The most annoying 'compliment'?

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  • bstrongerlennox
    bstrongerlennox Posts: 5 Member
    As long as it's meant to be a compliment, I tend not to mind. It's the compliments veiled in sarcasm or jealousy that I cannot forgive. If you can't be supportive of my efforts, don't say anything at all.

    But just to put something specific out there, I have a comment - which is not complimentary - that I cannot effing stand to hear. It's when someone says, "You're so lucky you've been able to lose weight." I'm lucky? Does running 15-30 miles per week, going to Curves 5-6 times per week, doing the JM 30 Day Shred video 6-7 days per week and counting every calorie I eat sound like "luck" to you? I'd say it sounds more like hard work and dedication, but I'm not here to pat my own back - more like to kick my own a**! I guess the lucky part is that I don't mind the work - I actually like it, but everyone on here knows we didn't start out loving it. It took some positive results and some kicka** endorphins to realize it's also kind of fun.
  • NK203
    NK203 Posts: 35
    The comment that bugs me is, "Are you losing weight?". The implication is that I need to lose more. I am sure it isn't intentional, but I don't care for it. I am also amazed how many people ask how many pounds I have lost. I only share that with a few close friends (and MFP), and they have the good sense never to ask. I am fine with people saying nothing, but a general, "You look great!" is the compliment that I appreciate most and the one I use when acknowledging others' weight loss.
  • SomeMorr
    SomeMorr Posts: 220 Member
    "You are disappearing, soon there will be nothing left!"

    ..really?? I'm 190lbs, I have a long way to go idiot.
  • Phoenix59
    Phoenix59 Posts: 364 Member
    When I got down to 140 lbs., my mom would always tell me I was getting too thin and it was time to stop losing weight....EVERY TIME SHE SAW ME. This was the same woman who used to tell me I was getting too chunky when I weighed 105 lbs in high school. Mom...gotta love her.

    When I had finally reached my goal weight, my husband's best friend decided it was a good idea to tell me that I'd lost too much weight and that I now looked like a 12 year old BOY! :grumble:
  • m0_0m
    m0_0m Posts: 265 Member
    "You're not fat!"

    Thanks, Jerk. I never said I was. Nor do I think I am. I hate how people presume I am/think I am if I'm just trying to be conscious of my eating and exercise.
  • imogenjade
    imogenjade Posts: 131
    you dont need to lose weight. you need to tone
  • imogenjade
    imogenjade Posts: 131
    also my mum used to always say "its a shame your overweight/fat/chubby cos youve got a pretty face"..."if you lost weight you could look good like your sisters"."you look ok neck upwards but the rest is just too big and bloated"..xx
  • vanessalillian82
    vanessalillian82 Posts: 350 Member
    "yeah ive noticed you've lost weight, id stop there you'll look sick if you lose any more" ....um what?!??!

    i mean come on, im 181cm and 81kg ( started at 90.5) and my BMI says 25, im still classed as "overweight" by that rating! and they have the nerve to say that !? i think some people have fogotten what the human form is supposed to look like.

    i dont think there is anything wrong with losing the excess fat around your waist, and educating yourself on what you put in your mouth.

    i also hold back and dont tell anyone bar a few key people that i am counting calories and logging my food, because i get strange reactions. this website/app is fantastic because it teaches us about the foods we eat, and more importantly for me was i was eating the right things, my portions were far too big.



    without myfitnesspal i wouldnt have known i was over-feeding myself!!

    I know!!! I'm 6'1.5" with a BMI of 23.7 (after a lot of hard work on and off over the last couple of years) and could lose 15kg and still be in the healthy BMI range, but people tell me I'm skinny and that I should eat more, especially my mum. Drives me nuts! Mind you, mum has struggled with her weight for years so I think that SHE may have forgotten what the human form is supposed to look like...

    I love this site, too, because it helps you learn what you're eating. The only people who know I am using it are friends who are also trying to stay in control of their weight and get fitter, because I feel like anyone else would judge me. Sad, isn't it.
  • LyndsieLovejoyyy
    LyndsieLovejoyyy Posts: 48
    "you can be on top tonight.. you've been working out so you should have plenty of endurance"
    - my husband :heart:
  • joenolte
    joenolte Posts: 11
    I can see where all of these are annoying, but I'll take 'em. After 37 years of being overweight, I'm excited and motivated every time people who care about me notice. That being said, I guess growing up on the farm, we were taught it wasn't polite to comment on someone's weight period. So I usually start a conversation about it so that people know it's OK. Most of the folks around here do really well with that. Then, when I get the "I see it in your face" or "you are looking so fine now", I can make a joke right back to them like, "what do you mean 'now'?" I love it, and I'm hoping that I get TONS of these as I lose the next hundred!
  • skiniewannab
    skiniewannab Posts: 8 Member
    "Your losing weight just in your chest"
  • saragato
    saragato Posts: 1,154
    Most annoying right now would be my Aunt. She's in her 60s and is heavy only in her stomach and hip region and even then not to any extent since she can still wear smaller clothes than me. She thinks she's humongous and every time she sees me she has to tell me how jealous she is of my getting smaller. This woman wears clothes several sizes smaller than me and she's jealous? I get where she's coming from but still, it's just something that rubs me wrong.
  • FlyByJuly
    FlyByJuly Posts: 564 Member
    "Ewwwww....you're gettin' all skinny!" from a co-worker. I wanted to punch her in the face! I'm far from skinny, it's not my goal to be skinny, and I hate the word skinny.
  • stubbysticks
    stubbysticks Posts: 1,275 Member
    "I wish I had as much motivation as you do." = "I don't want to admit to myself I'm lazy, so it's easier to believe you have some superpower I don't have."
  • ARDuBaie
    ARDuBaie Posts: 378 Member
    "Your not fat! You dont need to loose weight! Im fat and NEED to loose weight! " Says the person who has no fat on them...

    This is my coworker who is so skinny you can wrap your hand around her thigh and still have extra hand. On top of that, she is always cold, so she has the heat on in the summer and I have to work in an oven.

    I think the worst conversation was this:

    Friend: So, you've lost weight?
    Me: Yeah!
    Friend: How much have you lost?
    Me: Around 40 pounds.
    Friend: What size are you wearing?
    Me: I just bought a pair of capris in 12/14.
    Friend: Well, you know that they resized everything so that a 12/14 is really a 16/18, right?
  • Trail_Addict
    Trail_Addict Posts: 1,340 Member
    The take-away from this.... don't bother complimenting anyone on their weightloss, because even the most innocent compliment will be taken wrong by someone.
  • lizzy00125
    lizzy00125 Posts: 138
    This was from a co-worker that hadn't seen me in a couple months, "wow, you're so skinny. Are you eating? You should gain some weight. I'm going sit you down at the chow hall and make you eat like 3 plates."
  • cyn4him
    cyn4him Posts: 83 Member
    mine was "you dont look too bad considering youve had a child..."

    I hate this one..... you look good for having kids.... I tell ppl all the time... stop at you look good.
  • DaughterOfTheMostHighKing
    DaughterOfTheMostHighKing Posts: 1,436 Member
    The take-away from this.... don't bother complimenting anyone on their weightloss, because even the most innocent compliment will be taken wrong by someone.


    not is the person you are complimenting is a good friend or has a good self-image of themselves...

    by the way Trail, you are looking sexy! ;D
  • ma66ie72
    ma66ie72 Posts: 75 Member
    The take-away from this.... don't bother complimenting anyone on their weightloss, because even the most innocent compliment will be taken wrong by someone.



    I know, right! ? I’ve been reading through these and none of them are seriously horrible! Good grief…I know I’ll never try to say something nice to someone “dieting”again…. super sensitive. People have said much worse to me and I recognize that they are not trying to be hurtful…get a grip people!
  • Trail_Addict
    Trail_Addict Posts: 1,340 Member
    The take-away from this.... don't bother complimenting anyone on their weightloss, because even the most innocent compliment will be taken wrong by someone.


    not is the person you are complimenting is a good friend or has a good self-image of themselves...

    by the way Trail, you are looking sexy! ;D

    Right back at ya, legs! :love:
  • misskerouac
    misskerouac Posts: 2,242 Member
    When I saw my trainer last week I was just getting over a bad flu and she said
    "Wow your stomach is looking really flat, must have been all that puking"

    :grumble:


    (I threw up ONCE)
  • bekkaL85
    bekkaL85 Posts: 133 Member
    Not sure if this has been said or not..but mine is "You look so good now!" Even if all you said was you look good, it would be ok...but you look good NOW?

    What did I look like before? The great white whale?
  • pgfitmom
    pgfitmom Posts: 37 Member
    Oh, you are tall. You wear it well.
  • citydwellers
    citydwellers Posts: 40
    My sweet Aunt told me..."oh I can tell your happy...all fat women are happy!" Gee thanks!
  • ElementalEscapee
    ElementalEscapee Posts: 552 Member
    "You look amazing....TODAY." B*tch please I'm amazing all day erry day. >:C

    "Your chubby cheeks are so cute!" Uh thanks.. e_o
  • onewhodiets
    onewhodiets Posts: 67 Member
    One friend, whom I've seen only from time to time during this period of losing weight, always looks straight at my chest when she sees me and says, with a big grin,"Your boobies are smaller!". She has this strange fixation on my chest, which I find annoying. She seems relieved that, at least if I am succeeding with my diet, it is coming off there too. Well duh and I'm fine with that, but maybe next time she can comment on my hips, which are also smaller!
  • yoyoannieo
    yoyoannieo Posts: 42
    mine was "you dont look too bad considering youve had a child..."

    I hate this one..... you look good for having kids.... I tell ppl all the time... stop at you look good.

    exactly!!
  • acman145acp
    acman145acp Posts: 76 Member
    I must be mre vane than i thought.

    I enjoy all the compliments i get.
    Even the "backhanded" ones because i know
    Those people are just jealous they lack the determination.
  • jfan175
    jfan175 Posts: 812 Member
    I'm sick of people asking me how I've lost the weight, like I'm doing something other than working out and taking in fewer calories than I expend. The last few times someone asked, I just said "purging and laxatives" and walked away.
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