When did this site become so judgmental ?

It started getting judgmental about the same time that every new person posted the same question without using the search feature... so... pretty much when it was started... welcome to the internet, some people like to hold hands and encourage dumb behavior and some of us dislike stupid all together... it happens.

Those that run the site have stated that they prefer the "same old" questions be asked repeatedly and that "conversations happen". It's not stupid to have conversations.

I had a college professor once make a statement that stuck with me about how "rude" has become the socially acceptable norm. On a forum this size you're bound to run into this. And while some people just don't care if they are rude and in fact feed on the drama, others don't even realize how they are coming across but will be defensive to the end if you try to point it out.

So unfortunately this post will probably be pretty ineffective towards it's target audience.

There may be some not so tactful people on here but trust me, after trying out a bunch of health forums last month trying to find a good one, this by far has the most welcoming people. I think we just have to ignore or block the others and not let it affect our perception of the forum as a whole.

Love this!! lol.

are there any people here who are too sensitive? how can a stranger on the internet offend you? the only way a stranger can offend you is if you allow them too.

I havent had but one person that I was friends with me, judge. I have had the COMPLETE opposite experience. I love this place! i love my friends... and I find it incredibly motivating, inspiring and helps me stay on track. The world is filled with *kitten*... I think there are VERY few here.

Welcome to humanity.

Bottom line- controversy is good for the site. Encourages discussion, discourse and disagreement. More people see the ads and participate. All good. People that get hurt feelings might need to adjust the value they place on the supposed offending random stranger on the internet.

Agree!

You are so right!

Just today a new member asked if she should eat her exercise calories, and some douche wrote back that maybe she should search before she posts stupid questions. How rude is that!

Maybe new members dont know they can search, who knows, whatever the reason is, there is no need to be rude when people are looking for help !

And you know what, its always the obsessive fit maniacs (who were in our position one year ago!!!) that feel like they know everything because perhaps their journey is complete... Just because your journey is complete does not mean you have to obstruct somebody else's journey !!!

HMPH! got me all riled up .. lol

That is because those can-I-eat-back-exercise-calories thing have been asked a lot of times which is why it becomes irritating especially if you've been here for a long time now. However its not correct to say "search before posting stupid questions", that guy should've said it better like "I (insert his own opinion) but I think it would be better if you also search for this question since it has been asked a lot of times here so in this way you can get some helpful tips"

Using the word OBSESSIVE to all in-shape people are offensive. Its not that we feel we know everything but most of us are talking based on our own experiences. Of course most of us who have made it have undergone thru hard times & also asked a lot of questions or did a research before & worked so that's why we only want to share what we have learned to those who are still on the journey. Now I don't know about those obstructing other's journey & sorry if you encounter one but most of the these folks are being helpful. Perhaps you just misunderstood it.

amen to that

The problem is different people have different limits on what is and is not acceptable behavior. You can't control what other people do..just you.

^^This. I really don't think it has changed much since I started, there are just a ton more people on with opinions to spew.

I've asked questions about certain things and people get so rude and nasty especially on food,fitness,and cleanses and juicing that type of stuff

i just posted today asking one simple question about a dr.oz show i seen today and geez some people were rude saying dont listen to him etc i never once said i was doing what he suggest i was wondering if some people added some of his remedies to their exercise routine

I read that and didn't think anyone was being rude. Disagreement isn't rude. A lot of people on here are sensitive to that IMO

^^this - they were being rude (justifiably) about Dr Oz, not the poster.

You are so right!

Just today a new member asked if she should eat her exercise calories, and some douche wrote back that maybe she should search before she posts stupid questions. How rude is that!

Maybe new members dont know they can search, who knows, whatever the reason is, there is no need to be rude when people are looking for help !

And you know what, its always the obsessive fit maniacs (who were in our position one year ago!!!) that feel like they know everything because perhaps their journey is complete... Just because your journey is complete does not mean you have to obstruct somebody else's journey !!!

HMPH! got me all riled up .. lol

That is because those can-I-eat-back-exercise-calories thing have been asked a lot of times which is why it becomes irritating especially if you've been here for a long time now. However its not correct to say "search before posting stupid questions", that guy should've said it better like "I (insert his own opinion) but I think it would be better if you also search for this question since it has been asked a lot of times here so in this way you can get some helpful tips"

Using the word OBSESSIVE to all in-shape people are offensive. Its not that we feel we know everything but most of us are talking based on our own experiences. Of course most of us who have made it have undergone thru hard times & also asked a lot of questions or did a research before & worked so that's why we only want to share what we have learned to those who are still on the journey. Now I don't know about those obstructing other's journey & sorry if you encounter one but most of the these folks are being helpful. Perhaps you just misunderstood it.

Actually, I find the search function not very good.e.g if I search "exercise calories" I get the last post on that subject and if there was an active thread on that subject I can get pages on that specific thread before I get a new another thread.

If a people tired of a question topic why do they even open the thread?

This is actually a quite fascinating (to me anyway :P) internet phenomenon.

Life on communities and forums follow this cycle that have many similarities with "real life" but it moves much faster.
Coming to a forum like this for example, is for some people a bit like meeting a great girl or guy and falling head over heels. You've found the one and it's SO GREAT. You keep finding things in common - like minded people with goals the same as you and threads that is just what you wanted but since your glasses still have that rose shimmering filter, you skim over the rest. Then, depending on your personality or the level of involvement, the honey moon period lasts for a while (say 6 months) and then you suddenly start noticing flaws that you could swear was not there before. Then, you notice more and more. He leaves his sock hanging on the bathroom mirror - someone is nasty in a forum reply. How did this happen?! Why did it change? The thing is that it didn't really change, the way you looked at it did.
The only thing one can do is to see what one doesn't like and then either be the opposite oneself, or kick the loser to the curb.

I have surrounded myself with kind supportive people and for the most part ignore the snarky folks. It works for me!

And I try to surround myself with the snarky people. Life would suck without sarcasm. *shrug* To each their own.

FYI, telling someone thet're doing something harmful to themselves is not mean or judgemental. Nothing to do with the above quote, just needed to say it.

I have surrounded myself with snarky witty people and for the most part ignore the cleansing juicing folks. It works for me!

I prefer the snark, and I'm new on here. Obviously you have your arseholes wherever you go in life, and if anyone is insulting you, let it bounce off your thick skin.

I think some people are over-sensitive though. If you come and ask for opinions on what you're eating for example, and you don't like those opinions you can't really complain about it or act as if you have been personally attacked. There's a difference between personal attacks and opinions.

I think some people are over-sensitive though. If you come and ask for opinions on what you're eating for example, and you don't like those opinions you can't really complain about it or act as if you have been personally attacked. There's a difference between personal attacks and opinions.

I agree. I don't understand why some people are so narrow-minded & they think that if someone goes against their point of view, they would think against that person. What's the point of asking in an open forum if all you want to hear are favorable opinions? If you want to see only favorable responses then it might be better if you just post that question in a group forum where people share your similar thoughts instead of the main forums where people share different opinions. Come to think of it, were all grown ups here & the majority of us are adults & yet majority still act like a little kid. As grown ups, we should know how to accept constructive criticisms or different opinions. Also many people doesn't know the difference between personal attacks & opinions. Just because someone dislikes your post doesn't mean that he is attacking you personally. He may hate your post but it doesn't mean that he hates you as a person or as an MFP member unless of course you're starting to attack him as a person with insulting words.

This site became judgmental the moment they allowed humans to use it.