Is this grounds for divorce?????

This is something you should not be discussing with internet people.

I actually agree with this 100%-- we are people trying to lose weight and change our health-- we are not specifically suited to handle matters of a personal affair with strangers. I mean, really, would you come home and say 'The concensus on the internet says I should divorce you'

Oh, absolutely. That is reason #7 on the "Even if you still love them and everything else is Fine - Divorce is Imminent" list.

better than her giving you crabs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

buh-dum-TISH

Maybe you guys should never get married. Then you wouldn't have to be contemplating this in the first place.

You seem cross about this. Was there a crustacean related mishap in one of your previous relationships?

This is something you should not be discussing with internet people.

I actually agree with this 100%-- we are people trying to lose weight and change our health-- we are not specifically suited to handle matters of a personal affair with strangers. I mean, really, would you come home and say 'The concensus on the internet says I should divorce you'

I wouldn't take it too seriously. I'm sure OP is trolling. If I knew how to post a picrure I'd post troll face.

NO... It is possible she made the salad for herself and offered you some to be polite. I have done this before where I was eating something with Dairy in it, and without thinking, i asked my lactose intolerant husband if he wanted to try. .. If you are considering divorce over such an incident, maybe you shouldn't have gotten married to begin with.. Unless of course you suspect she is indeed trying to kill you... then maybe go seek a lawyer?

Let's say you were married to someone for 10 years and one Sunday you come down for lunch and your spouse says I have fixed a "shrimp salad for lunch would you like some?". You are allergic to shellfish and have never eaten shrimp in your life. Just based on this alone would you say that is grounds for divorce?

No. If someone did based on this alone, I would question their motives.

I have a very dear friend that absolutely hates onions. To the point she overracts everytime one happens to get near her plate. I have from time to time completely brain farted and asked her if she wanted some of my onion rings because I had so many.

Absent minded kind gesture I think.

This. If she was trying to kill you with shrimp, she wouldn't have told you about the shrimp. She would have cut it into tiny pieces and hidden it in something else and you wouldn't have known something was up until you started having a reaction. Sounds like she was trying to be nice and had a forgetful moment or perhaps even didn't realize that shrimp is in the shellfish category or something. Occasionally I forget that my husband doesn't like something and offer it to him and he's like 'um, no, when have I ever eaten that?'. Granted, it's not a life-threatening allergy situation, but still, similar forgetfulness.

Now, if she offered it to you with an evil tone in her voice and look in her eye, like she was just daring you to eat it and die, that's different. By you mentioned no tone or look of malice so I'm thinking she just wasn't thinking or forgot the circumstances when she offered it. I wouldn't suggest divorce, but I might say put some signs up in the kitchen reminding her of what foods are off limits due to your allergies.

Been there, done that, hubby has always offers me food I'm allergic to. Married for 33 yrs, you'd think he'd know by now, I just remind him what an *kitten* he is! And that if he's trying to kill me it won't work, because the crap he eats will get him first! lol!:bigsmile: