Are you a Lesbian or Gay?!?

The feeling came up when I went to the gym with a friend earlier this week. We were in a yoga class and at one point the instructor asked us to turn and face the left wall and it turned out she wanted us to bend over so esentially putting my friends *kitten* in my face (nearly) and she did look at me in a weird way but I would never use that opportunity to look at her like that so when she was still looking at me I moved a bit to the side so that her tush wouldn't be in my face and not once did I look up once we did bend forward, mainly because I quickly forgot it trying to make sure I didn't fall over whilst bending.

I REALLLLYYYY doubt the yoga instructor was trying to set up some human centipede fantasy in her head. I am sure she was thinking about the pose and not dying to see what it would look like to get you 2 together. Sorry.

I'm bi and I love it! Its not always been that way though, my Mum hasn't spoken to me for 3 years since I came out. Even so, I'm the happiest I have ever been.

That is so sad. I am so sorry. As the mom of a little boy, there is nothing on this earth that would ever keep me from supporting him. I don't care who he loves. You sound like a really strong person. It's your mothers loss. I am estranged from my mom for entirely different reasons... We haven't spoken in almost 10 years (she is mentally ill). My child means the world to me. I once even said to my husband "I don't care who he is or what he does, as long as he loves what he does. I don't care if he becomes a pole dancer as
Long as he is the BEST pole dancer in the club!" :laugh:

I'm a proud lesbian and I don't worry about what people think when I'm looking at them, nor what they think when they look at me.

I mean really, just as in a heterosexual lifestyle, just because someone is looking at you doesn't mean they are plotting to take your booty candy. And just because you see someone of the same gender that looks gay doesn't mean they are going to turn on their super gay magnet and lure you over to them so they can do things to you that you are deathly afraid of. You feel me?

By the way, you two make a beautiful couple.

Holy hell. I am hoping someone is plotting to take MY booty candy.

I really needed to try that term out in a sentence. I think I found my new phrase.

Booty candy booty candy booty candy booty candy. #bootycandy

Glad to hear the hype about how disruptive it would be to repeal "don't ask don't tell" turned out to be hype!

*kitten* what other people think, live your life and be happy! The world would be a better place if people could get passed these stupid insecurities.

If I have to label myself, I guess I'm just queer. I've been with my partner for almost 8 years. We both check out chicks and dudes. Who cares? It's not like we're gawking or making loud obnoxious comments about someone's boobs or package or whatever. It's not that we are any less devoted to each other. Anyway . . . .I think the issue here is caring too much about what other people MIGHT be thinking. And most likely, they're not thinking anything at all about you. They're probably worried that they left the stove on at home or that they over-drafted their checking account.

I think I worried more about this when I was younger and first came out.

I am HUMAN and choose not to put myself in any category box or label. I wish others would follow suit. We are alike than we are different. Humans have bigger issues to tackle that being divisive only complicates solving them.

My sister is a lesbian and so are 2 of my friends...I never felt uncomfortable...I'm straight as an arrow but I dont want every man that comes in my path so I'm sure it's the same with gay/lesbian individuals. Just do you and forget the rest!

It's something that I have noticed too. People assume that I think every single woman out there is hot which just isn't the case. I always politely explain to people just because you're straight does it mean that you check out every member of the opposite sex?!

GAH! As a lesbian, I have say this whole "looking like a lesbian" is crazy crap. It's offensive, and unfortunately, instilled in a lot of people's heads as a "predictor of who you sleep with". Truth is, there are plenty of women who look butch or have a gender presentation that does not align with what you think that person's hair or clothes should be sleeping with (silly, isn't it now).

Being a lesbian is not a look, it's who you have sex with--

As for worrying that people are worried that you're looking at them with lesbian googly eyes--i get it...but you may be just over-thinking it. You may find that people are open to compliments! If you see that girl with a nice bathing suit--say hi! I love your bathing suit. Where did you get it?! I'm sure she's not thinking to herself "Oh my god, she wants me". :-)

Also should add it aint cause hes a guy he was standing over me as i eas doing crunches. Completely different to a compliment! If it was a women id still report her. Nothing to do with sex!
Most vain women think because im lesbian im interested new flash we aint!

4 year bump. Yay.

Yeah, I'm lesbian. I don't worry about what other people think of it; I have lots of female friends, and they don't assume I like them in a romantic way or that I'm looking at them like that.
It's kind of awkward when guys hit on me (or this one time when a male friend said he liked me and asked if I wanted to be his girlfriend...) but on the other hand, it's a pretty easy excuse and an acceptable reason not to respond to their advances.

4 year old zombie thread that's completely in the wrong section

I've actually always wondered if gay women, even if they are in a happy relationship, think of me sexually when they look at me, so thank you for answereing this question. I'm very supportive of all same-sex relationships. I figured it was the same as when straight men look at me; they register that I'm attractive, but most just want to be nice, they don't automatically see me as a "sex object" or want to jump into bed with me.