Ladies - Would you date someone who is divorced?

j4nash
j4nash Posts: 1,719 Member
edited December 17 in Chit-Chat
Curious to your opinion on this one. It seems to be the elephant in the room when it comes to dating.
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  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    Well no, my husband would hardly approve. But if I were single? Sure. Extra points if the person could be civil to the ex.
  • MyFeistyEvolution
    MyFeistyEvolution Posts: 1,014 Member
    Absolutely. I'd hate to not be conidered as a good dating partner due to a failed marriage.
  • hbrittingham
    hbrittingham Posts: 2,518 Member
    Yes, why not? I am divorced once and getting ready to be divorced a second time. It doesn't mean I am not into long term relationships, my second marriage has lasted 20 years.
  • sweebum
    sweebum Posts: 1,060 Member
    Yes, but never with kids under 18. And if he's been divorced more than twice :wink:
  • dancingdeer
    dancingdeer Posts: 373 Member
    Of course!
  • Stacey_Lorraine
    Stacey_Lorraine Posts: 60
    I would things happen marriages do break down my parents one did I don't see the taboo with it. My dad is now happily remarried and my mum is in a long term relationship with a guy who had been divorced.
  • amymrls
    amymrls Posts: 1,673 Member
    WHy wouldn't you? If you get along with the person you date them...
  • mnharrington
    mnharrington Posts: 26 Member
    I would as long as they did not have children younger than mine.
  • amalthea23
    amalthea23 Posts: 44 Member
    Depends on the person, why they divorced, how they relate to the ex and whether they have kids.
  • jsapninz
    jsapninz Posts: 909 Member
    No.

    Because I date to get married, and I am not promising "till death" to someone who has already illustrated that marraige doesn't mean that.
  • CaoimheAine
    CaoimheAine Posts: 195
    I'm too young to say right now, but why not?
  • j4nash
    j4nash Posts: 1,719 Member
    Just curious. I find the 28 and younger crowd generally won't. I dated a girl once who wouldn't give me a chance at first for this very reason, until she got to know me.
  • cyberskirt
    cyberskirt Posts: 218
    I don't see an issue with this.
    ... Not dating someone who is divorced is the same as not dating someone because they've had previous relationships.

    At least someone divorced shows signs of being someone who would consider a future beyond just casual dating/hooking up... it can be a positive.

    And I also don't have an issue if the person has kids... people DO reproduce after all...

    I just wouldn't date a divorced person (or anyone) who wanted MORE children. (I refuse to be pregnant. But I like kids and wouldn't mind being a step mom if the right person came along.)
  • HarleyQuinn_12
    HarleyQuinn_12 Posts: 363 Member
    Absolutely. Being divorced is not like having leprosy. Also, being divorced myself I think you relate to one another much better.
  • kissy28wv
    kissy28wv Posts: 74
    I married a twice divorced man.
  • jamiem1102
    jamiem1102 Posts: 1,196 Member
    I think it would depend on the circumstances.
  • DrBorkBork
    DrBorkBork Posts: 4,099 Member
    As long as it had been a while since the divorce, and I was not rebound girl... maybe. But my husband would have to be dead first.
  • 412HeavyLifter
    412HeavyLifter Posts: 170 Member
    Why not....everyone has skeletons in their closet, being divorced is no different.
  • terri0527
    terri0527 Posts: 678 Member
    I see no problem with it, unless he's been divorced more than say 3 times....it just makes you wonder then. :frown:
  • oddyogi
    oddyogi Posts: 1,816 Member
    Well seeing as I'm 25 and I've been divorced twice, then yes, I definitely would. I would actually prefer to find someone divorced and childless in the age range of 28-35.
  • klindaberry
    klindaberry Posts: 13 Member
    I married one with 2 kids.
  • oddyogi
    oddyogi Posts: 1,816 Member
    No.

    Because I date to get married, and I am not promising "till death" to someone who has already illustrated that marraige doesn't mean that.

    Sometimes there are circumstances that warrant a divorce or make it inevitable.
  • Skinny4BG
    Skinny4BG Posts: 145
    Wouldnt be the first time I did... and wont be the last if I do again...
  • jfrog123
    jfrog123 Posts: 432 Member
    Been there. When I met my husband he had been divorced for six months from his first wife. We dated for 14 months before we got married. All these years later we have two great kids and next month we will celebrate our 15th wedding anniversary. Honestly, I was more concerned about the fact that he had filed bankruptcy than the fact that he was divorced.
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    Just curious. I find the 28 and younger crowd generally won't. I dated a girl once who wouldn't give me a chance at first for this very reason, until she got to know me.
    I'm over 28, but I would have given the same answer when younger. When I was 21 I dated a guy who was divorced. He did turn out to be crazypants, but I don't think that's related.
  • juliekaiser1988
    juliekaiser1988 Posts: 604 Member
    I've been married twice. Both times the guy had been married before me. It's the time in which we live nowadays.
  • LuneBleu85
    LuneBleu85 Posts: 217
    I haven't, but I definitely would. It seems unfair to rule someone out based on this. My friend's brother was married at 18 years old and divorced by 20...I wouldn't hold that against him...my decisions around the 18 year mark weren't the greatest!
  • courtney131
    courtney131 Posts: 69
    I'm 21 and I would. Unless it was a very extreme circumstance.
  • karenjoy
    karenjoy Posts: 1,840 Member
    I was married when I met my current Husband, but he was never married, but I have to say it makes no difference, I would date someone I liked
  • Tourney3p0
    Tourney3p0 Posts: 290 Member
    More importantly, would you date someone who answers a hard "no" to your question without taking even a moment to consider the reason for the divorce? My vote is no. I'd rather date someone whose husband left her for her fitness trainer than someone who can't critically think and evaluate the situation.
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