Guys, how young is too young in terms of dating?

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  • EBFNP
    EBFNP Posts: 529 Member
    I refuse to date younger men especially if they didn't go to college. I have a graduate degree and working on my doctorate, so I need someone with similar career accomplishments and motivation. I am 24 soon to be 25, so I will like someone 24-29 or 30. I want to be with someone who is going through similar life events and not thinking about Social Security benefits in 10 years..I am just saying...
  • smiles4deb
    smiles4deb Posts: 65
    My first husband was 9 years older than me. My second is 7 years older. I wouldn't go any more than 10 years older, if I was to ever date again. I dated a 45 year old when I was 25, when we stopped dating, he went back to his wife and I actually ended up going to their 25 year anniversary party...that was weird. I have a friend who is 48 and just started dating a 29 year old. I think it's too big of a range...she's got 3 teenage kids, he's got 3 little kids, but other than the kids, I don't see where they have much in common at all.
  • smiles4deb
    smiles4deb Posts: 65
    older guys are soo sexy tho.... :bigsmile:

    But how "old" is old?

    well for me id prolly say late 30's

    DAMN...two weeks too late......




    :laugh:

    Steve, you still fit the sexy bill... just saying...:blushing:
  • SlimSammy2012
    SlimSammy2012 Posts: 893
    My first husband was 9 years older than me. My second is 7 years older. I wouldn't go any more than 10 years older, if I was to ever date again. I dated a 45 year old when I was 25, when we stopped dating, he went back to his wife and I actually ended up going to their 25 year anniversary party...that was weird. I have a friend who is 48 and just started dating a 29 year old. I think it's too big of a range...she's got 3 teenage kids, he's got 3 little kids, but other than the kids, I don't see where they have much in common at all.

    ..amd what are your plans for Hubby number 3? LOL
  • nikki_att84
    nikki_att84 Posts: 152 Member
    No chance.

    I know a lot of people will say age is just a number, but when you are talking say me at 28, dating an 18 yr old its different stages of life. Not so much an issue say if you were 40 dating a 56 yr old. You are midlife, done the partying, may have been mairried/had kids moved out of home.

    Im looking for someone I can do fun stuff with but also look to settling down into something much more solid than I will ever get out of someone who has just left high school in the last couple of years.

    After my experiences, everyones will be different, I probably wouldnt date anyone younger than 22-24. Thats just me though :glasses:


    ii couldnt agree with u more !! well said!!
  • smiles4deb
    smiles4deb Posts: 65
    My first husband was 9 years older than me. My second is 7 years older. I wouldn't go any more than 10 years older, if I was to ever date again. I dated a 45 year old when I was 25, when we stopped dating, he went back to his wife and I actually ended up going to their 25 year anniversary party...that was weird. I have a friend who is 48 and just started dating a 29 year old. I think it's too big of a range...she's got 3 teenage kids, he's got 3 little kids, but other than the kids, I don't see where they have much in common at all.

    ..amd what are your plans for Hubby number 3? LOL

    There most definitely will not be a "third times a charm" for me... LOL If second one is not a charm, I'm gonna be single and lovin it!! :laugh:
  • SlimSammy2012
    SlimSammy2012 Posts: 893
    LOL
  • smiles4deb
    smiles4deb Posts: 65
    Nice bike, btw. Have been wanting one of those... :glasses:
  • SlimSammy2012
    SlimSammy2012 Posts: 893
    Thanks so Much....Well, Maybe hubby # 3 wil have one! LOL
  • marzinator13
    marzinator13 Posts: 149 Member
    me and my fiance started dating when I was 17 and he was 22 and now i am 22 and he is 27 and we will be getting married :)
  • smiles4deb
    smiles4deb Posts: 65
    Thanks so Much....Well, Maybe hubby # 3 wil have one! LOL

    I believe we just went over that... LOL:noway:
  • SlimSammy2012
    SlimSammy2012 Posts: 893
    Looks like you ain't riding then! LOL
  • SeeDRun
    SeeDRun Posts: 12
    I can't imagine why someone would want to date someone that much younger. I try to look at things in perspective. If you were out of high school when the person you are thinking of dating was in diapers you might be just be doing something unnatrual if not out right wrong. I have dated 10 years above and 8 years below my age. Neither were a good match.
  • mikey1976
    mikey1976 Posts: 1,005 Member
    i don't know where i stand but for me 18 would be to young my niece she 16. it would just be awkward for me any way
  • fromaquasar
    fromaquasar Posts: 811 Member
    Half your age plus seven is the rule - so if you're 30, the youngest is 22
  • gympamela
    gympamela Posts: 188 Member
    There is a 22 year old guy who wants to date me, but he just looks like a kid to me- its creepy.
  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    There is a 22 year old guy who wants to date me, but he just looks like a kid to me- its creepy.

    Was going to ask, checked you profile...wow had no idea you were that decrepit....

    :wink:

    Seriously...wow!
  • shellebelle87
    shellebelle87 Posts: 291 Member
    + or - about 5 years for me gives a decent age range that more than likey ill have somthing in common with the person.

    Thats my rule as well! Although I would prefer the older to the younger...otherwise if I went 5 yrs younger I would be dating a 20 yr old....and 20 yr old boys arent the most mature of people haha :tongue:
  • gympamela
    gympamela Posts: 188 Member
    There is a 22 year old guy who wants to date me, but he just looks like a kid to me- its creepy.

    Was going to ask, checked you profile...wow had no idea you were that decrepit....

    :wink:

    Seriously...wow!


    Yeah I have one foot in the grave at this point.....
  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    :smile:
  • smiles4deb
    smiles4deb Posts: 65
    Looks like you ain't riding then! LOL

    some day...but maybe MY OWN.... :tongue:
  • melj6807
    melj6807 Posts: 34
    One person being under 21 and the other person being over 21 definitely can play a major factor in just everyday activities. I agree that it is all about maturity, but someone who is eager to grow up too quickly can often have a "freak out" later in life and regret all the decisions they've made in life including the person they are with. This is a tough one.
  • VegGoddess
    VegGoddess Posts: 81 Member
    i'm 18, my fiance is 10 years older than me. been together almost a year and a half! couldn't be more in love!
    age is just a number.
  • wildearthmama
    wildearthmama Posts: 8
    When I started dating my current husband (of 3 1/2 years), I was only 19... and he was 47! ;) It's worked out so well because I'm an old soul, and he's a young soul. I appreciate his experience, wisdom, and insight, and he appreciates my energy, fresh perspectives, and youthful exuberance. I wouldn't have it any other way! Of course, that doesn't mean it'll work for everyone. I think it's very important for a young woman to know what she wants before she gets into a relationship with an older man.
  • TinaS88
    TinaS88 Posts: 817 Member
    Age isn't important to me. It's all about maturity. My husband is about a little over 3 years older then me. I know that's not a lot, but we have been together for almost 10 years. I met him right before I turned 15 and he had just turned 18 a month before. We've been together ever since! :)
  • secretgirl4611
    secretgirl4611 Posts: 474 Member
    Yea im 26.. and my boyfriend is 25 but he cheated on me with his friends mom 3yrs ago and she was 15 yrs OLDER than him!!!!
    idk to me thats just nasty!! um but apparently its the "THING", as Ashton kutcher was younger w/demi moore.. And J-lo now dating a 25yr old.. o MY GOD! WAT are ppl thinking!!!???!!! the lowest I will go is maybe within a 4yr. difference any more than that and its TOO MUCH!! Sucks u look older tho, thats not always a good thing... I love lookin young :)
  • jleslie66
    jleslie66 Posts: 31
    I would date someone who was 18 as long as we are compatible. I dont see age unless you "act" it! i am attracted to who I am attracted, small large, young old, what does it matter if the person you date makes you happy? I am currently 46, and over the course of my life I have dated many ages, shapes, sizes, colors, professions, political affiliations etc... I can never recall asking a woman her age before I asked her out! my partners have ranged in age from 18 to 50+ and all have been special to me.
  • Laura_Suzie
    Laura_Suzie Posts: 1,288 Member
    Sucks u look older tho, thats not always a good thing... I love lookin young :)

    It doesn't suck and I didn't say I looked old. I said generally people think I'm between 21-25. I look young, but I don't look like I'm a teenager. It's not like I have crow's feet...
  • jamielynas
    jamielynas Posts: 366 Member
    I'm 20 and 18 is as young as I would ever go!
  • secretgirl4611
    secretgirl4611 Posts: 474 Member
    Sucks u look older tho, thats not always a good thing... I love lookin young :)

    It doesn't suck and I didn't say I looked old. I said generally people think I'm between 21-25. I look young, but I don't look like I'm a teenager. It's not like I have crow's feet...

    No, my bad I didnt mean it to come off as an insult.. I still dont know why u would like to look like 21-25.. im 26 and ppl never think im this old lol.. cuz isnt it the older you get, the younger you would actually like to look? not older.. idk thats just me tho I like to still get carded and strangers say I look like im 19 but im 26 feeels good. My bad again tho sorry.. wasnt tryin to come off mean or nuthin

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