Would you move for love?

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  • DeniseBromley
    DeniseBromley Posts: 123 Member
    If I were you... I'd do it!

    Right after college I moved to some rinky-dink town to be with my boyfriend....almost 5 years later, we're married, and very happy here, despite being over 500 miles from either of our families.

    Just try it out, see if it works for you! You'll always regret it if you don't at lease give it a shot.
  • MinnesotaManimal
    MinnesotaManimal Posts: 642 Member
    At age 21, I moved 2,000 miles From California to Minnesota and left behind a self started business to be with a beautiful funny charismatic young lady. That was 9 years ago. We have 2 children, a house and are married. Couldn't be happier, but don't let others make this choice for you. Only you know whether it’s worth the risk. My move definitely was. I have not been back to California once since I left.
  • blittle2
    blittle2 Posts: 94 Member
    I'm more concerned with the peanut butter and bananas or ketchup and macaroni. LOL

    I say make the move but get your own place.

    Good luck
  • Dimplybutt
    Dimplybutt Posts: 123 Member
    If you have to do it, there is no better time than now - no job, you're young and free right now. You have the same 50%/50% chance that anyone does. You'll get advice both ways. It's your heart.

    This ^ ^

    There will come a time in your life where you won't have the option or the opportunity to do this kind of free-wheeling kind of thing. Do it now while you are young and free! :smile: Enjoy life ... take chances ... have fun ... life is too short not to! :)

    Besides you don't want to have a 'I wish I had...' or a 'what if...' regret. Those are actually worse than the 'I wish I hadn't ...'. :wink:
  • Specialkayrina
    Specialkayrina Posts: 242 Member
    Moved from Brazil to the US to be with my love.
    It was the hardest and most painful experience of my life, culture shock, away from all my family, friends,my career, everything..
    But.. I'm happily married for almost 4 years now and we are definitely soul-mates :) totally worth it!
  • cbear017
    cbear017 Posts: 345 Member
    In case the advice of 100+ people isn't enough: DO IT! I

    f nothing else, think of it as one of your life's great adventures, something to tell the grandchildren.
  • rbn_held
    rbn_held Posts: 691 Member
    I was born and raised in Missouri and lived there over 30 years on our farm. No one ever thought I woul leave. Then I met my boyfriend and he got a job offer in Indiana and asked me to move with him. It was quite an adjustment, especially being away from my family, but I think it was one of the best decisions I have ever made. I love Missouri but it did me good to get out and see new places. Do it
  • interceptor311
    interceptor311 Posts: 980 Member
    Probably should......
  • melbot24
    melbot24 Posts: 347 Member
    I've lived in both Lancaster, PA and Jacksonville, NC.
    All on a crazy road trip living out of my car and not having a permanent address.

    To me, they're both horribly boring and ordinary places BUT! I have never regretted living there and experiencing those cities and meeting the people I did.

    I will always look back at those times fondly.

    If you don't do it, you'll always wonder what if.

    No regrets, just love.
  • kelseyhere
    kelseyhere Posts: 1,123 Member
    While you're young you can afford to take chances. My only suggestion would be don't move in together. Find your own place or a place with female roommates, and go enjoy living in a new city!! Also, take on some activities when you get there that don't involve him so you can be sure to make a broad circle of friends and support network. That way if things don't work out, you won't feel alone.
  • Fayve
    Fayve Posts: 406 Member
    I just moved from BC Canada to Louisiana to be with my love less than a week ago. It's been the happiest 5 days of my life thus far :)
  • taxacctdfw
    taxacctdfw Posts: 67 Member
    Move because you want to...not just for love. I did it and I didn't regret the first move. The second move is what I regret (when it ended, moved to Texas). Should have stayed because I fell in love with the city and the state...........
  • EileenMaxine
    EileenMaxine Posts: 2
    I would say "Do it" too! You can always move back home if it does not work out. You will always wonder what could have been if you don't go for it. I moved for love and have been blissfully happy for 18 years and 3 kids later. Sometimes you have to follow your heart.

    Good luck!
  • stillthesamegirl
    stillthesamegirl Posts: 112 Member
    SO crazy to see all these responses! I just moved from Canada to Charlotte NC for my love! It's hard and lonely but in the end sooo worth it! Good luck !!!
  • thelovelyLIZ
    thelovelyLIZ Posts: 1,227 Member
    Sounds like you don't have anything to lose. Plus, you would know someone where you were relocating too.

    I got a job in Cali right out of college, and my boyfriend packed up and moved with me from Oklahoma. Granted, we'd been together almost three years at that point in time, but he took it as an opportunity to get out and take a step in his life. Sometimes these things work our well.
  • Bumdrahp
    Bumdrahp Posts: 1,314 Member
    Do it :) You will always wonder " what if" if you don't!
  • TinaCleg_cancel
    TinaCleg_cancel Posts: 276
    North Carolina is so beautiful. You will love it there no matter what happens with this guy. Do it for you!
  • minussam
    minussam Posts: 127 Member
    my husband and I met in college in the US. After6 months I moved back to Germany. We did long distance for 2 years. Then he moved to Germany (he was done with college first), then we both moved to Canada. Right now he's already in US and I hope to move there soon.
    The long distance was hard, very very hard at times. We didn't have another choice and it was certainly worth it and I would do it again for him.
    What about moving there but finding your own job and place and dating the guy?
    The experience of living in a different place is priceless.
    Good luck!
  • Diary_Queen
    Diary_Queen Posts: 1,314 Member
    YOLO!!! I moved from Texas to Michigan for love once.... it was wonderful and lasted a long time until my issues got in the way. I was 17 and he was 22.
  • grex1949
    grex1949 Posts: 125 Member
    I say...GO FOR IT!!! Don't move in with him though. Find your own place first and go for the adventure! You are young, go live life! So it's scary for some people because there is a boy involved? I say...life is an adventure, go live it! The boy (guy) is just a bonus! :0) Best Wishes!:smile:
    Good advice, it seems to me. Don't move in with him. You are checking out NC, not the prospective boyfriend, at this point, anyway. Good luck!
  • AllisonMart
    AllisonMart Posts: 155 Member
    Do it, but live separately at least at first. Now is the time, and if it doesn't work out, at least you tried. NC is lovely.

    I have a similar story - we met in high school when I was 13 and he was 15. I think of him as my soulmate, but for many various reasons we've never gotten together. Now we're 31 and 33 and living in separate states and wondering why, after 18 years, we're not together.

    Don't be 31 and wondering and trying to find someone else who equals him. Do it.
  • Ashley_Panda
    Ashley_Panda Posts: 1,404 Member
    I moved to him, he moved for me, we moved together. Happily ever after. The end.
  • aippolito1
    aippolito1 Posts: 4,894 Member
    I say find a job first. Look both where you live and where he lives. Whichever offers you a job first, go or stay there. Because if things don't work out for the boy, you still have to survive on your own.
  • cannonsky
    cannonsky Posts: 850 Member
    I say go for it.. you'll regret having what if's more than learning from the experience on the off chance it goes badly.
  • zambodiare
    zambodiare Posts: 62
    I moved for love....I most certainly did. I had a long distance relationship, with my now husband, for a year. He would drive 6 hours to visit me every weekend. I moved to New York to be with him a year later. I say go for it!!

    Another good story, my boss: she moved a thousand miles or so away from her home town to be with someone she had only known for a few weeks. They married two months later and have been together for over 30 years.
  • kevin3344
    kevin3344 Posts: 702 Member
    So the worst that could happen is you'd be a single, financially secure woman living in Charlotte, NC...easy one.

    Take it from me, NC is great! I moved to Raleigh, NC 12 years ago (also considered Charlotte) and it's so much better than up north it's almost scary (I grew up in Buffalo, NY). Mild winters, a few hours to the beach, close to the mountains, and better economy.

    I have a great group of friends here, belong to a run club with almost 400 members, and I'm having the time of my life.
  • _Bob_
    _Bob_ Posts: 1,487 Member
    I think you already know what you're going to do, just let go and take the leap to something great
  • MarkMenconi
    MarkMenconi Posts: 8
    Life is full of scary decisions, sometimes if you take a leap of faith you find something great you never saw before
  • kitkatkmt
    kitkatkmt Posts: 178 Member
    Research cost of living, job market etc. Do not live with him. Date like normal people. All should be fine.

    ^ This!
  • spacecase76
    spacecase76 Posts: 673 Member
    absolutely.
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