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    Ladies - Would you date someone who is divorced?

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    • Posts: 218
      What I find amazing is how many women wouldn't date someone who has kids....

      But, would these women if they were single moms expect men to date them?
    • Posts: 60
      if a man is strong enough to get through something like that and come out on top then good on him :) of course!
    • Posts: 321
      Funny question..I am bout to be a divorced woman so yes,I would date a divorced man.Lol might make it easier!
    • Posts: 682 Member
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      I am not saying one shouldn't get divorced (or, preferrably annulled) in some of the extreme circumstances. I am saying I wouldn't get remarried after going through that, because obviously I didn't do a good job of picking the first time.

      please tell us what it's like to live in a world with unicorns where people fart rainbows and gardens grow lollipops? it sounds so lovely. :huh:
    • Posts: 187 Member
      Yes. In fact, my current guy was divorced and has two beautiful children from his first marriage. Things are pretty okay with him and his ex, but she was less than thrilled when she learned I got pregnant. Since then, things haven't been as great between them, but they never let it affect the children.
    • Posts: 5,138 Member
      A friend of mine was in a marriage where her husband was suspicious and jealous of everything she did, and constantly accused her of cheating. Eventually she did cheat. They went to counseling and tried to work it out, but ended up divorcing about a year later.

      I'm not defending what she did. But it was a mistake, and she genuinely tried to make things work after that.

      In the past I might have said that cheating would have been a deal-breaker. But seeing her go through this situation, I can't really say that anymore. Because if I think, "Would I date her?" then the answer is yes, I probably would.
    • Posts: 5,138 Member
      What I find amazing is how many women wouldn't date someone who has kids....

      But, would these women if they were single moms expect men to date them?
      I don't see what's wrong with that. Some people don't want kids, and some don't want to deal with the drama of someone else's kids.
    • Posts: 3,937 Member
      Of course I would.

      I'm very lucky - my boyfriend doesn't care that I've been married before and divorced, nor does he care that I have two teenage children too. :)
    • Posts: 1,932 Member
      No.

      Because I date to get married, and I am not promising "till death" to someone who has already illustrated that marraige doesn't mean that.

      seriously? What if his wife cheated on him? Which makes me wonder if your husband cheated on you.....you would stay? Remember your claim was "till death do us part"
    • Posts: 6,423 Member
      Of course.... not now I'm married though!
      At my age (45) the options are someone who has been divorced or someone who has never been married. In general I'd take the divorcee over "never married" but everyone is so different you can't really apply blanket rules to dating.
    • Posts: 140 Member
      Absolutely. In fact, at a certain point, it's preferred. Of course, it really depends on the situation. But, in general, it's easier for me to connect with those who dare to try than those who don't.

      I am not of the mind that divorce is necessarily a failure.
    • Posts: 319
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      My ex and my DH have gone golfing before LOL

      Her and I have actually planned on going to a movie together once but it fell through due to other things. I ask my bf if he thought it was weird or bothered him and he said no so, I dont see the problem.
    • Posts: 5,138 Member
      Of course.... not now I'm married though!
      At my age (45) the options are someone who has been divorced or someone who has never been married. In general I'd take the divorcee over "never married" but everyone is so different you can't really apply blanket rules to dating.
      There's also "widowed" and "currently married".
    • Posts: 1,167 Member
      What I find amazing is how many women wouldn't date someone who has kids....

      But, would these women if they were single moms expect men to date them?


      i have dated guys with kids in the past and when the relationship ended (they were long term so I did get to know the kids fairly well) it was the hardest on the kid... not saying all relationships end but if they do you have to consider the miniature humans involved to... for me kids are not a deal breaker (even if I do not plan on having any of my own) but I am pretty cautious about them because I hate seeing anyone hurt, and kids can get attached pretty easily.
    • Posts: 201 Member
      I think it would depend on why he was divorced. Spousal abuse is definitely out. I know some people just marry the wrong person the first time around.
    • Posts: 186 Member
      As a rule I wouldn't rule out divorced men as I was divorced by the age of 23. But it TOTALLY depends on the circumstances and if I was comfortable with the situation.
    • Posts: 42 Member
      Yes, I would, because I am also divorced. But at my age, single men are mostly either divorced or widowers. As long as you make sure your time together doesn't turn into an ex-bashing session.
    • Posts: 233 Member
      I was married 15yrs and didnt ask for a divorce nor at the time wanted one. In Florida you cant contest a divorce, I said when I signed it, what if I dont sign this, they said you would be subject to contempt of court!
    • Posts: 109
      My husband dated someone who was 2ce divorced, and we have been together longer than either of those 2 marriages! And my husband was a widower, with 3 kids. Our lives are amazing. He does not fault me for my bad choices in my 20s, and I love him SO much for that! If he had been divorced instead of a widower, I still would have dated him! :)
    • Posts: 13
      absolutely.......... considering I am divorced I can hardly judge someone for it.
    • Posts: 802 Member
      Divorces happen for many different reasons. Divorce doesn't make someone a bad person. I definitely would date a divorced man and I have in the past.
    • Posts: 331 Member
      It just depends on the person and the situation. I'm dating a guy whose currently still married, but gettig divorced. So far, many of my friends and family slam me for that (but they dont know anything about him. He's a really cool guy (we've been friends for 4 years) and he's working hard financially to get stable. so yes, just depends.
    • Posts: 5,138 Member
      When I was 21 my boyfriend was 31... my mother was shocked at the age difference, and said "What if you find out he's divorced or something??" And I said, "Um he is..." The worst part is that she had divorced and remarried a few years before.
    • Posts: 5,966 Member
      If I was single.... I would prefer a man who wasn't divorced (as in, never married lol) just because. I don't know. I don't like the idea of being the second wife. But if he was the right man for me yes I would.
    • Posts: 223 Member
      What I find amazing is how many women wouldn't date someone who has kids....

      But, would these women if they were single moms expect men to date them?

      I wouldn't rule out a divorced man. If he had children, I would be a lot more hesitant, and that is largely because I don't actually want children. If I don't want children of my own why would I want someone else's? I'm not saying I would categorically rule that guy out but children bring a whole extra layer of complication, not the least of which would be having to deal with his ex. That may or may not be a problem but it would be a lot to take on.
    • Posts: 15
      I really don't think so - then again I'm only 20!
    • Posts: 2,365 Member
      I would much rather date a divorced guy than a married one.
    • Posts: 612 Member
      I married "until death do us part" too...and tried for 20 years to ignore the emotional, verbal and occasionally physical abuse. Yeah. When the violence kept escalating (slamming on brakes on freeway, throwing plates of food, spitting on the floor, the counter, etc., threatening to get a gun because he was mad at our teenager...the name calling...I could go on) and he was doing it in front of our younger child so that law enforcement had to get involved, it kind of gave me the wake up call that I do NOT have to live this way and teach my children that this behavior is normal. Living with that kind of abuse is NOT God's punishment for choosing the wrong spouse.

      I'm really curious what story he will tell his future dates. He insists he's a "nice guy." Whatever. If whomever he dates is in his life and has in impact on my kids', I will do my best to get along with her. And good luck to her.

      Will anyone want to date me? They'd be crazy not to. I'm a catch.
    • Posts: 881 Member
      I did and I married him.
    • Posts: 8,329 Member
      divorced and moved on YES separated and bitter NOPE
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