words for private parts when they were 3 and 6. Everything needs to be taken into perspective and age appropriate.
I think it's ok to use other words to describe body parts appropriate to the child's age. Trust me...they will let you know when they think your "alternative words" are no longer applicable.
Sigh...kids can be so cruel....0 -
Use the proper names. It saves the kid a lot of problems later. As for being nude - I wouldn't be naked in front of my kids, nor would I want my husband to, but I also don't think it's anything shameful if you want to do it. It's just my personal choice.0
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Use the proper names. It saves the kid a lot of problems later. As for being nude - I wouldn't be naked in front of my kids, nor would I want my husband to, but I also don't think it's anything shameful if you want to do it. It's just my personal choice.
just curious, what problems would this create?0 -
of course i use the correct terms. woo-woo, whisker biscuit, wookie, tallywhacker and tonker. :happy:
OMG, I can't stop laughing at this!
My kids (all boys) do see me naked. I've never made a big deal over it so they don't even seem phased by it. I don't parade around the house nude but its not usual for them to come in while I'm showering, and pull back the curtain to taddle on each other.
As for the names, I am guilty of teaching them the cutesy terms. I've always called their parts "pee-pees" but the oldest recently learned "wiener" from one of his school friends. :ohwell: So, I guess its time to introduce the proper names... since I CAN'T STAND the word 'wiener'.0 -
No issues with nudity....My 6 year old son (now 10) once came in and told me he had been wrestlig around with another kid at school and accidentally hurt his "cash and prizes"...I laughed for a week....0
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The "suggested" age for the parents to stop being naked around their kids is about your daughter age - especially the opposite sex parent. I am sorry but I think it is time to cover up! Plus she is 3 1/2 what is wrong with calling it by a nickname! There is plenty of time for kids to use the correct names. This is so wrong in so many ways. Sorry this is just my feeling about it.0
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I don't walk around naked, but I change in front of them and keep the bathroom door open when I shower. They walk in to say hi usually. I use penis and vagina, but MIL uses a Chinese slang word for penis and doesn't mention the vagina. My kids are 3.5 and 2. I will keep doing what I am doing until my kids show that they are uncomfortable or embarrassed.0
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I was born in Germany, and there are plenty of nude beaches there. I went with my dad and stepmom when I was 3. My stepmom had no problem being nude and neither did I, but my dad was kind of shy. He quickly realized I didn't care who was naked and was more concerned with being in the water. I'm not scarred for life after that and I have always been taught the proper word. I think when you portray nudity as something bad/dangerous/guilt-associated, your kids can have a tendency not to feel as comfortable with their bodies or with asking you questions about it. I think they should know what's going on or they'll hear the wrong thing from a friend.0
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Use the proper names. It saves the kid a lot of problems later. As for being nude - I wouldn't be naked in front of my kids, nor would I want my husband to, but I also don't think it's anything shameful if you want to do it. It's just my personal choice.
just curious, what problems would this create?
I just think it's confusing for kids, especially when you're learning the real body parts. Giving them a nickname to me implies that something is wrong with them and the real names are shameful. I wish my parents had just said the normal names instead of nicknames. I grew up scared of that kind of stuff - when my mom tried to give me the period talk, I ran away. If we'd had open conversations growing up it wouldn't have been like that.0 -
Vulva is the correct term....like when the girl is taking a bath she needs to wash her vulva...the vagina is actually inside the body and doesn't need washing....I thought ding dongs were a kind of donut?0
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One way of protecting kids from sexual abuse is by teaching them the correct scientific terminology...also the younger we teach them the easier it is..the kids have no baggage with any word...it's the adults that have a problem with all the words related to s...e....x...0
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Im one of the ones that said something about sleeping with my 3 year old still so I sleep clothed. But, my kids see me naked too. I nearly never shower or use the restroom alone. Someones always got to barge in and tattle. lol. Im only just getting more modest in front of my 6 year old boy and thats not for any reason other than I just felt I should.
I grew up in a 'we dont talk about any bodily functions or parts' household. I taught my kids to use proper terms though. A couple of years ago, my daughter got in trouble for telling on a little boy for kicking another boy in the penis. I got a note saying she needed to not use the word PENIS at school anymore as it might make other kids or parents uncomfortable. I made a phone call that day. *eyeroll*0 -
Yes vulva is correct for girls and penis for boys...the vagina is inside the body (and doesn't need cleaning in the bath...the vagina is where the penis goes in and the baby comes out (usually).0
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Not only does teaching the correct terminology for kids helps them to put the bad guy into jail..if they get touched innapropriately.... sexual predators stay away from kids who use the correct terminology.
The most important thing is to ALWAYS belive your kids if they report innapropriate touching...90%of sexual abuse is done by an adult that the child knows - 50% of the time at home, 30% of the time at school....ALWAYS belive them.0 -
Use the proper names. It saves the kid a lot of problems later. As for being nude - I wouldn't be naked in front of my kids, nor would I want my husband to, but I also don't think it's anything shameful if you want to do it. It's just my personal choice.
just curious, what problems would this create?
I just think it's confusing for kids, especially when you're learning the real body parts. Giving them a nickname to me implies that something is wrong with them and the real names are shameful. I wish my parents had just said the normal names instead of nicknames. I grew up scared of that kind of stuff - when my mom tried to give me the period talk, I ran away. If we'd had open conversations growing up it wouldn't have been like that.
got it.
my daughter talks to both of us about those things. to the point my husband gets a bit embarrased but he always answers her and never lets on that he is.
the kids seem to find the actual terms a bit goofy. but they do know what they are. once they were singing the words. aye dios mio. :huh:0 -
Im one of the ones that said something about sleeping with my 3 year old still so I sleep clothed. But, my kids see me naked too. I nearly never shower or use the restroom alone. Someones always got to barge in and tattle. lol. Im only just getting more modest in front of my 6 year old boy and thats not for any reason other than I just felt I should.
I grew up in a 'we dont talk about any bodily functions or parts' household. I taught my kids to use proper terms though. A couple of years ago, my daughter got in trouble for telling on a little boy for kicking another boy in the penis. I got a note saying she needed to not use the word PENIS at school anymore as it might make other kids or parents uncomfortable. I made a phone call that day. *eyeroll*
that just makes me so mad. how irritating. i wish i could have heard that phone call.
how about Hey Mrs whomever, Joey kicked Billy in the cahones! How would they like that one? Sheesh! Poor kid.0 -
Yes vulva is correct for girls and penis for boys...the vagina is inside the body (and doesn't need cleaning in the bath...the vagina is where the penis goes in and the baby comes out (usually).
You said that...and while I admit completely forgetting about the word vulva, I don't know about anyone else, but I do know what a vagina is and what it is for. Thank you.0 -
I'm not a parent, but I gotta weigh in on the whole nudity thing. I come from a very open family, hell on Easter Sunday we were talking about the Everything To Do With Sex Show, this was three generations - my grandparents, aunts uncles and parents, and the kids. No biggie. But to be nude in front of your children (especially the ones that have pre-teen kids) is quite odd, in my opinion. Or being scantily clad in front of them. I do not have any awkwardness about nudity, but no one needs or wants to see their parents half naked, or fully.0
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My son is 6. When I nursed him (till he was 13 months), he saw me naked all the time but he was a baby and nursing so it was no big deal. Then, til about 3 or so, I had no problems changing in front of him while we traveled in the hotel room.
But just before his 5th birthday, he saw a huge woman's chest in a forum I was browsing (some guy's avatar) and asked me to go back to it because, "I like chestes." It was not long after that when I heard, "come here mommy! I wanna show you something! My pee-pee isn't a pee-pee anymore...it's a surprise!"
So, no. My son no longer sees me naked. We call chests chests and other parts privates/boyparts/girlparts/ or just "my pee-pee." And he's learned that mommies and caregivers (like doctors) can see his boy parts if necessary, but he is not to look at others privates. And mommy doesn't need to see his "surprise."0 -
Penis and Vagina is what it is called. It is my son who tells me the nicknames that the other boys at school call. Like a dollar and two 50 cents pieces for a boy. a coin slot for a girl. Go figure what 4th graders come up with. Cannot wait for when they have sex ed in a few weeks the jokes the boys will come up with after that class. GOOD GRIEF0
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The "suggested" age for the parents to stop being naked around their kids is about your daughter age - especially the opposite sex parent. I am sorry but I think it is time to cover up! Plus she is 3 1/2 what is wrong with calling it by a nickname! There is plenty of time for kids to use the correct names. This is so wrong in so many ways. Sorry this is just my feeling about it.
I'm sorry, but I have to say that telling another parent what is appropriate in his household is just way out of line and frankly makes you look very uptight.
I understand if nicknames work in your family, as well as keeping bathroom time private for everyone, but the wording of your post implies that you don't just respectufully diagree, you think the OP is doing something wrong by teaching correct terms and fostering a household where nudity is just natural as opposed to something to be embarrassed about.0 -
We are pretty relaxed about body parts in my house. DD came up with kiki. I don't know how she came up with it, but it stuck. My mother-in-law calls testicles scoogies and that has stuck, too. The Boy currently prefers the term weiner. He finds it hilarious. They are both well aware of the proper terms, but like the nicknames better.0
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It was not long after that when I heard, "come here mommy! I wanna show you something! My pee-pee isn't a pee-pee anymore...it's a surprise!"
And mommy doesn't need to see his "surprise."
LOL-that is great! My son is 3 and I'm sure I'll be hearing this before long. He's already told me that his "Mr Winky" is bigger than his cousin's, who is also 3. He saw me changing him and was thrilled that his cousin has one too...lol0 -
Yes vulva is correct for girls and penis for boys...the vagina is inside the body (and doesn't need cleaning in the bath...the vagina is where the penis goes in and the baby comes out (usually).
You said that...and while I admit completely forgetting about the word vulva, I don't know about anyone else, but I do know what a vagina is and what it is for. Thank you.
What I wrote (the definition of vagina) was the words I use to tell my kids what that body part is called and what it's for. Just a suggestion for other parents who might be shy talking about it when their kid asks 'mom, what's a vagina'?
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