Older man with Younger Woman (Ladies Only)

Ugh. My dad just married a woman from Thailand who is a year younger than me (she's 31, he's 56.) He's going through the paperwork now to move her here (US) in about six months. I'm really trying to be positive about the whole thing, as he seems happy, but I just can't shake this :grumble: :sick::explode: :sick: :huh: feeling. Am I wrong to find the whole situation unappealing?

I really wouldn't date someone more than 5 years older than me but never younger . I prefer someone who is going through the same thing as me in terms of life process such as college, buying a new house etc. Its funny because I just told a man who was 35 that he is too old for me yesterday ( I am 24). Honestly, at my age, I don't want to date someone with a impending mid-life crisis in a few years.

When you see a man >40 with a woman <25............................................thats just plain creepy!!!
Daddy issues and weird fetishes have to contribute to that s***!!!!!!

And in addition they'll die soon.....................

I wouldn't advise a 10 year age gap at your age.

Oh hell no!!! I'm staying in my own age group:)

My hubby is 9 years older than me

Mine too! And we couldn't be happier!

I lived a lot of life early on. So when i was in my early 20s and newly divorced, i found i didn't have anything in common with the males my age in college. So i dated men twice my age. Even today, i find something incredibly sexy about a man around 50-55. That confidence and maturity that "boys" just don't have.

All that said, my husband is a year younger than me, and we've been together almost 20 years.

I have dated both older and younger guys. to be honest I had more bad experinces with the older guys. I wouldn't say its wrong per sey it depends on the maturity of the guy. but a big age difference would be very awkward and weird for me. my being almost 37 years old I personally couldn't picture dating someone that much older than me they could almost be old enough to by my dad.

personally I myself wouldn't go for anyone more than 6 years younger or 3 years older than me.

Ugh. My dad just married a woman from Thailand who is a year younger than me (she's 31, he's 56.) He's going through the paperwork now to move her here (US) in about six months. I'm really trying to be positive about the whole thing, as he seems happy, but I just can't shake this :grumble: :sick::explode: :sick: :huh: feeling. Am I wrong to find the whole situation unappealing?

No offence, but seems like one of those mail order bride things.................................that s*** ain't right!!!

My suspicions are confirmed!!! :laugh:.....:sick: ....... ..........:grumble:

I'm 10 years older than my husband! He was 39 and I was 49 when we married. Been a great marriage and neither of us wanted children, anyway!

*I* only EVER date older men. I haven't dated a man my age since high school... even that was a mistake. Of course, I was jailbait back then too, so the older men wouldn't bother me much at that time lol My current man of 7 years (also the father of my child) is 14 years older than I am.

Due to the early absence of my father (my mother and I left him when I was 9 - abusive drunk/druggie), I suppose there could be some sort of deep-seated psychological explanations to the age preference... no one can ever REALLY know what happens in the human psyche, so I couldn't completely ignore that theory.

However, my dislike towards [MOST - not all] men my age also contributes to my preference in older men. I've never had a good experience with a man my age because they were all too irresponsible, childish/juvenile, selfish, and obnoxious. They don't know chivalry, loyalty, or common sense for that matter, and they aren't typically in it for the long run. Granted, a man, or women, in their 20's may sometimes be considered too young to even know what "forever" really means, but that's always been what I was personally looking for - someone I could at least see a future with.

Anyways, not to write a book or anything lol but all the older men I've been with have been wonderful to me, to my family, very respectful and just ... mature. Of course, I'm not generalizing, not all older men are marriage-worthy supermen, and not all younger men are obnoxious, juvenile delinquents, but from my experiences with both age groups I just personally find that an older man fits my personality, my wants and my needs better than younger men. Which is why my vote goes to: Older Men! lol

BUT... to each their own! As long as we're all happy, nothing matters. Love knows nothing but love.

Love and Alohas,
Ihilani Kapuniai

I've had relationships with older guys - usually no more than about 5 or 6 years older. I prefer it.
I know my nan dated my grandad - married him - 20 year age gap. He was older. They were happily married for a very long time.

I don't think it's wrong at all. I think if A couple share similar interests, passions, goals etc and they're happy together, then age isn't really an issue. Maybe 20 years is a little much personally for me. Ten year gap maximum.