toxic family or friends who try to undermine your weight los

Your sister... has HATER written all over her face... My god... First off.. " Sis.. what are you doing in your life that's so grand...?" That's what you should say.. She's trying to gain something off of you to make herself look and feel better.. Ain't no way in *bleep*ing hello kitty, I'd let my sister talk down to me like that... But then again, I'm a hot head.. A family should be your FIRST support and Your Last! EVEN THE MIDDLE! That's all, The little chick is just jealous of you having motivation, team spirit, effort, you wake up in the morning saying .." I want to do this!" and she wakes up in the morning probably saying..." Why did I even wake up!" Don't .. Please.. I know family isn't easy to brush off... But her... She's done for.... I love my sister, but I don't have to like her, talk to her or acknowledge her presence.. She's JEALOUS... Just look her in the eye... Smile and say .." what are you so afraid of...dear..sis of mines..?" If she keeps with the snide comments.. say it over..and over again until she shuts up...

I am so sorry you had to go through that. I have had a similar experience with my own family. My mother is morbidly obese, and her health is not so great. She has high blood pressure, and pre-diabetes. I love her and I have tried to encourage her to lose weight but she refuses, I try not to pressure her but just last week she told me she thought she was having a heart attack. She eats fast food daily, and eats around 4-5 large meals per day. She hardly moves around, and I am very worried that being bedridden might be in her future if she continues.

My little sister has always had a very fast metabolism and can eat whatever she wants. She weighs around 100 lbs (5'1). They both have been extremely unsupportive throughout the entire experience. They get offended when I opt not to eat dinner with them, when a typical dinner consists of hamburgers, or fried chicken, french fries, etc. They act like I am being a stuck up *itch when I want to eat something healthy.

My mom makes bacon literally every morning. When I come up to make myself a healthy breakfast, she taunts me with it. She will ask me how I can eat that "cardboard thing" or some other term for my health food while she eats delicious bacon! She did it so much that the smell of bacon now literally makes me want to vomit now! When I go jogging, they would always discourage me, acting like I am pushing myself too hard. Well I ended up getting a foot injury a little while ago, and low and behold it took my mother no time to say "I told you so"

I am pretty good while on a diet but there are a few things that really trigger me- Chips, and pizza. I have asked them not to leave chips lying around, if they could hide them from me so that I wouldn't see them. My sister rudely said "Why should we have to suffer because you eat too much? I don't get it, just don't eat it!" It made me so mad! She has absolutely no IDEA how hard it is to diet. I have been trying like crazy to get my mom to join this site, figuring she would find motivation and be supportive, but she won't do it. She refuses to acknowledge that her lifestyle could eventually kill her. I have told her I love her and am worried about her, but she just gets mad at me whenever I bring it up. It breaks my heart to think that she believes there is no hope for people like us.

I can't wait until I graduate nursing school and can get out of this place! It will take so much stress out of my life! It's really sad when your own family tries to stand in the way of your progress. It makes it that much harder to succeed, but I have been trying to use it as motivation. Whenever my mother compares me to one of my "thin" cousins, or my sister makes fun of me for being "husky" I just imagine punching her in the face while I do kickboxing! Lol- hey it works!

You need to cut your family out of your life.

There's nothing but evil intent there.

This. Tell your sister that until she can be respectful to you and your efforts, you will no longer speak to her. She is doing her best to sabotage you. She is clearly used to being "the skinny sister" and is feeling extremely threatened. My sister is very supportive of me and I am horrified at the thought of her turning on me like that. I'm so sorry you're going through this. *hug*

ive got to the ripe old age of 62 and yes ive seen this problem over and over again.
you seem to be a lovely strong person who has a very supportive husband. keep going and be brave. your sister doesnt seem to be a very good person but that is her problem not yours. i know we all want to be loved especially by our families but sometimes this doesnt happen. but if you are strong they do come around, it may take time and all i can say is you have done so well so keep up the good work and give yourself a pat on the back. you can become the person you want to be

You need to remove yourself from this situation until they figure out what b!tches they are being. Seriously. I understand that this is your family, but cut them out of your life until they get it. Don't communicate with them, don't do things for them, live for yourself. It's hard at first, but it is so liberating and freeing. People like that are truly toxic and it will only do you more harm than good to stick around and take their sh.it. There will come a point when they will wake up one morning and realize, "da.mn, I've been a HORRIBLE mother/sister." Then, it will be on THEM to make the first step to forgiveness/change. Right now, live for yourself. It's okay to do that. You got this.

^^^^ THIS!!!! Stay the heck away from them until they get that they have hurt you!! You should not subject yourself to that abuse!!! :mad:

That's really sad that your very own sister does those things to you. It's very mean and it sounds like she has something against you and likes humiliating you and making you look bad. If it were my sister, I would avoid her which would make it hard for her to try and humiliate you if you're not around her. I would use every little thing she did as motivation to get to my goal, and I would get a camera out and let my husband snap a picture of her face when I show up at the next get together at my goal as well.

First off I dont do politically correct and am know for my bluntness. Second I dont tolerate psychic vampires that thrive of the pain and misery of others typically through actions they cause.

I learned long ago to put a stake in those ****ers. I dropped a few friends and one sister out of my life who are like this or worse- some people cant stand success in others in any form.

Your mom came around but your sister didnt? Tell her to **** off and the next time she whips out that camera to take a nasty picture rip it out of her hands and drop it in a a pitcher of water. Then hold your head high and refuse to pay for it.

And grats on the half marathon! I do mine the end of June and I'm hoping I can do a sub 12 minute mile!

Sounds like your sister is desperately trying to find someone she sees as worse than her to make herself feel better about some inferior part in herself. She is the kind of girl who is painfully superficial and always wanting to have someone around that she can make herself feel superior to. The fact that youre loosing weight and actually doing things to make yourself better is angering to her because she is loosing the edge she has over you. The best thing to do is to keep going with your good streak because come a year later and 100+ pounds gone and nice lean muscle and healthy lifestyle that you are in will make you the prime example of "You are only pretty on the outside, outside pretty can be changed, but your inside are the fattest piece of crap that I think I will ever see, dear sister." Now, be nicer when you tell that to her, dont turn into her lol. And if keeping with the great goings to show her up isnt your style, then keep at it for yourself and your husband. Thats the important part right? To make yourself healthier for the ones you care for?

^This! I have a rule that I use - if you wouldn't let a friend treat you a certain way, why would you let a family member? I mean no disrespect, but your mom and sister are being BULLIES...and bullies only continue to bully when they get something out of it. And, most people who bully are sadly missing something in their own lives and do it to make themselves feel superior (I've never yet been able to figure it out).

You are doing marvelously well on your journey and I commend you. Listen to the people who support you and the others, well, they're just mere speedbumps on your way to a healthier you.

Good luck!

That is not love. Tell your Sister to take a hike and try not to see her. I don't have the privilage of living close to my Sister but I can not imagine her being mean to me. We are here as your support!

they need sopmeone to make them feel better about themselves thats how insecure people make it through life. Sadly, they probably maybe even think they're misguidedly trying to 'help' you.

I really think if you wan tot salvage a relationship with them, you need to tell them, that until they stop hurting you to make themselves feel better.... then you're taking a gbreak, we're all on a journey here, and I doubt anyone on here has not ever felt bad about themselves, but we certainly won't abuse you.

You have to stand up to them, and if they want to continue hurting you... ditch them. I am sorry that they're *kitten* I feel your pain, I had a brother who picked on me relentlessly about my weight when I was a teen, and a Mom who I can never live up to her standards.

I;ve been battling my weight most of my life, and have always managed to win .... you can too!:flowerforyou: :laugh: