Would you move for love?

I say write down your PROS and CONS and figure out which ones are most important to you and make sure you have a backup plan when things don't go accordingly.

Gonna second this. If you're doing it for more than the relationship then make sure you have a plan for work, extra money saved up for rent if you don't find a place right away, and a plan if the situation doesn't work out for whatever reason. Picking up and moving even if it's just you is hard enough, you're adding in a guy waiting for you and you need to make sure that not only is this the right thing for you as far as a future career-wise but relationship-wise. It wouldn't be so easy to switch jobs or move out to another place should things go south since it's not familiar territory. Right now you wanna set your heart on a shelf and turn to logic and planning more to cover your *kitten* and probably his too.

That being said, I don't find anything wrong with making the decision with the guy mostly in mind but then again I'm not only in a long distance relationship myself, I was active in a community that was basically support and advice for them and this was always an important question. It's the ultimate leap in faith to uproot yourself and root elsewhere because the person you want to be with is there. In the end it's your decision and if you're comfortable enough with it, then try. Give it 6 months and if your relationship is still good and you've gotten a job you like and the city's not a cesspool then just take it from there. It's all you can do, really.

I did, 13 years later am still happy!! Just do it.

Planning to as soon as I find work in the new country

I did it...if I could do it over again...I would do it again! Just move for yourself and dont put too much pressure on the relationship, if it fails you are still a strong independent woman who can conquer the world. If it works out, you are still a strong independent woman who will conquer the world at the side of your man. Either way, go get em girl!

Exactly this! Well said.

Do it! Don't be afraid of decisions. You can always make another one if you need to. Long distance relationships suck big time.

You are young... now is the time to explore. when you have seen what you like and don't like, then settle...

Coming from the non romantic side, I wanted to say that Charlotte is a great city and has a lot of employment opportunities. It's not the capital of NC, but it's the largest city. I say go for it. I moved down here (to Raleigh) almost 30 years ago from Ohio and I love this state! Well, most of the time, but I won't go into Amendment 1 here.

I guess I'll add my 2 cents worth. I'm a bit older but I moved from California to Delaware to be with the man I fell in love with online. While there was a lot of culture shock, I would do it all over again to be with him. It will be 6 years this June since I made the move and I'm happily married to the man of my dreams (literally).

You've received some good advice on this thread. My only addition would be to pray about it if you believe in prayer. All the best to you in whatever you decide.

I say go for it!

"Follow your heart but take your brain with you."- one of my favorite quotes

Never heard that one before.. tis awesome!

Why not go there! Your that young @ 23 even it went sour after 2 years you'd still be only 25, would have lived out of your comfort zone, taken a risk and probably learnt heaps about yourself.

Heres a quote I like.

Better to die regretting something you did, than dying regretting something you didnt!

I moved for love. I moved away from all of my family and friends, from a place Ioved, for my ex fiance. It was a huge risk, but I was ready for a change and I knew I'd regret it if I didn't at least try. Things were wonderful, awesome for awhile.... then it all fell apart. Once the reality of the fact that I was here settled in, he didn't want anything to do with me. He was a jerk and it was all about chasing what he couldn't have, while I was passionately, irrevocably in love with him.
I bought a house (all me), found a great job and we co-existed for 3 and a half years. I was miserable, I was depressed, I felt trapped. I got fat. I then found out that not only was he not really in love with me, he was running from 10,000.00 in unpaid bills. Sigh.
I kicked his *kitten* out not knowing what the heck I was going to do next, I had so many bills.

Then I was just here. Alone.
Spent a solid couple of years totally single, dated a few guys who weren't worth a crap and decided I was better off single lol.

The next few years were so freaking hard. So many tears, so much hopelessness, so much insomnia, so much freaking loneliness. Not to mention all of those dreams and hopes that I had down the drain.

But then something happened. I met this guy who became one of my best friends. He was a cutie and women freaking threw themselves at him but he didn't want anything to do with them, which really shocked me. He was a few years younger than me and quite a catch with a fantastic smile, a great job, a Harley, a sense of humor, compassion and a protective side. I thought there was something really wrong with him because he was single lol. Of course he lived in Florida and I wasn't going to date long distance, so even though I had a huge crush on him, we were just friends. Then one day he moved here to "be closer to his family"... he now admits he moved here for love
After a couple of years of developing friendship (and me NOT sleeping with him mind you) we finally started dating. I really put him through the ringer haha poor guy A year of dating, he proposed. I said yes and we will be married 3 years July 1st. He is the best man I have ever known, a saint lol, my best friend, and makes me smile instead of cry every single day.

So I've had two completely different experiences with moving for love. And despite the hell I went through in the beginning few years, I would completely do it all over again because if I hadn't I never would have met my Husband.
I totally think you should follow your heart, but make sure that you are prepared to make it on your own if something goes terribly wrong. But if you feel strongly about it, definitely consider it. I would however wait a little while to make sure the attraction is not influenced by "wanting what he cannot have". THAT was so painful to figure out.

Good luck whatever you decide

Do it. I would have done everything I could to move to LA and work in education to create a life with the person I loved and it didn't work out. If there's no reason not to and you feel so great with him, it is the logical choice. If it doesn't work, you're not tied there permanently. Sounds like that's just enough of a change of scenery to really be a chance to try living somewhere new.
Go for it.

I moved 2000 miles for my now husband 13 years ago and we've been married for 12 of those years and we are happy....well, except that I really hate living in Oregon but that's a story for another day

I prob wouldn't unless I was REALLY serious about this person and marriage was the topic of conversation and I liked the place. I would hate to move somewhere away from my family and be miserable.

I would also add that the South is great and you shouldn't have too many problems making friends It's always harder as an adult, but I moved from the south to the midwest and ugh. People just don't care to get to know you where I am. I've tried, but after 9 years here I still only have what I would call one FRIEND. And I'm a pretty dynamic freakin person lol

North Carolina!? really!? HELL TO THE NO! I wouldn't live in NC if all the other states fell off the planet - don't you read the news!?
Take your female, degree self to THE MOST BACKWARD and repressive state. better yet, WHY not just go back in time say ... 200 years.

IF this boy cares about you, HE will move and NEITHER of you will ever step foot in North Carolina or any state south of KY (which is shady)

NO NO 1,000 times NO!