The most annoying 'compliment'?

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  • freshprincessx
    freshprincessx Posts: 22 Member
    "You can really tell you've lost weight in your face." I get that all the time and it annoys me.
  • austindog2
    austindog2 Posts: 128
    There's a Thai restaurant that I go to pretty frequently when I'm home from school, and I know one of the older Thai waiters pretty well because we've been going there for years. The other day when I was in for lunch, I was paying the bill and he walked by and stopped to stare at me. He said, "What have you been doing? You've lost a lot of weight!" I would have been happy with that compliment. However, he put his arms out to the side like an umbrella and waddled a little bit and said "before, you looked like this!".

    Gee, thanks.

    I'm 5'10'' and my highest weight was around 185, I'm currently down around 155. I know his intentions were good and I appreciate the fact that he noticed the weight loss, but he could have expressed it in a much more eloquent way...
  • BeautyFromPain
    BeautyFromPain Posts: 4,952 Member
    Haha, guys asking me out now after being the ones which used to bully me for being fat :grumble: kindly, **** off!
  • Laurej
    Laurej Posts: 227
    I get the oh my god, you've lost a 'ton' of weight

    thanks for noticing I lost, kick in the pants for thinking I've lost 2000 pounds
  • laughingdani
    laughingdani Posts: 2,275 Member
    The most annoying one I've ever gotten was....

    "You look so pretty...NOW!"

    Wow, thanks Grandma. :grumble:
  • ShesRoyal24
    ShesRoyal24 Posts: 7
    "Wow, you lost a lot of weight....are you sick?" wth lol
  • DarkNebula84
    DarkNebula84 Posts: 445 Member
    you have such a pretty face!

    This is the worst!!
  • Atarahh
    Atarahh Posts: 485 Member
    "Hey skinny girl"

    I know its affectionate...but when it's said to me and innocent bystanders who don't know I am losing weight hear it,
    it makes me look nuts when I smile about it or respond like normal.
  • Starklover
    Starklover Posts: 57
    I think the most annoying for me is:

    You look good, but then you always did...

    Okay no! I weigh 200+lbs and have a baby pouch from Hell... I do not "always look good"... rarely ever do I look good... and adding that little "but you always do" to the end just invalidates the effort I have been putting in and the pride I feel and getting a "Hey, you look good!"

    Okay I feel better now!
  • thelovelyLIZ
    thelovelyLIZ Posts: 1,227 Member
    Honestly, the most obnoxious compliment I got was BEFORE I lost 20lbs... I would mention I was going to the gym or trying to get in shape and people would immediately go "Oh, you're not overweight! You don't need to lose any weight!"

    While I appreciate that they were saying I looked fine as I was (140-145lbs at 5'4" with a small bone structure), there was DEFINITELY room for improvement and I had a high body fat percentage since my body frame is on the small side. I look much better now as I maintain between 125-130.
  • TrailRunner61
    TrailRunner61 Posts: 2,505 Member
    I just wondered if anybody else had some really annoying 'compliments' that they get from people after some weight loss.

    My favourite is 'you're wasting away!' - no. I'm clearly not, am I? I don't know why, but this one really annoys me.
    I just had someone tell me that yesterday! LMAO. I've lost 35lbs and I have 20 more to go so I'm seriously NOT wasting away! Yeah it annoyed me!
  • ahadj
    ahadj Posts: 257 Member
    "All that law school stress getting to you, huh! No time to eat, etc..."

    No, I'm not losing weight because of law school stress!!!!! In fact, I am losing weight DESPITE law school stress.
  • Bunnie_Rex
    Bunnie_Rex Posts: 63 Member
    I can't wait to get annoyed with compliments. :bigsmile:

    Hasn't happened yet. :ohwell:

    I know you all have worked hard for it. :drinker:

    Maybe someday for me?:blushing:



    This :)
  • JennieAL
    JennieAL Posts: 1,726 Member
    I got compliments my whole life when my self-esteem was suffering. I was thin my whole life and was always given the: You're soooooo skinny/little/tiny blah blah blah... you need to eat... yadda yadda s***

    Now that I've got confidence and don't seem to give a f*** no one seems to compliment me anymore. All I ever get are hair flips, a toss of the head, or some crap from someone in a grocery store... some off-handed comment within hearing range. Nice.
  • WhitneyAnnabelle
    WhitneyAnnabelle Posts: 724 Member
    you have such a pretty face!

    End discussion
  • Newf77
    Newf77 Posts: 802 Member
    I find it a back handed compliment when someone tells me "You have lost weight, you are looking good" like I was not "looking good" before? I must have looked like S#it for the past several years.
  • raysmyth
    raysmyth Posts: 55 Member
    THIS IS THE ULTIMATE WORST!!!! I hate this one. A guy once started calling me "pretty face" i guess as a nickname (a dumb one)..... such a TURN OFF.
  • Articeluvsmemphis
    Articeluvsmemphis Posts: 1,987 Member
    these are funny, i just like for people to notice so nothing has annoyed me.
  • mathgirl
    mathgirl Posts: 61 Member
    "You're so skinny", said in a kind of bitter "I wish I did have that kind of metabolism" way. :P sometimes followed by "you dont need to work out". Ooohhh noo there is nothing called hard work, but all about having the right genes. :) *overbearing sigh*
  • Femtec74
    Femtec74 Posts: 347 Member
    I have no problem with any compliments that I receive. There are a lot of people that don't know exactly what to say, but just the fact that they notice and want to let you know that you are doing a good job makes me feel great. The other day - I had a guy in the kitchen at work (whom I barely know) tell say "you've lost some weight haven't you?" (I've lost almost 50 lbs in the past year) That was all he said, but it made me feel great because I know that I'm making a difference and people are noticing. I get the "skinny girl" comments - I just say - "Skinny is my favorite word these days" I get the "you're wasting away" - I say "Thank you - I'm trying to clone myself with the weight I've lost" Etc.. Compliments are usually meant well - try not to be too sensititve about them, Appreciate them as they are meant. (Except the better in bed comment - I think I would've gotten out my steel toed boots for that one.)
  • jjscholar
    jjscholar Posts: 413 Member
    I hate all of those so called compliments... The worst one is "You're Wasting Away."
  • kazzari
    kazzari Posts: 473 Member
    LOL. I just commented on someones blog post that I can really see the weight loss in the slimming of her face. Not 1 min later read that it might be on this blog as annoying. Oops. I really meant it though. Her face looked really different and IMO prettier.

    I think it is perfectly fine when you know someone is trying to lose weight. I'm sure she loved hearing that the results of her efforts are showing. I do this all the time with people I know who are actively trying to lose weight. Nobody is ever offended...they light up.
  • peytonturk
    peytonturk Posts: 49
    you have such a pretty face!

    This. Really? I'm so fat that all you can come up with is you think my face is pretty? Which you probably only said it because you felt you needed to say something and that was the first thing you could come up with. Or "You tan well!" ............... fml

    I'm 31 years old, and I have received this "compliment" all of my life. I remember in high school this guy was telling the girl right next to me how hot she was... Then he looks at me and says, "well you have a pretty face". I hate this so-called 'compliment'. That has stuck with me all these years. My best friend and I would always joke about being "butta-bodies" instead of a "butta-face" (everything's nice, but her face... see what we did there? lol)

    But I am sick of it. 80 more lbs and they can all kiss it.

    I also HATE when people tell me, "oh look how skinny you've gotten"... I still have 80lbs to lose... I am by far skinny.
  • kazzari
    kazzari Posts: 473 Member
    I hate all of those so called compliments... The worst one is "You're Wasting Away."

    Yeah, I don't know how that choice of words could really be interpreted as a compliment.
  • TheOriginalGinging
    TheOriginalGinging Posts: 171
    Well you may be fat but your face ain't too lined, but then wrinkles don't show on a balloon do they?? I was speechless!!

    I think we have a winner! That is the rudest thing I've ever heard!
  • caritiger
    caritiger Posts: 82 Member
    One of my co-workers told me I was getting too skinny, and that I reminded her of her mother when she was dying of cancer! wow.
  • sandralila
    sandralila Posts: 21 Member
    You look good for your age.
  • robinbarten
    robinbarten Posts: 17
    Well you may be fat but your face ain't too lined, but then wrinkles don't show on a balloon do they?? I was speechless!!

    Really?? Someone actually said that to you. Wow!:angry:

    Mine is "you don't look overweight to me"
  • kazzari
    kazzari Posts: 473 Member
    One of my co-workers told me I was getting too skinny, and that I reminded her of her mother when she was dying of cancer! wow.

    Nice! Holy Cow!
  • bemott
    bemott Posts: 180
    Something is different about you. Hm....You look pretty!
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