Ladies - Would you date someone who is divorced?
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I would definitely date somebodies ex wife. That is super hot!0
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Just because a person is divorced doesn't mean they are "damaged" or "bad" it just means things changed. For some the choice to leave takes courage (speaking for myself after an abusive marriage), unfortunately the Hollywood "celebs" do tend to lead a bad example. I actually heard friends say as she and her new hubby were walking out of the church "oh, well if it doesn't work we can just divorce" :noway:
My guy and I are both divorcees and he is the sweetest, nicest person I know :blushing:0 -
Well, being single myself, a divorced man is preferred to married men (actually a must), lol. Unfortunately, there are several of us in the "divorced" category.0
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If they were the right person for me and if I were single.
My current husband married me knowing I was already married once, thank god for him
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Yes, but never with kids under 18. And if he's been divorced more than twice
Both very valid points. I know it is terrible, but I can't help thinking to myself there must be something that wasn't up to par, and that is why someone let him go. $hitty and really dumb, I know, since plenty of single people are just as faulty.0 -
I did, and married him. 0
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Yes, cause if i was dating anyone other than my husband, i'd be divorced as well. One of my best friends is divorced and she has no shortage of men asking her out. 'i'm divorced and have kids' doesn't seem to phase most of them.0
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No.
Because I date to get married, and I am not promising "till death" to someone who has already illustrated that marraige doesn't mean that.
Not to belittle your opinion, but from a lot of perspectives this is silly. For example...my ex wife didn't exactly give me a choice. The only way it would have been 'till death do us part' is if I had committed suicide before the freaking divorce was final. I managed to drag it out two years (while in the divorce process no less) trying to work things out and keep it all together. She was having none of it.
So did it mean I didn't mean 'till death do us part' when I said it? Should I never date or remarry, because the person I chose the first time didn't mean it when she said it?
My last ex...we were together seven years...with two kids. I WOULDN'T marry her due to some very serious issues that came up after the birth of our second child (if she had got the help she needed, I would have in a heartbeat)...specifically because I swore to myself I'd never be divorced again. IF I ever remarry, it'll be because I'm 150% certain SHE'S telling the truth with the 'till death do us part' thing, or because I'm going to be dying soon anyhow, so it doesn't really freaking matter.
I always hate when people judge other people on their past life circumstances...which often they had no control over. I mean, being divorced isn't like they murdered bunnies for awhile and then reformed, but could always have a relapse. Judge people on their value as a human being, on the choices they make that DIDN'T have to be based on someone elses choices to succeed...not on things they very well may have had no control over.0 -
Yep -- because I would hope that I wouldn't have a stigma attached to me, as I'm divorced too.
Marriages fail.... people learn. I think I'm a better person for my marriage AND divorce. I've learned a lot about myself in the process. I actually tend to favor divorced men over men that have never been married. At my age, almost 40, if a man has never been married it raises a red flag. I know there are reasons, but I tend to shy away from never-married men.
^^^^ That.
The assumption that everyone that is divorced has "baggage" or is somehow "damaged" is insulting and ludicrous. I know PLENTY of single people that have extensive baggage and are all shades of screwed up.
Really. Dumb. Stereotype.
You are, by the way...
Fabulous that is.0 -
Of course! The person matters to me, not their past dating history.0
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No.
Because I date to get married, and I am not promising "till death" to someone who has already illustrated that marraige doesn't mean that.
Sometimes there are circumstances that warrant a divorce or make it inevitable.
Agreed!! I got divorced after 24 years of saying that I never will - and then got married again to a divorced guy. People change, circumstances change, life has a way of throwing things in your way when you least expect it - and if you go through life thinking that everything is either black or white, you are just setting yourself up for disappointment.0 -
Yep.0
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Yep -- because I would hope that I wouldn't have a stigma attached to me, as I'm divorced too.
Marriages fail.... people learn. I think I'm a better person for my marriage AND divorce. I've learned a lot about myself in the process. I actually tend to favor divorced men over men that have never been married. At my age, almost 40, if a man has never been married it raises a red flag. I know there are reasons, but I tend to shy away from never-married men.
^^^^ That.
The assumption that everyone that is divorced has "baggage" or is somehow "damaged" is insulting and ludicrous. I know PLENTY of single people that have extensive baggage and are all shades of screwed up.
Really. Dumb. Stereotype.
You are, by the way...
Fabulous that is.
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Yep -- because I would hope that I wouldn't have a stigma attached to me, as I'm divorced too.
Marriages fail.... people learn. I think I'm a better person for my marriage AND divorce. I've learned a lot about myself in the process. I actually tend to favor divorced men over men that have never been married. At my age, almost 40, if a man has never been married it raises a red flag. I know there are reasons, but I tend to shy away from never-married men.
^^^^ That.
The assumption that everyone that is divorced has "baggage" or is somehow "damaged" is insulting and ludicrous. I know PLENTY of single people that have extensive baggage and are all shades of screwed up.
Really. Dumb. Stereotype.
You are, by the way...
Fabulous that is.
*smooches*
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If I were single, yep. Wouldn't want to miss out on Mr. Right just because of his past.0
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Curious to your opinion on this one. It seems to be the elephant in the room when it comes to dating.
Absolutely, why not?0 -
I am divorced, made some real bad choices, was controlled and abused, almost ran out of the church the day of my wedding, but I didn't so I wouldn't upset anyone.
When I started dating, I told the guys about it and the why (without going into details). I wouldn't mind dating a divorced man. Mine has never been married and has no kids, I guess I got lucky in a way, but I was ready to date someone who was divorced with kids if he was mr. Right0 -
Curious to your opinion on this one. It seems to be the elephant in the room when it comes to dating.
It seems a strange question but perhaps it is because there is only one answer for me (if i was single :laugh:) of course I would, just because you havn't found happiness first time round does not mean you should be written off.0 -
all good news.. just a handful of no's. 0
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Well considering the next time I date anyone who is not my husband I would either have to be a widow or a divorcee, I would have to say yes... However, I don't see either of those things happening anytime in the near future.0
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I think most women probably would , I would. And you are pretty cute so I dont think you would have a problem.0
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I would... sometimes marriages arent meant to be for whatever reason. I know, Im in one now(going thru separation) and I would hope someone wouldnt push me aside due to the fact I were divorced. Or have children for that matter as well!0
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I met and started dating my husband when I was 21 years old, he was 26 and he had been divorced for a few years with no kids. He didn't have any emotional baggage - just a normal guy!0
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Sadly, I was divorced at 30 (Married young, grew apart thing). I find now that people of my dating age have more life experience, which sometimes includes divorce. So, yes, I would date someone who is divorced once. Twice...I'd have to think about the circumstances.0
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I think it should depend on the situation, on both ends...male or female.
I hate to think that I would be considered "undateable" or not marriage material, but I have been married twice and cheated on twice. In both situations, after the dust settled, both men apologized and told me I had done nothing wrong. If anything I was TOO giving and TOO caring and I ended up being taken for granted and taken advantage of.
If anything, that just shows I was a poor judge of character and completely naive, not a bad person.
I'm not sure anyone gets married with the intent to get divorced. I definitely didn't expect it to happen either time and I was completely blindsided by the betrayals.0 -
Both myself and my hubby were divorced when we met... him twice , me once.....and I have one child he has 2, they were grown 18 and up when we meet...now we have this wonderful happy family with 4 grandbabies to..0
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No.
Because I date to get married, and I am not promising "till death" to someone who has already illustrated that marraige doesn't mean that.
The divorce could have been something beyond his control. He could have gotten dumped by his spouse for example. Maybe he was all on board for 'till death to us part' but the spouse wasn't.0 -
My husband won't let me date anymore.
But sure why not?0 -
Yep -- because I would hope that I wouldn't have a stigma attached to me, as I'm divorced too.
Marriages fail.... people learn. I think I'm a better person for my marriage AND divorce. I've learned a lot about myself in the process. I actually tend to favor divorced men over men that have never been married. At my age, almost 40, if a man has never been married it raises a red flag. I know there are reasons, but I tend to shy away from never-married men.
^^^^ That.
The assumption that everyone that is divorced has "baggage" or is somehow "damaged" is insulting and ludicrous. I know PLENTY of single people that have extensive baggage and are all shades of screwed up.
Really. Dumb. Stereotype.
Yep this!! Not too mention there are plenty of screwed up married people out there!0 -
I would, and I have. Shoot, I'd date anyone at this point! 0
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