Closed Diary's
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My diary's open, but I can understand why some people wouldn't.
Even if people ARE using this website for support, you commenting on their food choices may not be the type of support they are looking for or need. I delete people who make rude comments about my food choices - though it has only happened rarely. What I eat is my business and the tools on this website are to help me. While I love having friends who I can talk to about things and be supportive, I don't enjoy anyone going through my food diary with a fine tooth comb to decide if I what I ate is deserving of a "good job". The reason I do leave it open is because I'm not embarrassed about my food choices even on bad days (because hey, we all have them) and secondly, sometimes people do have encouraging things to say or advice to give that isn't rude based on what I do eat.
But that was my decision to keep it open and no one needs to.0 -
Mine is closed because like my paycheck doesn't pay your bills, my diary will not help your weightloss.
When I am accountable to my team or friends for a challenge, I give them my password.
That is why it is an option:flowerforyou:
This is true. When people have their diary open its because it helps them, not because it helps their friends. The diary being open will help some people and hurt other people.0 -
Because it's no one's business but my own, that's why. This may seem like a childish response, but quite honestly if I want someone's opinion I'll ask for it -- and I haven't the slightest care in the world what my MFP friends are/aren't eating. They're all adults as well, and since I'm no nutritionist I have NO right to tell them what they're eating is "bad" or "wrong" or if they could use "a little less sodium and fat." And if someone is going to de-friend me because I choose to keep my diary closed, then that's someone I don't want as a virtual friend anyway. Should I de-friend people because they don't work out over two hours a day EVERY day like I do? Would YOU like that kind of commentary? Or is it just the food you're interested in?
Oh, and those days when someone has 1/2 a bag of Cheetos and a Diet Coke and nothing else? That was MY diary on Wednesday, August 31, 2011. For those of you with the need to be nosy, that was the day my 42-year old husband had a stroke, and I spent the entire day in the ER at his bedside praying that we'd be able to have a normal life again. Do you *really* think I needed someone all up in my face THAT day telling me what bad food choices I was making???0 -
I like to look at my friends' diaries, so I can get different ideas of what to eat. I respect the fact, that some are closed. If they need help then they will either ask, or open the diary.0
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Because some of us don't care what other people's opinion on what we eat are... I use the diary for my logging purposes to make sure I am hitting my macros and keeping track of my calories. I know what I should be eating and can keep myself accountable. Mine is open but I have had it closed in the past just for the fact that I don't particularly like people commenting on crap like my water intake (I don't log it), or unrelevant stuff like how I should just eat the Whites of eggs. It's not anybody's darn business what I choose to eat. :P
This site is for logging and motivation/support. I can get and offer support and motivation without having to know what somebody is eating. Why would you need to look through my diary before offering support or encouragement? Looking to critique it? Thats not exactly the best kind of support..
I rarely even look at the diaries of my friends because I'm here to offer support and encouragement when they need it not to offer suggestions on their diet unless they asked for it. =/
Why is it so important for others to HAVE to see their friend's diaries? I don't understand that. Making comments on somebody's eating habits or knowing what they are eating is not the only form of support you can offer. If that was the only kind of friends I had on here, I certainly would never use this site again outside of logging.0 -
I've been put down my whole life about my eating habits, even when I was walking/jogging 15+ miles a day to work and working as a groom/exercise rider at one of my jobs. I needed calories then and was broke as all hell so I ate what I could get. I usually eat reasonably healthy. However my mother and others feel I eat like a hog because I am not yet stick thin and they think I need to seriously restrict my calories till I get there. This coming from my mother who was 5'11'' and 100 pounds.
So yes I have personal issues letting people know how much and what I am eating, because everything feels like like crap.0 -
Just deleted another person yesterday because they don't choose to open it up; my motto is if you want 100% motivation, provide me 100% of your diet/exercise. You get what you give...0
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No you are not the only one to feel that way. I don't like commenting on anyone with closed diaries!Is it just me? Do you wonder why people keep their diary's closed? I have had some just ignore me or some get pissed when I have asked them why?? Well why? I don't get why, we are here to support one another and people close out their diary and it says under calorie goal.... Why should anyone say good job if they cannot see it? Just wondering all, I find it frustrating.0 -
:flowerforyou:Just deleted another person yesterday because they don't choose to open it up; my motto is if you want 100% motivation, provide me 100% of your diet/exercise. You get what you give...0 -
Mine is closed! reason why some jacka** thought they were better than me and was making nasty comments...so to the ones that ask to see it I have it locked with a key and they have the key.. why because they are supportive! Not everyone on this site is supportive
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:flowerforyou:Just deleted another person yesterday because they don't choose to open it up; my motto is if you want 100% motivation, provide me 100% of your diet/exercise. You get what you give...
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Aww!I've been put down my whole life about my eating habits, even when I was walking/jogging 15+ miles a day to work and working as a groom/exercise rider at one of my jobs. I needed calories then and was broke as all hell so I ate what I could get. I usually eat reasonably healthy. However my mother and others feel I eat like a hog because I am not yet stick thin and they think I need to seriously restrict my calories till I get there. This coming from my mother who was 5'11'' and 100 pounds.
So yes I have personal issues letting people know how much and what I am eating, because everything feels like like crap.0 -
I honestly don't understand why it bothers anyone. Everyone has different levels of privacy. I don't share my diary. I also would never put a picture of myself in a swimsuit on the internet. I'm not hiding anything. That's just me. I'm not going to NOT support someone because I can't go in and see everything they're eating. It's not really any of my business.
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Because some of us don't care what other people's opinion on what we eat are... I use the diary for my logging purposes to make sure I am hitting my macros and keeping track of my calories. I know what I should be eating and can keep myself accountable. Mine is open but I have had it closed in the past just for the fact that I don't particularly like people commenting on crap like my water intake (I don't log it), or unrelevant stuff like how I should just eat the Whites of eggs. It's not anybody's darn business what I choose to eat. :P
This site is for logging and motivation/support. I can get and offer support and motivation without having to know what somebody is eating. Why would you need to look through my diary before offering support or encouragement? Looking to critique it? Thats not exactly the best kind of support..
I rarely even look at the diaries of my friends because I'm here to offer support and encouragement when they need it not to offer suggestions on their diet unless they asked for it. =/
Why is it so important for others to HAVE to see their friend's diaries? I don't understand that. Making comments on somebody's eating habits or knowing what they are eating is not the only form of support you can offer. If that was the only kind of friends I had on here, I certainly would never use this site again outside of logging.
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Because they find many people completely judgmental about their diary, or they simply don't figure people need to know what they eat to be able to encourage them.0
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Would you still offer your support knowing that person is starving himself/herself to death?? Or you would rather not know?Because some of us don't care what other people's opinion on what we eat are... I use the diary for my logging purposes to make sure I am hitting my macros and keeping track of my calories. I know what I should be eating and can keep myself accountable. Mine is open but I have had it closed in the past just for the fact that I don't particularly like people commenting on crap like my water intake (I don't log it), or unrelevant stuff like how I should just eat the Whites of eggs. It's not anybody's darn business what I choose to eat. :P
This site is for logging and motivation/support. I can get and offer support and motivation without having to know what somebody is eating. Why would you need to look through my diary before offering support or encouragement? Looking to critique it? Thats not exactly the best kind of support..
I rarely even look at the diaries of my friends because I'm here to offer support and encouragement when they need it not to offer suggestions on their diet unless they asked for it. =/
Would you still offer your support knowing that person is starving himself/herself to death?? Or you would rather not know?
Why is it so important for others to HAVE to see their friend's diaries? I don't understand that. Making comments on somebody's eating habits or knowing what they are eating is not the only form of support you can offer. If that was the only kind of friends I had on here, I certainly would never use this site again outside of logging.0 -
Mine is closed! reason why some jacka** thought they were better than me and was making nasty comments...so to the ones that ask to see it I have it locked with a key and they have the key.. why because they are supportive! Not everyone on this site is supportive
See, this is just wrong. I'm all for being supportive and honest. ANYONE who makes poor comments on your diary when it's open (honesty and being just plain mean are different) does NOT deserve to be on your friends list. I'm one of those that if you can't handle the cold hard truth about your diet, then you probably shouldn't add me as a friend. :-) No one is perfect and as long as everyone puts their goals and explains what they eat out in the open, I'm all about respecting that. It's the ones who post workouts, complain about it not working, but have closed diaries that you can't help them determine if it's their diet OR their workouts. You don't go to the doctor and provide 50% of your information in order to be diagnosed. Just doesn't work that way. This is strictly my opinion; to each their own.
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Lol, what? Why do you find that frustrating? Why does it matter???
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None of your business. If they ask for advice, I can't help without an open diary, but other than that, who cares.0
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Mine is closed because its my own business. I bring in over 2000 calories a day and some people don't understand it and put me down for it.
I've never been overweight ever. I've been skinny fat. A lot of people here cannot relate to me because there is no comfy little niche to put me in. I have nothing in common with the ED girls and nothing with the people that started out overweight, hence I have "different" eating habits. I've been called out for having a baked potato. F uck it, its closed.0 -
My food diary is closed because thats what I chose. It has nothing to do with hiding my food. I eat really well. As someone who has worked to lose weight in the past and for a longtime, it's annoying to have people comment on EVERYTHING you eat. If I have an orange, "oh that's sugar!" If I have a cupcake, "I thought you wanted to lose weight." I've never experienced it on this site but I have among people I know. That was annoying enough. I'm not on MyFitnessPal for that. If you chose to keep yours open and you only want friends who do that same. That's fine. But there is a reason we have a choice. As others have said, everyone is not here to be supportive. Some people are here to make themselves feel better by making others feel bad about their choices. We're all adults here. We all have choices. Do what is best for YOU!
Also, it's the default setting. A lot of people don't even know they can open it for public viewing.0 -
Because nosy people are incredibly annoying and if I work at ____ and I eat there six times a week because it's free for me and I'm a broke college student and you don't like it, tough! :mad:
.. or at least, that was the actual reason and situation to why I closed mine down, haha :bigsmile:
Honestly, I'm on here for me, not on here for anyone else. I am honest with my calories and my intake and I am real with myself. I don't need or want unsolicited advice about that extra cupcake I indulged in.
I work at McDonalds and eat there at least 5 times a week, but I find keeping my diary open keeps me accountable because I know someone will say something if I'm eating a big mac 3 days of that and then wondering why I gained weight. At least this way I know...okay, my friends will see this so should I have a mcgriddle or oatmeal...oatmeal it is!0 -
You obviously haven't seen the numerous rants....I mean threads 'judging' people or putting them down because of things they eat. Or have not seen comments made by people who say they get random messages from people giving unsolicited advice on their diary. OR, the fact that SO many people on this site are overly worried about what other people are doing.
For me: I keep mine closed because I do what I want.0 -
My diary is open regardless of what I eat. My friends don't say anything about the frozen yogurt I had for dinner.
I think if you are a complainer and whine about why you aren't losing weight but then have a closed diary...maybe you should stop whining.0 -
If someone ate all fresh vegetables, lean meats, healthy stuff all day and are under, I am going to compliment their diary. If they ate all Mcdonalds and cheesecake, even if they stayed under goal I'm not going to compliment them. I think there is more to MFP than just staying UNDER your goal, although it is an important part.
This is why a lot of people keep their diaries closed~It is not my place to tell you what to eat as long as you are eating enough calories, if you are light for the day I will call you on it and I expect my friends to do the same, but I will never judge your food choices. If I wanna have pizza and cheesecake every night for dinner that is MY choice and I don't need anyone to tell me that it doesn't live up to THEIR standards of what "healthy" is.0 -
My beef is with "friends" with closed diaries...I don't care how others keep their diaries.0
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I always kept mine open. I've closed it now because I'm not filling it out (I could just open it I guess...). I'm trying to recover from some really disordered eating habits, so based on the advice I've sought, I'm not counting calories for a little while.0
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I don't keep friends very long if I know they are starving themselves and they don't try to change it. But It isn't my business to pry into their lives to find out. Most of my friends on here have the same goal as me and are looking to build muscle and therefore eat that way. The others have their right to their privacy. I am still going to offer any encouragement I can and just assume they are doing what they should be doing. I don't go aorund commenting on people's diaries whether open or not with stuff like ''way to go'' etc.
Would you still offer your support knowing that person is starving himself/herself to death?? Or you would rather not know?Because some of us don't care what other people's opinion on what we eat are... I use the diary for my logging purposes to make sure I am hitting my macros and keeping track of my calories. I know what I should be eating and can keep myself accountable. Mine is open but I have had it closed in the past just for the fact that I don't particularly like people commenting on crap like my water intake (I don't log it), or unrelevant stuff like how I should just eat the Whites of eggs. It's not anybody's darn business what I choose to eat. :P
This site is for logging and motivation/support. I can get and offer support and motivation without having to know what somebody is eating. Why would you need to look through my diary before offering support or encouragement? Looking to critique it? Thats not exactly the best kind of support..
I rarely even look at the diaries of my friends because I'm here to offer support and encouragement when they need it not to offer suggestions on their diet unless they asked for it. =/
Would you still offer your support knowing that person is starving himself/herself to death?? Or you would rather not know?
Why is it so important for others to HAVE to see their friend's diaries? I don't understand that. Making comments on somebody's eating habits or knowing what they are eating is not the only form of support you can offer. If that was the only kind of friends I had on here, I certainly would never use this site again outside of logging.0 -
Edit, because I guess it's your choice if you'd rather have friends with open diaries. I disagree, but it doesn't really matter in the end. 0
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Because some people don't want the support aspect of the site, they just want the tools.
This! Also, I don't need to know the minute details of everyone's day if they don't feel comfortable sharing it with me. I feel pretty self-conscious about my friends seeing what I eat on days when I tend to carb out or something. It takes a lot for some people to want to open up like that.0
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