Closed Diaries?

comment on their exercise and forget about their diary.

i don't like it, and i'm going to start deleting

My diary is closed because I make all my food from scratch and can't be bothered to log all my recipes (different recipe every week). So basically I am either entering the 'equivalent' of what I ate or entering manually calculated calories (basically by doing the same thing the recipe tool here uses but with a tool I'm more used to).

Plus, my diary is closed because my definition of healthy is MY definition. Nobody has any right to try and tell me what to eat or what not to eat. That's not their judgment to make. This from the girl who mainly eats clean except for a few exceptions (store bought gluten free donuts FTW!)

I keep my diary as a private record.. not to get messages about why im eating less, or you should eat more of this, or less of that.

Exactly. I am extremely hard on myself. If I eat something horrible I feel bad enough about it, let alone having to think about what others are going to say about my choices. I don't need the extra criticism, I criticize myself enough as it is.

I have mine open to friends.....but honestly it's no ones business really.

This is me too.

An open diary will only open a can of worms only if the other person reading it does not have an open mind. I eat 1-2 servings veggies and one or two servings of fruit per day the rest is what I like I am healthy, lean and muscular. Criticizing someone for not eating like you or a certain is not a good thing but suggestions are always welcome.

After all aside from food quality the rest is nothing but a numbers game and guessing game.

There are plenty of people that leave pretty nasty messages for some people's diaries. I now will only leave my diary open to my friends.

Hmmm haven't seen that in the time I've been here. Why do you care what other people say? MFP is your personal health journey to success. Negative comments push me to try harder. If you only hear the good what do you gain and why do you need friends to stroke your ego?

I keep track for me, and me only. I don't care if anybody ever says "nice job" when I eat under my calories. I can honestly say, I've never looked at another persons diary.

^^THIS^^ you said it better than I was able to. I honestly never look at diaries, I barely have time to log my own. If one of my MFP honestly feels they can not support me as a friend because my diary is locked, then we probably are not that good of friends anyway, if this is how we are defined as friends.

I keep my diary as a private record.. not to get messages about why im eating less, or you should eat more of this, or less of that.

What she said.

Whats wrong with privacy?? My diary was closed when I signed up...never thought about opening it...and I have plenty of support.

You feel uncomfortable supporting a member because you can't see what they are eating? Very interesting!
I truly don't get why some individuals worry about things that have absolutely nothing to do with their own success.

Some people just aren't comfortable letting others see what they eat for various reasons.. be it they don't eat very healthy, or they don't eat enough, or they forgot to log half the time.

Whatever the reason, the point is mind your own business and let people alone. If you are that nosy and must know what all of your friends do, then just ask them and potentially creep them out.

P.S What the hell is wrong with MCD? If people want to eat that or junk, then who cares? I eat junk all the time and am doing just fine thank you!

^^^^^Yes! What she said!!! If you want people to look, let them..if not, that's your business. Respect other's right to privacy like you would want your right to privacy respected.

i don't like closed diaries, it defeats the whole purpose

What "purpose?" I thought it was just to keep track of the food I eat, not so other people can judge it.

Mine is open (I just don't always log), but everyone who logs their food should be doing it for themselves and no one else.

I never understood the whole "keep it open for accountability" thing. That's not looking for accountability, it's seeking approval. If someone just wants approval, they can fill in whatever the hell they want.

Now if someone is asking for specific advice, then an open diary is handy. But I know I never asked anyone about my food intake and never cared what anyone else thought of it, and I did just fine.

Mine is open & I like to look at others to see what they are eating to give me ideas of other things to eat. I get tired of eating the same things! I would NEVER degrade someone for overeating!!!

I keep my diary private because I don't trust myself to be completely honest with what I'm eating if I know that others will see. This way if I eat 12 cookies, I will put down 12 cookies and not 2 cookies. I have a good handle on nutrition and I review my diary to see what I was doing a year ago when I was loosing weight, but it's really just a tool to help me...I don't see how others seeing my diary would help them or myself.

Some people are just private or sensitive...they don't WANT your remarks or input. I don't know why that's so hard to understand??

thanks I DO understand. however do they not want SUPPORT either from their MFP buddies?

I support my friends either way. Mine is open, but it's not necessary to my success. If I closed it today, I'd still get the same results. I don't feel the need to know every detail of my friends' lives in order to cheer them on. If you do, you can always delete friends with closed diaries....plenty of people do.