Newbies, beware.
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i have found that people are moody on here. and do not always think before posting!!!!!!!!!!!!
they are moody cuz they don't eat.. :laugh:
OP: though i can't really help with your question about toning, you can add me if you like
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Hi, I saw your post and also the responses you got. I think you may have been too sensitive. I don't think the posters meant to be rude. One poster shared where you could find the answers and the other with the cheeseburger comment was trying to be funny.
That's the disadvantage with posts like this, you don't see the persons face, inflection or smile.
I do believe you will get the help you need here. Stick around for a time and see what happens.
Good luck on your goals
You may be right, but it upset me nonetheless. I am a bit fragile to be honest, and I thought it was ok on here to ask for other users opinions. Thank you for your kind words though.0 -
i agree it was down right rude and negitive.. she is new asking for help..
i am new here too.. and learning so much.. there are some great great people.. anything you need to know or want to get through.. let me know.. and i will try ..
and to answer the question .. as i have been told when i ask.. there is no way to spot lose.... it will just happen when it wants( grrrr cause my tummy is my bad spot and i hate it)
lots of sit ups i guess.. lol
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My suggestion is build up a group of nice friends on here, and use them for your questions. It's a bit safer that way! 0
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I saw your response, I think you are too sensitive and need to relax. What was said was nothing bad at all. :happypillforyou:0
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I agree that it was pretty rude. My advice, add the people who do seem encouraging and give you good answers. I'm pretty new and I have to walk away from a lot of the forum posts. A lot of the people are immature and rude. But then again I've added some great encouraging friends 0
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From what I can see, you had a couple of people try to help, and one person trying to be funny - and, yeah.. They weren't funny.. But your reaction was hypersensitive. Why would you let a silly comment send you into such a spin. Moreso since you have now started a pretty childish thread as a consequence. These forums reflect real life. You will like some people, you will like others less. You will receive some good advice, and some people will say things you perceive as objectionable. Would you support your children if, in the event that they have ross words with another child saying "stay out of the schoolyard. Kids are nasty"0 -
If you are fragile, the forums may not be the place for you. It takes a thick skin to dwell out there sometimes. I would recommend friending a bunch of like-minded folks and building a more personal private feed for support and questions.0
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Not very nice though.
The very first reply was spot on. Then there was a joke. Then there was another decent reply. Then a few more replies to clarify that the joke was a joke.
So, all in all, a simple question, some straightforward answers, a joke, and then a bit of extra noise.
If only every thread was that clean and efficient.
If you want unconditional niceness, make some friends here with like-minded folks. If you want answers, do some research or ask the forum. Usually you will get some factual answers mixed in with tons of noise and misinformation.
Ask a question that's been asked thousands of times before, and you will likely get ridiculed. Which is fair in my opinion. It's common etiquette on internet forums to search before posting.0 -
Hi! Welcome! I read that thread and honestly....that is how it is here. The first poster gave good and true advice! No meanness that I saw. And the cheeseburger one was a joke. We all joke around here a lot. Try to lighten up a bit and post away!
The best was to get rid of any fat is over all weight loss. There really is no spot training. Sometimes, especially after kids, the only way to completely get rid of a tummy is a good ol tummy tuck.
Good luck and keep up the good work!0 -
You keep asking questions. MFP has a button that you can delete someone so you never see their posts again. I had to do that last week. Someone complained that I eat out to often which I am quite aware. I am away from home 7:30am - 7:30pm. Then I glanced at their food diary and they had ate at McDonalds and Kentucky Fried Chicken four times in three days. We are all here to transform into a healthier lifestyle. Please do not be discouraged.0
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I saw your response, I think you are too sensitive and need to relax. What was said was nothing bad at all. :happypillforyou:
Actually I already take them! I just thought that comment was uncalled for.0 -
this ^
Quoting because it's worth repeating.0 -
I read that thread. I've seen worse. That was pretty friendly actually.
I thought someone actually tore into you. Do your friends often say you have no sense of humor? Some people are like that.
As far as I know , the answer to your original question is, you have to lose the fat from your whole body. There really isn't anything that targets one area of fat over another except liposuction. You can do more core exercises so when the fat is gone you uncover something, but other than that it's all about the kitchen.0 -
Not very nice though.
I'm super sensitive and even to me none of the replies were meant as rude. That's why one girl did the joking laugh afterwards. Honestly it seems like you over reacted to it. Not trying to be rude. As Taso said it's a good idea to search before you ask. Newbies are like lambs and there are lots of wolves on the internet.0 -
hmmmm.... I think that if you have your profile closed you won't get blasted by the bashers. You can have it so only your friends can see. and if those 'friends' bash you then you can delete them. I've posted some silly stuff too... I've never gotten bashed... you have to choose your friends wisely. remember you can always delete. it's not nice, but if maybe safer...0
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Welcome to MFP! Thanks for sharing! :flowerforyou:0
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I saw your response, I think you are too sensitive and need to relax. What was said was nothing bad at all. :happypillforyou:
Actually I already take them! I just thought that comment was uncalled for.
What was uncalled for about it? Nothing was said as an attack or rudeness. This is sad.0 -
Not very nice though.
The very first reply was spot on. Then there was a joke. Then there was another decent reply. Then a few more replies to clarify that the joke was a joke.
So, all in all, a simple question, some straightforward answers, a joke, and then a bit of extra noise.
If only every thread was that clean and efficient.
If you want unconditional niceness, make some friends here with like-minded folks. If you want answers, do some research or ask the forum. Usually you will get some factual answers mixed in with tons of noise and misinformation.
Ask a question that's been asked thousands of times before, and you will likely get ridiculed. Which is fair in my opinion. It's common etiquette on internet forums to search before posting.
Yes ok, but having never done this sort of thing before, how was I to know those things? I get it, i just didn't appreciate the "joke".0 -
I can understand being sensitive, I am a sensitive person (ask anyone who spends 5 minutes with me) but even I didn't think that response warranted your reaction--It was clearly a joke! I think you need to take a deep breath and loosen up a little. a lot of people on here are sarcastic and like to joke, if you are going to be completely serious and super sensitive 24/7 then probably not a good idea to use the forums.0
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You may be right, but it upset me nonetheless. I am a bit fragile to be honest, and I thought it was ok on here to ask for other users opinions. Thank you for your kind words though.
It is perfectly okay to ask questions here, we all do from time to time. Keep doing so, how else are you going to learn? I read your other post and am really unable to see any real rudeness. I agree, you may have overreacted a bit; even posting this thread could be considered an overreaction.
May I suggest you have a cheeseburger, I saw you had written that you'd never eaten one. In my professional opinion, that is a problem. In the spirit of welcoming and good cheer, I present you with a REALLY good one. Bon Apetit!
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I try to not post alot on the boards, I read mostly, I try to find supportive informative friends...I've been on this site off and on for a while...and was very disheartened to see how um hateful and all the forums have gotten.0
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I sometimes find a post that offers really good advice and then PM that person. I haven't got a rude response yet doing that. I mostly do this to answer questions and just let them know that I saw their post and didn't want to publicly reply because of the backlash it would cause on the thread.
No one has every told me to pi$$ off yet so maybe that is something to try. People here do try to be funny and fail miserably. It is hard to tell sarcasm from type. And they do try to push their views. Just remember, they are not Doctors, Nutritionist, Dieticians or Trainers so their advice is just that, something to try but take it all at face value for the lack of hard facts.0 -
Honestly OP I don't the reply was at all rude.
That said, there ARE some genuinely off putting people you'll find anywhere on the internet even in a place where everyone is suppose to be united to one common goal. Remember that fact alone doesn't make everyone BFF's, and we shouldn't assume automatic comradeship.
I am pretty curious about a previous statement about not logging housecleaning as an activity because others say it doesn't count, is this actually true? That is, that someone would say 3 hours of cleaning isn't an activity?
It's been pretty well accepted that cleaning can be quite a decent work out. Washing dishes for 30 minutes may only burn 70 calories, but mopping up for 30 minutes can burn 150. 200 calories can easily be burned in an hour of cleaning, more for different types of strenuous cleaning.
I wouldn't log, say...dusting my lamp shade
but 2 hours of vacuuming , mopping, moving about the house and pushing furniture around? Yeah that can burn off some decent calories.
Perhaps you should log sexy time instead, which burns off upwards of 150 calories per half hour and see what they say then... :devil:0 -
Hi, I saw your post and also the responses you got. I think you may have been too sensitive. I don't think the posters meant to be rude. One poster shared where you could find the answers and the other with the cheeseburger comment was trying to be funny.
That's the disadvantage with posts like this, you don't see the persons face, inflection or smile.
I do believe you will get the help you need here. Stick around for a time and see what happens.
Good luck on your goals
THIS!0 -
Hi, I saw your post and also the responses you got. I think you may have been too sensitive. I don't think the posters meant to be rude. One poster shared where you could find the answers and the other with the cheeseburger comment was trying to be funny.
That's the disadvantage with posts like this, you don't see the persons face, inflection or smile.
I do believe you will get the help you need here. Stick around for a time and see what happens.
Good luck on your goals
You may be right, but it upset me nonetheless. I am a bit fragile to be honest, and I thought it was ok on here to ask for other users opinions. Thank you for your kind words though.
You are correct in thinking that it is acceptable to ask for opinions. Unfortunately, fragility will shatter your expectations, as it shows.
Opinions are just that; statements based on personal views or judgments. How you handle them is entirely your decision. And in your opinion, opinions that don't coincide with your expectations are rude. I could agree with you, but then we'd both be wrong.0 -
I can understand being sensitive, I am a sensitive person (ask anyone who spends 5 minutes with me) but even I didn't think that response warranted your reaction--It was clearly a joke! I think you need to take a deep breath and loosen up a little. a lot of people on here are sarcastic and like to joke, if you are going to be completely serious and super sensitive 24/7 then probably not a good idea to use the forums.
OK. Advice taken. I won't come on here again. I am going through a hard time at the moment, so probably don't need this! Thanks for your reply.0 -
Hi, I am new here too feel free to add me! I need encouragement too! lol0
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Another friendly warning - if you post a topic in the forums and get a less than welcoming reception, posting another topic about how people are so rude to you will usually bring on more rudeness from the trolls that roam around here, I've seen it happen a few times now.0
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Quoting because it's worth repeating.
Again.
I didn't think it was that bad, either. One straight answer followed by some jokes.
It also helps to use proper adult anatomical terms like "abdomen." "Tummy" is for three year olds.0
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