Why do guys stare at women lifters?

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  • RightNowWellness
    RightNowWellness Posts: 12 Member
    I would like to offer a slightly different explanation.

    Instinctively men are hard-wired to protect women. They don't have to worry about that so much when they are training and no women are around but if there is one around they (even unconsciously) could be watching out for you. Yes they are also hard-wired to notice the female form. Not because they are rude but genetically they are made to want to procreate at all times so our species doesn't die out. So they are also noticing your beauty. Men sweetly enough can see beauty in every women.
    So if you don't understand that it can feel uncomfortable. We are hard-wired as women to want to feel safe and that may not feel safe or comfortable. However if we understand how the other operates than maybe we can see it differently.

    Thank you guys for always noticing women's beauty and looking out for us.
    It took many a long time before I really understood that.

    I am a relationship/sexuality coach. My focus is on celebrating the difference of gender (in case you wanted to know if I just made that up)
    And was in the Army for many years surrounded by mostly men.
    ;-)
  • SirBen81
    SirBen81 Posts: 396 Member
    You need to consider what else we have to look at in the gym. There's the ceiling, the floor, walls, and other inanimate objects. But if we stare at those...people will just think we're zombies.

    It's meaningless. Don't be flattered or scared by it.
  • aj_31
    aj_31 Posts: 994 Member
    Does no one take advantage of the mirrors? Helps cut down on being busted staring.

    ^^This! Lol
  • mmapags
    mmapags Posts: 8,934 Member
    The correct response when you a man someone staring is to face him, bring your arms out to your sides to look bigger, and say in a low-pitched but loud voice, "Come at me, bro!"

    Good thing I wasn't drinking coffee or it'd be all over my laptop screen!! Rolf!!:laugh: :laugh: Love it!
  • wedjul05
    wedjul05 Posts: 472
    I lift weights for about 30mins twice a week. Upstairs in my gym, there is about oh 50 guys and little old me. I have to walk around the place looking for the weights I want, look for a mat to do my core work on then. I also have grip pads fotr my hands for the machines as I started to get welts on the palms of my hands. I feel people looking at me when I wear them, silly I know.

    I feel I get started at but I don't give a toss why tbh. Maybe it is because I look good and more importantly, I feel good too. That's the most important thing!!!
  • FoxyMcDeadlift
    FoxyMcDeadlift Posts: 771 Member
    1. Dat *kitten*
    2. What else is there to stare at
    3. Their form
    4. Personal one here, but i find it laughable how many women have better form than the bros
    5. Miring, just like you mire the bro who deadlifts double your 1RM
  • jcr85
    jcr85 Posts: 229
    In the way.
  • vancil01
    vancil01 Posts: 70 Member
    Because we are guys and you have tits. Simple answer.
  • jenniebean1680
    jenniebean1680 Posts: 350 Member
    1. Dat *kitten*
    2. What else is there to stare at
    3. Their form
    4. Personal one here, but i find it laughable how many women have better form than the bros
    5. Miring, just like you mire the bro who deadlifts double your 1RM

    This is why I love you.
  • bizgirl26
    bizgirl26 Posts: 1,795 Member
    Because we are guys and you have tits. Simple answer.

    That is what I always thought. Weight lifting has nothing to do with it!
  • sleepytexan
    sleepytexan Posts: 3,138 Member
    hahahaha.

    you can get the same answer if you leave off the last word of your question.
  • steve1686
    steve1686 Posts: 346 Member
    why do women wear skin-tight yoga pants and sports bras to the gym and then wonder why men stare at them?
  • JNick77
    JNick77 Posts: 3,783 Member
    why do women wear skin-tight yoga pants and sports bras to the gym and then wonder why men stare at them?
  • skinnylove00
    skinnylove00 Posts: 662 Member
    because they dont expect us to be there probably...i get bored on the elliptical and it doesnt really do much for me besides burn calories...but in the weight room i am torching cals SO quicker!! i think the guys gawk because i know what i am doing and I know how to adjust a machine! funny enough, lately i`ve been making the machine on the shortest setting and then adjusting it to a higher weight. one guy even asked ME how to adjust a machine! ;D SMALL BUT MIGHTY!!!
  • cldwyer150
    cldwyer150 Posts: 20
    that's awesome!!
  • ofthevalley
    ofthevalley Posts: 69
    I just really like this thread LOL
  • cmay89
    cmay89 Posts: 337 Member
    My favorite is when a new guy comes into my box (my gym/my domain) and stares at the weight I am putting up, tries to out-do me and fails. Then, stares again, trying to figure out how a girl could possibly lift more than him.

    But I do like the point that people have brought up about them wanting to suggest a spot, but are uncomfortable doing so. I try to be really open when one approaches me about my form or with any suggestion. Just because I know a lot about lifting, and have decent form, and can put up a lot of weight does not mean that I know it all and I am open to critiques. Of course, if I am given a critique or a suggestion I scrutinize their form like no other, making sure the advice they give is valid and that they follow it themselves.
  • spazofthedead
    spazofthedead Posts: 175 Member
    4. Personal one here, but i find it laughable how many women have better form than the bros

    At least in my experience, this is easily explained by women's lack of comfort in the weight room in the first place. We know we're not a common sight in there, and if a woman is at all serious about going in there she's going to research her **** and know what she's doing before she gets a chance to make a fool of herself.

    Just an observation.

    I haven't had trouble with staring since I've started lifting. I've had plenty of guys talk shop with me, some bad advice given, plenty of compliments on my deadlift form and even a last second spot or two, but never staring or anything that would make me uncomfortable.
  • Limajuliet
    Limajuliet Posts: 54 Member
    Say hi to the guy staring at you, have a friendly chat and you'll be able to work out why he was staring... and may not do it again!
  • aj_31
    aj_31 Posts: 994 Member
    [/quote]

    **At least in my experience, this is easily explained by women's lack of comfort in the weight room in the first place. We know we're not a common sight in there, and if a woman is at all serious about going in there she's going to research her **** and know what she's doing before she gets a chance to make a fool of herself.

    Just an observation.

    [/quote]

    ^^This for sure. I read somewhere that women will have better form then men most of the time because they do the research and they believe form is more important than weight.

    Also - I had a guy decide to do skullcrushers on a bunch directly behind me as I'm squatting. Maybe I'm over thinking it but I'm pretty sure he made sure to do his set while I was resting so he could watch me on my sets. Lol....I guess that's what I get for wearing yoga pants and a tank top. Oh and the reason I think that is because this isn't the normal place for people to do skullcrushers so it was kind of odd he was there.

    **Sorry not sure how I messed up quoting you on the top half.
  • InnerFatGirl
    InnerFatGirl Posts: 2,687 Member
    Yesterday was my second day lifting and it was a better experience. I was (trying) doing bicep curls and this guy stood in front of me, saying something. I took my headphones out and he showed me the proper way to do bicep curls. Then he spent the next hour showing me workouts, encouraging me and spotting for me. It was so sweet of him, and the best part is that he didn't ask for my number or make a move so I believe he genuinely wanted to help. I feel more confident in the weights area, and the more confident I get, the less I care about the stares.
  • docktorfokse
    docktorfokse Posts: 473 Member
    Yesterday was my second day lifting and it was a better experience. I was (trying) doing bicep curls and this guy stood in front of me, saying something. I took my headphones out and he showed me the proper way to do bicep curls. Then he spent the next hour showing me workouts, encouraging me and spotting for me. It was so sweet of him, and the best part is that he didn't ask for my number or make a move so I believe he genuinely wanted to help. I feel more confident in the weights area, and the more confident I get, the less I care about the stares.
    I would have asked for his number, lol!
  • woodsygirl
    woodsygirl Posts: 354 Member
    Honestly, I don't mind stares however I do mind if they come up and say something creepy.

    The other day I was trying to figure out a new move and it took a few tries when someone decided to come up and ask "what was that jump doing for you"? I laughed and said "I don't think it was doing anything". Then he proceeded to tell me what muscular legs I had, at least from what he could see with my pants on. :noway:
  • upti5872
    upti5872 Posts: 12
    I'm not sure if it's been said already but another reason why is some women come to the gym damn near naked! One improper lifting technique and everything could be working it's way out! i understand that you want to be comfortable when you work out but there is a difference between comfortable and a lingerie model. You have two types of guys who worked out: the high hormone horn dogs, and the " I want to live a full and healthy life " guys. Now I don't need to say which ones are drooling at the women lifters; the other ones are just wondering, " Is she really here to work out or to pick up? " I just left the gym because of this. A young lady came in with her 5 yr old sister's panties and training bra on and there just happen to be a gym full of young horn dogs in there. It's hard to work out when all the equipment is being tied up by gaukers or it is covered in drool and sweat! Just shameless in my opinion.....
  • InnerFatGirl
    InnerFatGirl Posts: 2,687 Member
    Yesterday was my second day lifting and it was a better experience. I was (trying) doing bicep curls and this guy stood in front of me, saying something. I took my headphones out and he showed me the proper way to do bicep curls. Then he spent the next hour showing me workouts, encouraging me and spotting for me. It was so sweet of him, and the best part is that he didn't ask for my number or make a move so I believe he genuinely wanted to help. I feel more confident in the weights area, and the more confident I get, the less I care about the stares.
    I would have asked for his number, lol!

    :laugh:
  • Kincar
    Kincar Posts: 601 Member
    Yesterday was my second day lifting and it was a better experience. I was (trying) doing bicep curls and this guy stood in front of me, saying something. I took my headphones out and he showed me the proper way to do bicep curls. Then he spent the next hour showing me workouts, encouraging me and spotting for me. It was so sweet of him, and the best part is that he didn't ask for my number or make a move so I believe he genuinely wanted to help. I feel more confident in the weights area, and the more confident I get, the less I care about the stares.

    That's great. The longer you've been lifting the less stares you'll get. You tend to see the same people if you go at the same time every day. Plus, your confidence will go up the longer you're doing it.

    ***

    For the record I never wore yoga pants and a sports bra and I never thought every guy wanted me. Most of the time it was the feeling of "What is SHE doing in here?" from the guys, and "Look at that ho in there trying to pick up men!" from the scantily dressed women outside the man cave. This was 20 years ago and it was a meat market gym. But it was super convenient to my house & had a good free weight section.
  • kazzari
    kazzari Posts: 473 Member


    For the record I never wore yoga pants and a sports bra and I never thought every guy wanted me. Most of the time it was the feeling of "What is SHE doing in here?" from the guys, and "Look at that ho in there trying to pick up men!" from the scantily dressed women outside the man cave. This was 20 years ago and it was a meat market gym. But it was super convenient to my house & had a good free weight section.

    I usually wear loose drawstring pants and a sports bra under a T-shirt. I think things have changed a lot for the better. More women lifting, although I haven't seen any woman besides myself doing conventional deadlifts for some reason-squats and Romanian dl's, yes, but not cdl's in my gym. I think if you walk into the weight room with confidence and take your workout seriously, you'll feel respect rather than stares.
  • delikium
    delikium Posts: 196 Member
    I always wear one of my bf t-shirts when I train. They fit like a tent and I'm super comfy in them
  • delikium
    delikium Posts: 196 Member
    why do women wear skin-tight yoga pants and sports bras to the gym and then wonder why men stare at them?

    Maybe so u come over and help lifting????
  • InnerFatGirl
    InnerFatGirl Posts: 2,687 Member
    Yesterday was my second day lifting and it was a better experience. I was (trying) doing bicep curls and this guy stood in front of me, saying something. I took my headphones out and he showed me the proper way to do bicep curls. Then he spent the next hour showing me workouts, encouraging me and spotting for me. It was so sweet of him, and the best part is that he didn't ask for my number or make a move so I believe he genuinely wanted to help. I feel more confident in the weights area, and the more confident I get, the less I care about the stares.

    That's great. The longer you've been lifting the less stares you'll get. You tend to see the same people if you go at the same time every day. Plus, your confidence will go up the longer you're doing it.

    Defo! I can't wait until I know what I'm doing and develop a routine.
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