Am I using him?

There's this guy who has liked me for a while now, but the feeling isn't mutual. Since he likes me, he is pretty much willing to do anything for me, and I was wondering if what I'm doing is considered "using" him.

I don't use his money or anything like that. It's just that, when none of my friends want to go hiking, or to the river, or to the mall, or wherever, he will drop everything and go with me. I ask him if he wants to come, and I can always count on him saying yes. I have never asked him to pay for anything, or anything like that because I don't want him to think that we're dating (although he sometimes insists on paying.ugh).

So, should I stop doing this? Am I just getting his hopes up?

Yes, and yes.

I'm a little too proud to ever have a sugar daddy lol

As long as you've been up front with him, he completely understands it's platonic friendship,

It will never be a platonic relationship if he's into her.

This, 100%.

I'll be very honest here...if a girl is attractive, she's got two kinds of friends, women, and men that would definitely at least entertain having sex with her given the opportunity.

Now before you women center the crosshairs lol, there are exceptions of course...male friends who are absolutely insanely in love with their significant others are usually among them...but seriously, I'm not wrong here. Add to that him actually being emotionally attached, and it will never be platonic.

In my experience I have been on both ends of the stick. Where I was carrying a torch for someone who was a good friend and would spend time with me and he knew how I felt but was a gentleman and never took advantage. It never happened with me and him and eventually I met someone and moved on and we remained good friends like nothing happened. This is how I feel grownup mature people should handle situations like this. With class and respect. I have also been the person who didnt return the feelings at the time and I handled it the same way. With honesty and respect. Eventually they moved on too, except for the last one now we are married. So these things can have a happy ending. But as long as there is respect and honesty and caring with no selfishness then I think the golden rule applies. Treat him as you would like to be treated. And I for one would not like to loose a friend simply because I was attracted to them and they didnt feel the same way.

Good for you and you're definitely a lady for this. However, since you sound like a bit young i'll give you the advice that if a guy wants to be a friend even after its clear that he's into you, you're basically just keeping him on the hook which is possibly one of the most F'd up thing you can do to any person

Even though HE chooses to stick around??

"A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we're going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn't work out, we'll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired."

The "Friend Zone". LOL

Ladies, if you have a guy friend that will have sex with you if you asked him to.... it's not platonic!

just give him some , you like him anyway..

I'm a little too proud to ever have a sugar daddy lol

BASED on how women are answering this thread and the OP and women wonder why we treat woment he way we do?

what do you mean? I've let him know I don't like him as more than a friend. I don't tell him to ditch his friends for me; he chooses to. How am I responsible for how he chooses to act/react?

Because either

1) you don't *get* how men work... You tell him you're not interested and then you ask him to do things with you because you're needy for a man around - making him THINK you're interested (it's how a man's mind works) "She knows I like her, she says she doesn't like me, but...she is asking me to do stuff with her...she's just playing hard to get." Or, "As long as she keeps asking me to do stuff with her, she likes me, and there just might be hope for a relationship."

Or, 2) You DO get how men work, and you're a user.

BTW, ladies don't use men.... Other types of females use men whether for their money or what they give you. Which category do you fall in?

This is kind of a side topic, but one that I feel is true for the most part. Guys don't really want to be a friend as a rule. They want the girl - or they don't. I could go on about the type of guy that does want to fill the *best friend* role for a girl...and they are usually the types of guys that enjoy listening to yammer about your latest shopping expedition (hint: most guys don't)...