How would you feel if someone said this...
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he said "DONT TAKE THIS THE WRONG WAY!!!!!! so you cant take it the wrong way.
damm if everything was only that easy haha. I would take it as 100% pure compliment...exactly the way it sounds like it was intended!!0 -
They are right and you will see how differently people treat you (even strangers) when you are closer to a normal weight. You will also find yourself critical of overweight people once you are thin. just remember you were there once yourself too. Just a observation.0
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He should have said something like this:
"Wow, you are like heart of a volcano hot! If you loose anymore weight, you are going to be like surface of the sun hot. When that happens, all bets are off! "
Or pretty close to that.
That's a better way to say it.0 -
Why the hell can't he think you are hot NOW?
Oh...and for the rest of you defending this guy -
Don't give me this "you people are so sensetive" BS. You guys know what it sounds like and what it doesn't.0 -
If it is some one that you want to have a relationship with, get on the treadmill!0
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Fat people - listen up!! It's okay for people to discuss our fat in a factual way. It's not like ignoring the fact that we need to lose weight is going to magically make us skinny.
I just totally disagree. Regardless of how awesome I am, and how beautiful I am at my size, I have no misconceptions about the fact that I will be more physically attractive when I have lost more weight. Why is that rude to talk about? Why is it automatically rude for him to compliment her and then mention the fact that she has so much more potential as she reaches her goals??
I have to go with Kort on this one. I think I am attractive enough where I am that I don't scare small children, but the potential for so much more is hidden, and that is what I am working on. If someone told me I was beautiful, i would take that as the compliment it was intended to be.0 -
I just totally disagree. Regardless of how awesome I am, and how beautiful I am at my size, I have no misconceptions about the fact that I will be more physically attractive when I have lost more weight. Why is that rude to talk about? Why is it automatically rude for him to compliment her and then mention the fact that she has so much more potential as she reaches her goals??0
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He should have said something like this:
"Wow, you are like heart of a volcano hot! If you loose anymore weight, you are going to be like surface of the sun hot. When that happens, all bets are off! "
Or pretty close to that.
Now *that's* how you compliment a lady! :flowerforyou:0 -
he said "DONT TAKE THIS THE WRONG WAY!!!!!! so you cant take it the wrong way.
No offense, but you're an idiot.
I seriously lol'd at this and people looked at me funny
haha sorry this is just funny, and he shouldn't be offended by you calling him an idiot cause you said he shouldn't be??0 -
I have to go with Kort on this one. I think I am attractive enough where I am that I don't scare small children, but the potential for so much more is hidden, and that is what I am working on. If someone told me I was beautiful, i would take that as the compliment it was intended to be.0
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<<Just reply with your own back handed compliment "when I lose the rest of the weight I'll be a whole magnitude more out of your league" >>
^^^ THIS!!!! ^^^0 -
I heard a guy comment to a friend about me in a similar manner. He said "Once she loses weight I'm going after her." And it just made me dislike that guy a little more. I'm not a prize to go after, one. And two, if he didn't like me at a higher weight why would I like him at all? Plus, I have a boyfriend who supports me and likes me no matter my size.
I'm sure he meant no harm but he's doesn't sound like he would deserve your affection if he does try to hit on you after you lose some weight. It really just sounds like he stuck his foot in his mouth.
The only problem with this line of thinking is that while a man may love you no matter what your size, the truth is that being overweight carries with it an increased risk for any number of diseases. I'm pretty sure guys look for a woman who is healthy and who he can spend the rest of his long life with, and overweight women are less likely to be around as long.
They guy did stick his foot in his mouth, but he would be better off instructed how not to do so in the future than completely disregarded.0 -
I wish I had a dollar for every time I've been told, "You'd be so pretty if you were thin." It totally sucks and it's not much of a compliment.0
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Why the hell can't he think you are hot NOW?
Oh...and for the rest of you defending this guy -
Don't give me this "you people are so sensetive" BS. You guys know what it sounds like and what it doesn't.
Because fat, especially excessive fat and the lack of self-confidence that goes with it, *isn't* hot to a lot of guys. He was being honest. Isn't that better than lying, saying she's hot, and giving her less incentive to get healthy.0 -
Just reply with your own back handed compliment "when I lose the rest of the weight I'll be a whole magnitude more out of your league"0
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he prob just was nervous, when guys see me now that haven't seen me in 10 years and 35 pounds ago always say "Wow damn your REALLY hot now!" One guy told me he couldn't talk to me in person now because it would be terrible because he would be a nervous wreck and before it was hard enough to talk to me.. I was like ...awww sweet., I think..........0
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I just totally disagree. Regardless of how awesome I am, and how beautiful I am at my size, I have no misconceptions about the fact that I will be more physically attractive when I have lost more weight. Why is that rude to talk about? Why is it automatically rude for him to compliment her and then mention the fact that she has so much more potential as she reaches her goals??
I get what you're saying, but the way it's coming across (and I don't think you mean it this way) it sounds like a self-esteem issue, like you don't *really* deep down believe you are good enough right now.
I do agee it's not rude to talk about, when engaged in that conversation. His 'compliment' sounded like he just blurted it out of nowhere? We are being overly harsh on him if they were talking diets, weight, etc., so that's a great point.0 -
I just totally disagree. Regardless of how awesome I am, and how beautiful I am at my size, I have no misconceptions about the fact that I will be more physically attractive when I have lost more weight. Why is that rude to talk about? Why is it automatically rude for him to compliment her and then mention the fact that she has so much more potential as she reaches her goals??
Again, I just disagree. A person can be beautiful but not hot, and that's not a bad thing, and it's not a rude thing to say. In My Humble Opinion.0 -
I just totally disagree. Regardless of how awesome I am, and how beautiful I am at my size, I have no misconceptions about the fact that I will be more physically attractive when I have lost more weight. Why is that rude to talk about? Why is it automatically rude for him to compliment her and then mention the fact that she has so much more potential as she reaches her goals??
I get what you're saying, but the way it's coming across (and I don't think you mean it this way) it sounds like a self-esteem issue, like you don't *really* deep down believe you are good enough right now.
I do agee it's not rude to talk about, when engaged in that conversation. His 'compliment' sounded like he just blurted it out of nowhere? We are being overly harsh on him if they were talking diets, weight, etc., so that's a great point.
I do agree that some of us are being overly critical of this guy when we don't know the context of the comment or the type of friendship these two people have or anything like that. We have one sentence out of a conversation from a stranger on the internet.
Which is why I don't jump to conclusions about what he meant, but rather focus on the fact that I believe the fat acceptance movement has made people a little sensitive about the truth regarding their bodies.0 -
He meant to compliment you. It came out awkwardly. That happens sometimes. If there is a next time tell him "I'm hot now, I always was, and always will be... I just can't help it....." Watch. He will say something along the lines of "True, but you get hotter all the time..." which is more the thought I think he was trying to express.0
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