Are you a Lesbian or Gay?!?
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Ditto to everyone saying that you two are a gorgeous couple! :flowerforyou:
I'm happily taken by my wonderful girlfriend and all of our friends know. In the beginning, when I first came out, my friends would joke about me finding them attractive... I honestly don't see them in that way since they're more like sisters. Your friends should realize that if you're happy with the one person you love, even if you were to look at them in any sort of way, they shouldn't take it as you hitting on them.
I personally find it funny now when people think that just because I turn my head towards them, I'm checking them out. Male or female. That's them feeling uncomfortable in their own skin and/or wanting attention. Just continue to do your thing and don't worry about them boo! :bigsmile:0 -
I am neither but I do vehemently support love whichever way it comes in. Your concern is not a Gay or Lesbian thing as I sometimes wonder the same thing when I am in the gym changing. "Does that guy think I am looking at him" or some other crazy thought sometimes creep into my head. It is soon easily forgotten though as soon as I walk outside and see the girl at the front desk, who kinda looks like you...Enjoy life and there is nothing wrong with appreciating beauty in the locker room.0
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If you worry about what other people think, you're going to drive yourself crazy. There are ignorant people everywhere, that is their problem.0
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Straight
But at this point, if anyone finds me attractive, I am flattered not offended. My guess is men would be more upset as we tend to be more homophobic!0 -
that's really sad that you have to go through that. i'm married, but my best friend is a lesbian. i hear her talking about the same thing. PULEEZE!! people need to get over themselves. at least you're open about it. what other people think will eventually catch up with them anyway. what they need to be doing is worrying about their own significant others and their own selves!1
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I could not have said it better myself.I don't think gay or lesbian people have a "look" about them. Normal people, wanting to love just like everyone else. Don't sweat the small bull****. If you get questioned by your friends, ask if they are attracted to every single guy they see. Just because you're a lesbian doesn't automatically mean you think all chicks are hot.
Seriously, people need to get over themselves.0 -
Im BI and if a straight person i know finds out..some start thinking Ill want to get with them...um just cause i like girls doesnt mean i want you!!!!
and my bf thought it meant hed get a 3some out of the deal.
People ridicule what they dont understand.0 -
I am not particularly in this same situation but I absolutely hate it when people judge people without knowing them first. Even more so when the people who do know you make you feel uncomfortable.. GRRR this makes me so mad.0
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Yup *holds up hand* I too am lesbian who's been with my lovely partner (in the law firm of life) for 4 years. See profile pic, I'm on the right.
I rarely check out girls in the gym except to admire and appreciate their muscle tone. I do find changing room nudity a turn off though and am often glad that everything is a blur when I take my glasses off. If anyone thinks I'm checking them out they're wrong. I'm prolly just wondering if they are the exit door!0 -
I'm a proud lesbian and I don't worry about what people think when I'm looking at them, nor what they think when they look at me.
I mean really, just as in a heterosexual lifestyle, just because someone is looking at you doesn't mean they are plotting to take your booty candy. And just because you see someone of the same gender that looks gay doesn't mean they are going to turn on their super gay magnet and lure you over to them so they can do things to you that you are deathly afraid of. You feel me?
By the way, you two make a beautiful couple.0 -
First of all, you two are a gorgeous couple!
I'm not gay, but I totally check out other girls at the gym - clothed, not clothed, whatever. That being said, it's not a sexual thing, it's more of an appreciation for our beautiful bodies! I'm impressed with great muscle definition (vs skinny) and I'm usually checking out arms, backs, or abs. It's also nice to see that EVERYBODY has cellulite and that each of our "problem areas" are usually "problem areas" for everybody else and reminds me to not be so hard on myself! It sounds to me like I'm more likely to get ousted than you are! ;-)
If anybody has a problem with you in the locker room, tough *kitten* for them. It just goes to show how ignorant they are about lesbians.
Totally agree with this!
I am not lesbian and I also check other women out. I even comment on other women with my husband. I can appreciate a beautiful body whether it is male or female without being attracted to them.
You will always find ignorant people and I know it is easier said that done but you should just stop thinking what others might think and move on with your life. You and your girlfriend look like a cute couple.0 -
Oh when I was younger (like early teens) I can admit that maybe some hormones were a bit high so when I began visiting the gym I did find myself just looking at the women in there but just to look ._. but I'm older now and I definitely don't do that anymore, if i do its usually like I wonder how she got her tummy to look like that or oh she has nice legs wonder what she does, or awwww her shoes are super cute but definitely not every girl I see I want to bone and I think all my friends realize this too because we do sleep overs at times and they undress in front of me and i barely even notice because im not thinking about them like that hehe even though one time one of the girls said I could watch her but she didn;t think id find any pleasure in it but i would have because she has a nice body but i told her that out of respect for her privacy ill turn around and i did and that was that.0
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I've been watching you watching me .......!!!!
Just kidding...first of all I wanted to say that you two are both beautiful..and if someone is looking at your its not becasue you are a lesbian Im sure they are simply admiring your beauty !!
I wish you BOTH the best and to hell with what everyone else thinks !0 -
ditto to this, don't sweat the ignorance. and you guys are adorable!I'm a proud lesbian and I don't worry about what people think when I'm looking at them, nor what they think when they look at me.
I mean really, just as in a heterosexual lifestyle, just because someone is looking at you doesn't mean they are plotting to take your booty candy. And just because you see someone of the same gender that looks gay doesn't mean they are going to turn on their super gay magnet and lure you over to them so they can do things to you that you are deathly afraid of. You feel me?
By the way, you two make a beautiful couple.0 -
Congrats on your relationship, you are sounding very happy my dear! I'm friends with gay and transgendered people and think no different of either to my hetro mates. Men and women are both beautiful to look at, it doesn't mean it's a sexual thing to appreciate what God/mother nature made right?
Enjoy life to the full, live to the max hey!0 -
Hola,
I'm engaged to a fantastic guy, and I'm bi.
I check people out all the time. Like "Whoa look at that guys shoulders," "Whoa did you see her abs? Dang!" "That guys got a nice butt." "She is SO CUTE," "I love her hair." I'm not planning on sleeping with anybody, I'm in a commited relationship. But that doesn't stop me from oogling pretty people. I don't think I could stop even if I tried. :P
If there is a lady in the locker room with some body part that I'm impressed with or something, (DANG your abs are AMAZING!) I usually start chatting with them, and they usually appreciate the complement and we start discussing our journies a bit while we're changing or whatever.
I guess what I'm trying to say is... You don't need to be afraid of people, because people are just people like you. They like to get compliments and like to chat sometimes, they work hard and sometimes make mistakes. Just like you and me. *shrug*0 -
Not gay, but very gay friendly. I live with a lesbian too
lol anyways, I think as long as your straight friends are reasonable people they should understand that not every lesbian wants to sleep with them. Just like not every guy wants to sleep with them. If they don't understand that, get better friends!
AMEN AMEN AMEN...AS a lesbian...I DO NOT look at every female in that way...some ppl just dont get that0 -
I'm bisexual and proud of it. I've had a relationship with a girl and it was the longest lasting and best relationship I've ever had. 0
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Don't tell any of the straight guys this secret, okay? During the times in my life when I went to the gym, looking at attractive guys was part of my motivation for getting off my fat behind and actually going. But one thing I figured out pretty quick was that the really fit guys were not the ones hanging around in the locker room. The hot guys were all out on the floor exercising, not sitting around in the sauna.0
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meh, I've seen a t-shirt I want to get with the slogan "just because I'm gay doesn't mean you're good looking" but can't link to the image0
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People ridicule what they dont understand.
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ssooooo very TRUE!!0 -
meh, I've seen a t-shirt I want to get with the slogan "just because I'm gay doesn't mean you're good looking" but can't link to the image
I LOVE THAT quote!!0 -
They might not feel uncomfortable at all or they might be uncomfortable because they feel the energy you are putting off about being scared they are thinking that. Just relax and it will all be fine. "Those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter."!0
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I'm very obviously a lesbian...it's easy to tell just by looking at me and I can't say I've ever had one bad or uncomfortable moment at the gym. When I go I'm focused on getting in and getting out and I find the majority of people there are doing the same.
On the flip side I work with a boatload of straight women and they are always checking out and discussing other women. They are interested in their outfits and their bodies. I just think that's the way women are.0 -
I hate that! just because i am a lesbian doesnt mean im attracted to every damn one of you!! straight girls aren't attracted to every guy they meet!! I am with you sister!0
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Hi
I'm in a very happy same sex relationship (see picture)... and we're both really comfortable with being gay and being out.
However, i have straight girl friends who i sometimes worry think I'm looking at them in a sexual way just because they are female and I'm a lesbian......
Also... in the gym/pool, I find myself getting embarrassed incase someone/friends thinks i'm looking at them in the changing room (I'm NOT because i have my eye candy at home) just because i'm looking at their swimsuit and thinking 'wonder if that would look nice on me'..... OR I get hit on by men/male lifeguards when all i want to do is be left alone to do my thing!!!
Anyone else feel like this?!
Yes I feel like this too, I never know where to look in the changing room!! Recently my girlfriend flashed me in the changing room ( it was only us in there at the time) and I just automaticly looked away in case it wasn't her, lol.0 -
I hear you loud and clear. I'm an out lesbian with a long term partner and a beautiful baby. It's a weird world out there but I'm so grateful for open minded people and my family! My heart goes out to those struggling with their own self identity.0
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Women are beautiful creatures. :flowerforyou:
I'm a straight woman but would rather look at a woman naked than most men hahhaha. Sometimes to simply compare my body to theirs, other times to truly appreciate their hard work ("Damn.............wish I had abs like that!").
Don't worry about what others think. 0 -
meh, I've seen a t-shirt I want to get with the slogan "just because I'm gay doesn't mean you're good looking" but can't link to the image
I WANTTTTT
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