Ladies - Would you date someone who is divorced?

cyberskirt

What I find amazing is how many women wouldn't date someone who has kids....

But, would these women if they were single moms expect men to date them?

avalonmaiara

if a man is strong enough to get through something like that and come out on top then good on him of course!

saralynn594

Funny question..I am bout to be a divorced woman so yes,I would date a divorced man.Lol might make it easier!

dane11235813

No.

Because I date to get married, and I am not promising "till death" to someone who has already illustrated that marraige doesn't mean that.

Sometimes there are circumstances that warrant a divorce or make it inevitable.

"Circumstancs" is not 'till death, now is it?

I know people who got divorced because their spouse was abusing them. Cheated on them (and in one case gave them an STI). frauded them. turned out to be gay... seriously, there are a lot of reasons why people get divorced and not all of them are issues that can be 'worked through'.

I am not saying one shouldn't get divorced (or, preferrably annulled) in some of the extreme circumstances. I am saying I wouldn't get remarried after going through that, because obviously I didn't do a good job of picking the first time.

please tell us what it's like to live in a world with unicorns where people fart rainbows and gardens grow lollipops? it sounds so lovely. :huh:

ThisisMiss

Yes. In fact, my current guy was divorced and has two beautiful children from his first marriage. Things are pretty okay with him and his ex, but she was less than thrilled when she learned I got pregnant. Since then, things haven't been as great between them, but they never let it affect the children.

ElizabethRoad

A friend of mine was in a marriage where her husband was suspicious and jealous of everything she did, and constantly accused her of cheating. Eventually she did cheat. They went to counseling and tried to work it out, but ended up divorcing about a year later.

I'm not defending what she did. But it was a mistake, and she genuinely tried to make things work after that.

In the past I might have said that cheating would have been a deal-breaker. But seeing her go through this situation, I can't really say that anymore. Because if I think, "Would I date her?" then the answer is yes, I probably would.

ElizabethRoad

What I find amazing is how many women wouldn't date someone who has kids....

But, would these women if they were single moms expect men to date them?

I don't see what's wrong with that. Some people don't want kids, and some don't want to deal with the drama of someone else's kids.

chevy88grl

Of course I would.

I'm very lucky - my boyfriend doesn't care that I've been married before and divorced, nor does he care that I have two teenage children too.

SassyCalyGirl

No.

Because I date to get married, and I am not promising "till death" to someone who has already illustrated that marraige doesn't mean that.

seriously? What if his wife cheated on him? Which makes me wonder if your husband cheated on you.....you would stay? Remember your claim was "till death do us part"

Pebble321

Of course.... not now I'm married though!
At my age (45) the options are someone who has been divorced or someone who has never been married. In general I'd take the divorcee over "never married" but everyone is so different you can't really apply blanket rules to dating.

livestar

Absolutely. In fact, at a certain point, it's preferred. Of course, it really depends on the situation. But, in general, it's easier for me to connect with those who dare to try than those who don't.

I am not of the mind that divorce is necessarily a failure.

Flippiefloppies

My boyfriend is divorced. He did what he thought was the right thing and married a girl that he got pregnant. They were dating at the time. It just did not work out. They are still on very good terms and I actually get along wonderfully with her. She states often that she is very happy that he has found someone she likes to help raise her child. We actually talk and email alot. Alot people would say that it is weird but I wouldn't want it any other way. She just recently remarried and had her second child. We took her and my boyfriends son to see the new baby the day after delivery and hung out awhile with them. I would say that yea it is not for everyone but in my case it has worked out wonderfully for me and I would not change a thing.

My ex and my DH have gone golfing before LOL

Her and I have actually planned on going to a movie together once but it fell through due to other things. I ask my bf if he thought it was weird or bothered him and he said no so, I dont see the problem.

ElizabethRoad

Of course.... not now I'm married though!
At my age (45) the options are someone who has been divorced or someone who has never been married. In general I'd take the divorcee over "never married" but everyone is so different you can't really apply blanket rules to dating.

There's also "widowed" and "currently married".

Pocket_Pixi

What I find amazing is how many women wouldn't date someone who has kids....

But, would these women if they were single moms expect men to date them?

i have dated guys with kids in the past and when the relationship ended (they were long term so I did get to know the kids fairly well) it was the hardest on the kid... not saying all relationships end but if they do you have to consider the miniature humans involved to... for me kids are not a deal breaker (even if I do not plan on having any of my own) but I am pretty cautious about them because I hate seeing anyone hurt, and kids can get attached pretty easily.

AlicynH

I think it would depend on why he was divorced. Spousal abuse is definitely out. I know some people just marry the wrong person the first time around.

SkettiGurl

As a rule I wouldn't rule out divorced men as I was divorced by the age of 23. But it TOTALLY depends on the circumstances and if I was comfortable with the situation.

LisaD1021

Yes, I would, because I am also divorced. But at my age, single men are mostly either divorced or widowers. As long as you make sure your time together doesn't turn into an ex-bashing session.

BuckeyeBoi

I was married 15yrs and didnt ask for a divorce nor at the time wanted one. In Florida you cant contest a divorce, I said when I signed it, what if I dont sign this, they said you would be subject to contempt of court!

beeker75

My husband dated someone who was 2ce divorced, and we have been together longer than either of those 2 marriages! And my husband was a widower, with 3 kids. Our lives are amazing. He does not fault me for my bad choices in my 20s, and I love him SO much for that! If he had been divorced instead of a widower, I still would have dated him!

brandy_nurs24

absolutely.......... considering I am divorced I can hardly judge someone for it.

ECA67

Divorces happen for many different reasons. Divorce doesn't make someone a bad person. I definitely would date a divorced man and I have in the past.

fitforlife34

It just depends on the person and the situation. I'm dating a guy whose currently still married, but gettig divorced. So far, many of my friends and family slam me for that (but they dont know anything about him. He's a really cool guy (we've been friends for 4 years) and he's working hard financially to get stable. so yes, just depends.

ElizabethRoad

When I was 21 my boyfriend was 31... my mother was shocked at the age difference, and said "What if you find out he's divorced or something??" And I said, "Um he is..." The worst part is that she had divorced and remarried a few years before.

hesn92

If I was single.... I would prefer a man who wasn't divorced (as in, never married lol) just because. I don't know. I don't like the idea of being the second wife. But if he was the right man for me yes I would.

peacefulsong

What I find amazing is how many women wouldn't date someone who has kids....

But, would these women if they were single moms expect men to date them?

I wouldn't rule out a divorced man. If he had children, I would be a lot more hesitant, and that is largely because I don't actually want children. If I don't want children of my own why would I want someone else's? I'm not saying I would categorically rule that guy out but children bring a whole extra layer of complication, not the least of which would be having to deal with his ex. That may or may not be a problem but it would be a lot to take on.

robiney

I really don't think so - then again I'm only 20!

sunkisses

I would much rather date a divorced guy than a married one.

Mom2rh

I married "until death do us part" too...and tried for 20 years to ignore the emotional, verbal and occasionally physical abuse. Yeah. When the violence kept escalating (slamming on brakes on freeway, throwing plates of food, spitting on the floor, the counter, etc., threatening to get a gun because he was mad at our teenager...the name calling...I could go on) and he was doing it in front of our younger child so that law enforcement had to get involved, it kind of gave me the wake up call that I do NOT have to live this way and teach my children that this behavior is normal. Living with that kind of abuse is NOT God's punishment for choosing the wrong spouse.

I'm really curious what story he will tell his future dates. He insists he's a "nice guy." Whatever. If whomever he dates is in his life and has in impact on my kids', I will do my best to get along with her. And good luck to her.

Will anyone want to date me? They'd be crazy not to. I'm a catch.

SafireBleu

I did and I married him.

meshashesha2012

divorced and moved on YES separated and bitter NOPE